This is not typical of Briana in any way, shape, or form, and I was worried that she may have just been vulnerable due to the health issues she had been dealing with for the past two years. I didn't tell any of my family members or my friends because I didn't even know how to begin to discuss it, and, quite frankly, I was embarrassed. All of my dreams for my only daughter's BIG DAY were taken away from me in an instant (and for that matter taken away from HER). More importantly, the family had not met him or his family. I knew very little about Ryan and now I had an instant son-in-law.
The days, weeks, and months that followed this October 2011 were very difficult for Briana and I. She justified what she did, said it wasn't impulsive, that they were happy, and that they didn't have any regrets. She told me that after her thyroid removal surgery, a scare with cancer, and Ryan's experience being at war, they both decided life was too short and this was the right thing for them. Ryan confirmed to me that he loved Briana and that they needed and wanted my support and didn't mean to hurt me or her family.
After a lot of prayer and soul searching I was able to look at the big picture and not be angry anymore. What's interesting is that when I asked God to completely heal Briana while she was in surgery, I also asked for her to be happy and to one day be in love again (as I knew she was worried about that). I had no idea that two weeks later God would answer those prayers with her getting married and not to have cancer. My new motto is: Be careful what you wish for.
Fast forward to January 2012 of this year, Brooks and I took Briana and Ryan to my condo in Puerto Vallarta and we had an amazing time. Since then, we have spent many double date nights together and the "new additions to my family" are blending together slowly, but surely. It's interesting that Brooks is from Mississippi and Ryan is from North Carolina. I guess Briana is attracted to the "southern charm" the way I am. Like mother, like daughter.
The reason I tend to like you more than Gretchen is that you admit you are human and make mistakes, but with Gretchen it is always deny, deny, deny. I wonder if she really thinks she is perfect? She was awful to Alexis in last week's episode, but she couldn't see it.
I'm saddened that you reacted to your daughter's news with such negativity. She is a lovely young lady and I wish her the best!
VIcki, Congrats on the new son-in-law. Briana is a good lady and you raise her well. So be happy for her. And if you think about it does she know anything about your Brooks? Shoe go both ways
I do agree that Gretchen and Slade are equally to blame. In fact, my big issue wit her is her inability to take responsibility w/ both you and Tamra.
I do however think you interpret things through your own lens. Briana is an adult and can do as she pleases. If she wants to get married in Vegas - that is her prerogative. She didn't do anything to you or even to herself. She followed her heart.
I can't wait to see Briana get married!! It was weird seeing Lisa's daughter getting married when us viewers barely knew her but with Briana it is like we watched her grow into such a beautiful young woman. I am sure you have nothing to worry about Vicki...Briana seems to have a good head. CONGRATS!!
All of YOUR dreams Vicki! Really, what about your daughters dreams?! I am guessing Briana eloped because it was the only way to keep you from taking over every aspect of her wedding. Everything is always about you, remember! Oh, and your like mother like daughter comment, Briana seems very calm and leavelheaded and smart, so unlike you. You are an overbearing, loud, pushy control freak who is never wrong!
vicki, i really felt for you during the segment where i knew briana would tell you that she had gotten married. i have to say, briana has guts - when i was 26, i found myself pregnant, by a guy i had been dating on and off for about a year. oh yeah, and we worked together. my parents had never met him either, nor had i formally met his (i had seen his mother at work). i wrote my parents a letter, stuck it in their mailbox, then sent them an email telling them to check the mail. i spilled it all out and asked them not to contact me until they had gone through some of the shock and upset. ANYWAY - i am here now at 29, married to the father of my now 3 year old daughter, and we have an 18 month old son. but we also got married like briana and ryan. my parents offered money for either a wedding or a down payment on a house. we took the down payment, and had a minister friend of my husband's marry us. we plan on having a recommitment ceremony much like you and donn. i would love a beach ceremony. since we are already married and have been for a few years, a wedding ceremony just didn't seem like the thing to do. i did feel terrible for my mother, and my father, because i am also the only daughter in my family; but if you ask them now, i'm sure would would tell you they are very happy in spite of the way things had happened. we laugh about it now. would i change anything, if i could go back? absolutely not. do i wish i had a wedding? sure i do. but what we did, was my mother got her dress out of storage, and had 2 portraits made of me in it. one for me, and one for her. so glad you are doing well and briana is doing well and everyone is happy! because like i said, when i saw your face, and knowing somewhat how briana probably felt (scared to death!) it brought back memories for sure. :)
and i want to add - my mom said the same thing about the crying. it was to a point where she couldn't wear makeup.
Vicki, I am so happy that Brianna is happy and it seems that you are too. Keep working hard and enjoying life and not let anyone get you down. Good Blog.
I think it is very funny that you think you are supportive of the other women on this show. I cannot think of any ventures that you have given support to. Just off of the top of my head, I can think of many things that the other women have done that you have either made fun of or put down - Heather's restaurant, Gretchen's makeup and handbags, Alexis' clothing line and tv gig, Lynn's bracelets, etc. As I read your supportive comment about Alexis and and Gretchen, I though to myself "this doesn't sound like Vicki at all", and then when I read the next sentence about you supporting other women, I seriously laughed out loud. You are not a girls' girl, which is fine - but don't pretend like you are.
Vicki, Hope all is well! Glad to see your family and new life unfolding this season. Seems like you are in a better place. Hope you have learned lessons from the past and can have a brighter and happier future. Try to be kind to your friends and truly mean it...actions speak louder than words. I really hope you meant all the apologies you have spoken. Life is too short for petty nonsense. Enjoy your life and your new relationship and be happy for all you have. Wish you lots of joy and happiness!!! Enjoy every moment!
She is your daughter not you, saying your disgusted even hurt my feelings. Let her make her own decisions, how rude of you!
Ryan must be fearless..............a Superman. First the Taliban.......then Vicki Gunvalson. I thank him for his service to our country.
I think it's really funny that you say now that Gretchen should take it up with Brooks when all along that is what Gretchen was telling you to do with Slade whenever you had a problem with him. Gretchen is right, you can dish it, but you can't take it. As for Brianna. Brianna's choice to elope was her choice. She's a grown woman so respect it and move on. I would just simply be happy that my daughter told me, and then I would have made sure she was comfortable with her choice and moved on.
Dear Vicki, don't know where to start. It is Briana's decision to get married. I got married (finally!) last July and I was 54. My Father has been deceased for over 30 years, and I married my wonderful husband Rick at our judge's office in blue jeans. We told everyone afterwards. Briana conquered Cancer and knows that life is precious. Love her, don't judge her. The world does not revolve around any one person. Concentrate on your own love life. Lighten up and be grateful. Best wishes to your lovely daughter and son-in-law.
Not sure why I bother to post!
Vicki, your apology to Gretchen and support of her in Vegas was a side of you I didn't know existed. I think Gretchen feels she doesn't owe you an apology because the whole relationship started with you being mean to her and it extended to Slade etc. And you also started the fight at the Bunko party. Yes, she could have apologized as well, but I think she felt it would be phony.
When it came to your reaction to Brianne's marriage I was disappointed in your reaction. It did seem to be all about you once again. Brianna even said they planned on having a traditional wedding which is coming up. I can understand not being thrilled with the news, but she and Ryan were so obviously happy you, as her mother, owed it to her to be happy for her. You're supposed to be the mature one!
Hope to see more of the forgiving Vicki the rest of the season.
All of my dreams for my only daughter's BIG DAY were taken away from me in an instant....many times controlling mother's daughters elope...
Vicki - I just can't believe you at times! (ie: The "Bomb") I've raised 5 kids - Three girls and two boys. The big thing I've learned that once they turn 18, it is no longer your job to TELL them what to do. You can provide them advice and guidance, but with the caveat "These are the things I would consider, or the direction I would take, BUT the decision is yours." You can yank on the lead rope of a well trained horse and they will stiffen and pull back every time. However, you can give them some slack and encouragement and they will follow! Imagine That!
Finally, their wedding is NOT about you. It IS about them. Keep that in mind and how about learning to chill out a little! YOU'LL be much happier and live a better life.
I am not a huge fan but I felt for you it must have been difficult to have your daughter's wedding news sprung on you. Glad to hear that you've worked through it.
I love you Vicki and wish you the best with Brooks. Congratulations to your daughter and I am glad you finally accepted her wishes.
I have to tell you Vicki, you held back when the bomb was dropped. I could see the humiliation and embarrassment that you felt. I was furious with Briana and I have to say- that was the stupidest way she could have told you. It was almost like she was saying "we got married, and there is nothing you can do about it, HA HA". It was so disrespectful to you. I love that you made up with Gretchen and Sarah. You are a very classy lady and you deserve the best. Good luck with Brooks and tell Tamra to mind her own business and stop keeping an eye on him. She needs to grow up.
Vicki, when you offer an apology, you lay it at the person's doorstep and leave it at that. They may or may not accept the apology--it's their choice. They may or may not apologize back. You were out of line for insisting that Gretchen apologize back right away. That's not a gracious, unconditional way to do it.
Vicki, I have watched the OC housewives since the beginning and I love the way you are with your children (over protective) but, now let us the viewers be overprotective wity you... Please, watch yourself with your new beau!!!! I am a southern gal, and just letting you know he's NOT the one for you... YOU, deserve so much more then a man who stands back and feeds off from his girlfriends sidekicks... Blessings to you, marinegirl62
You seem real happy this season with brooks.do not let any of the women bring you down.alexis always is lifting people up.she will be there for you.gretchen did her wrong.this season i hate the bullying and gretchen is so self absorbed and full of drama.vicki and lexie are favs.bravo print for vicki please.
Just let me start by saying I admire your work ethics! I too am a very hard working women. I have not accomplished what you have financially, but I work two jobs for the last 4 years. I am a mother of four, and constantly worry about there well being.
As for your daughter getting married without you, I would be mortified too! I think it is very wise of you to support her and be there for her no matter what. I enjoy watching the show and wish the best for you and yours!
It is terribly unfortunate that in the moment when she shared her big news, you made it about yourself. That is very sad.
Congratulations to your daughter and her new husband!! May she have a long happy life with her husband. Enjoy the upcoming celebration!!
As usual, everything in everyone's life is about you. Your daughter got married because of her brush with death and Ryan being away at war. They didn't want to waste time.... So they got married.....and didn't need your permission. I am so happy for her and how she did it without you.
Vicki, I have to say I like you was trying to figure out what Briana was going to tell you. I was completely blown away when she said she was married, I was dead certain she was going to say she was moving. I truly felt your pain, and I commend you for your reaction, because I would've blown a gasket:) Gretchen really should have apologized to you immediately after toy apologized, it was quite pathetic you had to ask. It should've came naturally to her. As far as Allexis is concerned age really truly should give up the hosting gig. I don't think she even realizes how HORRIBLE she really is at it. Its embarrassing to watch, then it makes ne sick when ppl tell her she's good at it. Seriously people, why? Why lie to her, just be honest. The more ppl tell her she's good at ir
I accidently sent the first comment and it wasn't finished. Oops. Lol anyhow what I was saying is. The more ppl that tell Allexis she's good at hosting the more she's going to start to believe it. That's really sad to me bc she's embarrassing herself. Ok on another note, Vicki have fun at the Derby. I wish I could see you, I'm right across the river:) However, I cannot go to the Derby bc I don't have the money, and I have to work, but you should come across the river b4 you leave and go to Belterra Casino Resort and Spa:) Its really nice. I'll be following you very closely on twitter the next few days to see if you're gonna go to Belterra or not:-)Mike could use his poker skills to win some money from them:) Tell him I said good luck at the tournament. He'll be great I'm sure. The Charity he's playing for is awesome. Hillary Duff also supports that charity bc she was the Grand Marshall at the Kentucky Speedway a cpl yrs ago and she held a bicycle race around the track and the money earned went to that charity. It's such a great cause, feeding hungry children, are the best charities. I say that bc I was one of them children when I was little. I always looked forward to going to school just so I could eat lunch. I dreaded the wknds bc I knew I wouldn't eat. So I really hope Michael wins. Until next wk, Much love xoxo Jlynn
I'm so proud of you Vicki. I never comment but I had to this time as this was the most mature, truly honest blog I believe you've ever written. You looked at "the big picture" in your own words and it seemed to heal you. Wonderful. Keep it up in all aspects of your life. Bravo ;)
What an excellent blog! You touched on every aspect of your complex but not more settled life. All the best to Briana and Ryan! They are right, life is short and so go for it when you find love. Definitely going to check out your website for the Wine. Enjoy Louisville and the Derby!
I just watched your segment with Brianna and Ryan telling you they got married in Vegas. Ironically, we just went through the exact same thing. Our son, a Marine, came home at Christmas with his wife. We didn't know they were married until they got off the plane (suspected though) and had gotten married in July in Vegas. Vicki -- it is NOT about you! It is about Brianna and Ryan. Wow! He is serving his country and you will NEVER know that feeling of being a mom with a child in harms way EVERY single day. Our son is serving in Afghanistan at this point while his wonderful wife keeps "the home fires burning". We, too, have had loved ones with cancer -- unfortunately, we lost 2 way too young! (one a 2 1/2 year old from brain cancer). Hang onto your daughter and her Husband! QUIT making it all about you. Always pretty much disagreed with everyone that you make everything about you until this episode...SEMPER FI!!!
I really like you Vicki, but I have to say you are completely wrong on Briana getting married. It is not about you. she had a scare with cancer and is ok, celebrate that and be happy for her. Have a great celebration and move on. I felt bad for Briana that you wouldn't share in her happiness.
Does thus mean brianna is the newest housewife of orange county!:) ? In changes in life always take time to adjust to, so I'm happy to read that you ladies are on that path. You didn't say anything about Tamara in this blog? Why is she not happy for u and brooks? You weren't like that about Eddie . Do you think Tamara would still "love" eddie if he lost his job? Cause it seems like that's why she left Simon . And why she didn't like slade and why she has an issue with brooks. Let me see Eddie lose his job, and see if he still remains "the love of her life" :0P
I can understand your reaction to the Vegas wedding scenario! I was also surprised how long it took for you to handle it. Of course you were hurt and felt betrayed, but you should never be too upset with your children's decisions because you raised them! Hopefully happiness will reign and life will be close to beautiful. I hope you and Brooks find happiness as well. He is unique.
Hi Vicki, Lovely blog! :) so glad that you and Brianna have worked past the initial issues of her shotgun wedding. As she said, life's too short! I think you were right to expect an apology from Gretchen. It was just a casual "sorry" to smooth over what had happened and she should have complied with you. You really went out of your way to get her a gift and be supportive. I like Gretchen, but she does enjoy playing the victim. Hopefully for the rest of the season you'll be be able to move forward and put past agruments behind you both.
All the best x