Tamra Barney

Tamra talks about her divorce and apologizes to Alexis.

on Apr 6, 20120

Happy 39th birthday Eddie! One more year and we will be the same age. . .right? 40, 42, 44 what's the difference?
We celebrated on Saturday by wine tasting in Temecula with family and friends and had the best time. I love you baby!

Sorry I didn't have time last week to write my blog. I just want to say thank you to Jaye for letting us use her helicopter. Not only is she beautiful but extremely generous. It was an amazing experience with the best view in town. From the time we drove to O.C. airport to when we landed in LA was less than a hour. Pretty amazing! Unfortunately we were not able to fly back because the fog came in, so we had three hours in traffic, But who's complaining after such an amazing day?

Thank you God for looking over Briana! Hearing Briana was cancer-free was the answers to everyone's prayers. Briana is such an amazing girl. Wishing her health, happiness, and love. She deserves it!

This episode was both very excited and very sad for me to watch. It was exciting to see the mud run without actually being covered in mud. This was something I have wanted to do for years. This particular mud run was held at the Del Mar race track and a percentage of the proceeds went to charity. If you have never done a mud run I highly suggest you try it out. this one was short (three miles) and mild compared to some of the others.

112 comments
emma scott
emma scott

I live in the uk and i love you progamme. I think the you temra and vicki are ace wish both the best love emma scott.:-) :-) :-) :-) xx

emma scott
emma scott

Good look and god bless to all you girls and your familys. I think your show is ace. Xxxxx

emma scott
emma scott

I live in the uk and i love you progamme. I think the you temra and vicki are ace wish both the best love emma scott.:-) :-) :-) :-) xx

Magencrook
Magencrook

Tamra, You're a strong women. You haven't let anyone down, and your kids love you so much! Don't let anyone get you down.

Oc_wannabe
Oc_wannabe

Tamra I love u!! I really feel for u with what you've been through with Simon ur so much better of a person than him! I really wanna know ur diet secrets like what u eat & how much u work out so I can get a body as great as yours! Love from the UK xxx

TinaJax
TinaJax

I hope you have apologized to Alexis to her face and not just a line or two here. Please stop putting people down. It shows your insecurities!

Stephi ~ BC. Canada...ay!!!
Stephi ~ BC. Canada...ay!!!

Hi Tamra, my daughter and I get a kick out of watching the show.. The drama! But I just want to say, I'm glad you and Gretchen are making peace. It really doesn't matter what other people think, I have found over the years that trusting in yourself, and growing, is more important that trying to please someone else.....re: Vicki, I find her to be very fake at alot of stuff lately......"do as I say, but don't do as I do". And I hope that Gretchen is not putting up with what she goes threw with that unsavory character that she is with(Slade). You both deserve so much more, even if it's just for the show. (Life is too short, and there's so much more that is important) Thank you.

Alixe
Alixe

Hey Tamra! Your great! I love your personality & your absolutley gorgeous. My thoughts about you have completely changed since last season, I realize now you were going through a very hard time. I know it's a struggle, but you seem to be back to your old self. I LOVE you & Gretchen being friends again! I hope it stays that way, you all seem to have a lot in common. Anyway I'm 20 years old & you are a great role model. It takes a strong person to stay in a relationship & put up with someone who doesn't treat you right, but it takes an even stronger person to get out of it. Thanks for being so great!! Xo

CTviewer
CTviewer

NOT Buying what you and Brooks are selling. You are right about him saying all the right things at the right time. They NEVER seem authentic, watching you can almost right his script. As well - I don't believe your leaf is completely turned over. You are just trying to gain back some viewers so you don't get the boot.

Viewer
Viewer

I think that Vicki and Tamra are great....they KEEP IT REAL, unlike the other cast members. Im sure the other girls are nice (except for Alexis) but their actions and dialog seem EXTREMELY CALCULATED. When the other cast members are involved, I feel like I am watching an SNL parody. I watch every season of housewives and am extremely disappointed when Vicki and Tamra aren't on the screen.

The new lady seems nice, however, everything she says is too calculated, pc/neutral which is yawn....borrrinnngggg, if her life is so "perfect" then she shouldn't be on this show. The fact that Alexis thinks that everyone wants her life is extremely entertaining. ...I guess she has no clue that everyone watching is relieved that they are NOT her. I guess she is a real life version of clueless. She appears t have an alfred perception of reality.... and she never thinks before she speaks.

(I have never taken the time to blog in response to a show....but I had to support Vicki and Tamra, who both shall be applauded for being open and honest to the viewers). How can anyone criticize honesty? After all, isn't that why us, the demographic follows then REAL housewives ?

Liz80206
Liz80206

Tamra, I must say it is refreshing to see how you have taken the high road and the thing that impressed me the most is when you owned your own issues. You didn't blame Simon or anyone else. You are so on the right track and I am very happy for you. It is nice to watch the show again. I was really worried last season.

Cuinside123
Cuinside123

I hope you are healing well after your surgery.. I have watched the show since the beginning and would like to say that it is refreshing to see someone that speaks there mind!!Divorce is never easy but bringing your children up in a hostile homelife is worse.Kudos to you for making the change to better your life. Good luck in all you do!!!

Jacq123
Jacq123

Hello. So I've been watching the show since Season 1, OC is def my fav ;o) You and Vicki have always been my favs...recently Peggy was too, I'm sad she left :o( Hope shes doing good.

Annnnnnyway, in watching this season you have changed so much. Though I've always liked you, I def love the new you. It shows through the TV how happy you are and how "at peace" you are with yourself. You try to keep the peace with everyone now days and I think thats "step 1" in being a happy person. I also LOVEEEE that you are embracing the "natural" look again. It takes a lot of self confindence to do that and I wish women today would love the bodies God gave them. I thought about having mine done, but decided against it and am SO glad I did. There's nothing more sexy than real boobies ;O) Can't wait to watch rest of season!

Mango2
Mango2

Tamara you are right on regarding Brooks . My husband and I are well educated business owners who were talked into opening businesses in Mississippi. We brought services to the state that were nonexistent there but were present in every other state . The ignorance there is so deep and most of the people there are oblivious to the ignorance because it is so generational there . Things that are accepted a's standard there would be looked upon as bizarre elsewhere . I know people who go to a lady that reads tea leaves to tell them the sex of their baby instead of getting a sonogram . Brooks ; if you watch him cannot truly converse . He pulls out cards for everything and speaks in cliches . This ignorance will all come out eventually . I know I am going to catch slack for saying this but the schools in the city my businesses were in were actually considered failing by the state, they didn't even meet basic standards and Feds had to give oversight. The parents had to pay for a playground at a public school because there was only a gravel lot . I could go on and on with examples , but if you present facts to some people in MS they will deny and get mad. By the way, we got our businesses out of there. Just watch Brooks he will probably be a good actor but opportunist might be a goof word to keep in mind.

susie rollins
susie rollins

Some days I like you then others not so much. You do what you have to do to stay on the show I guess. I have a big problem with Eddie, is he on the show hoping someone would want to hire him in the show business, and I really think he is gay, if not he should be, he fits the profile. Sorry, hope your surgery gave you some relief.

Anne568
Anne568

This isn't just for Tamara....But, the WHOLE OC cast should be different next year...They are all boring....Heather is a good addition, but Vicki and tamara and even alexis and the other blond with big fake lips are so boring now....NEW CAST PLEASE

Viewer
Viewer

Be kind to yourself & everyone around you.

Tammyindiana
Tammyindiana

I want to like you and do at times. However, you are pretty cruel to others sometimes and I hate that. Alexis is just as smart as you and you called her a liar about her sinus issue and that bit you in the butt. Don't be so quick to treat others bad and don't be such a drama queen. I hope you are trying to be a better person for real and not just so others like you. I wonder if your motives for being friends with Grethchen are to get all the haters off you. You clearly treated her badly for no reason and I don't know if I could be your friend after that. She certainly is the bigger person. I do wish they would replace you and Vicki. I have had enough and you are not the hottest now without fake boobs. Not that I judge or care about that but you were fake in many ways and called others the things you are.

TanyaFrmNJ
TanyaFrmNJ

Tamra, I think it is fabulous you got your implants removed!! I was always an average sized andI LOVE it because I can find bras and tops that fit me properly. Also, I have always been secure with my body to accept myself for who I am and what I have. I believe with you accepting yourself, not needing those implants shows you are in a much happier place and you are more content with yourself. It shows you are gaining more confidence and in a more peaceful place in your life. You are moving FORWARD!! Congrats!

Biggest Fan
Biggest Fan

Tamra, I love the show, and I love your new attitude on life! It takes a real strong sense of self to be able to admit when you're wrong, and the way you handled the Gretchen thing in the first episode was really great. Apologizing via your blog to Alexis was really great too. You clearly have come a long way and have experienced such personal growth over the last year. Congratulations to you and I am sure you will continue to go far. PS I agree Brooks is shady. Good looking out for your bff!

GailGB
GailGB

Tamara I love u. I love the woman u r becoming. I don't like the little backstabbing remarks or facial expressions u make to the other girls. I know u have the potential of being a bitter woman but don't take it out on the other ladies. That makes u look bad. Apologizing to Alexis was very woman of u.

Rye
Rye

Tamra, you are such a liar. Alexis never denied she was having a nose job. Never, she always said she was having both. Why can't you get that through your head. She had both a nose job and sinus surgery.

MadgePadge
MadgePadge

This new, nice Tamra is not working for me. Goodness gracious, you paid Slade a compliment and apologized to Alexis all in the same blog. What is happening to you?

miss lafang
miss lafang

Tamra, I really like your new attitude now. Keep it up. Just be nice. You're friend Vicky is HOPELESS. She deserves Brooks.

AnitaBreak
AnitaBreak

Oh goodness gracious. All of those Alexis supporters, write your negative comments about Tamra on Alexis' blog please. I really like the changes I see in you this season Tamra. And seeing you and Gretchen finally starting a friendship is awesome. One thing tho, stop caring what Vicki thinks about your new found friendship with Gretchen. If she is a true friend, she'll be happy you are expanding your circle of friends, and learn by your example. Just keep being yourself darlin, we like you just the way you are !

clairer89
clairer89

Tamra, you should know that you can't trust anything that comes out of Slade's mouth. There is no evidence anywhere (including the official Tour de France website) that Slade ever rode in a Tour. On the list of all participants that have ever ridden (from 1903-2011), the name "Slade Smiley" does not appear. So, once again, Slade has told a lie.

Wendi Elliott
Wendi Elliott

I love you; you are identical to me, but skinner! You say what you want and you should. Be careful of what you say, who you say it to, and what Bravo tells you too. You are the truest person, but they will take it to their advantage to get ratings

jlynn71
jlynn71

Tamra, I understand your mini-meltdown when signing the divorce papers. You felt like you have failed and that you are purposely hurting your children. That is completely normal. But I believe you did what was best for you and your children and I pray that you have a lifetime of happiness from this moment on. I am happy that you are real and hold nothing back. That makes the show great! I do not have anything against Alexis. I think she is delusional in her marriage and after the whole Peggy thing I lost respect for her. So many people on here are telling you that it is you who is fake..really??? compared to Alexis??? I disagree! It was Alexis who was jealous of Peggy and who was constantly putting Peggy down with all her little jabs and stabs. Alexis should have held Jim responsible for the lies! She is the one who comes across as insecure. That being said...I think Alexis is a good person and deserves your friendship. She needs some strong women around her to wake her up when it comes to Jim! I believe she is submissive because she believes that is her place in the home due to her religious beliefs, but it states in the Bible that the men are to revere the women...to cherish her. Jim just keeps her under his thumb while he is out on the prowl looking at women like Peggy. I agree with you about Brooks...not sure what it is, but I feel uneasy as well and am hoping that Vicky keeps her guard up. Stay strong, Tamra! Keep your chin up and know that you have fans out there who admire what you are going through. Congrats on your relationship with Eddie...he seems to rise and shine in your light!

LisafromIndiana
LisafromIndiana

Hi! I have NO SOCIAL LIFE, so I love watching your show! My husband wants a divorce after 15 years together. I worked nights, weekends, holidays, etc., while he finished college (PHD). We have three children together (plus I have an 18 yr old son who my husband never "bonded" with), and I never finished college (only have 2.5 yrs, W/no degree). I don't know if I should try to go back to college because I am 46 yrs. old, or try something in sales. I think I would love to go into Real Estate, but everyone keeps telling me it is really hard to get started! Anyway, I am so happy for you!!!! You deserve to be happy!!! I hope when it is all said and done that I have your strength!

Sara S
Sara S

I have never been a Tamra fan but I have to say that this season you seem so much more likable than past seasons. I feel like you are truly happy with who you are and where you are in life and so you can let go of the ugliness that used to rule your life. I have been so impressed with your friendship with Gretchen and your ability to let go of all the hate. Wishing you all the best and continued happiness.

snickers
snickers

You're getting better. I am starting to like you now.It's a great change for the better...

Jaesf
Jaesf

Tamara, in light of the news of your cancer scare, I am praying for you! You are growing up on camera since your divorce and I wish you the best of health!

LIsa in SoCal
LIsa in SoCal

Love you Tamra! I get your disdain of Alexis...she may be "sweet", "pretty" and "Christian" (so say the Alexis lovers), but she is also as dumb as a pile of rocks. Who wants to be friends with a rock?

Carrie
Carrie

Hi Tamra. You are a lot of fun. I know your type. Tough on the outside, but on the inside you're butter. (You're the one who said you're a boy with a vagina, LOL) I get the conundrum with Alexis. You just can't let her in. I came from SD, so I know what it's like to try to break from the Midwest's form of tradition, and maybe to you Alexis is representing something other than who she is to you. I lean a bit toward the mystical, so I endured my own form of ostracism, but I made peace with it. Honestly, though, she's a nice person. She really is. Alexis really does seem to desire to be the best person that she can be. She's a good person intending to have virtue in what appears to be a world without virtue. More than anything, I think she needs validation that it's okay for her to be who she is. You can still embark on your journey and respect Alexis for embarking on hers. I won't appreciate you any less if you don't, but I would like to see everyone's discomfort lessened. My biggest lesson from growing up in the Midwest is learning how to support others in whatever they think might make them happy, but never holding them to it, so they have more room to share their discovery about themselves with me over and over again, if they change their mind. I have found that this approach has been my greatest ally in preventing others from possessing me. I really, really, really, get it.

Cindy1963
Cindy1963

Tamra, I was watching the episode when you went with Eddie to the Fondue Restaurant and all I have to say is YOU WERE REALLY RUDE TO THE WAITER!!! Even before he would finish a sentence you were cutting him off asking him "do you have something without cheese?" "can I have a chicken breast?" "all I want is a chicken breast." It seems that all you guys do is eat out so one would think that you would have a little bit better restaurant etiquette. Sorry, I know this has nothing to do with this weeks' blog but I had to say something while I remember. Please let the waiters/waitresses finish their sentences before cutting them off, okay. You came off very snobbish and very picky.

Christielee
Christielee

thank u for being so real. there are so many fake people out there that are afraid to say what they really think. you are adorable! and im glad u have found happiness with eddie.

Heather U.
Heather U.

Way to go Tamra...you just continue to make Lex and Slade look better by acting the way you do. When you rip on someone so much, you tend to look like the bad guy. I don't think you mean your sorrys. Plus hanging out with Heather just makes you look hard up for her friendship. She is fake too.

Myra Alexandra
Myra Alexandra

Tamra, you're really funny and entertaining to watch, but with Alexis being my favorite on the show, i have to have HER back. You're really gorgeous and funny, but it really seems like you have a lot of hurt in you. I'm sorry about your second divorce, but i'm happy you found a "hot latin" to satisfy your need to feel loved, but i think you need to share some love with others. The funny part is, if you were to ever give Alexis a SINCERE apology, she would probably take you in with open arms; but if Alexis were to come to you and ask to be friends, you'd give the fakest reaction and pretend to be her friend, then roll youreyes when she leaves. That's just the type of person you seem to be. I love watching you on the show, but i would NEVER want to be your friend. You're so funny and pretty, like... why do you hate so much?

alytowns
alytowns

You seem nice in your blogs, but on the show your not. You like to point out peoples flaws, literally........super fake.....super incinsere....Alexis has never done a thing to you.....Slade never did a thing to you.......And most importantly, I havent seen ONE TEAR come down your face in all the scenes where you are trying to cry? Odd.......

simone35
simone35

It is painful to watch you!! You have an opinion and something to say about everyone and it is always NEGATIVE! Hopefully you become happier with your life and you because less bitter with everyone else. I do think that you are trying to be nicer this year but your true colors show thru. After last year where the true Tamara was revealed, you are trying to mask the real you. But the bully and meaness still shines bright!! Good luck with that.

JP63
JP63

Tamra, you've been my favorite since you joined the show. I find you very entertaining. I'm glad you found someone who seems to make you truly happy and inspires you.

for reals
for reals

Is it just me or does Eddie remind anyone else of a pumped-up Fes from "That 70's Show"?

Diana M
Diana M

Tamara, Weirdest thing, I had 2 dreams this week with you in it which was totally strange. I never dream about shows. Anyway, in the dream the most critical thing that I took from it was that always have someone be present when you and Simon are together. The other thing was that you should consider making the stand to ensure truth (which I was not sure about that) is public. I just wanted to share this since it was weirdly 2 dreams, so take it for what it is worth. God Bless :)

p.s. In the dream, you were leaving a Spa out the back door due to press, and exited to a park where you had some time to sit while you watched a woman in a yellow dress stand by a fountain.

StephTN
StephTN

Tamra, I absolutely LOVE watching you this season! You've inspired me to work out and I've lost 15 lbs since the start of the OC season! I've been watching you since you started on OC and I have to say, you look the happiest you've ever been this season. Keep keeping it real!

Dee Dee
Dee Dee

Well Tamara I thought just maybe you would be a little different this year but it didn't happen. Please look up the word "bully" - I think you'll find your name next to it.

TeriGia
TeriGia

You tried to be nicer this season but you cannot change. The unnecessary verbal garbage about Alexis and Slade is uncomprehensible. You don't seem to have genuine goodwill towards anyone. Instead of feeling and expressing the wow when he mentioned the tour de france, you made a face and gave the camera a nasty comment. What does it cost to be kind and encouraging to people? You hang out with Gretchen because she is the most popular with the biggest responses on this site while your Vicki and you are the two wicked sisters. Got to get cleaned up from the inside, woman!

BravoWatchin50
BravoWatchin50

Classless - you simply have NO class and seem to NEED to be vulgar on each episode. I wish you were not on this show but I know you need the money. I am thankful I am NOT a Mean girl; YOU are a mean girl.

SLAA
SLAA

I just cannot applaud you for anything you say or do anymore. You have an opinion about everything and it's usually followed by lies, rumors, hateful remarks, shunning others.................must I go on???

I really don't feel like you have any redeeming qualities.

0cViewer2789
0cViewer2789

Tamra, You sound like you are in severe pain. That is the only explanation for your nastiness and hatred. Please get some help. If you were truly secure and happy, you would be kinder, gentler and caring. You would not have the desperate need to put Alexis or anyone else down.