"Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the others gold"
Over the years, I have made some very special friends.
When you move to a new town it can be difficult to make friends. How do we meet people? Through school, work, charitable organizations, and sometimes through our children's friends. Let's face it, meeting other women and making new friends is like dating. You are attracted to someone, you get to know them, you talk on the phone. Essentially, you "date" them. You try people on and see how they fit.
Like a great pair of jeans, not everyone is going to be the perfect fit. And that's OK. You don't have to be friends with everyone.
Life is about making connections and finding people that feel good. It's easy to be a good friend when the chips are down. The true mettle of a friend is to be there when they are rising high. To enjoy each others successes. That is the kind of friend I am and the the kind of person I seek out. This quality is the hardest for some.
For me, I'd rather have a few amazing people in my life than a large group of schadenfreude losers.
Whew, glad you're back Mrs. Dubrow after last season I was hoping you would come back but was unsure based on the behavior of a few thoughtless women.
Mr. Dubrow welcom back glad to see you and your entrie family. Your side jokes are dry but funny and right to the point. Welcome back Dubrow family.
You say that Alexis is phony i am shocked at your behavor and your inabililty to look in a mirror and look at yourself.
Heather, the latest season just finished here in Australia and I hope we see you next season. You were such a breath of fresh air. You come across as one of the most genuine down-to-earth yet classy ladies but someone who can still venture outside her comfort zone. Yes you have money but it doesn't guide your thoughts. I don't see pretense at all. I love that you're slow to judge, always give the benefit of the doubt and try to see the best in everyone. Terry seems wonderful too, you're lovely together. I would have been upset about the cake too and the nose/phoney misunderstandings just highlight how an innocent comment can be blown up by the insecure. You're instincts seem to be on the money every time. Ignore the negative opinions on here. Until you came along only Gretchen came across as a truly genuine lady and I'm glad I can recognise it in you now too. Take care and please return next season. :-)
You have a great husband! Please try to be more real. Your almost there. your house is so pretentious and excessive. You should practice what you preach.
Heather, You are one of my favorites on the show and trust me there aren't many. I think you and Gretchen are two classy ladies. You don't start a lot of stuff, but you have the guts to speak up for yourself and handle your business. You will definitely let people know where you're coming from. I think you and Terry are a beautiful couple and a welcomed addition to the show. Looking forward to the next season.
You and your family are a wonderful, refreshing addition to the show.
I must ask, was Sarah invited to the naming party?
I love your relationship between you & Terry, it is real, loving and solid! Great to see. I wish all the HW will find their correct match, I think so far 2 of the 4 have.
No, I don't think that you made too much out of the bow thing, it was inappropriate, out of line and uncalled for.
Heather is keeping it classy & real!
Senior_Chief - Heather I can honestly say that you are the one person who brings "real" class to this show. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to sound negative about any of the other housewives, but you appear to me to be a genuine person. As far as the cake, our wedding cake was destroyed by the banquet staff, so I can understand how you felt about something so beautiful and personal. Congratulations for being a truly mature person.
I watched about 5 minutes of the the part 2 reunion show last night, long enough to see Heather say that she and her husband were innocent in the bunco debockle and that it was Alexis jumping to conclusions as always. Those who saw the episode, know that both Terry and Heather were being catty school girls and making fun of the sinus surgery. I could not watch anymore of the reunion because I can not stomache Heather's pompus attitude especially when she is trying to spin her bad behavior. Not good television and no interest in watching grown women lie.
You don't make excuses for being you..... and you are able to laugh at yourself. I don't see you as mean at all! Or fake, either. You are a breath of fresh air, no narcissism here!
Heather I noticed that you and your husband seem to enjoy creating drama and then sitting back quietly while it all plays out. you seem to brag about the same things that you accuse Alexis of doing. Tonight you were bragging about your 14,000 sqft house. Oh, and your big new pool. You truly looked like a junior high school girl sitting with Gretchen and Tamara. You were trying to gain their approval to get in the Clique.
You go girl!! Brag about your house and pool!! Anything you say that will shut Alexis up - bring it on!!! You are the one person she seems to respect and really get upset when you tell her the "truth" - so.... brag away!! And, if you have groupies behind you... even better!!!!! Alexis did exactly the same thing to Vicki, but can't handle it! Vicki has a man just like Slade and can't handle the facts....
Actually Heather, I have never seen or heard of you before this show either. Neither has anyone else that I know. So it isn't all THAT crazy that Alexis had never seen or heard of you before. You also DID say some VERY rude things about her all through out the shows this season before you would have known ANYTHING that she had to say about you.
Heather, LOVE YOUR HUSBAND! He's so cute! He's honest and that got him in trouble this season. He's got an awesome humor...and I LOL @ MANY OF HIS FACIAL EXPRESSIONS and comments.
Nice to have gotten to know a bit about Heather Dubrow. You are real, true to your convictions and classy. I like how you appreciate professional, independent women. You are a welcome addition to the cast and I enjoyed how you tried to be honest with some of the others but when you are, depending on who you are sharing your honest criticism with, it needs to just be dropped when it isn't getting anywhere. Some people just are not able to take a step outside of themself and take a look from that perspective. So very defensive behaviour comes out and then it gets all misconstrued. You are a great role model for many and being a teacher my young students would learn alot from you:)
Heather- I absolutely fell in love with you and your husband this season!! I love that you are such a lady, the relationship you have with your hubs, and that y'all aren't overly showy with your money!! You are so real and say exactly what you feel without being catty, nasty, and unnecessary! Your husband is so funny and is my fave man on the show! Hope to see y'all next season!
Heather, I liked you this year. You have been the only one in all the seasons that I can remember who really seemed real. Whatever.... to all these negative comments. You tell it like it is, and I would love to have you as my friend. I think you and Terry complement each other very well. Hope you are back next year.
I found it ironic how most of the people who accuse Heather of being a bully are, at the same time, bullying her. It is easy to sit back and judge others but if you really take a look at yourself I think you will find that you are guilty of the same thing.
Gotta say, though, I love your husband and am hoping that he has a positive influence on you once he gives you his opinion on the takes (that is assuming his great guy persona is not an act and will be horrified by what he sees as most were)
Heather, you can say things about alexis but you have a name changing party which was way over the top. You mean girls just dont know the meaning of friendship. A true friend accepts her friends the way they are they dont try and change them or put them down. Really cant say I care for you as an addition to the housewives.
@JeanneK They aren't really friends!! They just happen to be on the same show. Doesn't mean they have to like each other!
Heather - I thought you were going to bring some maturity back to the party when you joined the cast, but after watching your behavior around the little pice of ribbon off your cake proved me wrong. Too bad. Won't watch again until new crew is in place.
@truthtellerone How would u like it if an uninvited guest showed up to your party and picked at your cake?
Heather All I can say girl you are a nice lady and girl those shoes that you are wearing on the renion show are bad shoes love them. Oh I wear a size 7 love them
My fav line from you is, "WHEN EVERYONE IS SAYING YOUR DEAD IT'S TIME TO LIE DOWN". I LOVE YOU!!! You certainly had me going, your truly real 100%, i don't know why you say your 98% real but, to me and probably others Your the realest on show. Your fancy and i love that about you. I hope your friendship with Tamara and Gretchen last a long time.. Yet, i wouldn't be surprised of you kind of go against Tamra, yet I hope you don't. For, Like Vicki she has a alot of experience and is more wise than all of you. Being that she out all is the original housewife of Orange County, so I hope your friendship builds. Lastly, for Alexis she's still young (well I think from my view) and is still learning. What you probably need to do is probably guide her nice or mean doesn't matter. She needs to hear the truth one way or another. Either from her friends, or one day like a real bad Wake up call. I pray she doesn't wake up for that call. Maybe she doesn't need to change or maybe she does yet, it's how she wants to live her life. Honestly, you are one of my favs top 3 and I'm glad your on the show. WELCOME TO THE HOUSEWIVES OF ORANGE COUNTY!!! I LOVE YOU AGAIN AHHHH! <3
Heather - You need to check yourself before you wreck yourself! I really liked you at first, but now you are starting to act just like Tamra. Be careful who you surround yourself with. Dumb blondes don't make a smart brunette like you look any better.
Heather, My husband and I are a fan of yours and your husband. However, like you like to be honest with people on the show. I would like to share some things that bother us. First off, your husband has TRIED to defend you or the situation a couple of times. Once at the bowling alley and at your party and you shut him down everytime. I feel you need to let him speak, he IS the man of the house and he has a right to be heard as well. Just like I disagreed with you sitting down when your husband was talking to Jim, he is man enough to have that conversation without you helping him. I have a lot of respect for your husband, he was being honest with Jim and not confrontational. As to your comments to Alexis about how she treats people, I completely agree. She does act as though she is above others. I hope that she does NOT return next season. That was one thing I did NOT like about Orange County and lived there most of my life. My husband and I will be moving back there within the next 5 years and that is the ONLY part I don't look forward too. However, I hope that when you watch the show that you do a self check. When you were at your party, you were saying GET MY HUSBAND. (I don't know who you were saying that to) but it sure felt like you were talking down to that person. THe way you said Gretchen, Tamara get over here. As if all of them were children. I think the ONLY person you needed to get was Alexis since she came with her and said I am kicking your friend out of there and if you would like to join her, that is what my intent is. I didn't feel you needed to round up the group and make it a bigger issue. I would of preferred for the girls to be out enjoying your party and staying out of the drama. That eating a piece of cake just really became ridiculous. was it classless yes. I would of addressed it with her one on one and had her leave and if she kept it up. IF you had security I would of asked them to escort her out. I think that Slade handled it well. I thought it was VERY DISRESPECTFUL that alexis put her hand in Slade face. I hope all of you women do what I do when I watch this show. I do a self check and make sure I don't treat others as I see SOME on this show treat people. Hope to see you next season.
Heather - Why is it alright to take the girls into the city in a HELICOPTER? You were definitely being pretentious (and obnoxious). Listen to the things Vicki and Tamra say about it. But Alexis can't take a friend on a private plane without the "mean girl squad" getting all gaga over it. Double Standard Much???
@firstname.lastname@example.org Totally agree, helicopter for lunch, ok, private plane to Napa not ok
That was not Heathers helicopter and she was not the one that had the copter take them to NYC, it was her friends helicopter and all of them (Heather included) were all invited to go along by her friend that she is in business with. Perhaps all of them are just tired of listening to Alexis yammer on about all the material things, if she wasn't able to speak of materialistic things Alexis would never speak. Hopefully Alexis doesn't teach her kids that money makes the world go round or they will grow up to be empty and unfullfilled just like their mother. Money doesn't buy happiness but love and great friendships bring you happiness, unfortunately Alexis will never understand that, she is such an empty shell she can't even be true to herself, when I look at her I see a very unhappy, dishonest person which is very sad, I used to love her but saw who she really was last season when she treated her longtime friend Peggy so bad, she was always trying to compete and one up her and if she was truly happy and content with herself she wouldn't act that way. Her lying is also a very unattractive trait, I would much rather be friends with Tamra, Gretchen or Heather, at least they let people know how they feel, even if some things they say are hurtful, at least they're open about their feelings. I am hoping Alexis leaves the show after this season.
Heather, I think you are a wonderful addition to the RHOC cast, and Terry is hilarious!! I like that you are straight forward and honest with everyone. Looking forward to seeing more!
Heather...i'm not trying to pile on to the negativity i see here, if you look you will find i commented earlier and had nice things to say. I can see why what Sarah upset you, she did it on purpose for the chance to call you pretentious as a get even for Alexis.
I just have a few things to add, one being taping you and Gretchen in your bathroom. I have to say, i don't care how nice it is, it's still a bathroom. What was the point of that? Also, taking the private plane trip could be considered a bit pretentious? I don't think anyone would have given that a second thought had you ladies not made such accusations against Alexis. When she said Vicki was going with them on their private plane you, Gretch and Tamra laughed and pointed, but you did the same thing, even airing it on the show. Something to think about. It may have been a friend's plane but it's the same thing.
Just look at how Tamra used Gretchen and turned on Vicki this season. I'm sure her and Gretchen are friends but clearly she used her to get to Vicki. I think you are definitely smart enough to not tell Tamra anything she can use against you someday, watch, as she did it to Vicki.
When you all went on the trip, Alexis explained why she had to leave early. You commented that you have kids too and she needed to find another excuse. But then..you too left early. How early i don't know, but you did. Just saying.............
I see the concensus of everyone on all blogs is that Tamra had no right to plop herself down when Terry and Jim were trying to talk, especially since she started it and added words that weren't even said. I don't recall Terry's words as being "the phoniest person he's ever met", which is what Tamra told Alexis. Terry may have gotten to the truth had Tamra not sat down, Tamra was clearly wrong to have tried to get in on a private conversation.
Things to think about for next season if you do another season. Have fun..watch your back. You may have had a great time on the trip if there wasn't an attempted "intervention" but minds were already made up about that. It is mostly middle class people watching the show, so when one lady has a LV bag and another has a Chanel in a jungle, we really don't see a huge difference. In other words, Alexis doesn't seem more pretentious than anyone else.
I'm not too sure how to take Heather. One moment I'm feeling her, which was in the begining of the season, then the next I'm like nope I can't seem to like her. I find it strange on how your "timing" was with the name change when you became back into the lime light, then you decieded hey I think it's time to FINALLY take my husbands last name. Seeing how that wasn't somthing you think you should of done when you married him. I'm not sure because none of us really knew who you were if painting yourself and your marriage like this picture perfect thing.....I find it oldly strange how it took you so long, two kids later to FINALLY GIVE THAT HONOR TO YOUR HUSBAND!! I feel maybe you just did it ACTING FOR TV.. because really you bring nothing to this show that hasn't been done already, which I mean attack someone and talk about how real you're being when.....the truth is y'all all do the same thing. Yet when someone jumps on the bandwagon let's point our focus at someone new this season and fire away...you guys flock to whoever it is that is doing the attacking and start along. What's sad all of you are mothers and don't think for one second your children won't see how you behave and in front of millions of viewers...sad none of yall care enough to see how you all act fake materialistic like and mean. It's what gives many other woman the bad names we get because of people like yourself! The second thing is look at yalls ages!!! I mean COME ON!!!! ACT IT!!!! It's just sad to see a bunch of woman acting bitter and not the age as a respectful empowering other women. Not live up to the phoniness you all lie to yourself!!! meaning lifestyle or reflection in the mirror yall keep nip tucking and changing!! I've thought about if none of your men had the money and establishment THEY WORKED for would you woman be so quick to marry them? I don't think so hoenstly!! I have googled alot on each of you woman and many of you objectified yourselves to what men want and lust for to get you where you are now, and acting like these classy woman when trashy has gotten yall where you are now.
I LOVE YOU! You are such a nice addition to the OC Housewives! You create your own opinions and are not swayed by anyone. I love tuning in to watch you and your husband. Can't wait for next season!
Heather your husband may be one heck of a great plastic surgeon but couldn't spit out the truth when Jim asked him if he called his wife phony. He was scared to death to admit the truth. Shame on him. Jim had every right to leave when you and loud mouth, classless Tamra showed up and wanted to interfere. Tamra has a track record a mile long of interfering where she shouldn't and should stay out of everyones business. You better start picking your friends better or you will crash and burn on this show when they turn on you.
AZMOM I find it hard to believe that Heather's husband has even been to college. Heather seems so embarrased by him, she won't even let him speak to anyone without her there.
I don't think Heather's husband was scared when talking to Jim. I think he just didn't remember what he said because when he said it, it was in a nonchalant way. Almost like finishing Heather's sentence. I don't think it was really that big of a deal for him. But Heather can take some pointers from Alexis. Heather let your husband be the damn man sometimes. That was a suppose to be a man to man talk between him and Jim.
@AZMOM He never said Alexis was the "phoniest person he ever met." Those were Tamras words. He said she comes off as phony. A fair opinion after meeting her once!! Jim made his opinions about all the women, which is why he doesn't go to events w Alexis!
Heather dear, someone who has a 10-ft. diameter monogram embedded in their entryway has no business calling anyone pretentious.
@deb.rawrlins Actually, being pretentious means pretending to be something you are not. Building your house and putting that monogram in the floor says, we built this, it's ours, we are who we are and we aren't going anywhere. She may be snooty at times but that move is not pretentious.
Bun Check the synonyms for ostentateous, Bun. Pretentious means trying to impress, and nothing says trying to impress like a 10-ft. diameter monogram in your foyer floor.
When Heather calls Alexis pretentious she is referring to the way she talks about what she has but really only rents her house and furniture, wears a fake ring to protect a ring that no one has seen. Then she calls herself a news anchor when she really isn't. That is the context Heather is using it. I am only saying if you want to use the same word to say Heather flaunts her wealth, sure, no doubt, but she actually has it so in this context she isn't pretentious.
@deb.rawrlins She doesn't go around saying "I have this and I have that" It's her home!!! Which happens to be on camera.
I grew up on the east coast as well, and i feel for you. West Coast fakes. You add a lot to the show, just try not to get sucked to deep into the gossip. You are are always ready to try anything, you are a good sport. And wow your husband is a riot! he reminds me of Don in ways, very happy go lucky. You two seem like a fine balance.
Terry is a lot like Donn, I thought when Heather introduced him at that painting party that he reminded me a lot of Donn. I think if Donn and Vicki were still together that he and Terry would be good friends and make quite a hysterical duo!