The feuding OC Housewives go back-and-forth in dueling interviews.

Jun 5, 2012 - The Dish0

Gretchen Rossi and Alexis Bellino

Just as Gretchen Rossi and Tamra Barney’s friendship has been rekindled, Gretchen's friendship with co-star Alexis Bellino may be on the rocks.

After a dramatic "intervention" by the other Housewives of Orange County to rid Alexis of her supposed phoniness during their trip to Costa Rica, Alexis went to the press to defend herself. She told Celebuzz that "Tamra is the ringleader of the mean girls," and that her friendship with Gretchen "has taken a huge hit this season," as she feels that Gretchen has "aligned herself with Tamra."

But Gretchen was ready to defend herself and, hours later, told Gather her side of the story.

"I’m not aligned with Tamra; I just choose to put the past behind us. My relationship with Tamra has nothing to do with Alexis." She also defends herself against Alexis' claim that she’s a mean girl by association saying "There has not been any footage of me talking about Alexis with the other women negatively and actually."

In fact Gretchen claims that she acted as a friend by warning Alexis of the impending intervention on the plane ride and that “for her to act like I threw her under the bus is BS."

It all played out on last night's OC episode and we want to know: Are you Team Alexis or Team Gretchen? Explain why in the comments.

41 comments
piperoni
piperoni

Alexis has class.gretchen did not have her back.tamra had this planed break there friendship up and then gretchen looks like a crap of a friend.she can use that against her if they all return for season 8.team lexie always since season 5.and she just keeps getting better.tamra just wants her off the show cause she is jealous.print bravo another vote fo lexie.

Dr. Cat
Dr. Cat

Seriosly, are Heather and Tamra stuck in adolescence or are they "pre"-pubescent? I am a MSW, LCSW, practicing for 35 years at the best Psychiatric/Medical facilities in the US. You do not have to be a highly-skilled clinician to be embarrassed for both Heather and Tamra! Alexis has become a very "convenient" and "easy" target for both these gals, even the group. Tamra is the most viciuos, projecting all of her own issues and agenda onto Alexis. The other girls, including Gretchen, are overwhelemed by this bully and, therfore, fall behind. Shame on you Gretchen! I heard what you said to yourself before you sided with Tamra. You have a very warm heart and sensitive spirit and your initial take was the "truth". Do not be bullied by Heather and Tamra. Tamra is an out-and-out bully. Heather, on the other hand, disguises her posion. She is very arrogant, condescending, controlling and a fraud. She actually believes her own lies and needs some therapy to get a glimpse of how she projects ALL of her OWN personal and emotional issues on everyone in the group. She and Tamra are currently "colluding", subconsiously joining forces in a effort to thwart their own issues on to anyone who will take them...Alexis, Vicki or Gretchen, given their sensitivity and compassion. They actually twist everything you gals are saying to provide some "medication" for their own emotional wounds on any given day. They have no "observing-ego" at all, thereby believing their own fraudlous selves, as they "walk all over", "up, down and around" on each of you. Heather, please, get the stick out of your controlling but. You do not know any better than Alexis, Vicki and Gretchen, but you are poisoning the well of good heart and intentions of all 3 housewives. Alexis, you are a prime target for everyone because they are insecure and jealous around you. Actually, the exact opposite is true of Tamra and Heather's accusations. This time, just happens to be you. Do you know the saying "Thou dost protest too much"...and "whatever you DISLIKE in others, you HATE most in yourself" (exposure!..leakage ladies!..for all the world to see!) and "when someones reaction to you is out of proportion to the issue at hand, you can bet that person has some raging issues of his/her own that revolve around being "pretentious"...jealousy, perhaps. Please Alexis, you are a wonderful mother and wife, you set a great standard for women of all ages. These ladies are so "troubled"..my gosh..I thought Tamra's head was going to explode at the table (raging much Tamra?)....And under Heathers "calm, controlled and condescending pleas (incessant to the point of exposing her own hand..come on ladies...is she for real....do you not know that under that verbose and calm facade..ALWAYS, when it is incessant, beats the heart of a raging women. I would bet my "4 cars", "2 diamond rings" and "clinical license" on the fact that she and her husband DO NOT GET ALONG behind closed doors ladies...certainly, not as she depicts). So, Alexis....you too, Vicki and Gretchen...DO NOT TAKE THE BAIT! Do not "accept" all of the emotional accusations they so readily dole out to all of you. Sometimes, Alexis,...no, all of the time Alexis, when the Favor of God is upon you, your family, your life, it automatically stirs-up competition, jealosy, even murderous rage in another. All the Christian women are watching you beautiful in body, mind and Spirit. They are counting on you to "keep it together, to handle this issue with grace, for "to whom much is given Alexis, much is expected"! While they "ought not to judge you in any way at all"..please do not do it back. You handled yourself very well by removing yourself from the table (the scene of the crime) and from the vacation. I am so sorry you had to spend the entire weekend listening to "Commentary" from the "2 Pots calling the Kettle Black"! You do have Favor on you Sweet Lady..they sense "something", but do not know quite what it is...so they are attacking "that which they cannot conrol". Hang-in there! God will show you how to minister love and grace to millions of woman all over the World! You are there for reason and purpose, and I bet you know what that calling is. If not, get in prayer and find out. Continue in the Word. What's so wrong about a moral women ladies? You know, the Bible does state: that in the end-times "That which was always perceived as Good will be viewed as Evil (bad) and that which was always perceived as Evil (bad) will be viewed as Good"! Vicki, you are so "right-on" my Happy Women! So many people are having great difficulty with your Joy! Especially the wives infamous "Critic Chicklets", Tamra and Heather, who continue to conviently project their own emotional baggage and unhappiness in life....on you as well. Keep up the good work. While you are at it, please, continue to align yourself with Alexis. The two of you are in the hot seat right now...and ask your Christian Gal Pal, Alexis, about this spritual principal and truth (psychological as well).."One of us can put a thousand to flight, but two of us can send the Legions fleeing"! Rout those demons girls! You need to support one another as parents do with children. That is the only way they will stop splitting and the only way to stop their "acting-out" behaviors! Gretchen...beauty inside and out! You are definately one who "can trust your gut feelings" in social and emotional arenas and situations! Be confident in this gift. You have it. I see, however, how Slade, Tamra and Heather can so easily toss you, moving you to always second-guess and doubt what you actually KNOW SO WELL! Why don't you, Alexis and Vicki stick together. We know that borderline and insecure personalities are all about "Splitting"...so are Children..lol...So, join forces with the "Sincere" gals, who validate you nicely. Stay away from the childish splitting, meant to keep YOU DOWN AS WELL GRETCHEN. If these 3 folks in your life can get you to doubt your innate gift of discernment, I am afraid they can have you tap-dancing all the way home. "Dance Gretchen, Dance"! It gets exhausting, doesn't it? Toss all 3 and put into practice: believing in your observations. You are correct everytime! OK...You know the saying...."Crazies Rule"....They do not have to, Alexis, Vicki and Gretchen....if they can split one of you off from the other 2, they will be successful in their "divide and conquer" strategy of coping. Often, adults who have drug-addiction or alchoholism in their family-of-origin (I would guess Heather's mother?), they subconsciously tag-team a "barrage"..they call it "side-swiping" in order to get control back in the family or group. It comes at you in a merciless fashion and does what it is intended to do: knocks the wind out of you before you can even reply! But, if the three of you refuse to "leave each other "in the lurch" during these times of violent defense strategies (if you expose me I will certainly die tactics of the adult co-dependent)...for fear of being raked over the coals "yourself", you will win a victory and empower all "healthy women" in the World to take a stand against the "Crazies"! Love you, Dr. Cat

Viewer cooky
Viewer cooky

team gretchen all the way....alex u did not have have ur listening ears on - gretchen tried to explain in the most simple stupid way & u still didn't get it..it goes to show ya the some people want the truth but don't want to hear it..next time don't ask....

Railroad Wife
Railroad Wife

If there was EVER a pot call the KETTLE...ugh..black...really? There should be an "anger" mangagment, a Counselor for I just LOST my dude, and one for I dont know what the HELL I want, cause my MAN is using me!...Should I continue???? These women just piss me off week after week LOL...let them come and roll with the WOMEN of the the RAILROAD MEN, dare that! They would RUN back to their GUCCI and L.V. ....Tuche' Nuff said!!!!

Issa
Issa

Team Gretchen! Alexis is fake and phony. Gretchen doesnt have to flaunt her stuff to show her confidence. Alexis shows insecurity by constantly talking about her material things.

pedersen
pedersen

Gretchen you didn't toss Alexis under the bus, but you did throw your friendship away with Alexis like yesterdays trash. Very disappointing.

heat
heat

Gretchen wasnt very helpful to Alexis when the ladies picked on her.

Calimomofthree
Calimomofthree

Sometimes the truth hurts and it's hard to hear it from friends, but I think they were trying to reason with her and Gretchen was trying to HELP her by explaining what others "saw" since it's hard to see yourself the way others do. Alexis had a pity party and now refuses to own her flaws, which all humans have and the girls pointed out! I think Alexis & Vicky are both acting like jealous, immature grade schoolers just because Tamra and Gretchen have now mended fences. Sad. Meanwhile, Heather is a sparkling addition to the cast - the classiest mom of the OC and her hubby deserves more airtime!

Delhi Ca
Delhi Ca

Team Alexis mean girls are the phony ones pretending to be human.

Tiki Barber
Tiki Barber

Gretchen just look back a last year's reunion show a watch how Alexis was TOTALLY on your side even though I'm sure some of the things that she defended she didn't agree with but just "stuck by her friend". If the girls (Tamra) wanted to confront Alexis you should have stayed out of it if you agree with them.These women have been terrible to you and Tamra still talks about Slade.Alexis was too far away from home for this "intervention". Why ruin her vacation ? This couldn't wait until you were all back in Orange County. I know it's over but Gretchen .....OWN IT !!!! Still love you girl but hated watching last night.

astrochicks
astrochicks

Team Alexis, of course, Tamra is the King of Mean Girls. Gretchen has forgotten all the mean crap she said about Gretchen and Slade. Tamra wants to make sure her contract is renewed each season.

BJG
BJG

Gretchen is for who shes with @ the time, they were rude & mean to Alexis, Tamara needs to be thrown off the show she is nothing but a bully, talk about phony & put on thats all she is , she is so jealious of Alexis she will never have the class that Alexis has, Tamara isn't friends Gretchen she wants to see what she can find out &act like shes her friend.

lizzyanne
lizzyanne

Gretchen was trying to explain to the other girls that she knows Alexis and yes she can be pretentious but you have to get to know her to see what she really means by the things she says...she DID NOT THROW ALEXIS UNDER THE BUS! She was trying to stay out of it and was trying to tell Alexis that she knows her and they don't so they perceive you in a different way when you say things.And for Alexis to say the next day that she doesn't (SEE IT) of what they were saying is such BS or she really is as stupid as they make her out to be on the show....TEAM GRETCHEN!

Megan11277
Megan11277

Gretchen, you never defended Alexis, the one you call friend. You try to put in more sweeter words all the mean things Tamara was saying to her. I think, before the trip you should of have talk to Alexis privately and let her know how you were feeling, obviously you had the same the same thoughts as the girls, why didn't you said this to Aleis before you even became friends with Tamara? Or why didn't you expresse your thoughts in private not the way you did it? You, have changed a lot Gretchen even with your boyfriend, you are mean and nagging and really someone who is turning to be not likable!

jacasa
jacasa

Team Gretchen! I thought everything the women said to Alexis was the truth. I know she thinks everyone wants to be her, but that isn't true. Alexis is an attractive woman, but certainly not a "stunning beauty". I find Gretchen and Heather to be the most truthful of the women, love them both.

rnetmom
rnetmom

Team Alexis!!! Vicki was right, they are all jealous because Alexis is much prettier than any of them. Tamra is the worst and she treated Gretchen that way in the past then the tall thin girl with the broken leg the same way. Tamra used to be my favorite but since her divorce she has become an evil person.

Kelly Speaks
Kelly Speaks

Sadly Gretchen did not have Alexis' back... Where she totally went wrong was when she interjected instead of discussing the situation privately... By putting her two cents in, she basically went on the Tamra wagon and off the Alexis train... That being said, anyone who was in the same situation would see it the same way, no matter what spin Gretchen puts on it... In these episodes, Gretchen's mean girl came out... and that's too bad because I liked Gretchen...

Sheila Roberts
Sheila Roberts

This episode had me in tears laughing at the ladies on the river raft ride.. Then Alexis's tree falling apart.. As for the drama.. No one should be calling anyone out on being Fake.. Lord that was like the pot calling the kettle black.. You can scream it from the rafters I am not fake Tamara but I watch the show and have watched the show so STFU you are as fake as anyone on there...

MISSISSIPPI VIEWER
MISSISSIPPI VIEWER

If she were your friend, you would have kept your mouth shut, walked her to her room and then told her that you felt that some of the negative comments were true. But never should you have done this in front of those hyenas.......not right

ChristineHB
ChristineHB

Team Alexis! Tamra is the head of the mean girls and Heather has jumped on the hater bandwagon. Gretchen should have defended her "friend" when she needed her the most. No one deserves to have an "intervention" like that. That was an attack. I feel so bad for Alexis and don't know if I could ever get over being so betrayed if I were in Alexis's shoes. Leave her alone and look in the mirror ladies. It isn't pretty.

kisergurly
kisergurly

Yes Gretchen,you did throw her under the bus,and let the other tow run right over her. Gretchen,you have been my favorite,but after seeing this episode I now have changed my mind. Alexis was the ONLY one who supported you through the sad times when Tamera was making a mockery of you! Tamera is nothing but a bully,and would not be able to stand alone if she didnt have power houses to back her up! Tamera only aligns herself with the most popular people on the show,so she not only can get attention,but power. She did it to Vicki,by aligning with her when she was popular and powerful. Tamera now has tow people to align with. I see Heather brag about the things that she has,like Alexis reminded you of,but I suppose she is different. gretchen you have been very popular,so please stay away from the mean girls.

Viewer8486
Viewer8486

By far team Gretchen!!!! If she was not honest with her friend and explained how shes really felt she would be the fake one. A person should be able to be honest and say anything the want or feel to a person they count as a friend, that's what friendship is all about. If your friends cant be honest with you or tell you when your making mistakes, no one can. I think Gretchen should take it as a wake up call and realize that the friendship she thought she had and that was so important to her want actually all that strong, real or important to Alexis.

ChristineHB
ChristineHB

Team Alexis! Are you kidding me? Tamra definitely is the ringleader of the mean girls and Heather has jumped on the hater bandwagon. Really sad how Tamra attacks Alexis. It's ridiculous! For Gretchen not to stand by her "friend" in that moment at the dinner table in Costa Rica is unforgiveable. If she were my friend I don't think I would be able to get over it. Leave Alexis alone and worry about yourselves!

k850
k850

As a friend Gretchen should have stood up for Alexis to the other women rather than chiming in and siding with them. If she had constructive criticism to offer she should have waited and had that conversation privately, not while Alexis was being viciously tag teamed and attacked. Disappointed in Gretchen on this one.

Autumn Sunshine
Autumn Sunshine

Team Gretchen all the way. She didn't do anything wrong and Alexis is phony!!!

sajames
sajames

Gretchen

When you put a snake in your pocket, don't be surprised when she bites you

Eunipina
Eunipina

She did throw her under the bus!!!! When she was under attacked last year Alexis stayed by her side!! Gretchen is not a true friend to Alexis.

Patricia Haswell
Patricia Haswell

Team Alexis! Tamra is the most awful woman; totally totally mean and vindictive. Alexis is nice, smart and beautiful and none of the other ladie can compare to her. Thank heavens Vickie is still the nice one in the group!

Amy Anthony
Amy Anthony

Team Gretchen!

Alexis is always going to look like the victim even in a 1:1 discussion (see argument with JUST Tamra). She's meek and unintelligent, however, it was hard to just watch her sit defenseless. She's not cut out for confrontation of any kind. Gretchen literally made ONE comment, and I'd hardly call that throwing someone under the bus.

Is This Thing On
Is This Thing On

Bravo, wake up! That 'intervention' was a new low. I don't care what Alexis has said or done in the past - nobody, and I mean nobody, deserves to be attacked the way she was. This 'intervention' was not coming from a place of love, not even close. I was so upset and it was difficult, if not impossible, to watch. We do not tune in week after week for this. Watching the emotional & personal destruction of a human being is not entertainment.

Viewer1000
Viewer1000

IN the past team Gretchen...now TEAM ALEXIS

Viewer1000
Viewer1000

uh yes you did throw Alexis under the bus

just another fan
just another fan

Gretchen can call it whatever she wants but if she had a problem with what Alesis was saying, she could have pulled her aside in private and told her. Isn't that what a TRUE friend would have sone? At least that way she would't have been blindsided.

hwatcher
hwatcher

Gretchen seems to want only the best for Alexis....she is correct in stating how sometimes Alexis comes across as phony. Alexis promotes herself to being a Christian and brings God into her conversations continually. That being said, why is she trying to impress others with material things. She and Jim have the right to use their money the way they choose, but they must be open to bear the consequences when, by their own admissions, they are not living in the truth. It is okay to wear faux hair, rings, etc....but why so big???....what is the need to be so flashy and grabbing for attention. If this does not show insecurity...then what? Why not buy small faux bling??? no one would know the difference then....all that attention would not be called to them...8 car garage???? are you kidding. If the income does not match the lifestyle, then that surely is "phony". Who is Alexis trying to fool?

Gretchen seems to be a strong, hard working girl with a few issues of her own, but, what appears to be real with her is, so far, no one has called her out for being a big "put-on". She has been upfront about Slade, about making her own way...she seems kind and harmless and really has taken alot from these girls.

You did not ask, but Heather seems to have a "big head", but apparently has the money to match it. She, at least, is trying to stay low key in the drama department....Vicky, well, she is just a sad person who never grew up....Tamra seems to be trying to clean up her bad girl image thanks to Eddie. In the end, this show is becoming too predictible with the drama and throwing of insults.....can we change the story lines?

RHONJ # 1 FAN!!!!!
RHONJ # 1 FAN!!!!!

Team alexis!!!!! Gretchen is not a good friend. Any good friend would stand by their friend when other people try and put them down! Gretchen is still in the high school mantality. She is so concerned about what the other girls would think of her if she would stand up to them to defend her friend. It's like you are what almost 40? Get over yourself Gretchen. We all watched the show you can't defend you were being a good friend.

Devil wears Prada
Devil wears Prada

Team Alexis. I advocate to remaining loyal to those that remained loyal to you at ALL times, not just when convenient. Tamra was so cruel to Gretchen on countless occasions in the past that for Gretchen to have amnesia over it, I am shocked! Alexis has never once betrayed Gretchen for Gretchen to act the way that she is. I stay true to someone's face and behind their back and I would NEVER be part of a gang up. Not when I am supposed to be that person's friend.

Naperviewer
Naperviewer

Team Alexis! Gretchen has changed for the worse as the season unfolded. So sad to watch.

Sho
Sho

Best episode EVER. The rafting trip was SO FUNNY. Not all the viewers want stupid, childish drama.

Marge E.
Marge E.

Neither. I think the intervention was HORRIBLE. I think they should have done this off camera and only a couple of people, not the whole cast. Think of how hurtful that must have been. Is Alexis pretentious....yes. Will she change...no. And the other girls have their faults. EVERYONE does. How lovely to point them out to the world. As a human being, Alexis deserved better. Tamra telling her this wasn't enough. EVERYONE had to pile on. Not cool at all.