Cast Blog: #RHOC

Why Not You?

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Why Not You?

Tamra explains her decision to have her implants removed and her inspiration to move forward.

I thought bowling for Champs looked like a lot of fun. . .minus the crazy lady.

Heather is creative at coming up with unique ideas for parties, first the painting party and then the champagne bowling party. Forget the restaurant business -- she should be a party planner. I wish I could have gone just to watch, but it was just too soon after my surgery. I still had drainage tubes that are not that easy to hide in clothes. I thought Vicki handled herself very well with the Sarah drama. I don't know Sarah too well but what from what I have seen I have to agree with Terry -- "where did she park her spaceship?"

Watching Jim and Alexis eat dinner gave me chills, right from the minute he threw her coat on the ground. His "Me Tarzan, You Jane" approach is a little hard to swallow. Saying she needed to stay home and raise his children was the most degrading thing I have heard him say, direct smack in her face. What the heck! She doesn't mean enough to him for him to say "OUR CHILDREN"? Then when he asked if she would be ordering his food I was stunned. Maybe I am spoiled, but Eddie usually will give the server my order or I do it myself. He would never expect me to order for him unless he was in the bathroom.

 

You can see that his control is wearing on Alexis, and I was proud of her for sticking up for herself. I know this all to well. The more independence she gets the more he is going to try and hold her back. I think I know where this is headed. I hope she did not quite her Fox Five job because her husband made her. But maybe she should for obvious reasons. . .YIKES!

So let's get something straight: It's not that I do not like Brooks, because you cant help but like him. He is very charming and has been nothing but nice to Eddie and I. I just worry about Vicki getting too close so soon. She has been very emotional for the past year with the divorce and Briana's health, so I am worried about her. When I heard that she handed over her passwords to Facebook and her email accounts, plus the "no secrets comment," that concerned me. One reason is she has not been dating him very long. She is a public person, and you need to be extra careful.

I want my friend to be happy more than anyone in the world, and, if Brooks is the one, I support them 100 percent. This season you will continue to see me get to know Brooks and question a few things, we went through some tough times. We are in a different place now and he really does love Vicki to death. But, I'm still keeping my eyes on you Brooks. LOL!

Removing my breast implants was something that I thought about for years. You saw me down-size five years ago (baby steps) after struggling with the decision to remove them completely. I did not have the confidence or courage to remove them five years ago. when I say there were many reasons why I removed my implants -- I mean it. It started with feeling that they were just too big for my frame. I felt they made me look heavier than I was. It was hard to run. It was hard to find clothes that fit properly, and I could not find a bra that fit to save my life. I felt like no matter what I wore I looked like a porn star. But it wasn't until a doctors appointment that I knew I wanted them out. Going in for my annual check up and mammogram and getting the results changed many things for me. I was first told that I had an irregular pap and needed a biopsy, so I did just that. Then my mammogram came back telling me that I had a lump that needed to biopsied. My OB/GYN told me that it was just probably my implant folded and that I should not worry. It was not my implant and they did remove it. It was not cancerous. Thank God.

But it made me wonder if my breast implants made it harder to detect cancer?

Then my biopsy came back and my doctor recommended that I have a hysterectomy at my age to be safe. It was early signs of cervical cancer which she called, very aggressive. I had never been so scared in my life. Here I was going through a divorce with three small children and now this. . .Are you kidding me?

After sitting down talking with my doctor, she agreed to do a procedure to try and remove it first and if that didn't work she was going to send me to an oncologist and told me to prepare for a hysterectomy. To her surprise and my answered prayers it worked. Of course now I go in every six months for a check up.

As most of you know Vicki and I have started a new company called WinesbyWives.com It is a monthly affordable wine club that gives 10 percent to a charity of our choice. I have chosen living beyond breast cancer for the first quarter. My charity will change each quarter. If you have a charity you would like me to help, please let me know and I will take a look at it.

The best part of being in my 40s is that I started to feel more secure with my self and acceptive of my body. I now work hard to keep my self healthy with diet and exercise. I love the way I look without my implants and do not miss them at all. I have accepted that I will never look 25, or even 35, again and it kinda sucks. . .not gonna lie!

It has also inspired me to open up my own fitness studio that has been more challenging then I thought. But I am working away, and it's just a matter of time before we will be open. My goal is to help other men and woman get their best body back and to educate people in healthy living with monthly speakers.

Think about this, my favorite quote from Jillian Michaels:

"Today I want you to ask yourself this one question: Why Not You? Why not you to do something for work that you love? Why not you to have a healthy body? Why not you to have a healthy love? Why not you to be, have, or do anything you have ever dreamed? We are so quick to think others are deserving over ourselves. The truth is that we are all deserving. . .SO WHY NOT YOU?!?"

Tamra Barney
www.tamra-barney.com

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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