Tamra Barney

Tamra shares tales from her Tahiti trip and is glad she shared the proposal with you.

on Jun 12, 20120

The next day we went scuba diving. It was my first time, and I was nervous. Again I started thinking "What if he proposes underwater, and I get excited and forget how to breath and I suck up water. . . .What if I die before I even get to say YES?" As you know that did not happen either. After scuba diving I told myself again, "STOP THINKING ABOUT IT AND ENJOY."

When the they wanted to film in our room after scuba diving I didn't think anything of it.There was no reason for me to change my clothes and get made up.

Eddie was outside on the deck opening clams and I was inside on the phone catching up with the kids. When I walked out to see what Eddie was up too, I had NO IDEA what was about to happen. I sat down next to him with wet hair, a ring around my face from the scuba mask, no makeup on, and started watching Eddie open clams.

When he handed me the second clam to open that clearly did not look the same you would think I would have known, but I didn't! In my mind I was expecting him to propose 15 times already, and it didn't happen. I was thinking (because I thought I had it all figured out) he would propose at dinner, on a sunset cruise, or on the beach. . .you know the typical fancy way. But that's not my Eddie, he is always surprising me with the unexpected. I was in shock when I opened up that clam -- and most of all I was truly surprised. In the end, he did it his way and I would have to say he was very creative.

219 comments
TeresasFastlane
TeresasFastlane

I am writing this before the season opener. I am so glad that you girls are coming back. By this time I expect you and Eddie are married,as I have been seeing previews on Bravo for the show. I hope that you and Gretchen are still friends. You 2 are so funny when you are around each other. I actually started liking her after you guys became closer. And you are still the sexiest housewife in Orange County.

mduquesne
mduquesne

Congrats on your engagement! I truly adore Eddie, he is truly a stand-up guy and he stays out of the drama, true man.

jerianne
jerianne

Alexis and Tamra are two of a kind and that is why they do not get along. Onlt I can listen to Alexis longer,she doesn't talk like a jailbird!

bugsea54
bugsea54

Stop meddeling in everyones business.

bugsea54
bugsea54

Stop causing trouble, your life is going good now.  You don't have to stick your nose in everyones business.

godeyes4
godeyes4

All I have to say Tamra, is Judge not least ye be Judged ♥

HMC
HMC

I just want to ask, Why did you feel it necessary to go and sit down with Jim and Heathers husband when they were obviously hashing it out? It was bad enough Heather stepped in, but then you just sit right down. Can I say the word "ambush". It seems that is what you guys enjoy doing. You girls need to relax and let people work stuff out instead of butting in, its horrible. You always seem to have it out for one housewife each season, why is that? You should concentrate on yourself and your life and not everyone elses, you constantly say mean things about your friends, especially Alexis who I think so far is the most normal one. YOU ALL FLAUNT your materialistic crap and love lives.

Runner0108
Runner0108

Every year there is drama at the finale. It always centers around you. Throwing wine on Jeana, asking Simon for a divorce and crying on Vicki's shoulder, and now starting a fight with Brooks and Vicki. Your behavior is embarrassing and classless. I cannot believe you would involve Brianna. And you did roll your eyes--you were stunned to be caught and called out on your atrocious behavior. I really hope Bravo thinks long and hard about renewing your contract. I've been a viewer since Season 1 and you make this show very difficult to watch.

RHAnywhere_I_M_THERE
RHAnywhere_I_M_THERE

Happy people don't behave the way you're behaving.  Saying you're happy on camera over and over again doesn't obfuscate the observable fact that your favorite pastime is to hurt and belittle others.  Happy people don't do that, even on reality TV.

 

sasmbmbkc
sasmbmbkc

Tamra you are and have been my favorite since this show started..You put up with too much stuff from Simon.thank god your out of that relationship.You have changed for the better i think.Eddie looks like a great guy.Your both lucky to find each other.Hold on to this one,he looks like a keeper.Glad you made up with Gretchen.You did roll your eyes to Vicki on the show,but how dare a no good S.O.B CALL you out on it.It is between you and Vickie and you 2 need to work out your friendship.I see you are worried about her with Brook .I would be too if it was me ..The only thing i see that you might need to change is own up on your actions,when something happens do not  play innocent every time.OWN IT!!!!. GO ON.Do not waste your breathe on Alexis its her time to go.You tried now just shake it off..Many great wishes for you and Eddie and your kids.

Carmen12
Carmen12

Tamra, You are really better off with out Vicki she's so negitive. I'm glad you and Gretchen are friends now

wishing58
wishing58

In spite of all the RHW bs, you and Eddy convey real strength and honesty. Best wishes

helen.lumpkin.9
helen.lumpkin.9

Tamra, You and Briana have a right to be concerned about Brooks. I think by just looking at him hes a CON MAN. Maybe a private detective to dig into his past will prove to Vicki hes up to no good. I have to be honest and tell you I really didn't like you to much at first but, have come to respect you and how honest you are. Hell, if my friends got upset whenever I rolled my eyes at something they did or said I would not have any friends.

tshjean
tshjean

Please stop with the Jesus references. It is offensive. Gay Barbie or Jew Barbie wouldn't be acceptable. Have a little class and show respect for Christianity. Whether it is to you or not, It is important to many. Thanks

rosieh1967
rosieh1967

Tamra, you rule. You can be loud and direct, but you are no Ramona (RHONYC). Your life is coming together in such a positive way, and you're not afraid to say it. Love you girl.

Contessa357
Contessa357

If your life is so perfect, why are you in everyone's business, take some pointers from Eddie ..

he doesn't judge or but's in like the other husbands, you always want to be the center of attention and you don't care if it's at others expense, what you did to Vickie was wrong in so many levels, You did roll your eyes when Vickie toasted to Alex's and Brook called you on it, you didn't like the fact you were put on the spot.  If Vickie chooses Brooke to be in her life that's her business not your's and to turn her daughter against her was pure evil on your part.

If you are truly her friend be the for her.  You don't know what's going on in Brooks life to judge,  What ever it is mind your business, and to make things right you should be encouraging her daughter in a positive manner towards her mother don't fuel the fire ..

remember what goes around comes around Karma... who know what card life will deal you, not everything is as it seems... check your own closet for skeletons.

 

 

 

 

MAH
MAH

Poor Vicki, my heart ached for her tonight, it really did!

 

Kygirl43
Kygirl43

Tamara I really like you this season heard you talking about your cancer scare on dr oz I can tell it has changed you for the better. Happy for your engagement I'm not surprised to see you and Vicki at it she thinks everyone owes her something brooks is trouble never thought I'd see Vicki let a man take advantage of her. Just let her go and move on life is too short.

gatorsunshine01
gatorsunshine01

Damn Tammy Sue,

I can't look at any photos or blogs without ordering wine:( I am sad but one day soon, I will be able to afford that 35$ to help with your foundation & get the opportunity to become a member of your club!!!! Just wondering, how are you and Vicks doing with your business when she's being a hateful person towards you right now?? JW. LOVES YOU!!!

-Corissa L. Murillo

gatorsunshine01
gatorsunshine01

Tamara,

I just wanted to let you know that I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE you!!! Your an awesome mother with an awesome fiance and a rockin bod!!! KUDOS to you for all you have accomplished & bettered your life!! You have been my idol since the 1st day you stepped into the Housewives!!

I watched WWHL after the season finale tonight & loved it! I definitely voted for you girl & U did win over vicki!! YAYYY!! LOL. I tried to sign up for WIVESBYWINE.COM, however, I don't have the money to purchase any wine at this time to be able to become a member, but I will soon!! I am a FT student at Santa Fe College & solely rely on my student loans. I am in Nursing School and therefore am broke lol. I am 22 years old, about to be 23, and have been in an abusive, controlling, horrible relationship for the past 4 years now, so I definitely understand what you were going through with Simon. You are so grateful to have a man step in & up to the plate to be the real man that you deserve. I only wish you the best & hope that I can get out of this relationship & hurt like you have led yourself to do. It is a very hard & hurtful spot to be in & I know that. This guy has broken my nose, given me many bloody and black eyes, and has even blugeoned my face. You are truly inspiring to me & helped me to realize that I do NOT have to put up with this!!! I will always keep you in my mind to motivate me to do whatever I have to do to get myself out of this situation I am in. Hell, I am even having a garage sale this weekend just to raise money so that I can get away!! You are an amazing woman & you have really been an inspiration to me!! You have helped me in so many ways just by watching your life play out on TV. You have helped me to gain the strength to walk away from this crazy ass, fu**ed up relationship as soon as I possibly can & I couldn't thank you enough!! I can't wait to see what comes next for you and Eddie!! I LOVE U TAMARA!!!

LOVE, Corissa Lynn Murillo

Lisa1017
Lisa1017

Tamra is trying to weed out Vicki and Alexis from the circle by insulting their partners.  Couples will naturally defend one another, and Tamra knows that.  Her "Flavor of the Year Friends" are now Gretchen and Heather.  Poor Vicki is now thrown aside, and forget poor Alexis, no one will give her and Jim a chance

FutureDaRonch
FutureDaRonch

My boyfriend left two years ago on July 7th for a mission with his church! I was devastated to be separated from him and had no clue how I was going to make it through 2 years with out him... But we did it! He gets home in 2 weeks and we plan to get married! I told him not to worry about buying a ring thatd Id be happy to just wear a bubble gum machine ring or even a string because all that matters is that I'm going to be by his side for the rest of my life! I've waited two years but just writing letters! I haven't heard his voice since before he left! Now that's love to wait on someone for 2 years! Im so happy for you and Eddie and I wish the very best for you, your kids, and your new healthy marriage!

itskellytaylor90210
itskellytaylor90210

no one wants you to be "honest" if it just means you are going to bash someone.  would you like it if every person that walked by you was "honest" to you and you got told over and over and over again how mean and nasty and hateful and petty and jealous you look on TV every week?  it's called being polite (not being fake) and keeping negative things you think about others to yourself.  not everyone wants your opinion thrown in their face  just like you don't want theirs.  go read a book on manners because you have none.

itskellytaylor90210
itskellytaylor90210

While we all see you try to publicly humiliate a different woman every season due to your severe insecurities do you have to keep using the Lord's name in vain while you do it? Show some respect. 

ohiofarmgirl
ohiofarmgirl

Love you and Eddie together!!! Glad you and Gretchen aren't fighting anymore and getting along so well. I wish you and Vicki could work things out tho. She stuck by you when you needed her most (harsh times with Simon) Please don't give up on her thru this crazy time with Brooks. She needs her friend regardless of her decisions.Just like Heather said in her toast "make new friends but keep the old some are silver and some are gold"

Merlinka
Merlinka

I fully agree with Lauren: "From the moment you befriended Gretchen this season, you have pushed Vickie aside.  You accuse her of being jealous after you do everything possible to make her feel like the 3rd wheel.  You don't have to turn against one friend just because you have a new one.  I thought you would be nicer now that you are happier in your personal life... disappointing"

JML
JML

my heart goes out to you about vikki. give it some time and i think she will come around!

 

Perspective
Perspective

Tamra,

 

Bless your heart. Who needs friends like Vicki! Screaming at you the way she did is unacceptable. She appears unbalanced.

MarileeSandersGarcia
MarileeSandersGarcia

Tamra, you, Gretchen, and Heather are the voices of reason this season. Since I don't see a blog for Alexis, I'm posting it here. She needs to stop her husband from degrading her in public. He's an ass! If she's smart she'll stop him now or sheens up having to leave him. He's abusive and a bully. I hope all you ladies can pull together and help her get him stopped. I'm glad to see you. Having healed from your ex. You have been blessed now with someone who really loves you. God is great!

sojohn@3944
sojohn@3944

Tamra,

Really? You need to acquire more self-awareness. If you are in such a happy place you would not try to put someone down or make them feel bad because you are jealous of them (Alexis). You are not perfect nor Alexis but she has a good heart and is kind and not mean-spirited. You are a bully. Stop trying to make other grown women gang up against her. You can say you are not but you know your heart (mean) Stop hating on Alexis. We all have things to work on including myself. So work on your judgemental and self-righteous nature. It's so not cool!

cyrilaxel
cyrilaxel

Tamra, I admire you from apologizing to Jeana. That was big of you. You are so likable this season. Not to mention your new friendship with Gretchen. You have changed a lot. I mean for the GOOD. Stay away from Vicky please as far as you can. She's a BAD influence.

paulakarasick
paulakarasick

Tamra,

 

just wanted to let you know - my mom has been married to her third husband for about 20 years now.  they lived together for about 10 yrs before getting married.  my mom is 12 years older than my "dad" and she has four kids from her previous marriages.  so he took us all on (and we were tough!) and he stuck around. 

HWSmithtown
HWSmithtown

I'm so glad you are not with Simon! and have a nice guy now.

  Okay, but Tamra try to be happy.  Stop being so critical of your girlfriends.  Some of your observations may be true, however do you have to shove personality traits down peoples throats.  Chill the frigg out.   You are mean to your real friends then you do that whole crying and blubbering thing to Jena, ugh I almost puked.  Are you kidding me?  do you remember what she did?  I use to be a fan, not so much anymore.  

Laurielu
Laurielu

From the moment you befriended Gretchen this season, you have pushed Vickie aside.  You accuse her of being jealous after you do everything possible to make her feel like the 3rd wheel.  You don't have to turn against one friend just because you have a new one.  I thought you would be nicer now that you are happier in your personal life... disappointing...

Tmon
Tmon

Tamra, 

I feel you honestly love Eddie but you said over dinner to him that you were afraid to have your kids over his house for a sleep over because you were afraid that if he was around them and they were bickering among themselves he would want to leave you.  Well, I feel if that's the case he you're better off without him.  If a guy can't accept your kids he don't deserve you.  You all should be a total package.  Take it slow, there's something about him that doesn't seem right. He seem a bit like your ex to me.  Watch that temper!

Alicat79
Alicat79

Congratulations on your engagement!  Eddie comes across like a true partner and soul mate..  Very happy for you.. 

 

Thank you for your comment - "Jimmy "the chin" Bellino"..  I laugh every time...

cyrilaxel
cyrilaxel

Congratulations on your engagement. I wasnt a fan of you before, but now I'm your number 1 fan. I liked your new friendship with Gretchen. Stay away as far as you can from Vicky and you'll be fine. Good Luck.

santina
santina

Tamra is always in someone else business. She needs to just worry about herself and stop being so jealous.

lovelymimi
lovelymimi

I am sick of anyone who compares the Costa Rica episode to San Franciso episode.

 

1. Alexis didn't go to San Fran looking to start drama with Vickie (like Tamra & Heather). Alexis simply called Vickie out b/c she kept taking phone calls after she ripped Alexis for taking phone calls at the table.

2. Vickie told Alexis to "bring it on"!

3. Alexis didn't raise her voice, swear, or insult Vickie or her family (like Tamra & Heather did with Alexis).

4. Alexis didn't enlist anyone to join in the "intervention" with her (like Tamra did with Heather)

5. Alexis didn't spend time prior to the trip to San Fran saying hurtful, insulting, comments about Vicki every chance she got. Face it Tamra & Heather had it in for Alex and the couldn't wait to cause drama with her. "Intervention" my foot!!

 

 

itskellytaylor90210
itskellytaylor90210

 @HMC Tamra looked like a 13 year old when she sat down and tried to be involved in the conversation.  what a nosey immature person. she made it so the conversation wasn't able to happen.  i would have done the same thing Jim did.  he knew it would turn into an embarrassing yelling match and did not want to be a part of that.  no professional adult would.  i'm sure Tamra was glad he left because she would HATE it if jim and terry & heather and alexis made up and then became friends.  tamra can't handle something like that happening because she is mentally ill. 

Lisa1017
Lisa1017

 @LisaPH

 You're right, I just noticed that.  I have a sister-in-law just like Tamra, they thrive on being the center of attention.  Tamra is very fake.

cleah
cleah

 @Laurielu She never liked Vickie, she just needed someone mean like her to film with. She  just couldn't take Vickies bossy nature and opinionated personality anymore! She is wayyyy too insecure to be able to be around someone who speaks their mind the way Vickie does. Who could really? It's Vickies way or the highway. We all have known people like this before. Vickie has been humbled by her messy boyfriend, and is so much better now, kinda almost even liking her..."kinda".

triddick1
triddick1

 @Tmon

 Does he have a temper?  If so, I must have missed that episode.  He seems mild tempered to me.

Shaakaa
Shaakaa

PLEASE< PLEASE< PLEASE DON'T

HousewivesOCfan
HousewivesOCfan

I agree!  I used to like her now she is way too mean and nasty!

ejtdreams
ejtdreams

 @lovelymimi Yeah. Alexis had good intentions in San Fran. Whatever. Its the same thing.