TAMRA, GOOD GIRL! I ADMIRE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS, MAKE THEM STRONG. EDDIE AND YOU ARE ENCOURAGING ME TO GET BACK TO THE GYM,

EVE

There is something about Brook's that bothers me. Anyone else think he is faked?

Tamra, Tamra, Tamra.....what to say! Do you pick a person each season to attack for whatever reason. Whatever reason you seem fit. Last season it was Gretchen, this season it's Alexis. I find it funny that you have so much negative stuff to say about Alexis even if it's not true which doesn't seem to bother you but when you are proven wrong Alexis gets a my bad, you weren't lying. You are so special!!!

Tamara:

It is very easy to tell you have grown so much over the past seasons. I was just as sad for your final divorce and the main reason is from the first time I seen you and Simon together, you could tell the show wasn't what he was all about, he was about keeping his family together. Now we know Simon was right, you have stated so many times how many years you were together. Simon migth be controlling but some of us gals need someone who will take control because we are out of control. Simon is one hot babe, he may have his faults but his love for you was not one them. I feel very confident that you will not marry again unless you are for sure, engagements is one thing but now I think, you think more. Romance is great but every woman needs a strong man, listen to your advice you give Vicki (what a mess that one is), rose color glasses only stay rosy for so long.

Wow! The apology to Alexis seems insincere. Sounds more like you're sorry you got caught being wrong about it than for being malicious.

Wow! Not a negative remark about ANYONE- not even about Slade! Refreshing.

Easter/Passover brings out the best in people ;-)

Hi Tamra, Re: your divorce -- You know the saying: "2 Happy Homes are Better than 1 Unhappy Home." In time, you and Simon may also heal old hurts and become friends. The mud run looked slippery when wet. That accounts for the injuries. Slade's story about being in the Tour de France was just that. There is no record of his claims. If he was on the olympic team or US team, it was in his dreams. I wonder why Gretchen continues to go Sladistic. I also think your radar about Brooks may be on target. I've read that he's a cheating husband, juggling a few women (including Vicki) and has no money. His sweet talk is smarmy and insincere. I'm not sure what ladies see in him. His motives are very transparent. Be there to catch Vicki when she finds out the truth about her lying beau.

Very funny Tamra...Alexis should laugh at your half arse apology. Vicki will never run a mud run LOL Slade and Eddie seemed like they could be close friends : )

Tamra, I have to say I love you this season. I just finished watching the show, in your interview you mentioned "something's off" about Brook's. I couldn't agree more! Watch the lunch/dinner scene... and please make Vicky change her passwords and NOT share them with him. I think he is preying on her. "Hoppy" Easter!

Be glad you escaped from Simple Simon! Running into Eddie's open arms was a good choice.

I was surprised that you cried at the signing of the divorce papers. I would have been jumping for joy......unless you aren't sure you are doing the right thing.....hmmmm.

Yay! You said something nice about Slade!!! Hope you and him can become friends now...

Great blog, love the happier, improved you this season and the more positive outlook you seem to have! :)

you should be sorry for being such a bully to lex.apology that is being kind.alexis is a nice sweet person and she is not stupid.we teach our children not to bully.there is a new movie out bully.hope you try and be kinder in the future.

Kudos to u Tamara for a fantastic blog! 1st u were nice to compliment Slade and second to apologize to Alexis! i really enjoy u so much more when u are not being mean...u can be fun and there can be drama just please dont be mean like u have been to Alexis, even if she does get on your nerves, no one deserves to be treated that way. Another thing i want to say is that i think it is so mature of you to not have Eddie with u on the pre-show thingy like Vicki does with Brooks, shes not even divorced and i think it it very disrespectful to Don and the kids. Now it would be appropriate since u are divorced and now engaged. BTW...Congratualtions. u 2 r so cute together!

That sure was a backhanded apology to Alexis. Come on, you can do better than that. I thought that you would at least own what you said...I mean you said it many, many times. I bet you felt like a jerk when they pulled that giant piece out of her!

thank u for being u! u are never afraid to say what u truly feel. i admire u for being so real. u are adorable! happy easter!

I really don't understand your disdain of Alexis. Are you jealous or somthing; you just come off looking so nasty.

Tamra, Your apology to Alexis was a a bit thin. I know it pained you to do that, you need to try harder. She should have hocked up a loogie just to shut you up.

You are amazing Tamera! CANNOT WAIT FOR MY FIRST ORDER OF WINES BY WIVES!!!! Congrats to you and Eddie and Happy Birthday Eddie!

love you girl! you are the so pretty!

snide much?

im so glad your killing them with kindness this season!! happy bunny day!

I like big butts and I can't deny!!!! LOL sometimes vanity can also make you miserable. Just sayin!

Tamra I'm so glad to see you getting along with the other ladies....I'm not a fan of Vicki's she seems like the holier than thou type.....But I'm very proud of you...

Tarma looks killer hot! I can't take it anymore...I gotta ask, is she in total south beach diet phase one for eternity?

Tamra when writing about Alexis why did you have to write ...whatever she wants to "call it"? Why couldn't you just apolozie. Why do you have to take so many jabs at her. Seriously, can you tell us what she ever did to you???

Lets see if you can get through next weeks episode without taking another jab at Alexis. Just saying!!

I applaud your transformation as you are finally discovering YOU and embracing it. Although you can be brash, ballsy and inappropriate (you're like the west coast Bethenny) - I've seen traits where you try to be a people-pleaser and I think that's a tricky area for you, because if you get too caught up in that, you can lose yourself. I think you spent years trying to be the wife Simon wanted you to be and as you started coming into your own, he didn't like the changes and you realized you weren't being authentic and true to yourself. I can soooo identify with that, you have no idea. I also related to the emotion of signing the divorce papers - because as you remarked, it wasn't all bad. The end of a marriage is like a death and we grieve over the lost dream of living happily ever after. Plus, it's scary to be on your own and a single mother. I love that you have Eddie who encourages you and helps you be your best self. You and I are the same age and I finally got my head together in my late 30's - married my 3rd and LAST husband and someone who lets me be me and loves me just the way I am. I guess for some of us it just takes a while and we have to learn things the hard way - but I wouldn't change a thing. Every mistake, every adversity -- makes us become the strong women we are now. Just keep doing what you're doing and keep checking your "gut instinct" when you're in a quandry. I also enjoy seeing a nicer side to you, being able to turn the cheek and re-start with Gretchen and Slade is very mature and something not everyone is able to do. I think you've always kind of looked up to Vicki as the older, successful sister... but you know what, she has a long way to come emotionally and hasn't "gotten it" yet.

Thanks for the blog! The same ole stuff is boring when you log on each day! Ok yes I'm addicted to Bravo, each time my text tone goes off on my i phone my husband says 'your boyfriend Andy's texting'! I was so happy yet a bit sad during your Divorce paper scene. From where I'm sitting honey you did the right thing! You and Simon were toxic together those last few years! His controlling behavior was growing more abusive the more independant you became. I don't even want to think what could have happened if the two of you had stayed together. Sometimes the best thing for the kids is the divorce. Now your job will be to watch and listen for signs that he might be emotionally battering the kids. Starting with bashing you in their presence. A person doesn't have to physically beat another to be abuse. Mental and emotional badgering is just as devestating. And that is Simon's forte! So talk, talk and more talk with the kids, taking time to listen carefully! And go slow on that engagement! You are more likely to marry another abuser/controller than not. You never know until you marry them!!! What's with the lame apology you blogged Alexis!? That showed no 'class'. If you are going to be a credible business woman in Orange County class is not optional, ask Heather! Why not try again? Who cares who Alexis is? It's all about who Tamara is! And that is the best dang Housewife we all love to watch. The best is yet to come and I can't wait!

Tamra, I have to say this has been your best season yet. Not constantly fighting with Gretchen and seeing you two get along is sooooo refreshing. I admit, if thats how this season would have been I would have stopped watching. You are one of my favorites (Vicki and Heather being the others), and its nice to see you finally acting like a mature adult.. I am really liking the "new" you. Keep hanging with Heather, she somehow seems to keep you grounded and is showing you that friends really do get along at lunch without talking trash about another housewife ( the episode where you met her friends). Take care. =)

Did you apologize to Alexis to her face and were you sincere? Did you apologize to Vicki for saying brooks was being insincere? Just realize how negative and hypocritical you are. You can be a better person, you can. Just rise above all that negativity and honestly feel genuinely happy and concern for people, not jealousy and hate. Just saying.

Tamra, Respectfully, YOU are a mean spirit woman, a fake person, and most of all very envious and jealous. God Bless your beautiful children.

I have had a divorce, I was already in love with my current man of 17 years when my divorce became finalized and we only had one sweet baby boy, but you still can't help to feel you did something wrong, or wishing that you had the hindsight to have been able to have figured it all out. Well, I think you and Eddie are fun and lovely! And he seems very understanding and caring!! Yay! I love Heather and her husband, and I am also tickled pink for Vicki, not just with her new man, but that her daughter is cancer free. I love that you and Gretchen are talking and I hope that all works out and can be forgiven with Slade, you all make such great looking couples, it would be great to see a season of friendships grow. Besides, it seems the work is with Alexis and her husband not wanting to participate. Anyway, I was one of the last people ever to watch reality and I cannot not get enough of all of you ladies! Although, I am now completely jealous of the helicopter! I have always said I would own one, in jest! Now I have to step up my game!!! Keep being fun, don't listen to negativity and tell Heather to do the same, I love her as an addition to you ladies!!!

Take Care!

Well you seam to grow up everyday. I'm glad that you finally coming around and this time a MUCH nicer person. Viki needs to take classes from you now...lol. You hit the nail right on the head about Brooks. He's up to no good. But Viki deserves what's coming to her for being so rude and mean to everybody!! Have a great weekend.

I think you are a fun girl and I actually like you better in this season than the last HOWEVER you pick on Alexis for no apparent reason it seems. Precisely what has that woman ever done to you? Remember "A beautiful person is filled with gratitude and appreciation. And to speak ill of others is a dishonest way of praising oneself!" Leave Alexis alone and you'll gain more fans and will actually seem more genuine as a person! Stop calling others name it's very hurtful!!!!

Hi Tamara! Im so proud of you maybe even a little envious of how you picked yourself up after your second divorce. Like you my marriage divorce ratio is the same. I'm finally with my third but have decided NOT to get married AGAIN. Unlike you I got the letters FU tattooed on my ring finger that should tell you my stance. Oh well to eaches own. Congratulations on your engagement Eddie seems right for you!!

Sorry to see you sad over signing your papers but so proud of you for turning down spousal support...a huge step to your independence from Simon. I wish you had not apologized to Alexis...yes, she NEEDED sinus surgery and I am glad that went well, but she ELECTED to have the bump removed, which was the major surgery. She even admitted that it was to look good on camera. You were not wrong. You and Heather are the best to watch. Fast forward through anything with Slade and Gretchen and ALexis...just too disturbing to watch. Good luck with everything!

Tamra, so glad you are happy! I can't believe it--you are actually my favorite housewife this season! I used to like Alexis the most...now, not so much. What a difference a year makes. Glad to see you happy and healthy. Take care, girl!

Tamra -- glad to see you sort of apologized to Alexis about her nose job. You are very quick to pass judgement and look for the negative in whatever someone else is doing and it makes you look mean and ugly. Even the comment you made about Slade's cycling being more than 20 years ago and being past his prime was really bitchy. If indeed he was training for the olympics who cares how long ago it was? What were you doing 20 years ago besides prepping to be a trophy wife? Maybe you should consider giving people props for what they accomplished when they did. Whatever Slade is doing now is just none of your business (just like whatever it is Brooks does -- what did Vicki call him ... a "consultant"?) and how or if he makes money is also none of your business. You come off as a hypocritical bitch every time you open your mouth. Try keeping it shut for a while.

Hi Tamra, You really do need to lay off of Alexis. She clearly lives a very sad and artificial life. The kind of life in which she seems to have no one to confide in, especially since she is lying to herself as well.

She is definitely not the sharpest crayon in the box. Obviously her husband Jim treats her like his personal slave and trophy wife so she has been be desperate to keep her looks to his exacting specifications - Would be nice if he turned that mirror on himself....

However, Alexis also obviously has a sweet heart and a strong desire to fit in with the rest of the ladies.

You have so much over on Alexis, there is not reason to be hateful about her. There is good reason for you to genuinely reach out to her and be a true friend to her.

There is good reason for you to genuinely befriend Alexis. Your gifts of life experience, intuitiveness, and perception, might offer this lonely and isolated woman an outlet, some guidance, and a shoulder.

You have happiness by the fistful right now - Give little back or at the very least don't go for the easiest prey....

Tamra, that was the nicest blog I've ever read of yours! Thank you! I suppose with how Bravo seems to focus of drama & crazy it brings better ratings? But I refuse to think I'm the only one who doesn't enjoy people being mean to each other. The title was what caught my attention when I first started watching. I am a housewife & mother and proud of it! I LOVE watching the fun times and good things about wives who live a life I'll never be able to. Why would any one want to watch Jerry Springer behavior from classy women? If I want to see how that half lives it's not hard to find. I like to see what it's like to have nice things and live how I never will. So I'm thrilled to see class instead of trash. Keep it going sweetie!

Wow Tamara....when you don't let the catty side control you, you seem to be a nice person. Kudos to you for apologizing to Alexis and acknowledging something Slade has done in in life.

Tamra You really are being inspired by something or someone. You are a much better and much nicer woman this year. Your body is fabulous and kickin like Van Dame! You look better than you ever have. Kudos to you.

Tamra you rock don't listen to the haters !!!

Liked you the first season, then saw the real you. YUCK! How tacky not to mention gross to sell your used clothes to others. Are you that full of yourself that you think people actually want to "wear something you've worn"?? Or are you that broke? You are seriously delusional.

Your comments were very gracious. You have so much more positive energy to give this season. I guess Eddie is rubbing off on you. He seems like a happy dude. Anyone who could suck up a broken finger like that must be happy. He is like the golden retriever of human beings. All the best and Happy Easter to you:) Beth

Pretty small apology for someone who put so much energy into making Alexis feel bad about her surgery. I'm thinking really, you only apologized because of the 'bad press' from the fans.

And your comments about Slade and the Tour - a far cry from what you said in your head shot interview. Maybe you've had some time to do some extra working out and self reflecting. Would really be nice to see you put more energy into being nice, then being nasty.

Tamra, I have to say that your apology to Alexis about her nose job sounds so INSINCERE!!!! You seem to gloss over that fact that you insinuated that she was lying about her sinus surgery. So what if she wanted a bump removed. She was originally having the surgery done for her sinus and then having the cosmetic part done. You can clearly see from the show that the doctor pulled out all kinds of stuff. You sounded like you did not believe her at all and now that you can see it on the show you believe her. How sad. I hope you learn to think better of people and not distrust them right off the bat.

The apology shouldn't be for not believing her. It should be about turning a party into a high-school type mean girl gossip session. You just don't get it. All you do is talk nasty about whoever isn't with you at the moment. Get professional help to see why you are so insecure that you spend your life putting down others!

tamra it is so funny.i was reading old blogs when you were not friends with gretchen season 5.you said you loved having the bellinos on the show and you had become great friends with alexis.how good she looked etc... she was friends with you and gretchen both before peggy.now since gretchen is friends with you she looks like she is dropping lex.alexis has never done anything to you.gretchen was wrong to do that.it is good you said sorry to lex.do you mean it.be kind it will get you further in life.just because alexis and now gretchen is into the lord you do not have to dislike.you and gretchen have much more of a past then you and lex.quit bullying.i hope all you women can go on one trip this season with no fighting.alexis is a sweet person and deep down you know that.she was new on season 5 and you treated her nice like you are now doing to heather.bravo tamra needs to be kind.please print this for T.