Sarah Winchester

Sarah discusses Heather's ring comment and why she's sticking with the group in spite of it.

on Feb 15, 20120

This week's episode seriously taught me a lot about life and made me realize just how shallow some people can actually be in this world.

At first the night started off great. I always have so much fun running around with Gretchen, Alexis, and Peggy. But, I was completely caught off guard by a comment Heather made to me that night about me "needing to get a real ring," when I was telling the girls how happy I was about my recent engagement proposal. I was happy with the band that I had on, and I honestly don't feel that I need a seven carat diamond ring on my finger to prove that the guy I'm with really loves and cares about me. I had just met Heather that night, so that comment had me a little taken back to say the least. Yes, it hurt my feelings that this woman that I didn't even know had to try to make me feel like less than everyone else in the group just because I didn't have a "real ring." It made no sense to me at all.

It really saddened me to hear her extreme materialistic outlook on life in "her world," as she refers to it. Little did she know, ironically, I was her neighbor at the time, and I also lived in the same so-called exclusive "Billionaire Row" neighborhood (as she refers to it). I just didn't feel the need to mention to her that I too had that same extravagant lifestyle, with the maids, cooks, limo drivers, etc. and that in all actuality if I wanted to have a big expensive engagement ring like hers, I could have.

I really didn't feel that I had anything to prove to anyone. If that is the type of lifestyle that makes their family complete that's great. I couldn't be happier for them. To be honest from my own personal experience, I know that all of these "material things" won't ever make a person truly happy or complete with themselves. It's extremely sad to me to think that nowadays this is what is being portrayed as important to be able to have a happy life.

At that point, it really made me very hesitant to even consider continuing to hang out with the group knowing how shallow it can be for some. But I know the truth will always come out in time and eventually everyone will be exposed for who they really are. I was so sticking around to see that!

46 comments
Marcia Ribera
Marcia Ribera

Your blog's OK, but what are you supposed to add to the show? Were you at Slade's show to see what an a-hole he is?

Glori
Glori

Heather appears to be insecure and seductress - if she can't have it her way she cries. She has No Class. She should not be on the show. And her husband may think he's king of the hill. but he really looks like an idoit that needs his wife to think for him. and he's a dr?

Pilar St John
Pilar St John

Sarah...I applaud you!!!! Maybe you will be that balance that Heather needs. She's a superficial, shallow, small minded, wannabe Barbie from the Bronx. When her husband gets sued for malpractice or end up in a gay tryst, then you'll find out about the real Heather Dubrow. Like Kim Zolciak says....the ring didn't mean a thing!!!!

Nicolelising1
Nicolelising1

Some of these postings sound like they are coming from women just as jealous and caddy as SOME of the OC Housewives themselves... Dont be jealous.

Winnie Brazill
Winnie Brazill

It's not called "HUMBLENESS"...it's called HUMILITY!!!

Ava 123
Ava 123

My motto to all the richies out there, "You can't take it with you." Just sayin

Kathy M
Kathy M

Much better this week Sarah! You kept it down to just page! Smart Girl. The jury is still out on you.... not quite sure you fit into this show. However, at least I know who you are this time!

JustWonderin'
JustWonderin'

Sarah.....I'm sure you are a sweet girl, at least that is the way you appear. However, there are no direct heirs to the Winchester family. The only child of Sarah Winchester, married to the only son of Oliver Winchester...who you claim is your great-great-great grandfather, died within 2 months of her birth. Since the Winchester name died with Sarah Winchester in 1922, how can you be a direct descendant of Oliver Winchester.....hmmmmm. Inquiring minds want to know.......

Tammy and Doug
Tammy and Doug

Wait are you a new housewife? They didn't say you were I just assumed you were Gretchen's friend? Or are you going to be on next season?

Aloh808
Aloh808

I dont believe you ever had your own home on 'billionaires row! (That's a very small world over there) . . . Maybe you rented it, or a friend who owns the home allowed you stay there temporarily.

Come clean: You never owned anything over there! The 'billionaire row' story holds about as much water as your "Winchester heir" story!

Lovepathad
Lovepathad

I completely agree with AZ Girl. Who are you and why are you on the show. What are you bringing to the show? I hope your story line get more interesting. So far- boring! Just saying!

aunt kassie
aunt kassie

Sarah -- dont' make a mountain out of a molehill with the ring comment. A classy lady would just smile and say the love that came with this ring is worth more than any diamond ring. Either that or you can ask Dana Wilkey to hook you up with a good diamond distributor. I believe she knows one.

Viewer#7
Viewer#7

Hopefully u come a permanent on the show to bring balance to the Heather drama.

SoCal Mom
SoCal Mom

Welcome to the show Sarah. Real OC Gals know who you are. Just watch out for Flying Wine : )

Apricot Princess
Apricot Princess

Sarah was on the show last season, plus she is considered as "friends of the housewives"...like Dana and Brandi in Beverly Hills.

Congrats on your engagement, what really counts is that you both love each other..love is priceless, not materialistic.

Lizzie2
Lizzie2

I'm a history buff and loved reading about the " real" Sarah Wincesters life. The " real " Sarah W. died after her husband who was the only son of Oliver Wincester and inherited the company and his fortune. The " real " Sarahs only child died in infancy. She left what was left of her fortunet to her maternal niece ( no relation to Wincester)..... as the company had gone bankrupt what her niece inherited was the furniture inside the home. Oliver Wincester ( the founder of Wincester ) also had two daughters who married but ALL of their children had their fathers last names respectivey. The Wincester name and fortune DIED with the " REAL " Sarah Wincester. Out of curiosity if you are an Heiress to the Wincester Rifle Company ( which was sold to the Olin Company prior to Sarahs death ) how do you trace your lineage and claim the title Heiress to a bankrupt company that was sold by the only surving member with the Wincester name without living descendents to carry on the Wincester name ? Just askin.

Shelly
Shelly

Sarah, you are fantastic and i commend you on your calm manner when she said that snarky comment to you! as far as billionaire row goes, you seem like the only woman whom i could visit her home and not feel like an outcast! rock on, girl!

Ana Fan
Ana Fan

Very interesting, spot-on blog. It's to your credit that you see that wealth cannot in itself make someone happy.

Midwest Girl
Midwest Girl

What a refreshing viewpoint in a land of plastic and disguises. Don't let them make you think less of your engagement ring. The commitment is in the feelings behind the ring and not in the presentation. Most of these ladies wouldn't stick around if/when the bottom drops out and they have to live a lesser lifestyle. You'd make the adjustment and keep on trudging through life together. Best of luck to you and looking forward to seeing you more througout the season.

SourCandyxoxo
SourCandyxoxo

I agree with you, Sarah. Not everything should be about material things and money!

Blair979
Blair979

Didn't feel the need to prove it to anyone? Honey, you just devoted your blog to your "extravagant lifestyle" that is "just like Heather's".

BTW.... She is right. Where is your ring? Did you ever get one?

Shod
Shod

Well said, Sarah. This crowd is very nouveau riche and I hope that your old money philosophy catches on. It's very nice to see.

AZ Girl
AZ Girl

I'm sorry, who are you? Are you on the show now? I just thought you were a friend of Gretchen who came to dinner.

sassyny
sassyny

hey sarah u seem like a nice person but u should really tells us a bout u so we can understand who you are? i learned u have a 12 year old son from heathers blog>>>so u really do need a ring and commitment!!! u left that big detail out huh???

spiff4499
spiff4499

Heather, you seem cool, I hope you stay on the show!

Bravofan1971
Bravofan1971

Please do not try and compete with Heather. She is the "New" cast member this season. Hopefully you will be next year. I would not take what she said about the ring too personal. It may have appeared to be a dig or shallow statement, but she is the "New" cast member and is probably feeling the pressure. She might seem to be cool and taking it in stride, but I can assure you that she is nervous. Being in front of the camera can bring out the worst in people, especially when they do not have scripts. Good luck to you, and from the little bit that I saw of you, I think you are adorable. Your hair looked beautiful the "Southern" dinner party. I was born and raised in the south and have never had a crawfish in my life. I would not have eaten it. Being a Southern Lady, I never would have made a comment about it. I am around awesome southern hospitality every day and thankful for it.

 True blood
True blood

She made a very poor impression with her crack on your ring. It was rude, condesending, and very much like Dana's $25, 000 sunglasses.

ravensmith
ravensmith

so glad you're on the show! that heather was so out of line and just more of the shallow, materialistic housewife we've gotten so much of. so glad you're bringing a new, non-shallow perspective!

RebeccaR
RebeccaR

Sarah- I just couldn't believe it when she said that. I saw how happy and glowing you were as you told them your engagement story! Then Heather just ruined everything with that comment and I saw your excitement completely deflate. That comment was unnecessary and a ring is not everything! My father never gave my mother an engagement ring because he didn't want a materialistic icon to be the only thing that represented their marriage. They have been happily married for over 35 years now and he definitely has provided her with plenty of money. So, that ridiculous comment is nothing worth giving any attention to. Your happiness is most important and that was clearly showing all over your face and through your tone of voice before she went and said such an incredulous thing.

Anne K.
Anne K.

Wow! Sarah, thank you for being so humble. If people don't read this blog, they'll never know how classy you are. Not everybody needs to be bought off with huge jewelry.

If the OC wives have taught us anything is that if you spend ahead of your earnings, you'll go bankrupt. Right Tamra?

happyhswife
happyhswife

Great blog! I have now changed my opinion of you...I thought last week's blog was a little strange, but now I think the real you is shinning through! Excited to watch you this season! :)

Viewer43
Viewer43

I'm liking YOU!! Heather is ridiculous and I see her butting heads with more than one of these ladies!!

lpsc18
lpsc18

I like you a lot so far. Down to earth doesn't seem to be a common characteristic of OC housewives. Very refreshing.

wildrose
wildrose

You sound like a well grounded, unpretentious young woman, Sarah. Keep your spirit humble, and continue warding off those brash comments from ladies who speak out of their self-centered arses. You handled Heather's ring dig very well by your silence. Hey, if you don't pick up the rope they have no one to "play" with.

No Filter
No Filter

Heather, I appreciate your honesty. It sounds like you are grounded and understand what TRUE happiness really is. I hope you show SOME of these other wannabe's what real class means. You are correct in stating that you don't need to prove to anyone what you have--THINGS are not what matter in life. If some of the women aren't accepting (GUARANTEED), don't waste your time--it'll be like throwing pearls to swine.

lg0729
lg0729

Out of curiosity, since you were so taken aback by the ring comment (which I think everyone under the sun would agree with after Beyonce brought that topic to the forefront), have you married this man ? Or are you still waiting?

sarahgon
sarahgon

I don't mean to be rude, but why is Sarah blogging? Is she part of the show? I have seen her on these first two episodes, but am confused about her role. I don't see her head shot in the lineup of ladies for this show. Is she a "Dana" or "Brandi" for the OC? I'm just trying to figure out who she is and what her role is this season.

TakeCare
TakeCare

I still don't knowwho you are - Grethen's drinking mate?

Viewer2011
Viewer2011

Excellent comments, couldn't be more true. Hang in there Sarah, you've got a sweet heart so stay put!

The Truth
The Truth

Right on Sarah! This group of girls are equally as bad as the "Jersey Shores" girls, just a little older! No class whatsoever! This Heather lady sez she's 90% real? I guess the 10% thats missing is an obviously the Fake side of her

Thanks!

OC Addict
OC Addict

I have an old ring of my grandmother's that's my engagment ring. No need for some flashy piece of jewelry. It's very special to me and that's way more important than how blingy it is. Hope we see more of you!

HelenV
HelenV

OMG Loving your blog!!.. I think I may like you! :) Keep it up!