I am on my way to Mexico, not to be confused as Costa Rica, looking at wedding destinations. So, I will get straight to the point.
First of all I would like to say. . .Vicki, I brought you coffee every time I visited you. Just saying!
When Alexis asked to meet me I said "no" at first. I figured she just wanted to start some drama, and I was not up for it. So far this season I have tried to bite my tongue and rise above most of the drama, and I didn't want to go there with her. I knew I had strong feelings and I was not able to hold them back. Therefore nothing good would come out of it. I know that we will never be true friends, and I was OK with that. Not everyone needs to be friends.
After thinking about it for a day or so and talking with Gretchen, I decided "what did I have to lose"? Lets get one thing straight, I do not hate Alexis. I actually feel sorry for her. Sure you see me rip on her about the things she says or does, but honestly off camera she doesn't ever enter my mind. Her priorities are so screwed up which makes her very hard to be around. I tried for two years to get to know her. I invited her to my home for parties and to workout with me. It's just not in the cards for us.
I think she is beautiful and oftentimes has a kind heart, but the other stuff she does and says is just hard to tolerate.
I actually see a little of myself in her ten years ago in regards to her being so insecure.
There you have it, she reminds you of yourself and you can't stand yourself. You are pure evil girl...you need to check yourself at the front door. Who do you think you are Ms. perfect? please. And you are very judgmental and sabotage a lot of friend ships. ugh to you.
For someone who "doesn't enter your mind off camera", you sure have a strange way of showing it! I just wish I understood why she gets under your skin like she does....everyone knows jealousy would NEVER have anything to do with it, would it Tamara? If you think your kids won't see this show, you are only lying to yourself. There is nothing kids enjoy more than doing what they are told they can't. God help them when that day comes.
Tamra, I can barely stand to watch you any more. You have sunk to new levels of rudeness. I used to feel sorry for you when Simon was bullying you, but now you are taking out your frustrations on Alexis and Vicki, acting just like he used to act to you. Back off, woman. It is low class, unattractive and beneath you.
Tamara - I have to tell you that you all need to watch out for Vicki -- Brooks is isolating her from all her family and friends and that is abuse in itself. The next thing you know he will have her off the show -- this guy is scary and all of you concerned, should be. Vicki does not see this, but the best thing she could do for herself is to get rid of him for good and learn to be with herself and like herself first -- she is displaiying very low self-esteem this season and will need friends when she hits rock bottom.
Thank you Tamara for telling Gretchen what we were all screaming at the tv! Love real people like you. Alexis is very shallow.
Tamra - LESS is MORE, just remember that. You don't have to say everything, all the time. All this "honesty" seems to be a cover-story for your outright rudeness. Genuinely secure people don't put that much energy into minding everyone ELSES business!
you are the prettiest & you are definately smart. I'm happy for you that things are going so well. I wish you only the best!
I think this blog - is more about you don't want the back wash of being the "mean girl" on the show. Every season you pick one woman to pick on all season - Alexis is just the one you picked this season - and like always you enlist as may other women on the show to also pick on that person to validate your ego!
So many people are bginning to see that! She has to be fighting with someone every season! I can't believe she seriously said she tries to avoid drama. lol
I didn't think you were harsh, at all! I applaud you for holding back! I think you are great and can't begin to tell you how much I have enjoyed watching you this season!! I LOVE your take on things and all the great things that your life is turning out to be!! IF THAT MAKES SENSE!! You are cool and fun and just an all around great person. Have fun and go with it, girl!!
Tamra - the past year has been hard You need to kill the bitter root in your heart and move past all this BS. You were kinder and sweeter in past seasons.
Tamera I really enjoy watching you grow this season compare to last season. Eddie is such a positive influence to you and that resinate(sorry about the spelling). I am so sorry to say this but when with Vicki you became negative and a mean person and when you made peace with Gretchen and having fun with her and Heather you are evloving to match the beauty that you have on the inside to what is you have on the outside. As for Alexis I only hope that she acknowledges what everyone is telling and she grows from that too.
Tamra, I get that you don't like Alexis but don't you feel that you are extremely rude to her? You mentioned in your blog that you have tried to keep your mouth closed this season, which is absolutely not true. Look back through your blogs, you bash her weekly. Not that I am the biggest Alexis fan, I just wonder if you realize what kind of example you are setting for your children? Can't you teach them to be cordial (Which you are not, not by any stretch.) Fine if you don't like Alexis, but you DO constantly have one liners and snide comments to say, especially behind her back in your interviews. It's good that you did speak face to face with her but why is her life your business? Your behavior and attitude towards her is very high school mean girl-ish.
Tamera - I definitely think you were too rough on Alexis. You say you're real and not fake, but being real does not mean that you have to be rude. If you see yourself in her as you were 10 years ago, why can't you find a way to be kind to her? That doesn't mean you have to be friends with her or even act as if you like her. It just means you stay out of her way and don't talk about her behind her back. Think of the YOU you were ten years ago when you were having a hard time and feeling insecure. You probably weren't perfect and we have seen on this very show the way you act towards people when you are going through a rough time. Would you want someone treating you the way you treated Alexis, ten years ago when you were feeling insecure? I doubt it. You have a way of going after people you simply don't like or claim to not have anything in common with. You did it to Gretchen for years and now you're doing it to Alexis. Do you always have to have an enemy? Why don't you try just keeping their name out of your mouth if you don't like someone instead of having snarky, rude, cruel comments to make at every turn? In your interviews you are definitely the rudest and snarkiest and a lot of it is really uncalled for and unpleasant to watch.
You don't have to like everyone...you don't have to hang around everyone...but you can put on your big girl panties and behave like an adult and be in the same room with someone you do not like without being "brutally honest". I like you alot Tamra and like how you have become this season...and believe me Alexis is NOT my favorite (and yes I think she is phony too)...but I thought you were pretty nasty in your talk with her...and yes you did throw Terry under the bus. Not cool woman! Just ignore her...and remember the saying if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. You are opening a business...businesses are made successful by word of mouth...your mouth may get the best of you. Just saying...she knows people...they know people...etc. Play nice Tamra...and hopefully good things will continue to come your way. Karma can be a biotch!
Tamra, I understand why you don't like Alexis, what I don't understand is why you felt you need to throw the Dubrows under the bus. You don't repeat what soneone has said, which you heard through another party, if your their friend. You do talk to much about Alexis. She not too bright and very superficial, everyone with half-a-brain can see that. Why does everyone's business bother you so much? Accept people as they are, at least at a cordial level. You don't have to live with her or her creepy husband. She's not bright enough to see how she comes across. Just let it go!
Alexis's priorities are screwed up?? She's a dedicated mom and wife, starting a career. How's that screwed up? Do you think she should go around partying like you???
Tami, You are in such a better place after your divorce from Simon. It is like watching a totally different person, and I am so happy for you. You have made so much progress on your self that it has allowed you to become an amazing partner to Eddie. Divorce is hell and you made in through it. Keep it going, and best wishes to you. You have a wonderful future ahead of you for ou, your children, Eddie, and even Simon.
The prettiest that I have EVER seen you was last night when you were meeting with Alexis. Perfect makeup and great looking hair. Pink is your color and you looked so young!!!
Everything you said last night was hilarious !! "how can you trust someone who's boobs are bigger then her head !" hysterical !
Love the fitness studio dream come true! I work in the industry and I don't know what I'd do without it. Alexis asks she shall recieve, people can't take honesty anymore. Costa Rico, Mexico.............Holy WOW!!! In any case how fun would that be to zip line with Vicki? Thanks for being real!
I wouldn't feel too bad about Terry. If you say something with a film crew on you, it's kind of fair game to repeat it.
I am so proud of you for saying that you were sorry for throwing Gretchen and Terry under the bus. Just ignore Alexis.
I just want to tell Tamra that she has changed my opion of her. She grew up and it looks very good on her. Keep up the good work.
You are honest and I think that it is better to let someone know the truth if they ask and she did. I do know we do not see everything like a 45 min discussion repeating the same thing. If I felt that way it would have ended sooner. I say keep it real but don' t throw rude comments to make yourself look like a bully.I do not like calling people rude names, grow up Tamara. You have children watching you and I hope you wouldn't let them call their peers an ugly name. I do like watching you most of the time.
Tamara, I think you're great. You keep it real and you're always honest. I wish the best of luck in all your endeavors. You really are a great role model for women - be strong, work hard and always keep family first! Thanks for sharing your life with us viewers!
I just wanted to wish you lots of luck with the new business. I also like to say, I like how you keep it real and tell it like it is, I do too and sometimes in life we just have to. Take care and best wishes
Tamra, now that you and Gretchen are friends, has Alexis become the new Gretchen? Do you think you two will ever be friends?
Yikes! I always try to live my life as honest as possible but always think about if my children would be proud of my actions and would I want them to act the same way. Your conversation with Alexis was so mean and you looked like you wanted to smack her. I think people's behavior really is more honest then their words. I watched you over the last few seasons treat Gretchen horribly then when she became more popular and had viewers sympathies, you turned into her cheerleader. I wonder if viewers liked Alexis better than you, would you try and be friends with her...hmmm...time will tell.... I think you are very funny but definitely need to filter some of your comments. It's not attractive to be so visceral and really mean.
Love watching you!!! I work behind a bar on a beach an we all talked and decided you would be an awesome person to hang with...Eddie, hot, and super cute how much he loves you...Alexis,different breed of chic...
Tamra, After what you went through with Simon and his financial failures, insecurity, and subsequent ruin of your marriage, I find it troubling to see you act so cold and harsh toward Alexis. You may find her inauthentic right now and yes she is relishing the limelight, but it seems she is trying to attract attention to provide for her family. She may be dealing with her struggles differently than you, but why break down another woman who is trying to save her family from financial ruin? You had an opportunity to have a positive impact on Alexis by simply saying "Alexis, I certainly relate with what you are going through with your husband. But, I think you are making a mistake by trying to mask it and pretend everything is great at home." The women on these shows should be building each other up for success, so that women of younger generations can strive for financial independence and not fall reliant on a man to provide. Every woman has weaknesses and faults, but they will strive to grow beyond them with positive support from other women. I promise viewers will still tune in to see Real Housewives conquering life together and not tearing each other down.
Hi Tamra, I have to say that I really love your transformation ever since your split from Simon. You are obviously in a much better and happier place. With that said, it really detracts from who you are when you consistently bash Alexis. You told her that you never talk about her, and that is simply not true. There are a LOT of moments when you are talking badly about her. Just leave it alone already! You are better than that.
Thank you for finally telling Alexis the truth about herself...I truly appreciate it. She is everything you said she was plus so much more. I am glad you put her in her place...I hope she stays there.
As a housewife.I rarely leave comments but I really feel you need to hear this.I have read the other comments and some people are skating around what they really feel.It could be the editting but you have been portrayed as extremely rude and judgmental.I am so happy for your personal achievements that have been showed on air,but you interact with people well. There's always going to be people you don,t click with,but how youdeal with says alot about you as a person and now a business woman. I really hope you this comment as constructive criticism because that's all it is,I'm not riding the Alexis bandwagon.
Although I admire you for telling the truth as boldly and strongly as you did to Alexis' face, I think you are a tad judgmental.
Does she affect your life that much that you always have to put her down or track down her "lies"?
Tamera why be honest if it means you're going to hurt someones feelings? Is it really worth it? It's not very becoming of you berating Alexis. Who are you to judge her? What has she done to you? Who cares how she lives her life. It's not your life to live, it's hers. You know, I liked Lauri Waring so much because she always stayed out of other peoples business.I have never heard her say one unkind word about any of the housewives. You didn't like it when Jeana Keough talked smack about you. You know how it felts to be degraded. As women we should be about building each other up, not knocking each other down. Sometimes when someone knocks others down it's to build themselves up. You should think about that .You don't want that image do you? Not only that youre giving off negative vibes. In order to run a successful business, it's imperative to stay in the positive and be known as the nice one. Trust me.
I definitely think you've grown in a positive direction since leaving Simon and meeting Eddy. However, sometimes you direct absolute RAGE at others... Alexis isn't my favorite housewife, but unless she slept with Eddy or something equally hurtful, there is no way she deserved your merciless tongue-lashing. You can direct SUCH anger at others, from the ultra critical comments to outright fights & accusations. In the end, that behavior only hurts Tamara. In the name of a more positive life, (boyfriend, new gym, no tatoo, ect.), be *KINDER* to people. You'll be happier in the end.
I really have grown to like you this season. Alexis is not just shallow she is superficial and thinks she is the best. She is so competitive and materialistic. I feel really bad for her friend that left the show. Does she not watch and see how dumb she looks.
For several years I really thought you to be mean and backstabbing. This year, you really seem to be a different person all around - humbled. I am also a frank person and appreciate those around me be the same. While we only saw a small part of your conversation with Alexis - I completely agree with you. She is a beautiful girl, but appears to hide behind her insecurities. I am also divorced with small children - I simply to not have patience for those around me to be negative and fake. I can't control others, but I can control my own world. Best of luck in your new business. Hugs!
Tamra, I believe that if or when you are fed up with someone at some point it is important to be honest with them and express how you feel. Even though I love your personality, I also believe that you contradict yourself quite often. If you don't judge Alexis based on her appearance then it was obviously not appropriate to say "why would you trust a girl that has ---- bigger than her head?" Just saying. With that said, continue keeping it real.