Your one of the most natural and real O.C. Women I have seen on the show your fun & funny!! I think you roll with the punches pretty well, and you stand your ground between wrong and right!! You got it going on a hot woman with 4 children look out everybody!! Tamara has lots of luck on her side.. ; )

Tamra,

I've really never liked you because I thought that you treated Simon poorly and deprived your children of their full-time father. However I was happy that you laid your cards on the line with Eddie. I thought you would jump at the chance to be married and pregnant by Eddie, but it " seems" as if you have learned from your mistakes. I know you "love" Eddie, however I think he likes being on TV and he may not be as in love with you as he claims to be. He's never been married and has no children so he can't possibly know what you are going through. when he kept asking "what do you mean" ..that was revealing...he should have known what you meant.

And when he kep

You're coming around! Still a little loud and opinionated but I can see a change for the positive in you.

Your so awesome! I totally get the running thing... i'm the same way with Cycling. You and Eddie make my heart swell!

Can I just say that I love the show, and I love watching every week! Most of all I am so proud of you on this weeks episode on your issue of moving in with Eddie. I am now 27 and came from a broken home with a very messy divorce. My mom got remarried 3 times in 10 years and lets just say it took a lot to get over. I respect you so much for thinking of your children first in this divorce because it is really them who end up suffering and as steady as you can make their lives is always better. Thank you for being a great mom!

I told ya last year, though it did not get posted................ You and Gretchen could be bestest of friends, you both have great sense of humor, are twisted in just the right way, and are not afraid to speak opening about certain things others are. And you have to admit you always have fun when you are together!!!!

Tamra! Although you have your "OC Brat" moments, you are looking really good this year in everyone's eyes. I'm glad you and Gretchen have done the adult thing and made amends. (Even though Gretchen makes me want to wretchen, she's just UGH!). I felt bad for her when Slade Slimey was doing his so-called comedy routine. He is certainly not funny. He showed himself to be who he really is, a huge D-bag Slimeball. No one laughed. At the Improv or at home, let's hope his mother can knock some sense into him and make certain he never, ever, does that ever again. There was one person laughing though... Alexis... What is it with her? She's so dumb... She's so dumb... I just don't know what else to say. Thanks for the laughs this season, and hold on tight to Eddie, he seems to be a really good man.

Slade is more drama than all the ladies put together. Good comedians are creative and funny. He just stood up there and took cheap shots at women. Please don't let Slimey get in the way of repairing your relationship with Gretchen. The 2 of you are so much fun to watch!

why is it that every year someone is on your radar to crucify? this year is Alexis' turn..

I will agree that if you do not give Slade the time Bravo will not have a reason to give him air time. The comedy was atrocious..

Tamra I keep praying for you and this season looks like its yours to shine. Please stay positive and be a good role model for your children.

I was so impressed with you this episode. You were being a fantastic mother and putting your children first. I am happy that you and Gretchen are friends now. I have always said that there is a very thin line between love and hate. You two really do have a lot in common.

I was so disgusted by Slade's conedy act. It is so demeaning to women to focus on their look and search for flaws. You have an amazing figure and to say that you are fat just makes women who are a little bit heavier to feel eevn worse about themselves. I do hope that you don't blame Gretchen because she seemed to be just as upset about it.

Hi Tamra! :)

I really like you, I don't see you as being mean and talking about everybody. You say what you mean and mean what you say... good quality you have.

Don't change for anyone and continue to just be yourself. :)

Tamra, You said it perfectly when speaking about Slade, "Kill him with kindness"!

Tamra,You have always been a favorite of mine.Stay true to yourself,and don't let Slade get to you.He is the one who looks bad,be the bigger person and let it roll off your back!Anyone who has to tear someone else apart to make themselves feel better is not worth your time.You and Gretchen can be friends,but you don't have to be friends with Slade.Gretchen will soon figure out that she deserves more from her significant other.Also,keep Vicki at your side she seems to be a true friend!Good luck to you!

Tamra,You have always been a favorite of mine.Stay true to yourself,and don't let Slade get to you.He is the one who looks bad,be the bigger person and let it roll off your back!Anyone who has to tear someone else apart to make themselves feel better is not worth your time.You and Gretchen can be friends,but you don't have to be friends with Slade.Gretchen will soon figure out that she deserves more from her significant other.Also,keep Vicki at your side she seems to be a true friend!Good luck to you!

Tamra,You have always been a favorite of mine.Stay true to yourself,and don't let Slade get to you.He is the one who looks bad,be the bigger person and let it roll off your back!Anyone who has to tear someone else apart to make themselves feel better is not worth your time.You and Gretchen can be friends,but you don't have to be friends with Slade.Gretchen will soon figure out that she deserves more from her significant other.Also,keep Vicki at your side she seems to be a true friend!Good luck to you!

Tamra,You have always been a favorite of mine.Stay true to yourself,and don't let Slade get to you.He is the one who looks bad,be the bigger person and let it roll off your back!Anyone who has to tear someone else apart to make themselves feel better is not worth your time.You and Gretchen can be friends,but you don't have to be friends with Slade.Gretchen will soon figure out that she deserves more from her significant other.Also,keep Vicki at your side she seems to be a true friend!Good luck to you!

Tamra,You have always been a favorite of mine.Stay true to yourself,and don't let Slade get to you.He is the one who looks bad,be the bigger person and let it roll off your back!Anyone who has to tear someone else apart to make themselves feel better is not worth your time.You and Gretchen can be friends,but you don't have to be friends with Slade.Gretchen will soon figure out that she deserves more from her significant other.Also,keep Vicki at your side she seems to be a true friend!Good luck to you!

Tamra, Love you but Hate Eddie. OMG you never let anyone get over on you---except him. He knew he F'ed up and was in the wrong but tried to turn the tables by blaming YOU--and you bought it hook line and sinker...? WTH??!! The Tamra I love would never let anyone get over on her like that! Drop the dirtbag, you are too good. Love ya!!!

Looove Tamra! By far, she is my favorite. She calls it like she sees it and with a sense of humor. No phoniness. So refreshing!

Of all of the "Bravo Housewives" you and Bethenny seem to be the ones who are maturing emotionally. So many turn into train wrecks! Maybe it has to do with each of you finding relationships with great guys. You have found a gem in Eddie. Stay true to yourself.

Why couldn't you have been upfront with Vicki about your budding friendship with Gretchen? That would have been the respectful thing to do. Instead, You kept her in the dark about it and then ALL OF A SUDDEN threw it in her face! OF COURSE she was confused and upset!! You should have just been honest with her from the start instead of trying to push her buttons so you could then call her jealous... so immature.

I just get the feeling you roll with who ever you think will be the "popular" side each season. You and Vicki got blasted by the fans last season. I feel like your doing damage control by leaning toward the pink side (Gretchen) this season. All your scenes feel so scripted.

Tamra, you are one of those women who always have to have someone to be mad at. But you don't! Stop the nonsense now - you'd be soooo sweet if you just backed off the nastiness.

Hiya Tamra, Glad you finally blogged again. I agree with you that Slade's "act" was chauvinistic and insulting. Amazingly, it WASN'T funny, at all!! Crickets. Frankly, I don't care if his feelings were hurt all these years. He wasn't an important cast member. He was more like a fringe element. Why is he considered a major player now? He doesn't even have a visible means of support apart from being Gretchen's "bitch" (her term). It's great that you're finding your own way and opening a fitness studio. However, I thought you were a realtor, no?

Tamra Good Blog.... No cheap shots...Vicki isn't happy, she survives through you.. Take care.. and You Look Great.. Slade must be jealous... What was his nickname last year.. from Gretchen... Tubsy wabsy? Shannon

I like you this season. I hope you keep up the new Tamra...So much easier to watch the show...Thank you

TAMRA... serioulsy. Cool that you and Gretchen are friends but you don't have to be BFFs. It's super annoying seeing you try so hard. Just be her friend. As a viewer, it seems you're TRYING to make Vickie upset. 'NO COOL'

Tamara- I find your new attitude refreshing. I have been watching this show since it began and at first I thought you were 100% b**ch but the last couple seasons you've kept it pretty real and I like that. You seem to be coming into your own. I'm happy you got away from Simon. He seems like a completely contolling psycho.

Tamra, you have really matured a lot this season. It's great to see you happy, yet know what you want in life and not just latching on to a new guy. Girl friends are important, as is independence and being able to provide for yourself and your children. what a great lesson to teach and show your kids. Best of luck.

Vicki has stood by you through thick and thin. She had no reason in previous seasons to get involved in your drama and not be close friends with the other housewives but she did. She had your back through it all which led to her problems with Gretchen and now you're "bffs" with Gretchen who is still talking badly about Vicki along with Slade. Your priorities are so messed up! She defended your divorce and your relationship with Eddie while everyone was saying nasty things. Don't forget that because if you do she will be gone by the time Gretchen turns on you.

You really need to get rid of Eddie. He's too controlling. A lot like Simon. Please take a second look.

I"m excited that you seem to be finding yourself, your passion and realize how important it is to stand on your own two feet. We single moms have that in common.

When you were saying how the kids are reacting to their father having someone at his house, it will be the same thing when you move in with Eddie (whenever that will be). Please don't be hypocritical of their father's relationship and situation if you're going to be doing the same thing. If you want them to be OK with you and Eddie, you need to give some grace their way. Everybody's just got to get along!

PLEASE slow down the drinking!!! Seems the biggest fights and conflict come when the ladies (everyone included) has hit the bottle too hard. It's embarassing to watch.

Tamara,

Dont listen to all the Haters! You do YOU Girl! I like the new YOU!!! :)

Tamra - Since moving on from Simon, finding Eddie and more importantly finding yourself, you appear to be more confident. You are not as negative and nasty to everyone around you. I believe it was said in the episode in Vicky's kitchen - you used to spend time digging up dirt on the others, but not you're life seems more content and at peace. This make for a much nicer Tamra - one that viewers can like again! In some ways, although Vicky has been an extraordinary friend to you over the years, she also feels like she deserves to have some control over you. I mean, what adult woman tells another who she should or shouldn't be friends with. If it were me, and you told me you were trying to move on with Gretchen and let the past go, I would be elated!!!! Vicky should look at this as one more obstacle overcome. You are all adults and everyone should get along. Seriously, for a while, it felt like we were watching the "Mean Girls of the OC" - really????? This will reflect well on you when your children have a positive roll model to look up to. Don't let Slades' attitude get in the way of you and Gretchen. There are plenty of us out there that don't get along with our friend's significant other, but you can't let that get in the way of rebuilding a friendship. If you rewatch the episode, she was clearly not happy he went against her wishes. I think he's like a little girl, and jealous that Gretchen has moved on and is making amends as well. We all know men have control issues (Simon, Jim, etc). As for Vicky - you have to admit, hers is a "pot/kettle" situation- she cannot keep bashing Slade about his child support issues when Brooks is clearly in the same situation. This should be an "off limits" subject going forward until they both clear up their own situation. It's always he said/she said, but as you well know from you own legal situation with Simon - the only people who can know the real truth are the two in the court room with their attorneys. Tabloids are just their to smear and whip everyone into a frenzy. Best of luck with whatever the future holds for you and Eddie, and be strong - don't limit your abilities to being just a "housewife"!

Eddie's dog Bronx looks cute. Just be very careful. A one year old pitbull just attacked by 5 year old golden retriever for no reason. Be very careful with the dog around children. Unfortunately they are adorable but also unpredictable. Love the RH of OC!

Tamra,

You know how you can kill Slade with kindness? Apologize to him for all the things you've said about him in the past. Although there are rumors of his not paying child support, no one except the persons in the situation know the whole story. And the fact that his ex, Michelle, would tell you something about him, someone that she hardly knows, is revealing. She used you to embarrass him. Di you ever ask yourself why? I thought you were smarter than that to let someone use you. Do you talk to Brooks about his not paying child support but can go on romantic trips with Vicki?

In the earlier episode you said you were making amends with Gretchen because you guys were digging stuff up on each other....Gretchen never dug stuff up on you, you were at her from the time she came on the scene. Last season she started fighting back and she was winning. It was then you decided enough was enough. I do like the fact that you aren't letting that you aren't moving in with that slimy Eddie, though. His true colors are starting to show....it is just a matter of time.

you need to listin more than you talk.that mouth of yours gets you in trouble.i would rather be anything in life.alittle silly alittle more airheaded etc...but a valger mouth always talking about sex even to other men like brooks.so not lady like.take a class on proper words that you shall learn.

Oh BTW, Eddie's got a great body, but he acts way too femmie!!!

I adore you Tamra! I have gone through some of the same things as you; i.e. a controlling husband, deciding when is the best time to move my daughter & fiance in together, getting my body back in shape, et c. Keep on BEING YOU! And I really appreciated Eddie telling you that he would support you 100% in whatever you do! He is awesome!

Tamara I agree with you about Vickie's jealous comments in her blog. It is SHE who can only have one friend at a time. That has been commented upon in past years. I believe you responded correctly on the boat and said so in a past message to you. You do have to make amends with Slade and I think you will. He felt very attacked but I don't think he is into being a victim. Yes, maybe the tabloids would have found out about the divorce and made the same accusations, but you are not a tabloid, you are a person who did that. It turned on you. I applaud you for not running to live with Eddie. Not a good idea. I am regaining my respect for you, you earn it and you are truly and honestly looking out for your children first. Unlike Vickie who even made Brianna's illness about her at their dinner. I would stand back from Vickie for a while. See what happens. She has a looooong way to go in self growth. You are checking off that list and I have liked what I have seen of you, this season.

you cannot hold Gretchen responsible for Slade. That is like you being responsible for your ex dogging Vicki?

Just like Gretchen for what she brings to the new friendship with you. She did voice her concers to Slade. Do I think Slade is wrong? It's his right, just like you and Vicki talking smack about him. Now, Vicki has a guy who doesn't pay. What are you to do? Vicki will not kick him to the curb, her mouth is bigger than her bite. I guess we viewers only see what producers what us to see? Who are we really to judge. If we fans didn't post...you would not be on the air.

Tamra, I think you are right on track about Viki. She is the one who can only have one friend at a time. She did the same thing to Jeanna when she became friends with you. She comes off as controlling and jealous. As for Slade, he truly is a waste of space and air. What in the world can Gretchen see in him? Even his sweet mom talks about him not working. How long can he blame the economy? Mcdonalds is hiring every single day. I do believe Eddie is in love with you and you have a great relationship. I also think that on the boat you were right. Viki also kissed him straight on the mouth when he got in the limo. Inappropriate much there Vik?? How creepy that she also decided her marriage was over and started dating a man 5 years younger...just like you. I think she survives by trying to be just like you. Don was a very sweet man, who on multiple occasions, asked or commented on the fact that Viki was never home. She loves her job and we all know cause she has shoved down our throats. Please dont let her destroy your new friendship with Gretchen. Take care, and btw you look great. You have encouraged me to start running again!!

Tamra, I have never understood how a woman can be married to a man for 12 plus years, and separate from him only to be involved with another man, within four to six weeks. Moving yourself and your children into Eddie's home will be a huge mistake if you are not financially capable of taking care of yourself. Eddie appears just as controlling as Simon ~ except he's just wrapped in a different package.

You look more happy these days! I support your decision of leaving the hate in the past and move forward in developing a friendship with Gretchen. I believe that move was influenced by Eddie. Somehow he brings the positive in you. He seems like an honest and true gentleman. Regarding Vicky.. live your own life not hers . Best luck to you

Your a great mom etc. .I agree with people about telling Vicki. Glad your being nice to Grechen but i don't buy "outsiders came between you two. I always thought Vicki and you had a great friendship it's not her fault with the child support issues not a great reason to dump on her

Okay...I disliked you so much...then you had to mention you have a pitbull. I have a softspot for this breed and have one myself. I also have a softspot for anyone who overlooks their bad rep and has adopted one. Yes they are the smartest and sweetest dogs!!!

I hate to say it but one the comments above about Eddie really does seem true. Tamara he is really controlling. Seems like your afraid to be yourself around him. Be careful watch out and DO NOT let him control you. It seems like your always holding back now. Just be you and if he gets upset so be it.

Normally I don't blog about these shows but I really wanted to comment on your hypocrisy on the episodes thus far. You have called Alexis jealous of Heather from the first episode saying that Heather is everything Alexis wants to be...is it so easy to recognize for you because Gretchen is everything YOU want to be??? (I don't expect a truthful answer but it's as obvious "on your face" as you claim it is on Alexis' face.

2-Just because Gretchen decided to forgive you, does not mean Slade (whom I do not care for) has to forgive you. You were a mean girl to both and said hurt ful things to them both; therefore they both have their own issues with you. I doubt you can give Slade a friendship bracelet and have all be forgotten.

3-Why do you appear to relish in Alexis' problems so much? You almost appear to have a slight glint in your eyes to know she has sufferings.

4-You have been throwing flowers at Heather's feet since you met her. Is making a profit that important to you? Did you loose all of your dignity in the bathtub last season or what??? You should have kept your mean girl comments to yourself and allowed Heather to form her own opinion. No matter how subtle your comments were, they were influential. Heather obviously likes people to be in awe of her and you are doing just that.

5- Last but not least, you cannot be so foolish to think it was ok to put another man's hand on your boobs WITH your man sitting right next to you...SERIOUSLY???? You didn't take responsibility for it either, you blamed Vicki and Eddie for 'flirting' You so called cried, yet you didn't shed ONE SINGLE TEAR... Perhaps you should stop and look at yourself BEFORE you judge & make nasty comments about others. Otherwise, you'll be giving out a lot more friendship bracelets