Heather Dubrow

Heather explains why she's giving up on having Alexis as a friend.

on Jul 17, 20120

Listen, life is short. Going around being annoyed with people and not speaking is so ridiculous. I was with Terry and the kids the other night at the circus. We were having an amazing time at the pre-show. As we were walking out I saw Alexis and Jim with their kids. My stomach turned. Completely awkward, and honestly, not a way I'd like to go through life.

If you saw the after show of WWHL last week when I was on I answered a lot of questions about what has transpired between me and Alexis.

(Check out more clips here.)

The part that struck me the most was that at the reunion when during lunch, I came in to offer her some Champs and we spoke. Then, when we were done (many, many grueling hours later) we spoke again. We had this great talk. Alexis then texted me an apology for her part in our troubles, and I texted her back something equally apologetic for the way things had gone down in Costa Rica. I was very hopeful that we could have another start. A few days later she made some nasty remarks about me and my restaurant and hinted that there were other things she had held back at the reunion.
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465 comments
ms.sabrina
ms.sabrina

Hi Heather, someone has brought class to a rather dead show, dont let it go to your head.  You are starting to disrespect your husband in public and on national tv...i think you are better than that...let us see the classy person who started her travels on the show...your bi line in the beginning states blonds have more fun..they haven't met you yet....i never see you having fun...live life be happy and why not try to get these women to stop their petty gossip as teenage wasteland attitudes, why cant they just be friends? 

AbbyFarrow
AbbyFarrow

Mrs DuBrow, You have brought me back to watching the RHOC. People seem to forget that when they mention the mean girls club Tamra, (they forget that when all the targets were first in sight that Vicki was right there alongside Tamra), now Gretchen and you are in the club too. Why?  Because of 1 boo hoo person screaming "bullying". When the subject was first approached face to face with Alexis by you, I was grateful for it. And still am. It's hard to be around a person that talks about the same thing over and over again, never moving forward and staying behind. You were truthful to her face and telling her how to make it better, nit your fault she can't listen. Love your ability to see through the tree's, tell it like it is and not wanting to surround yourself with a child in their 30's when your own children behave so much  better. Kudo's to real women with brains, real beauty and real insight. Barbie is afterall plastic and unreal and not made by God.

ladyspirit
ladyspirit

Heather.. you are the ray of sunshine this group needed.  I am so glad you joined the show and am even happier that you are back again this season !!!   I have to totally agree with you about not having relationships with people that you can't trust.  I think all of the ladies could take a lesson in grace and understand from you, as well as how to behave like ladies.  Not to say that they aren't (ladies), but there are times, that some of them don't act like it.

Friendships are to be cherished and nurtured and I, like you, feel that maligning a friend, especially behind their back, is the ultimate abuse of that friendship or relationship (family or non family alike).

Welcome back, and please consider me as one of your "fans" !!!  

Lilyofthevalley48
Lilyofthevalley48

Sure hope you read your Blogs. Who is this Mustang Sally? She needs her head examined. You are the least down to earth of all of them, maybe in competition with Alexis. I think you two can't get along because you two are so much alike. Try being real and maybe more people will like you next season if Bravo brings you back!

pyin
pyin

C'mon Heather!! You are soo soo sooo full of yourself, your money and just YOU period!! It was soooo ridiculous that you repeatedly reprimanded your husband like a child!!! I can't believe he could even be in love with a self-absorbed selfish woman that you are! THEN you put youself in this ridiculous over the top huge KING chair at the head of the table and stick your husband in a little chair amongst the guests!! THEN you reprimand him AGAIN when Vicky says that onion rings would be good! What the heck was your problem with that?? Get your purse and give your husband his balls back... oh wait you have your own!!!

happy11
happy11

Heather,

Why did you deny Terry a few onion rings at your "clam bake?" Doesn't he take care of you the way you would like? I would never deny my husband some onion rings! Have you always been a control freak? I mean Terry works and pays the bills...God bless him give him some onion rings! He wouldn't deny you a new Chanel handbag or outfit would he? Absolutely not.

karen.calderonlicea
karen.calderonlicea

I'm a fan, Heather...you bring style and class to the show something the women clearly do not have and  I love your no nonsense straight to the point attitude in confronting Alexis as it was she Alexis that started the animosity between the two of you because of her own insecurities.  And as for Terry, I know about husbands pushing buttons, they are programmed to do so at a very early age :)  but you should have given hubby the damn onion rings

Realfanhouse
Realfanhouse

Dear Heather, please give up trying to make sense of Alexis. Her mind does not operate on the same level. Unfortunately, her actions speak louder than her words if she continues to malign you after she just apologized to you. (Alexis: malign means that you said something bad.)

socialbutterfly908
socialbutterfly908

What has Heather ever done to you? All I have seen is you picking Alexis to pieces. I don't get it. Your husband works his ass off to provide you a life most women would dream of. He wanted onion rings, He wasn't asking for much. You should have let him have his onion rings. I'm sorry but you were behaving like a spoiled brat. Your husband has given you a very blessed life the least you could have done was given him the freaken onion rings. Geez, get a grip. "chose being kind over being right, and you'll be right every time." Author unknown.

Lmcjax
Lmcjax

Heather I am trying to figure you out. You seem to come across that you are above a lot of people, definitely all of you cast mates including your husband. To me you are just like Alexis accept for the way you communicate and the words you choose to use and your tone. After watching the first episode for this season and this seasons previews sadly you seem to be more like Tamara and believe me that is an insult! You need to save yourself and your marriage and stop hanging around Tamara. Support the women around you. Don't get caught up in the petty BS that Tamara and Gretchen feed off of.

naffi
naffi

Heather,

I do not want to see you and your husband end up like Adrien and Paul from Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I know we only get to see a fraction of your lives together but the first episode of this season it reminded me of how Adrien use to talk to Paul and it's not very flattering. Just a word of caution. I really have enjoyed getting to know you and am very hopeful for your success on the show as well as in your marriage.

dragonslayer
dragonslayer

Watched the first episode of the season and I am trying very hard to be open to you and see what you're about. Last season you were part of the "Let's give Alexis an intervention about her phoniness and not so authentice life" Which reflected badly on you - because people felt that you were MISS pretentious and creating a standard of wealth and exclusive life for others to measure  themseves by. (The one that has it all).    Honestly  heather what I saw last night was this - You treated your husband like he is an accessory to be dangled and shelved. Not impressive.  I hope he can stand up to you. Or is he a weak man?  Or are you tired of him?  You think you are superior to all?  it's not just controlling mechanism you suffer from - you look down on others. You behave like a brat  placing yourself at the head of the table at "your Clam Bake" with your lowly court. What is going on with you ??  And, what was so wrong in having onion rings, if the man of house wanted them?  I hope you aren't going to be like this - the entire seaon - becaause  I will fast forward your nonsense!!!  Didn't you get the memo - there's already an eveil wtich in the OC - Tamra the fool.

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greekgoddess1969@yahoo.com
greekgoddess1969@yahoo.com

Hello Heather,

 

I have been watching this show from the very first season and have to say how nasty you were to Alexis ! This show has gone from bad to worst since you have started. Have you ever heard " what goes around comes around"??You are the most bossiest person on here!  Alexis might not be real business savy or been in acting but girl ou need t go learn some manners!!!  You are classless.  Money DOES NOT give you class!  maybe think about your actions!!

Brownsa9577
Brownsa9577

I was so hoping you would not become a bully. But you have! Please leave Alexis alone! She does what she knows! Family should be the focus of you all! Your husband does not fall far from the "Jim" tree. Your husband has some of the same ideas about his plans for you! He pretends for the camera to be supportive of your career but he really wants you to stay home with the kids. ask him in private! I know I'm right!

Yali
Yali

Get ready Heather. Many people watched the reruns and you lost many fans when they were able to realize how unkind and bullying you are. Thats just to Terry, lets forget Alexis which was taky and classless of you to point a finger!

Averycecilia
Averycecilia

Mindfulness Heather!!! It seems as though you are enjoying the dukka(unskillful words and actions) a bit much these days!

BrandiRocks
BrandiRocks

Heather-

I'm so disappointed in you! I thought you were a great addition to the show, but you've turned into nothing short of a MEAN GIRL, congrats! And watching you and your  M.D. husband have dinner with Tamra made me laugh, as Tamra is trailer park trash!  You're sinking low honey, guess your husband's practice isn't doing too well!

lacey.deane.1
lacey.deane.1

Heather your so up yourself and so judgemental of others, you are the company you keep.

missy.watusi
missy.watusi

Heather lighten up on Alexis, you come off as "low class". I think you have the potential to be a kinder person, but we shall see !

Blonde1970
Blonde1970

Heather, 

Tone it down a bit. You are coming off as a real snotty so far this season, and it is only episode one!

dsnat6
dsnat6

Like i said to Tamra you are a bully!! Shame on you Mother of 4!!

TSR
TSR

LOVE both you and Terry. Thank you for joining and being a breath of fresh air. Hopefully Bravo will replace a few. I hope you stay, I enjoy you and your husbands relationship. Sorry Vicki, Alexis and Tamra but its time to GO........................

bugsea54
bugsea54

I do think Alexis was bullied last season. When you brought up her faults in front of everyone at dinner, that was too far.   I like you a lot, but your are not perfect, nobody is.  i do think you should not be around Alexis if you can not act appropriate.  She is no threat to you or is she?

scamper
scamper

Can hardly wait for the new season to begin!  Its going to be great to watch the unfolding story of the RHOC, and especially of the one lady (that would be YOU) with an intellect, facing off against a host of insipid So-Cal gals!!!  You are proof positive that brains, beauty, talent, and class can come in one package!  Have a great season, and don't let the dumb and dumbers get you down!!!

Conniewillfoster
Conniewillfoster

still not so sure about you.... didn't care for you at all last season..thought you were like the mean girls and played both sides....Tamra...I DONT CARE FOR AT ALL.... hope you change my mind this season...we will see

4145rose
4145rose

Heather, you are a breath of fresh air on this show. I have watched since season 2 and only RHOC, none of the others. So your addition is a blessing. You are an interesting person. You are much more sophisticated and "correct" than most of the other members. I too am slightly appalled by sex toys etc...but I'm not a prude and I see neither are you. As a successful surgeon I am suprised Terry went on the show but he is a good guy I can tell. I saw you on Hot in Cleveland. You hung in with those ladies quite well. I look forward to seeing you more on season 8. I agree Alexis isn't worth anyones time. She just isn't a good fit. The fiasco at your name change party because she brought that drunk awful girl was all her fault. I hope that girl doesn't show up anymore. In the reunion show you said it got blown out of proportion, well kinda but what she did was so classless. I really wish you would have chucked her out on her ear sooner. You give the show the class it needed.

lauraleig927
lauraleig927

Heather, I am certain you are a nice person, but the way you judge others is not pretty.  Not everyone has what you have. Not everyone in this world comes from a good start.  Understanding where a woman  starts her life may be a way to know how far she has come.  

mp.212
mp.212

Heather, you are a great addition to this show! You're smart, witty and very sophisticated! Albeit you do come off as a little bit uptight, but that's better than some of your fellow castmates. I completely agree with you that in order to have a good, healthy friendship with a person there needs to be authenticity, something which Alexis definitely seems to be lacking in. I mean YOU'RE the one married to the plastic surgeon, so shouldn't you be the one with a nose job, boobs the size of mt. everest, lip injections etc.? Personally, I feel like Alexis was intimidated by your wealth, your incredibly sweet husband, you're sophistication and elegance. Something she has desperately tried to portray, but has failed because it's not real. There's more unattractive, and just plain sad, then when someone tries to be something they're not. Hopefully Alexis figures that out... Anyway SO HAPPY you're back this season!!!

froggirl80
froggirl80

Ever since the beginning, I was doubtful of Heather and her personality.  She seems like a nice person but I feel as time went on she was turning into a mean girl.  She may present her concerns in a kind, gentle tone but in reality she was being a bully and hypocritical.  Heather was giving Alexis crap about flying in a private jet but Heather said, “I’m going to LA via my girlfriend’s private helicopter.”  Really?  She could have said “I’m going to LA with a girlfriend, wanna come?”  And Heather mentioned that she likes drinking wine at a basketball game.   I mean, she’s her own woman and can make her own decisions but I think it’s a little odd to drink wine at a ball game.  Why is it okay for Heather to say that but not Alexis?  I was watching the clips and Heather was still so mean about Alexis, taking the chance to throw her under the bus.    I really think Heather should have said, “We are working on our friendship” and left it alone.  I sincerely hope Heather is not so judgmental and is willing to work on her friendship with Alexis.  GOD bless.

Gilda222
Gilda222

Heather, it's no secret that Alexis isn't the brightest bulb in OC. I can't see what you could have in common. Plus, that Neanderthal husband of hers is a grunting, scary cave man. Imagine jumping to your husband's every whim. I consider you one of the smartest woman in the group. Go with your feelings about Alexis. Smells like competitiveness to me. If you don't have much to say, then you blow your breasts up to the size of blimps. That way no one is listening. Don't feel guilty. Some friendships aren't friends at all. So you stay away. Believe me, I would. Good luck this season.

afsouth
afsouth

Heather, I liked you at first, but then you became so judgment and expecting people around you to live their lives as you see fit.  You are only "mom" to 4 people on this planet, and none of them are adults!  Stop treating Alexis as if she has to live her life in a way that you approve!

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

Let's hope the coming season shows you being a LOT nicer & a lot less judgemental & pretentious.  Yes, you ARE pretentious, darling.  Now pop the champs, will you?! 

piperoni
piperoni

Heather,You can not be friends with Lydia because she is friends with Alexis.Alexis is so sweet and loyal and Lydia seems so sweet to.do not judge already.You guys can have some drama! But support each other to.There does not always have to be sides.Good luck to all the ladies and hope there is some fun.Bravo does not have to make it mean.You and Alexis have those long legs.You guys might be the next ones on DWTS.Luv Lisa on BH,Kyle to.

mp.212
mp.212

Heather, I'm so glad you came on the show! You're beautiful and SO sophisticated, and your husband, Terry is such a sweetheart!! You're both lucky to have each other! I'm glad you have decided to pass Alexis by. She seems to be a backstabber and there's no room in anyone's lives for that nonsense. I used to think she was nice, but she has displayed some very different colors this last season that's for sure! Anyways, stay beautiful hope you had a great "winter" in the OC! :)

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

Heather....first time i have commented on OC....but I just have to say that the expression your mouth took when the drunk girl ate the bow off your cake was Priceless.....I have seen that expression before in movies about mean girls...that is definitely a practiced manipulated move of the lips....i am not even sure the mouth can do that on automatic.....however you achieved it...it was hilariousssss....i will be kind in my posts....but i can be blunt....this is just a show....no one should be too serious...its not life...remember...

piperoni
piperoni

Heather, are you judgeing again.It looks like Lydia,likes everyone.Looks like Gretchen and Vicki are at it again.Those 2 have never ever gotten along.hope there is some fun in season 8.Luv Alexis.

ccrider23
ccrider23

@Lilyofthevalley48 so true , some people just like kissing up ! I just saw that show and I knew theirs people that are so desperate to have friends they don't care if people are mean spirited or fake . it's about time heather gets her own medicine .. heather has been out to trash Alexis since she told her she had her own segment on fox. that's what you call a angry bitter woman .! heather right away tried to get on television but she doesn't have the skills or the brains. just a fork tongue is what she is all about!

ccrider23
ccrider23

@Lilyofthevalley48 you took the words right out of my mouth . she is a mean and snobby at best .

tlanderson354
tlanderson354

 @pyin ROFL!! You cracked me up!!  I hope Heather reads your blog.  But to be honest, I agree with you 100%.

 

StaceyKay6
StaceyKay6

 @YaliThis is so true! I have been rewatching them and not only seen that Heather could have easily turned this around if she was truely classy. And Terry, he's not only a creep he is creepy. Heather, Gretchen and Tamra can say they were only trying to help, but I call BS. And Tamra really seemed to enjoy herself.

 

socialbutterfly908
socialbutterfly908

 @mp.212 Hahaha, The vast majority of my husband clients are either 100millionaires or billionaires. We've been invited to many of their parties. Why be intimidated by wealth??? It's only money. Who cares. I know  billionaires who drive old cars and dress down to earth. By looking at them you would never know, they  owned a world wide ice cream corp and sold the company for billions.They're the kindest people, they don't have butlers, or chauffeurs, They're so not full of themselves. Ive never been intimidated by wealth. I'm surrounded by wealth. People are people no matter how wealthy they are.Buying Chanel bags isn't the real world. It's pretentious. I highly doubt Alexis is intimidated by Heather and her husbands money. That doesn't even make sense.

Yali
Yali

 @mp.212 Alexis isnt intimidsted by Heather as an indivisual! She is intimidated by Heather with her homeys picking and bullying her! Yes they BULLIED HER!!!!

Gilda222
Gilda222

@afsouth what show were you watching? Heather is smart, funny, and certainly not judgmental. She needs Alexis' friendship like she needs a hole in the head. You know, Alexis isn't too bright. She could use some advice from someone like Heather. The way her husband treats her is disgusting. I'm not sure Jesus would approve of those watermelons he made her get. So very Christian of him. He doesn't treat her like an independent, thinking woman. He treats her like his show dog. Sit. Beg, Roll over. Oh, and make sure you wear your push-up bra to church. I want the Pastor to see what he can't have.

Gilda222
Gilda222

@piperoni A season of love? Would you watch?

missu.k01
missu.k01

 @piperonireally heather everything that fakey will never be love you heather keeping it real girl

 

 

dragonslayer
dragonslayer

 @socialbutterfly908  @mp.212

 You are so right on!  People either live their life with civility, grace and treatepeople  the way theywant to be treated - with geuine respect.  We all encounter ignorant people.  A person who has this attribute -  no matter their social standing will have lots of conlict in life and eventually it's not someone we want to be around especially When a person's wealth dictates how they treat people and its not based on living a life with integrity, empathy, morals and a regard for all people. It's funny to hear one person who is so full of themself call another person a phony, braggert inauthentic, etc. I see Hyprocrasy.  Everyone knows millionaires - and typically when you think about whether you like that person or not...You don't say I like that person because they are wealthy and have a beautiful home.  Typically when you like someone you say - i like that person because they make me laugh, are kind and funny, are so good with Kids, with their elderly parents, do so many great thigs for the community , I love their style ...It's the quality of the person and how we relate to that person. It's difficult to relate to someone who makes hateful, hurtful and crushing remarks to bring and put another human being down. when you say things to a person with love in your heart - because you want to help them  - amazing, postive things can be accomplished and thafriendship will grow and flourish.  But to sound off in attack mode and blurt things out without care or empathy is classless and demeaning. . I think a lot of people associate wealth as having class,  Are we witnessing very bad behavior from people that have moneyand is this affecting and influening the most important things . that matter.  

ccrider23
ccrider23

@Yali @mp.212 Yali . you are so right . heather is NPD narcissistic personality disorder . I think heather was the one who was angry Alexis had her own fox segment . heather . Tamara has a trail or trash mouth.

martini777
martini777

@Gilda222 ditto on everything you said!!