Cast Blog: #RHOC

The Reals vs. The Fakes

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

The Reals vs. The Fakes

Tamra reflects on the changes this season and why she's happy things turned out the way they did.

Please let's address the weave in the room. . .Austin Powers Fembot, Barbarella, Stepford Wife, Dolly Parton, bird's nest, I have heard all the jokes. Hell, I had a great time on Twitter laughing at some of them! Okay I get it, it wasn't my best hair day. I had a new hair person that put about 10 clip-in hair pieces and by the end of the day I had a headache from holding up that weave. Live and learn. . .right?

The Reunion is a time for all of use to reflect on the past season and to throw daggers at each other's character. No, it is never nice and it is not exactly the most mature thing to do. . .But damn it's entertaining! I thought everyone looked beautiful and definitely held their own. It was interesting to see everyone's spot on the couch. Boy have things changed. I was very happy to be on that side of the couch with my true friends, and I wouldn't want it any other way. I break it down like this: The Reals vs. The Fakes. Now before you jump down my throat I am talking boobs people. . .or am I?

Friends have definitely changed this season, and I am happy to say I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. Gretchen has tuned out to the best friend any girl could ask for. We talk all the time and text almost every day. Heather is amazing in every sense of the word. I am lucky to have both of them in my life.

Now on to the other side of the couch. I would like to start off with Alexis. You have heard all of our arguments first hand, so I don't feel that I really need to go there. What I would like to say is, I feel bad about the snarky comments I made all season to Alexis. I am a bit of a smart ass, and, let's face it, she gives me good material. But the bottom line is Alexis is not a mean hearted person and it hurts me that my comments hurt her. However, we all signed up for this show that brings out the strongest part of our personalities for the others to judge. No one is being a bully because they are telling you what they think, this is what we ALL signed up for. Everybody has had a lot to say about everyone. No one is a innocent.

I'm sure it is hard for some of us to hear the negative things others have to say, but it is also a great time to take note and work on those things.

After the reunion show wrapped, I went up to Alexis gave her a hug and apologized for hurting her feelings. I told her that I would like to go lunch to see if we can clear up some of this nonsense between us. I even invited her to go out to dinner with the other girls that night, but she declined. I meant every word and still hope that one day we can be okay with each other.

Vicki on the other hand has taking things to a whole other level. I don't ever think I can go back to being her friend. I sat there on that couch and watched her deflect every question that came her way. . .It's always someone else's fault in her eyes. She takes responsibility for nothing and finds someone else to blame. From her passive aggressive comments to her downright lies. Her comments about how I "turned" on her is a mystery to me. I have never turned on her for one second. I have been nothing but a good friend to her for five years. I sat there many times when she went off on my ex-husband and I sat there like a child and let them both fight over what was best for me. I never challenged her for getting in between my marriage and definitely NEVER screamed at her for the nasty things she said to Simon. . .like I should have.

I heard about Brooks from Vicki four years ago, she claimed he was a "good friend," someone she talked about all the time and often visited in Mississippi. It wasn't until last year that I met him. I thought he was charming and made Vicki happy. About six months into getting to know him, I noticed that something was off. I could not put my finger on it but something with this guy Brooks (or should I say David, his real name) just didn't make sense. Her friends, family, and office staff started calling me with the same feelings. Then an overwhelming amount of emails where coming through my fan page from people that have had "bad dealings" with Brooks. So of course I was concerned, who wouldn't be? The bottom line: friends don't let friends date losers!

 

On to better things. I am excited to be going on a family vacation next week to NYC with all the kids and my god-daughter Kacey. It will be our first family vacation with Eddie as a family. . .I hope he survives! We are spending a few days in the city. The kids are very excited to go see The Lion King and the Statue of Liberty. Then we are going to spend a few days in the Hamptons with my WinesbyWives.com business partner Chris and his lovely family. Wines by Wives is sponsoring VH1 Save the Music charity event on July 21. If you're in the Hamptons I hope you will attend, love to see you there. Enjoy your summer

xoxo

Tamra Barney
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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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