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Pinocchio

Tamra discusses Alexis' nose job drama and her engagement.

Its safe to say that My bunko party went from bad 80's dos to bad 80's tudes.

Let me start off on a good note. I AM ENGAGED! I cant even believe it myself, I am still in shock. What a difference two and half years make. Check out this week's issue of US Weekly. Thank you to all the wonderful people that have posted such nice things on my Facebook and Twitter (@tamrabarney).

Let me just start off by saying (again) YES all the guys were invited. . .even Jimmy Boy. To hear Alexis say Jim was NOT invited just blows me away. He chose not to attend. You see me walk over to her and whisper in her ear. I was telling her that Jim was invited and he did not respond to the invite. I would NEVER invite all the men and not Jim, My God, I even had Slade and he just ripped on me.

I was really put in a bad place and was not about to choose sides. I was actually speechless for once in my life. I heard the screaming and the yelling but after a while it sounded like white noise. I can understand both sides. It's not cool for a man to make fun of a woman's looks. However, there has been so much fighting going on back and forth between everyone. where do you draw the line? I told Vicki that "I was removed because I choose to be removed." I just can't take the back and forth fighting anymore. I figure If I am above it, maybe it will go away? Guess what, it did! Sometimes you have to take a step back and stop playing the blame game. It is a vicious circle and you get pretty dizzy while your in it.

When Gretchen told us that Lex was having "sinus surgery" I had to laugh. I am sorry but she has complained about the bump on her nose for years. No one has ever heard her talk about her sinuses. Terry was totally out of the loop in the conversation and did not know who we were talking about. He did not say anything bad about having a nose job. For goodness sakes, he is a plastic surgeon and was given his medical opinion. Alexis was so rude and so defensive, which only makes you look guilty. The bottom line is, NO ONE at that table cared if she was getting a nose job. It was just the fact that she was lying about it, like she always does. When she was coming after me, I told her I agreed with her that "her nose was kinda big," which is probably the first and only thing I have ever agreed with her on. It might have been a little brutal, but she was the one that brought it up. Plastic surgery is a personal choice and it doesn't matter what others think. Have it done because you want to change it -- not for someone else.

Alexis (or should I call her Pinocchio) really should stop lying or that nose is going to get big again. When she was in the limo going off on Gretchen telling her that she always stuck up for her when it came to me I almost spit out my merlot from WinesbyWives.com. I have never talked to Alexis about Gretchen and when we fought in the past she never challenged me on what was said. I starting to think she just says what sounds good at that moment.

I was laughing watching Eddie trying to duck away from the drama. He hates the housewife drama and does not want to get involved or even be seen around it. He kept getting caught by a camera as he was trying to walk away from the arguing. Sorry babe, I know it gets crazy sometime.

Briana is such a strong girl and has gone through so much the past three years. I hope and pray that she gets better soon.

In closing, Alexis made this statement on her blog and it sent chills down my spin "I don't like how Tamra and Vicki treated Slade and Gretchen in the past about Slade's child support, and how in the past neither Tamra or Vicki seemed to care that Slade's precious son was so ill." I take great offense to this statement. As a mother of four it makes me sick to hear her say I did not care about Slade son being sick! As a Christian and a mother she should be ashamed to say something like that. The reason I was so vocal about Slade's issues in the past is because I felt SO BAD about his son.

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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