Tamra Barney

Tamra discusses how lucky she is to be with a man like Eddie and to have made it through her divorce.

on May 16, 20120

Ouch! I took Terry up on his offer to surgically remove my tattoo after the several sessions of laser. The laser did lighten and blur my tattoo, but chances were it would never removed it completely. The tattoo of Simon's name was a constant reminder of my past and needed to be removed for good.

So, when I walked into Terry's office I thought it was going to be simple. I thought I would sit in one of his exam rooms, and he would do his thing. I guess I didn't give it much thought? The nurse brought me back to his surgery room with machines, bright lights, and a tray of scalpels, and at that second my stomach knotted up. I must have run to the bathroom five times before he ever started. Sorry Terry, but I have a really bad nervous stomach.

After he numbed me I didn't feel a thing. It wasn't until 1 am when I woke up with my finger throbbing that I thought. . .what the heck have I done?!?

After the procedure I had to keep it from Eddie for two days which was not easy. I knew Eddie was going to be so happy it was finally gone, but ultimately I did it for my self.

97 comments
Melissa In Iowa
Melissa In Iowa

Tamra:

I want to say how happy this week's episode made me! You and Eddie were made for each other and it was such a beautiful way for him to propose!! It was an especially nice touch that he had you thinking it was out of the question!

Love and light always, Iowa fan

Barb L.
Barb L.

Tamra has always been my favorite housewife, but now she seems so full of venom. It seems ridiculous to attachk Alexis the way she has been. It just makes her seem like a nasty, heartless person. Even if ther are points that maybe are ture, basically, she is going way overboard. Try being a little nicer. There is such a thing as holding back and not trying to hurt people.

justiF
justiF

Tamra, you come off a little harsh, but, I think you're are generally funny. I was starting to like you too until you decided to corner and attack Alexis. And guess what? Alexis isn't even my favorite housewife or anything, but, that was very mean spirited to gang up on her like that. You are not perfect either and it is NOT your place to go off on people constantly and nit-pick their every action. If you're sooo independent and strong then act like a mature woman, and not a BULLY.

Viewer patte-fl
Viewer patte-fl

i have read many of these comments and i have one question-do you realize this is a tv show??

GreenPea
GreenPea

I feel sorry for you. You broke up a family to be with a man who's only interest in you is to be on TV. One day soon you'll come to regret it.

Patty Holladay
Patty Holladay

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Tracy Lynn 27
Tracy Lynn 27

you need to give alexis a break, no body's perfect. You must think your perfect to jugde her the way you do. What has she done to you. there is nothing wrong with being sensitive, not everyone is stone cold. I think you gang up on her because you know it hurts her. And some women with deeper issues enjoy being mean.

GomyKt
GomyKt

Tamara - I was really surprised at your response to Alexis,at your meeting on Tuesday May 22. I thought you had changed more than that, but you still can be very cruel and thoughtless. Alexis may overdue it in the bragging department, but she is not a mean soul. You on the other hand can be at times. I have seen you gossip and speak about Gretchen not only when her back is turned but almost across the table from her at a dinner party with Vicki. I was really starting to see your physical beauty again, because you had made some positive changes in your life,especially with regards to Gretchen. Cut Alexis some slack.The same slack others have given to you. We forgave and forgot. Why can you. You will continue to grow if you do. You dont have to be best friends, just cordial. The same way you expect Vicki to act with Gretchen. Otherwise once again there will be another Elephant in the room and you the main common dominator involved once again. Hope you decide to be the bigger one. Signed faithful follower of RHW Of Orange County

islandgirl7
islandgirl7

Tamera, Alexis had the courage to reach out to you and try to find a way whereby the two of you could be friendly to one another, and if not, at least civil. You looked at her with disdain the entire conversation. Have you ever heard of the word compassion? All you did was knock her down, knock her down, knock her down. How hard is it to show compassion to someone who is at least trying to find a way to be civil with you? I thought you were actually becoming a kinder person. I hope next time you will choose kindness over contempt.

10ringjulie
10ringjulie

Tamra, Yay for you! So happy you had the opportunity to tell Alexis your feelings. I agree with you 100% and have since the first episode she was on. Alexis is a poser. Wish you all the best.

Lisa of Arizona
Lisa of Arizona

Tamra, Glad you are happy although you do not act like a happy person. You talk about others constantly and make some very mean spirited comments about them. Since you are someone who has been mistreated in the past it seems like you would be more compassionate of others. You come across as someone who is bitter not happy.

Lisa of Arizona
Lisa of Arizona

Tamra, Glad you are happy although you do not act like a happy person. You talk about others constantly and make some very mean spirited comments about them. Since you are someone who has been mistreated in the past it seems like you would be more compassionate of others. You come across as someone who is bitter not happy.

Bren1
Bren1

Wow, I used to be team Tamra but maybe there is more to Alexis story than I as a viewer know because I had to cringe how mean you are to her and next week's episode I don't think I can watch to see you guys gang up on Alexis and put her to tears!!!!

Bravofan1967
Bravofan1967

May I just say I have been a fan of the oc since day one. I'm pretty sure I've seen every episode probably 3 + times. Gee guess what my kids gave me for mothers day! Its so fun to see less bickering and just fun times. I knew gretchen and tamara would be friends someday. Love it!!!! Now we need to say bye bye to Alexis and bring someone in that is fun and not so into themselves. Really, makeup on a 4 yr old. Princess bday or not! Boring and wrong!!

Viewer1960
Viewer1960

Tamra, I think it is great that you have made up with Gretchen. Pleasee don't be so hard on Alexis. She really doesn't know any better. She would like to have everyone believe that she is unstoppable, untouchable and the best at everything she does, which we all know isn't true. Just give her a little bit of rope and maybe she will realize what she is doing. Jim is probably to blame for a lot of her character flaws.

Debbie Somohano
Debbie Somohano

Tam...love you girl (your my fave), you always keep it real. Just wanted to say don't second guess Eddies commitment, and don't be scared to take the plunge, whatever that may be for you two. I can't imagine how hard that is after your divorce, but I can tell just from Eddie's mannerisms, his calm nature, how he supports you and looks at you that he is totally smitten and deeply in love with you. Your a courageous, strong beautiful woman, and that is what he loves! let it shine and relax.

Rebecca S.
Rebecca S.

Watching you and Alexis makes me feel SO happy about the kind of person I am and the kinds of people I call friends. I hope the money and fame make it worth being made a fool on a weekly basis for all to see.

Mean Girl
Mean Girl

I agree with another viewer, I don't think you've changed at all....You say you don't care about Alexis, but you are solely focused on talking about her. I believe grown ups should show tolerance......if you don't like her that's fine, but I definitely think she was the bigger person tonight in trying to just make things civil between you & her in regards to making it comfortable for all on the upcoming trip and you handled that very poorly. You say something about her, then when she responds to it you say, you don't care.............then don't bring it up! Not your biggest fan tonight!

Kelly Speaks
Kelly Speaks

Wow I really thought you turned the corner, but the old Tamra came right back out... Alexis is not your problem... Sometimes you need to learn to channel the confidence into a positive aura because it is really clear, when you gain confidence, you do it by belittling others... Learn to gain the confidence on your own and leave people you think who aren't worthy of your attention alone... If you think that you are better than them, then why continue to hang around them??.....

Cfischer621
Cfischer621

YOU GO TAMRA BARNEY!!!! YOU DID THE GREATEST JOB AT TELLING ALEXIS THE TRUTH AND NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH ABOUT HOW SHE IS!!!

GREAT JOB!!!

grate
grate

You're a strong woman. Give yourself alot of credit. Just stay nice! And for gosh sakes - give Alexis a break. Her hubby is not that less controlling than your ex. Alexis is hanging tough and starting businesses! I mean, come on! Give the woman credit. She absolutely does not look like a guy - that is horrible.

grate
grate

Tamra - you have changed. I like you again. Divorce can really effect a person's life. Thank God that controlling jerk is (almost) out of your life.

Viewer1960
Viewer1960

I really hope you take a second look at Eddie. I certainly don't trust him. He looks like he is smothering you. Be careful.

Smithk
Smithk

Tamra,

I think the real you is coming out this season. I gained respect for you when you had your breast reduction, I thought that was a big step admitting you did not need those to feel good about yourself, I applaud you for that. Also, the love you have for your children and their well being is a sign of a good mom. I wish you much happiness.

Lorraine fiorello
Lorraine fiorello

Tamara I'm so proud of you getting rid of Simon was the best thing you could have done from day one he never showed you an ounce of respect. Your strong beautiful smart & a great mom. I am rooting for you and Eddie and your teaching your girls to be strong independent women. I believe you will have nothing but happiness now so happy for you! Btw I'm 48 and not in bad shape butiwant an ass like yours I'm working on it!!

IndianaMama
IndianaMama

Tamra- I big puffy heart you this season! I enjoy watching you on the show and like how you tell it like it is! I am glad to see you happy with Eddie!

aydilm
aydilm

You can tell you are in a better place this season. You are not miserable so you don't want company. Hope you stay there.

FanFare57
FanFare57

Tamra, I can sympathize with your "rapid transit" problems shown at Terry's clinic. I have the exact same issue and it's the pits. There's nothing that can be done: when you have to go, you have to go... Moving on --- your simpering with Eddie seems like a strategy. You try to shed tears and hope for his sympathy. Seriously, you're better than the "damsel in distress" routine. Show some strength. This season had you saying you want to be on your own for a long while. However, the second Eddie offers a commitment, you drop that mantra and become his wifelet to be. If you don't get centered, you'll end up in the revolving door of marriage - divorce again. btw: he doesn't seem like such a great catch to me. He seems kind of vacant except when he leers at your chest, hoping to cop a feel. Other than a physical attraction, there's no substance there. And, you seem much too old for him.

Reallyyyy
Reallyyyy

Enjoying you so much more this season! Simon was dragging you down, sweetie! Best of luck with Eddie and your new life!

Alycat9705
Alycat9705

"I often wonder, do the strong people stay in an unhappy marriages or is it the strong ones that leave?" Both. Seems to me, though, that your marriage didn't become unhappy until Simon's income dropped.

sherry
sherry

You go girl...I am so proud you! You are wonderful mother, friend and good person and you deserve the best in life!

JoHugs
JoHugs

I do like you sometimes but at others you are very catty and mean. You were horrid to Gretchen and now you are starting to turn on Vicky and Alexis. You didn't it like it when Jeana was in your business but you insert yourself in everyone else's. You are a beautiful woman, so please go lightly on the Botox next time.

loveorangecountywives
loveorangecountywives

I do not think you have changed at all. A person who is happy does not deliberately hurt others. Leave Alexis alone. If you are in such a great place why do you care. If you do not have something nice to say don't say anything!

loyalfan
loyalfan

Yay! I'm glad you finally had something nice to say about Alexis and left it at that... on a positive note! I like you, but typically you're too hard on Alexis. She is who she is.

AlisonParker
AlisonParker

Tamra - I have to say I have really enjoyed watching you this season. You have changed and grown so much as a person and I am happy you and Gretchen are friends, and that you are really trying to mend fences with Slade for her sake. I really admire the heck out of you girl! I was not your biggest fan over the previous seasons, but your metamorphosis into a loving, caring friend and person is just wonderful to see! I wish you the best with your future with Eddie - he is a wonderful man and it really shows how much he adores you!

Jackie R
Jackie R

You are a beautiful woman. But, when you open your mouth, you sound awful. You don't have a lot of nice things to say & you have a huge potty mouth!! Listen to youself sometime!!

Michelle
Michelle

Tamra , Its a stronger person that can move on learn from their mistakes and come out a more beautiful person for it .

Former Fan
Former Fan

Tamera, please make Vicki open her eyes and get rid of Brooks. Everyone sees him for what he is except her. You may get through to her.

piperoni
piperoni

You are still trying to lead the pack.heather is your follower.gretchen dropped her true friend to be at your beck and call.and vicki is always there for you.gretchen is a brat and we think what she did to alexis is as low as you can go.season 4 and 5 gretchen had no friends and alexis stood by her all through 5 and season 6.i hope you are proud of your self.how do you sleep at night.bravo seems to favor you and romano.you 2 seems to get away with whatever you want to do even if it degrades other women.romano drinks all the time.you name call and now have heather doing it.im suprized it is not called the tamra show.if lexie leaves i will no longer watch.bravo we want tamra to read this.she needs to learn kindness.we have never seen it year after year she bullyies.print for her please.thank you!

Housewives Habituate
Housewives Habituate

I've always been a Tamra fan, but this year you are better then ever! You are so funny and true to yourself. Your still the same girl you were last year, but not at angry, and I love it. Thanks for always being you!

samantha galway
samantha galway

Tamara,i am a big fan off your's.im so proud off you leaving simon,everyone could see you are a much better person without him in your life.i love you for that! Eddie seems lovley,i never miss an episode or a season,i will keep bloging. hurry up and bring next seasons out! i love it:-)

Saria
Saria

Love,love,love Tamra!!!!only on season 6 in the UK so I left a post on ya blog there but couldnt resist a peek at season 7.Love that you moved on with Eddie,and are looking fab on it in season 6.You are hysterical girl,and deserve happiness.Keep doin what ya do,your a riot!!!xxx

Shawn_in_Texas
Shawn_in_Texas

Tamra - Love you! Love Eddie! I was cracking up when you were having Simon's name removed ( I have a nervous stomach and know exactly what you were going through). I loved Eddie's reaction when you showed him your finger. It is so obvious that you love your children so much that if they didn't like Eddie you were prepared to give him up. Ladies and Gentlemen my nominee for Mom of the year - Tamra Barney!

Patty Jimenez
Patty Jimenez

Tamra, you have changed for the better. I really love you this season and hope the best for you, Eddie and your children.

Lady Sarah
Lady Sarah

Dear Tamra, i have just watched the last show in season 6 (im catching up fast) and i have to say that in this season you have been amazing. Gretchen has had lots of nasty digs the whole way through and you have never lowered yourself in the same way. i love a woman who says it as it is as you always know where you stand, and lets face it apart from Vicki and Peggy know one says what they think just pull faces and be katty behind your back while getting ready to throw you under the bus. never change and i am so glad you got away from Simon. iv been there and done what but it always makes you stronger.

Lady Sarah xxx

Babygirl76
Babygirl76

Tamra, u and vicky are my favourites.... I loved the bath scene with Eddie, it was loving and emotional in a good way good on u girl,, alexis only slated u cause I bet her and jim rant that romantic, millions of women wish for a moment like that xxxx take care love u lots xxxx ps,,, ur still the sexiest to lol

Lass1972
Lass1972

So glad you and Gretchen are friends....you,Gretchen,and heather long with the men crack me up... I agree with you about brooks...he seems a bit fishy... And Alexis...well I think she is delusional about he career (tv) and her life.. She needs a reality check..

Butterfly1990
Butterfly1990

I wish people would stop blaming Simon. Tamra and Simon were just not good together. Thank God they have been able to give the children two loving homes. I liked Simon and Tamra- just not together. It's wonderful that time heals all because they have three gorgeous kids!

Marge E.
Marge E.

Tamra, You continue to be HILARIOUS!! Think your sense of humor is one of your best attributes. It certainly has seen you through a lot. Love Eddie. Relax and enjoy life, Tamra. It is short and you are a worrier. You are right about Alexis' speech...TMI, too graphic for little children. She always makes everything about her. Be happy.