Cast Blog: #RHOC

It Happens

Tamra talks about her divorce and apologizes to Alexis.

Happy 39th birthday Eddie! One more year and we will be the same age. . .right? 40, 42, 44 what's the difference? We celebrated on Saturday by wine tasting in Temecula with family and friends and had the best time. I love you baby!

Sorry I didn't have time last week to write my blog. I just want to say thank you to Jaye for letting us use her helicopter. Not only is she beautiful but extremely generous. It was an amazing experience with the best view in town. From the time we drove to O.C. airport to when we landed in LA was less than a hour. Pretty amazing! Unfortunately we were not able to fly back because the fog came in, so we had three hours in traffic, But who's complaining after such an amazing day?

Thank you God for looking over Briana! Hearing Briana was cancer-free was the answers to everyone's prayers. Briana is such an amazing girl. Wishing her health, happiness, and love. She deserves it!

This episode was both very excited and very sad for me to watch. It was exciting to see the mud run without actually being covered in mud. This was something I have wanted to do for years. This particular mud run was held at the Del Mar race track and a percentage of the proceeds went to charity. If you have never done a mud run I highly suggest you try it out. this one was short (three miles) and mild compared to some of the others.

It would have been nice to see Vicki and Brooks playing in the mud with us. I understand being in a new relationship and wanting to be with that person as much as possible. But I was missing my friend and really wanted her there. Could you imagine Vicki screaming every time she had to crawl in a mud pit. . .priceless! Next time I'm making her go with us! If there is a next time after all the injuries that went down.

It wasn't five minutes after Gretchen twisted her ankle that Eddie fell off the monkey bars and landed on his finger. When he stood up his finger had snapped in half and was pointed in the opposite direction. Terry knew immediately that he needed surgery but Eddie was in denial. He snapped it back in place and finished the race and went to lunch. He finally agreed to let me take him to the ER the next evening. Sure enough he needed three pins to put his finger back together. Seven months later it's still not fully healed.

Lunch seemed pretty strange to watch. We were all talking about old sports injuries and it really wasn't a competition in my eyes. Both Eddie and Slade are cyclists and have a lot of stories to tell. I was a little surprised to hear slade was in the Tour de France, that is a huge accomplishment and I had never heard him talk about it before. GO SLADE! At the end of the day I was very proud that everyone got down and dirty for charity -- even fancy pants who pulled off the best mud run/red carpet look I have ever seen.

Working out has truly helped me in so many ways. When I said it was like therapy to me, I meant it. It's my time to be alone and get into my head and process a lot of my feelings. If I don't workout I feel bad mentally and physically. Eddie is a huge inspiration to me. He works so much and has little time but never has an excuse to not work out. We keep very active and try to eat healthy. Our ideal date night is a night at the gym and then going for sushi.

Signing my divorce papers was the hardest thing I have done, next to the day I walked out. I look back on the past two and half years and I don't know how I found the strength to get to where I am today. It's been a long and painful journey that no one can fully understand unless they are going through it. I continue to worry about the long-term effects on my children, and both Simon and I continue to help them with their struggles.

No one wants to see a family torn apart. No parent wants to hurt their chid. But the reality is. . .it happens! We tried for many years to keep it together. We went to therapy and nothing seemed to work. Truth is we are just very different people that were not good for each other. Now the kids see their parents happy, as we have moved on. Of course they wish we could be happy together. Please check out the divorce section on my website, Tamra-Barney.com.

Lots of talk about Alexis' nose job and rather she was denying it by calling it "sinus surgery." The bottom line is whatever she wanted to "call it" she got a great result and she can breath better. Success! A big apology to Alexis for thinking that she was lying.

I hope everyone has a blessed Easter Sunday. I will be spending it wth my family cooking and hiding Easter eggs. Don't eat too much chocolate it gives you a big butt. Just saying!

Tamra Barney
www.Tamra-Barney.com

Shannon Settles the Score

If Andy's asking "What's the score, Shannon Beador?" Shannon thinks she's definitely won.

This is Blog #20, my last Blog for the season! The past year was been a wild ride for both me and for my family. I have come to many realizations about myself, made lifelong friends, experienced some tough moments, and embarked on a path to a more peaceful self. So to use Andy’s phrase, “What's the score, Shannon Beador?” I would say without a doubt that I have definitely won.

I am happy that the viewers got a little glimpse into my sometimes unconventional ways! For me, it's all about good energy. I love that Vicki’s business has clearly benefited from trying feng shui with Elaine Wright. If you can't get hurt, there is no reason to try anything holistic. If you actually benefit, why wouldn't anyone want to go the natural way? If my children tend to feel better after seeing Dr. Moon and not have to take antibiotics, then I am a happy mom. It's all about creating a healthy balance!

I am an open book and am often criticized for it, but I am who I am. I don't know many couples married for 13 years that have a perfect relationship. Everyone has ups and downs, and although it may be difficult and require effort, it is possible to move through it and make things better. I have said it many times in the season that divorce is not an option. I will always fight for my marriage and my family. It truly touches my heart that so many fans have been and continue to root for David and I. I am so appreciative and grateful for all of your positive comments! Thank you!

Do Tamra and Heather truly want to move forward and potentially develop a friendship with me? Only time will tell. But for now, I have amazing friends surrounding me, including Vicki Gunvalson and Lizzie Rovsek. And most importantly, I have been blessed with the most incredible family anyone could ask for. That is where all of my energy is focused.

I will never forget this entire year, both the good and the bad, because each moment took me on the journey to where I am today. And today, I am in a phenomenal and happy place. Thank you for taking this journey with me!

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