Cast Blog: #RHOC

The Reals vs. The Fakes

Tamra reflects on the changes this season and why she's happy things turned out the way they did.

Please let's address the weave in the room. . .Austin Powers Fembot, Barbarella, Stepford Wife, Dolly Parton, bird's nest, I have heard all the jokes. Hell, I had a great time on Twitter laughing at some of them! Okay I get it, it wasn't my best hair day. I had a new hair person that put about 10 clip-in hair pieces and by the end of the day I had a headache from holding up that weave. Live and learn. . .right?

The Reunion is a time for all of use to reflect on the past season and to throw daggers at each other's character. No, it is never nice and it is not exactly the most mature thing to do. . .But damn it's entertaining! I thought everyone looked beautiful and definitely held their own. It was interesting to see everyone's spot on the couch. Boy have things changed. I was very happy to be on that side of the couch with my true friends, and I wouldn't want it any other way. I break it down like this: The Reals vs. The Fakes. Now before you jump down my throat I am talking boobs people. . .or am I?

Friends have definitely changed this season, and I am happy to say I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. Gretchen has tuned out to the best friend any girl could ask for. We talk all the time and text almost every day. Heather is amazing in every sense of the word. I am lucky to have both of them in my life.

Now on to the other side of the couch. I would like to start off with Alexis. You have heard all of our arguments first hand, so I don't feel that I really need to go there. What I would like to say is, I feel bad about the snarky comments I made all season to Alexis. I am a bit of a smart ass, and, let's face it, she gives me good material. But the bottom line is Alexis is not a mean hearted person and it hurts me that my comments hurt her. However, we all signed up for this show that brings out the strongest part of our personalities for the others to judge. No one is being a bully because they are telling you what they think, this is what we ALL signed up for. Everybody has had a lot to say about everyone. No one is a innocent.

I'm sure it is hard for some of us to hear the negative things others have to say, but it is also a great time to take note and work on those things.

After the reunion show wrapped, I went up to Alexis gave her a hug and apologized for hurting her feelings. I told her that I would like to go lunch to see if we can clear up some of this nonsense between us. I even invited her to go out to dinner with the other girls that night, but she declined. I meant every word and still hope that one day we can be okay with each other.

Vicki on the other hand has taking things to a whole other level. I don't ever think I can go back to being her friend. I sat there on that couch and watched her deflect every question that came her way. . .It's always someone else's fault in her eyes. She takes responsibility for nothing and finds someone else to blame. From her passive aggressive comments to her downright lies. Her comments about how I "turned" on her is a mystery to me. I have never turned on her for one second. I have been nothing but a good friend to her for five years. I sat there many times when she went off on my ex-husband and I sat there like a child and let them both fight over what was best for me. I never challenged her for getting in between my marriage and definitely NEVER screamed at her for the nasty things she said to Simon. . .like I should have.

I heard about Brooks from Vicki four years ago, she claimed he was a "good friend," someone she talked about all the time and often visited in Mississippi. It wasn't until last year that I met him. I thought he was charming and made Vicki happy. About six months into getting to know him, I noticed that something was off. I could not put my finger on it but something with this guy Brooks (or should I say David, his real name) just didn't make sense. Her friends, family, and office staff started calling me with the same feelings. Then an overwhelming amount of emails where coming through my fan page from people that have had "bad dealings" with Brooks. So of course I was concerned, who wouldn't be? The bottom line: friends don't let friends date losers!


On to better things. I am excited to be going on a family vacation next week to NYC with all the kids and my god-daughter Kacey. It will be our first family vacation with Eddie as a family. . .I hope he survives! We are spending a few days in the city. The kids are very excited to go see The Lion King and the Statue of Liberty. Then we are going to spend a few days in the Hamptons with my business partner Chris and his lovely family. Wines by Wives is sponsoring VH1 Save the Music charity event on July 21. If you're in the Hamptons I hope you will attend, love to see you there. Enjoy your summer


Tamra Barney

Shannon Settles the Score

If Andy's asking "What's the score, Shannon Beador?" Shannon thinks she's definitely won.

This is Blog #20, my last Blog for the season! The past year was been a wild ride for both me and for my family. I have come to many realizations about myself, made lifelong friends, experienced some tough moments, and embarked on a path to a more peaceful self. So to use Andy’s phrase, “What's the score, Shannon Beador?” I would say without a doubt that I have definitely won.

I am happy that the viewers got a little glimpse into my sometimes unconventional ways! For me, it's all about good energy. I love that Vicki’s business has clearly benefited from trying feng shui with Elaine Wright. If you can't get hurt, there is no reason to try anything holistic. If you actually benefit, why wouldn't anyone want to go the natural way? If my children tend to feel better after seeing Dr. Moon and not have to take antibiotics, then I am a happy mom. It's all about creating a healthy balance!

I am an open book and am often criticized for it, but I am who I am. I don't know many couples married for 13 years that have a perfect relationship. Everyone has ups and downs, and although it may be difficult and require effort, it is possible to move through it and make things better. I have said it many times in the season that divorce is not an option. I will always fight for my marriage and my family. It truly touches my heart that so many fans have been and continue to root for David and I. I am so appreciative and grateful for all of your positive comments! Thank you!

Do Tamra and Heather truly want to move forward and potentially develop a friendship with me? Only time will tell. But for now, I have amazing friends surrounding me, including Vicki Gunvalson and Lizzie Rovsek. And most importantly, I have been blessed with the most incredible family anyone could ask for. That is where all of my energy is focused.

I will never forget this entire year, both the good and the bad, because each moment took me on the journey to where I am today. And today, I am in a phenomenal and happy place. Thank you for taking this journey with me!

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