Cast Blog: #RHOC

Fancy Pants Dubrow

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Fancy Pants Dubrow

Tamra discusses new girl Heather Dubrow and rekindling her friendship with Gretchen.

Season 7, and I'm in heaven!

I am truly excited to welcome you back into my life. This year is probably one of the most interesting seasons by far. So many changes have transpired: New friendships, divorces, new romances, new enemies, life-threatening illness, new beginnings, and LOTS of DRAMA.

I think one of the best additions to our cast is Heather, who I like to call "Fancy Pants Dubrow." The day I met her at the lot I felt very intimidated. Here was a tall, beautiful, elegant, classy, and well-spoken woman that seems to have it all.

I thought to myself, "How could we possibly have anything in common?" I found out pretty quick that she was my kinda girl.

We might come from different worlds but the one thing we have in common is -- we say it like it is! You'll discover that Heather's approach is much softer than mine. She definitely doesn't always agree with my delivery, however, we found a mutual respect for each other because of our honesty and way of keeping it real.

I think everyone is surprised by my friendship that has developed with Gretchen. Boy I sure am! Slade reached out to after the reunion last year and wanted to talk and I said no. I was so torn up inside after the reunion show that I cried for a week. I was so hurt and so mad at myself for going there, and I knew that this is not the kind of person I want to be. I did a lot of soul searching and talking with Eddie about everything that had happened and how I could resolve it.

Truth be told I really didn't know Gretchen and Slade very well. I had no business judging them and they had no business judging me. Slade's personal issues where none of my business and i felt horrible for getting involved.

Back tracking four years ago, things with Gretchen started out bad and continued to get worse. There where a lot outside influences that started our feud and before we knew it we were both trying to find ways to hurt each other. Neither one of us were angels and we both realized that we needed to stop and find out why we were doing this to each other. That's when i asked myself "If we truly didn't care about each other then why is there so much energy between us?"

You will see our road to recovery and the baby steps we take to gain each others trust. Giving Gretchen the bracelet meant a lot to me and I hope it meant a lot to her. I wanted her to know that I was going to give this new friendship my all and I didn't want to go through another failed attempt. I had the bracelet made by a young entrepreneur in Newport beach Minx-Minx.com. I told her I wanted it pretty, pink, and blingy just like Gretchen. I wanted it to have meaning and I thought the key charm was the perfect message. I hope you find our friendship inspiring and realize that maybe your biggest nemesis may truly be your best friend.

 

I wanted to keep this from Vicki because she is very judgmental and I didn't want any outside influences to ruin this new found friendship. I respect Vicki and hold our friendship close to my heart but I was not sure she would understand my heartfelt reasons.

You will not see my three beautiful kids this season, and just because you don't see them it does not mean they are not part of my life. They are truly my reason for living and my inspiration for working hard to have a better life. With their support and Eddie's love, I feel empowered to be a better person.

The kids are adjusting to life after divorce with a positive attitude. It has been hard on everyone but I'm happy to say we are all in a better place.

If you have any questions for me please tweet me @tamrabarney or post a question on my Facebook fan page. I try to answer everyones questions.

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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