Cast Blog: #RHOC


Tamra discusses Alexis' nose job drama and her engagement.

Its safe to say that My bunko party went from bad 80's dos to bad 80's tudes.

Let me start off on a good note. I AM ENGAGED! I cant even believe it myself, I am still in shock. What a difference two and half years make. Check out this week's issue of US Weekly. Thank you to all the wonderful people that have posted such nice things on my Facebook and Twitter (@tamrabarney).

Let me just start off by saying (again) YES all the guys were invited. . .even Jimmy Boy. To hear Alexis say Jim was NOT invited just blows me away. He chose not to attend. You see me walk over to her and whisper in her ear. I was telling her that Jim was invited and he did not respond to the invite. I would NEVER invite all the men and not Jim, My God, I even had Slade and he just ripped on me.

I was really put in a bad place and was not about to choose sides. I was actually speechless for once in my life. I heard the screaming and the yelling but after a while it sounded like white noise. I can understand both sides. It's not cool for a man to make fun of a woman's looks. However, there has been so much fighting going on back and forth between everyone. where do you draw the line? I told Vicki that "I was removed because I choose to be removed." I just can't take the back and forth fighting anymore. I figure If I am above it, maybe it will go away? Guess what, it did! Sometimes you have to take a step back and stop playing the blame game. It is a vicious circle and you get pretty dizzy while your in it.

When Gretchen told us that Lex was having "sinus surgery" I had to laugh. I am sorry but she has complained about the bump on her nose for years. No one has ever heard her talk about her sinuses. Terry was totally out of the loop in the conversation and did not know who we were talking about. He did not say anything bad about having a nose job. For goodness sakes, he is a plastic surgeon and was given his medical opinion. Alexis was so rude and so defensive, which only makes you look guilty. The bottom line is, NO ONE at that table cared if she was getting a nose job. It was just the fact that she was lying about it, like she always does. When she was coming after me, I told her I agreed with her that "her nose was kinda big," which is probably the first and only thing I have ever agreed with her on. It might have been a little brutal, but she was the one that brought it up. Plastic surgery is a personal choice and it doesn't matter what others think. Have it done because you want to change it -- not for someone else.

Alexis (or should I call her Pinocchio) really should stop lying or that nose is going to get big again. When she was in the limo going off on Gretchen telling her that she always stuck up for her when it came to me I almost spit out my merlot from I have never talked to Alexis about Gretchen and when we fought in the past she never challenged me on what was said. I starting to think she just says what sounds good at that moment.

I was laughing watching Eddie trying to duck away from the drama. He hates the housewife drama and does not want to get involved or even be seen around it. He kept getting caught by a camera as he was trying to walk away from the arguing. Sorry babe, I know it gets crazy sometime.

Briana is such a strong girl and has gone through so much the past three years. I hope and pray that she gets better soon.

In closing, Alexis made this statement on her blog and it sent chills down my spin "I don't like how Tamra and Vicki treated Slade and Gretchen in the past about Slade's child support, and how in the past neither Tamra or Vicki seemed to care that Slade's precious son was so ill." I take great offense to this statement. As a mother of four it makes me sick to hear her say I did not care about Slade son being sick! As a Christian and a mother she should be ashamed to say something like that. The reason I was so vocal about Slade's issues in the past is because I felt SO BAD about his son.

Shannon Settles the Score

If Andy's asking "What's the score, Shannon Beador?" Shannon thinks she's definitely won.

This is Blog #20, my last Blog for the season! The past year was been a wild ride for both me and for my family. I have come to many realizations about myself, made lifelong friends, experienced some tough moments, and embarked on a path to a more peaceful self. So to use Andy’s phrase, “What's the score, Shannon Beador?” I would say without a doubt that I have definitely won.

I am happy that the viewers got a little glimpse into my sometimes unconventional ways! For me, it's all about good energy. I love that Vicki’s business has clearly benefited from trying feng shui with Elaine Wright. If you can't get hurt, there is no reason to try anything holistic. If you actually benefit, why wouldn't anyone want to go the natural way? If my children tend to feel better after seeing Dr. Moon and not have to take antibiotics, then I am a happy mom. It's all about creating a healthy balance!

I am an open book and am often criticized for it, but I am who I am. I don't know many couples married for 13 years that have a perfect relationship. Everyone has ups and downs, and although it may be difficult and require effort, it is possible to move through it and make things better. I have said it many times in the season that divorce is not an option. I will always fight for my marriage and my family. It truly touches my heart that so many fans have been and continue to root for David and I. I am so appreciative and grateful for all of your positive comments! Thank you!

Do Tamra and Heather truly want to move forward and potentially develop a friendship with me? Only time will tell. But for now, I have amazing friends surrounding me, including Vicki Gunvalson and Lizzie Rovsek. And most importantly, I have been blessed with the most incredible family anyone could ask for. That is where all of my energy is focused.

I will never forget this entire year, both the good and the bad, because each moment took me on the journey to where I am today. And today, I am in a phenomenal and happy place. Thank you for taking this journey with me!

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