First, I'm glad that none of our test results came back negatively. Also, what a nice post! You sound so together and positive! But DO keep your eye on Brooks. I do not trust him and I think Vicki needs some guidance...its been a long time since she's been out dancing with the wolves!

I think that on the day of your surgery, when you had little makeup on, & your hair was not poofy, you looked your prettiest! I am going to start buying your new attitude when you can be nice to all of the housewives!

Tamara I am so impressed that you had your implants removed. Hope all went well. It is a huge statement that all young women need to hear. Self worth is on the inside, not the outside of your body. And never change yourself for anyone else. Besides, I have found the best relationships are between two people that seem to not to even see each other as much physically as they due emotionally! That's true unconditional love.... And you are so right about that "creepy" Brooks.(I need a shower after even thinking about him!!!YUCK!) You saw it immediately. And there is no way Icky Vicky would have listened to you if you had brought it up then.

Tamara- you have really changed this year, and I'm glad that you are finding yourself. A lot of us have been through your maritial situation, and it takes a long time to "Get well" -- usually a year.

I was so happy for you when you discussed your surgery and the reasons why you chose to do it. I think you look wonderful without them and so much more youthful! It's nice to see someone choosing to do a lot of healthy things for herself after a traumatic time.

Bravo PLEASE POST THIS: It is very interesting that you found time to talk about Alexis's marriage and where it will end up but nothing about your new BFF Gretchen's singing? Instead of being snarky maybe you should give Alexis some support and you really should be the last person to talk about someone's behavior on tv after the way that you have ran around like a psycho bangy on your new BFF Gretchen. You never had me fooled that you changed. You are still the same nasty Tamra with or without your ex.

You go, Tamra! I thought what you said about having your implants removed and not needing big boobs for self worth, was very inspirational. If only more women could be confident and strong like you. It's sad how many young girls (and women in general) get their breasts enlarged when they look just fine as they are. As a Mom of two boys and also a member of the "itty bitty committee", I applaud you for the decision and think it's great that you're doing it for yourself. You seem more at peace and happy this season. Keep on telling it like it is and I wish you the best! Thanks for the candor and humor your provide on the show!

Tamra I am so enjoying watching you this season! You have grown so much from where you were when you first joined the cast. You have taken control of YOUR life and made your own happiness. I am so glad to see you and Gretchen working on your friendship, again it shows alot of growth on your part as well as Gretchens. Keep up the good work and keep loving yourself..you are beautiful..INSIDE and out!!

WHY NOT ME??!

thanks T! that's a GREAT thought - and one I will ponder for the next few days. appreciate it!

Tamra,

Continue to keeep your eye on Brooks. If something seems to be too good to be true, it usually is. Why is he concerned about Vicki and her property split? The constant push seems a little much.

I am so pleased to see you so happy in life. I am quite sure Eddie is fantastic but its you who has made the changes in your life, it is you who is happy and living a good positive life. I am very happy for you.

Girl please! It's funny you can talk about everyone's relationship but your own! You act like Eddie is so perfect. Apparently not too many relationships work out for you because you are working on your third marriage! Jim seemed to be joking when throwing the jacket. Let's talk about how Eddie seemed disappointed about you taking the implants out. He really seemed a lttle upset about it! Wow, I thought he was so perfect

You are still my fav! Make sure you schedule those 6 month Paps. That is exactly how my cervical issues started. And after a year of checking and worrying, I ended up having the hysterectomy anyway. Best decision of my life. Best of luck to you.

I wouldn't want your wine if you gave it to me free!!

Tamra, I think you have every right to be suspicious of Brooks. It was most uncomfortable the way he was asking Vicki about her finances in connection with her divorce. He does seem to say the right thing all the time. And honestly - all those greeting cards are kind of creepy. Who does that????

Also, congrats on having your implants removed. I know you have to feel better about yourself and it is so much easier to find clothes that fit.

Does anyone know what brand/color of lip gloss Tamra was wearing when she was in the recovery room after surgery?

I really like you Tamra. Good luck to you.

I am soooo happy for you! The more I watch, the more I fall in love with YOU & EDDIE!! Wish I could find a guy like him. Does he have a twin brother by any chance?? He loves you so much! I hope you never take advantage of his precious love and adoration for you. Your blog about Alexis and her controlling husband is so right on the money. Although, we do not know the conditions and dating behaviors they had before she married this type of man but. Obviously, she seemed to be the type of woman he wanted till death do they part. I appreciate her growth and changes however, this does not mean she should abandon life style he was acustom to. And HE SHOULD LIFT HER UP AND SUPPORT HER ASPIRATIONS PROVIDING HER FAMILY LIFE WONT SUFFER! Is she now trying to change her stripes? OBTW, welcome to the itty bitty club!

It looks like you have a new outlook on life and may no longer be the mean girl of the group. That's great; I hope you keep it up. From the brief shot in the opening sequence, I thought you looked younger and more natural w/o your implants. Kudos to you for branching out and trying new enterprises; yes it's true we're no longer 25 but it's certainly not the end of the road. I hope you and Gretchen are still friends. ps there's something about Brooks that seems to good to be true...

Tamra, I love everything you are doing this year for YOU. So glad Simon is out of the picture. And I agree 100%, these scenes of Alexis and Jim were cringe worthy to say the least.

Love you Tamra! You just keep getting better and better and are not afraid to show your true self. I really appreciated how you showed how hard divorce is to go through. Even if it is the best thing for someone and their family, it doesn't mean it isn't very painful. And if you have small children (I do like you) it is gut wrenching. I love your friendship with Gretchen. You are the real deal!

Tamra - you have really come a long way since I first saw you on the show. I wasn't sure if I liked you, but your sense of humor kept me on your side. Then when I saw how Simon treated you -- just some of the things he said made my skin crawl (like how he didn't want his wife having mosquito bites). I can see the evolution in your confidence and it is BEAUTIFUL! The decision to take your implants out and just be the BEST YOU THAT YOU CAN BE was a brave one. Most women your age are going in to get bigger/better, and you downsized, which lets face it, is smart at our age. It just shows the beauty inside of you. And Eddie was wonderful. He reminds me of my husband who has NEVER EVER put me down or my body down (I, too, have small breasts). HE loves ME for ME not for what is on my body. I have so much trust and feel so safe with him and I see that now you have that, too! Good for you! I really enjoy your "company" each Tuesday night. Best of luck to you and all your endeavors!

Tamara, So much to say. First off I have to say that you do seem alot happier this season, then that last sad season watching you and simons marriage falling apart. I remember that drive in the limo when you said you want a divorce to simon. Then when he tried to hug you before you went in for the gathering. your face expression when he hugged you, showed me you were done. In fact, I told my husband she is DONE with this marriage. My husband agreed. However, I don't put the full blame on Simon for this marriage failing. There were so many times that he asked you to act like a respectful wife and mother. I have to say I agree. There are times you say inappropriate things to other men that disrespects the person that your in a relationship with. I hope you do not do that to Eddie. I hope you look back on the past shows and watch yourself and not simon and learn from it, so you dont repeat some things. I do like you Tamara, but if I still lived in Orange County I would be very guarded with you, because I would worry that after you were being nice to my face, what were you saying behind my back. You have been doing that with your friend Vicky. Really you are doing it to Gretchen, by continuining to make comments like "the only reason I invited Slade" because of your friendship with Gretchen. I would LOVE to see a GOOD friendship with you and Gretchen. you have to know that hurts Gretchen when she watches the show and see you say that. I think you need to stay out of Slades busines. That is HIS business and Gretchen choice to be with him knowing his financial situation. I assume that the courts are taking care of Slade situation. The ONLY thing you should care about is how Slade treats Gretchen. As long as she appears happy that is all you should care about. I actually have to say that Slade has been the bigger person lately. He actually put a hand out and helped VIcky (of all people) up when Vicky feel at the bowling alley. He also was scolding Gretchen drunk trouble maker friend. He didn't automatically defend the drunk just because she is Gretchen friend. Gretchen even defended Vicky, even after the fight between those two. I would love to see you and Eddie have a good time with Slade and Gretchen. When Slade shares info. about riding a bike professionally. You made a face expression. I didn't like that. I thought if you were not sitting there. Slade and Eddie probably would of had some positive discussion about that. Eddie doesn't appear to want or get into the drama. You may want to learn from that AND in time he may get TIRED and SICK OF you being involved in gossip and drama all the time. which eventually can effect your relationship. don't forget you have kids that are going to learn from you and you don't want them doing this. I have to say that I am very impressed with you that you had the implants removed. I have to say that your body looks better proportioned without them, you actually look younger.That was a great decision. Since you have been on the show for quite some time. I think you should take the lead and make it as positive as possible. I was hoping that Vicky would of done that. she clearly STILL is self centered and that may hurt THIS relationship as well. Dont know to many men that want to give 98% in a relationship. That is sad. As far as Brook I am guarded as well, time will tell. My main concern is him having access to things such as passwords, that is concerning that soon into a relationship. It also bothered me that she was sharing financial business with her divorce with him. I don't feel at this point its any of his business or the worlds business. I hope she isn't setting herself up to getting hurt or even financially hurt by him. Anyway, back to you. It appears you are heading in the right direction - positive. really work on your relationship with Gretchen and Slade. Its no all about you and Gretchen. There is Eddie and Slade that should be able to enjoy a friendship without drama as well. Take Care

I must admit that I didn't like you much before, especially the way you seemed to pick on Gretchen in the past. But this season I've seen positive changes in you. Kudos to you for standing up for what you truly believe in, and don't let Vickie intimidate you ever, she's just like everyone else, puts her pants on one leg at a time. If Vickie is really your friend, she will respect your difference of opinion and not criticize you for being a friend to Gretchen. Take care and God Bless!

It is refreshing to watch you this season.

You really seem to be in a good place now.

Congrats on your engagement, Eddie is a doll!

Tamra, you are the best. I couldn't agree with you more about everything but especially Alexis and her monster of a husband. (Alexis run far far away from that man).

Really enjoying you this season, I love the new Tamara without all the drama. Now please work on Vicki, she is still pretty hard to watch.

is eddie a personal trainer???? he would be good for business.

tamra you and eddie do seem to be good for each other and the change in you is remarkable. I think a lot of it is due to eddie and spending less time with vicki. I also really liked you and simon together and think if it wasn't for vicki you would still be together. a couple of years ago when she demanded you be loyal to her over simon (YOUR HUSBAND) that should have told you what kind of person and friend she was and it was also the end of you and simon. what are you going to do when she demands you be loyal to her over eddie drop him too?

I loved Eddie's support of you during surgery. Alexis will be upset that Gretchen came to see you and not her...that was my favorite part of the show knowing Gretchen showed her true friendship colors. My sister had her implants removed and she is doing so well with it now. I know that you will feel so REAL and NORMAL and more self assured. Good Luck to you.

Tamra - you are by far my favorite this season. You looked amazing right after surgery....no makeup/little lipgloss...just stunning. I saw where Heather said you don't really "edit yourself" when you talk - that's exactly what I love about you. You say it like it is, no BS!!! Please keep questioning that Brooks guy, something is just not right about him.

I think Alexis and her husband take the bible too literal. We are to put god first even in our marriages but the Christian belief is not to degrade one another. We are supposed to lovingly care for one another and that's the bottom line. This idea that Jim has that Alexis is supposed to be a slave is insane because he clearly doesn't understand what the bible is really saying. He is trying to replicate actions that were practiced over 2000 years ago, um where is his club to beat her over the head with if that's the case?

Tamara~ I was born with big knockers and a little over a year ago I chose to have a reduction and lift. I am now a very perky C cup and the only question I had was why did I wait so long! I love my "little" ones and my husband has adjusted well. LOL

Keep your eyes on that Brooks! I don't like him....he comes off like a weasel....I do NOT trust him att all!

Tammra~ you have started to win the hearts of many viewers! I know how hard it is to be told that you have the begining stages of cancer. I was in my early 20's in collage and was scared beyond belief! I am so happy that you are working on empowering others, having people become the healthiest that they can is awesome! If your ever looking for a trainer for your gym I have a friend who has moved to Las Vegas and recently graduated from UNLV. You two would actully hit it off quite a bit! Blessings!

Well who is this new grown-up Tamra??? I think I might like her! lol

As far a an idea for your quartly charity have you considered Wounded Warriors? If anyone deserves help it is our men and women and their families who have sacrificed so much for each of us. Unfortunately they are not as affluent as most and truly need to be supported by the people they fought for.

Tamra...you just keep getting better and better. Lose the old bitchyness attitude and you will be 100%. Like someone else said, "Be nicer to the mean ones because they need it the most."

Tamra, I'm glad you're much nicer this season. Stay away from over acting Vicky aka Miss P..... A lot of people are hating her because of her attitude.

Why not me! Love this line! This season you are a totally new person and in a good way. Keep being you and am glad you're ok with your health issues.

I have been confused about who I liked most out of this group, but so far you seem to be the only one that's real..the show is called " real housewives" .. So keep keeping it real, Tamra. I don't like this Brooks dude. Vicki is gonna get it big time ... She better watch out. When you have so many people observing and smelling something fishy... Then you know something is wrong.

Alexis is obviously delusional if she keeps praising her "man"... What kind of husband throws his wife's coat in a public restaurant like it was a piece of garbage. This just shows how much respect he really has for her. Does she even realize that he treats her like he bought her at an auction. And what was the remark "raising MY kids" all about. So wifey has to not ever think of having a future of her own and building her own personality through a career because she is enslaved to be the one to stay at home. The woman is no good for the Fox show, but it's so obvious that she is suffocating with Jim. I am not too fond of her stupidness, but I still feel bad for ANY woman that gets treated that way. So she may have the riches, but she is paying a dear price for it and keeps calling herself lucky.

Tamra: Just gotta ask. What kind of lip gloss do you use that stays on throughout a surgery? You looked terrific. I have to get me some of that:)

The implants gone, 100% better! Maybe you could put a bug in Kim Zoliack's ear to do the same. She looks ridiculous!

Love you! What an uplifting and great blog!

You look so much younger without the implants. Big boobs in mid life can look matronly. Face it, most women get them to please men. It's great that you are now pleasing yourself. Hard as it was to end your marriage in regards to your children, my guess is that you are a much better mother now, because you seem so much happier and at peace - huge improvement from previous seasons. Definitely getting that 'uh-oh' feeling about Brooks. My husband of over 30 years doesn't ask for my passwords & I don't ask for his. If you can't trust somebody out of your sight, you can't trust 'em in it. Vicky should question his need to snoop.

Peace!

Best wishes on your health, Tamra.

I agree with you about Brooks....he seems to be a little too much too soon. Vicki is just eating it up, but you know, I think once the honeymoon is over, she will catch on to him. Glad to see that you are engaged. Eddie seems to be an alright guy! You seem to be much happier and at ease this season. My least favorite episode is when you threw the drink at Jeana. I don't see that mean Tamra anymore.

Tamra, you have inspired me to have my implants removed. Made an appointment for May and can't wait to have the heavy things gone. I've had them for 10 years and like you, they never really fit my small frame. Thanks for your inspiration!

You look amazing without the implants!! Bigger is certainly not always better and you look so much classier and proportionate now. Thank you for being a breath of fresh air this season. The kinder, more natural you is so much more beautiful!

Tamra, Please check out 'widowswearstilettos.com' and the 'First Month Foundation' for your generous offer... it is such a worthwhile cause, and much needed help for widows of all ages... Thank you.

Love, love, love you Tamra. Your my kind of people.