Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki discusses adult friendships and defends Brooks.

on Feb 24, 20120

2. Brooks got behind in child support and was arrested. Neither Brooks nor I have denied that and it is terribly humiliating and embarrassing to him.

3. Because Brooks is dating me (which equates to being on camera), he has had to publicly face the backlash from press and people, which he did not want.

4. I do not condone fathers who don't support their children. It is not only a financial responsibility to support your children, but also requires emotional, spiritual, and physical support. When the financial difficulty hit Brooks he more than made up in the other areas of their lives.

5. I have been a single mom and a recipient of an ex-husband who did not consistently financially assist me in supporting Mike and Briana. Not only did my ex-husband abandon my children emotionally, but also he did spiritually and physically. I would never encourage or be with a deadbeat dad because of my personal experience raising Michael and Briana. I therefore understand both sides, but ultimately it's not only the father's responsibility to raise and provide for their children, it's also the mother's. When my ex-husband could not assist me in supporting our children, I picked up the slack and became more creative on how I could support them on my own. I didn't lie down and expect another man to come in and support them for me, nor did I lie down and depend on the government to support me. Read more about this in my book at MoreThanaHousewifeBook.com

I could continue on and on about this, but at the end of the day I just want everyone to know that there are TWO sides to every story. Brooks is an amazing man and father, or I wouldn't be with him. End of discussion.

123 comments
VAGRAND
VAGRAND

Vickie, I enjoyed reading your blog and recognize that as a human being we are ever revolving. I do believe that some of the comments are harsh, and viewed in one dimension I could agree with a lot that has been said. However, what you are being accused of is just what these bloggers are doing.....judging without all of the facts. I agree with you about deadbeat dads, and I think that Slade should pay attention to his own children. Without financial , emotional, spiritual support, you are merely a sperm donor. I'm sure that there is much more to Brooks' arrest than what meets the eye. i.e., Internet Research.

I wish you peace and best wishes to Briana for good health.

DDp
DDp

Vickie you should leave the show you are one big embarrassment to yourself!.

Alison Glasgow scotland
Alison Glasgow scotland

Vikki.. I love u for being so honest, there is no bull**** with u and that's great!! U keep going woo hoo!!!!! X

wheets
wheets

Hope Brianna is doing well and had good news...no cancer. However, you are a drama queen and as many posters commented, self centered. It is always about you. As a mom you needed to show strength and not make Briannna have to support you. Vicki, you seem to have a selective memory regarding your behavior over the last few seasons. It must be nice to sugar coat your meaness and rewrite history. Get over yourself....you got rid of Don and now have yourself a real winner in Brooks. You sounded so ridiculous telling him what to pack and bossing him around. Hate to tell you this, you are a middle age woman trying to look younger than you are and nothing he could wear could make you look worse than some of the outfits you wear. While I am on here, your behavior would make me pull my business from you and I am surprised you have any new clients/

Dallas22
Dallas22

Nice back paddle on the child support issue. You slammed Slade for that any chance you got....don't blame you for that but at least admit you deserve whatever he has to say....sweet revenge for Slade....sucks for you but that's what happens when you yak, yak, yak....

Viewer245
Viewer245

Vicky, you've made fun of Gretchen because of Slade. Now, the tables have turned toward you and it's not fun, is it? Don't judge someone until you have walked a mile in their shoes.

boater
boater

The Karma boat is at the dock and it's payback time! Your nothing more than a lying hypocrite!!! You owe both Slade and Gretchen a public apology! I never cared you much right from the beginning of season 1 and now I can't stand to even watch you this season. Own up to your actions!!!!!! How does it feel being in the hot seat??? Love your daughter though and am praying all goes well with her health.

Dei
Dei

Vicki, 60 percent of American citizens don't have health insurance or any way to pay their hospitol bills, so until you can look at your daughter and say "I can't afford to pay for your treatment", you do not know how most of America lives!! I apploud the fact that you have money but I wish more people like you would try to make a defirice instead of poke fun at each other for life's mistakes!!! Wish you all were better people...

Sloths
Sloths

Room for sloths in here. Vicky glad you are positive even through trying times. Forget these boneheads in here, their nasty negative comments stay with them all day, now thats justice right there. Its just a show, a heavily edited one at that, if they only knew the reality of it boy would they feel stupid! Ha. Love you keep smiling.

Viewerlola22
Viewerlola22

Vicki, I just wanted to add something to the comments on this post because seriously.. why is everyone so harsh towards you! You have always been one of my favorite housewives because you seem real. Everyone handles extreme and emotional situations in different ways and most of the time we don't handle them "correctly." In every relationship each couple has their own problems to deal with that are completely different from anyone else s relationship issues! Of course there is drama, and s--t-talking but duh! it is a show about women! what the heck do all of these people think would happen- that is what makes the show so entertaining to watch! I'm sure what happened with Don was completely necessary given YOUR circumstances and everyone should just back off... sometimes things don't work. Dealing with your divorce, your daughter being sick, and the bull Slade said is a lot. Why don't people realize that? I think that what Slade said was disrespectful to everyone involved and mostly Gretchen. She should NOT put up with that, but also that weird guy at the bunk o party should have shut-up! Don't let all of these negative comments keep you down because there are a lot of watchers out there who believe you are real! At the end of the day you are the only one who knows why you make the decisions you make, sometimes they aren't right in the long run, but at the time they make sense. As long as you can lay in bed at night and know that you are doing the very best you can (which it seems like you are, given everything) then screw the sh---talkers! WOOOOOOHHOOOOO!!! :)

Barbara Sara
Barbara Sara

I had to laugh when you said, "I don't like to discuss body parts, etc." (don't remember your EXACT words) and remember you saying in one episode to a male friend of yours, "My boobs want to come out and play....". REALLY?....

Jer19
Jer19

Don't listen to all of these negative people. I couldn't agree with you more, it was wrong what Gretchen and Slade did. Brianna is in my prayers, just as you are.

Amazed Viewer
Amazed Viewer

Vicki..Seriously....In the years watching this show I have never seen you exhibit as you quoted in your blog...hmm editing maybe? Shame on you!! "My feeling and beliefs are simple and true to my core. Treat others as you wish to be treated, try to look at the glass as half-full -- and not half-empty, hug someone that you just met, be forgiving instead of judgmental, smile a lot -– it will confuse "them," save more and spend less, be honest and don't lie, and do a little "Woo Hoo" once in a while."

momc
momc

Since you haven't blogged in a while, I am addressing the issues from the latest episode. How dare you attack Gretchen and Slade, when you are the one who started in on how Slade was a deadbeat dad. Now the shoe is on the other foot, and your boyfriend has been arrested TWICE for not paying child support. You owe Slade an apology, PERIOD! It is not OK since you are dating a deadbeat dad to suddenly think you are not to be talked about. Shame on you, you are so materialistic and self-centered it makes me sick. And by the way, you do look like Miss Piggy (own it), and Miss Piggy has never felt insulted when made fun of! I am sorry about Brianna's health issues, and everyone will be praying for a good outcome for her.

Amazed Viewer
Amazed Viewer

Seriously!!!!!...I don't think I have in all the years watching this show seen you exhibit what you quote "My feeling and beliefs are simple and true to my core. Treat others as you wish to be treated, try to look at the glass as half-full -- and not half-empty, hug someone that you just met, be forgiving instead of judgmental, smile a lot -– it will confuse "them," save more and spend less, be honest and don't lie, and do a little "Woo Hoo" once in a while. Well maybe too many Woo Hoos.....shame on you!!!

All the best Brianna
All the best Brianna

Vickie, I just happened upon the repeat of last week's show and saw the scene w/ Brianna discussing her upcoming surgery. As I type this, I realize that she has most likely already had it. However, I just want to wish her all the best for a full recovery. She really seems to be a lovely young lady in every way. She remains in my prayers.

T in Texas
T in Texas

Gretchen is with SLade because he's a good man . But you couldn't see that , through all the crap talking you were doing of them both . If I were you , I'd be so emabarrassed ! ! ! PERIOD !

dani2010
dani2010

Vicki: what was you thinking with the situation with Eddie, I thought it was rude, and as far as that goes what happened with the no pt (Public Touching) bit that you had with Brooks. Then next thing I see is you all touchy feely with Eddie--Not Cool. I can fully understand why Tamra got upset, You as her friend should have known better and knocked it off once Tamra and Brooks started making their comments.

JK
JK

When were you welcoming to someone you just met? I missed it.

Iris007
Iris007

You were not a single parent raising your kids alone. You did have Don there. You are actually quite selfish! I may not know you personally but from your blogs; the world must revolve around Vicki. You need to give Don some credit on raising your children.

Lainie L
Lainie L

Vicki good for you for taking the higher road. Gretchen ans Slade took the low road. I get it!

Sharon from NY
Sharon from NY

I love the comment about how you like to have your crow served. It is so obvious that you are threatened by Tamra being friends with Gretchen. You seem worried that you will not have a friend to be mean with you. I think you are worried they will treat you like you treated Gretchen last season. As for your excuses about your boyfriend, well no one wants to hear it. His relationship and financial situation with his children is private. But when the shoe was on the other foot, you were not kind enough to say the same thing about Slade.

What does lonely feel like?

Kimber707
Kimber707

Vicki.... prayers with your daughter. Your daughter shouldn't have to comfort you during the time she needs you most. It is not her job to worry about saying the word "cancer." You were imature regarding Gretchen & Tamara. Tamara never did anything to you & you said things about Slade not paying child support then u go & date a man who went to jail for the very same thing. It is being hypocritical of you. You are out of line. Your expetation reminds me of someone I knew VERY well so I spot it easy because I had to go through it with someone. It is sad because you do have a good work ethic. Maybe now you will see how it feels.

not a registered user
not a registered user

Vicki, This is my first time writing to anyone I don't personally know, but I had to after watching your painting party evening. First of all, people are going to call you whatever it is that they are feeling of themselves most often when the person saying it is closest to you. I noticed when Gretchen expressed your shoe painting as being the best, Tamara had to climb on Gretchen because she knows she's got more to lose as a friendship with Gretchen than you ever will, its obvious who the jealous girl is....sorry Tamara but I call's them as I see's them. I've been watching your show since it started I think, and Im proud of you, not to mention the fact that you really do crack me up. Best of luck to you and Brooks, he really seems like someone who is good for you.

piperoni
piperoni

you and alexis are so funny and our favs this year.hope you guys interact more this season.love that you both believe in family values.and that you both talk about your faith and the lord.

real hw in sc
real hw in sc

looks like you are the one who can only have one friend at a time. You sure turned your back on Jeana when Tamra started "hating on her". You to me are false and two faced, If it is not about you, you are not interested. Look back through all of the years you have been on this show, Shallow, self centered and will trash anyone if you think it benifits you. Not my favorite.

kristy martinez
kristy martinez

your such a hypocrite. you owe slade and gretchen a major apology. end of discussion. PERIOD. u changed...

Viewer1234
Viewer1234

Vicki - I am really admiring a lot of your fashion choices this season and am particularly crazy about the top and earrings that you wore to the painting party. Would you mind providing the details of who each of these are by or where they were purchased?

CaliforniaWoman
CaliforniaWoman

Vicki, I really used to enjoy watching you on the show but last year and this year it is very difficult. When Tamara was telling you last week about her and Gretchen's relationship is building you just kept shaking your head and saying "It's just weird". I truly don't enjoy your behavior anymore. Watching you with your daughter was not fun either. She needed your support and you were just childish at the word "Cancer". That is not supportive and made her feel uncomfortable. It is not her job to make you feel better about the situation, you are the mother and should help make her feel better. I am telling you, you are selfish.

Nicole L.
Nicole L.

Karma Bus in coming after Vicki!

AirportsMadeSimple.com
AirportsMadeSimple.com

Vicki - don't listen to the haters. People with not enough to do! I don't know how you manage all you do PLUS show it on TV. DDK

bravo fan from PA
bravo fan from PA

I do wish your daughter all the best-I think she's really a fantastic gal! She's very mature, polite and kind. I am sure she's scared, but she is one strong lady!

I do think this is going to be your season to eat crow.... Someone at Bravo should ask you how you like it best served?

Aloha808
Aloha808

YOU ARE BLESSED WITH A TRULY WONDERFUL DAUGHTER. SHE IS A GOOD PERSON AND CLEARLY LOVES YOU. MY CONCERN IS THAT YOU COULD PRESSURE HER TOO MUCH TO THE POINT THAT SHE MAY END UP EXCLUDING YOU FROM SOME OF HER IMPORTANT LIFE EVENTS JUST TO 'BE FREE' FROM YOUR CONTROL. VICKI YOU OBVIOUSLY CARE A LOT-AND ARE A GREAT MOM-BUT SOMETIMES YOU ARE TOO 'OVER THE TOP' AND I CAN SEE WHY YOUR DAUGHTER MIGHT FEEL LIKE SHE NEEDS TO BREAK FREE!!!

Shod
Shod

Thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Briana's health is the most important thing. NOTHING else matters....mattering least of all is Slade Smiley's opinion.

And, if you replay the game tapes at the reunion show, you did not join in on Tamra's attempt to involve Slade's ex. I also find it interesting that Slade hates you so much, but didn't bat an eye when trying to scam some free storage in the house you were trying to sell a few years ago. People seem to have forgotten that.

Loyal Viewer
Loyal Viewer

Vicki - all my prayers for your baby girl...she and YOU are both an inspiration. I'm routing for you girls. xo

LfromBAMA
LfromBAMA

Just viewed a segment where you and your daughter are eating and shes telling you she wants you and Don to get back together.Its just my opinion and you know what they say about opinions but it appears during this time of her medical situation she wants the strength and support of you and Don"the only father shes known" to get thru .You may consider a better or team relationship between yourself and Don.If Brooks cares about you,he will have no problems standing aside for the time being for your daughter's well being so you and Don can really have a strong front for her.Right now she needs you both and deep down I think you know that.Both you and Don

Sam64
Sam64

Briana is great....I love her but I am kind of perplexed why you waited until you were way into eating before you said anything about her surgery. If you were so scared as you seemed with your silly head shaking thing then you would think you would have brought it up right away. I agree with the other blogger. you are so into working...look up some info on google what is going on with your daughter. You also looked so goofy arguing or looking confused when Briana said cold sores were herpes. It is a form of herpes. That lunch did not show you in a great light. There is more to life than insurance. Get educated.

Bennett V.
Bennett V.

Miss Piggy and her friends are media whores - plain and simple. They would roll over their mothers for media attention. The interesting thing is, what happens to them when the cameras stop rolling. How sad!

Jo Brookins
Jo Brookins

Vicki, I think you would get more respect from your fans and family if you would quit acting like someone who you are not. Quit with the stupid innocent face making and using the sign of the cross. It makes you look stupid. You are a successful intelligent woman who doesn’t need to be this way. Be you and you will get farther in life as the true Vicki.

viewer639
viewer639

Did you watch the show last year?

KatBud
KatBud

HYPOCRITE, your daughter is smarter then you, If love is what you seek, love yourself and be honest with yourself. NO ONE will ever love the way you want them to except yourself......

Day in a life
Day in a life

From your blog - "First of all, if most of you remember I did not talk about Slade, his work, or child support issues at all last year. If you recall I actually publicly apologized for commenting on something that is so personal and none of my business." If you did not talk about Slade, his work, or child support issues, then why the need for an apology?? Makes no sense...

604jackie
604jackie

I love Brianna. She is so intelligent and mature beyond her years. I think her and I could be great friends. I wish her and your family all the best during this difficult time. It is too much for any one person or family to take.

Regarding Gretchen's recent blog surrounding Slade's son who also has cancer. She completely has a point and I hope that you consider your past behaviour and comments about Slade in public and private. Be honest with yourself. You sound like a hypocrite. I think Brooks seems like a great guy and I wish you two well. To be in the same situation you so desperately trashed Gretchen for being in and how she can respect what type of man he is for allegedly not paying child support.....when the tables turn, how your story changes. Just own up Vicki. You will get so much more respect if you do. Be more compassionate to families who are going through the same as yours.

EShafer
EShafer

Vicki, please pass this on to Briana - I am 32 years old and was diagnosed with thyroid cancer by my general practitioner on a random visit to him for a sore throat. I was eternally blessed to have such a wonderful doctor and I wasn't worried in the least - it wasn't just because I have a great and loving family, husband, and community, but it was also because thyroid cancer is one of the easiest to treat and put into remission. The cells of the thyroid are unlike any other cell in the body and once they are gone, they're gone. If your cancer is eating thyroid cells, it doesn't want to eat any other cell. You'll not only be in remission soon, but that scar on your neck - that'll fade so super fast. And, girl, you're in the OC. Just get some fade cream and it goes away. If you have a good doctor, he'll cut so that your scar is on a natural crease. No one at all noticed mine. We didn't tell my grandparents about this because it would have been too hard for them, and then one day i forgot to cover the scar with anything (scarf, makeup etc) and they didn't even notice! After that, I never covered it again and NO ONE noticed except for other thyroid patients! You will get through this, you are strong, and once its done - its done! Have some fun with being radioactive for a while - I sure did! I kept my little radioactive band. Laughter is the best medicine. :) Also, if people DO notice your scar, feel free to talk about that hardcore brawl that you got into. If this is you, then imagine what the other guy must look like!!! Be a great person, like you are and have been, and hug your mom as tight as you can. Even though this is not the 'biggest deal' in the world, cancer is cancer, and mom's don't even want us to have a painful hangnail. Much love, prayer to whomever you pray to, and laughter from Erica in Oklahoma.

Teresa*
Teresa*

It must be so hard to hear that your child could have cancer. I kno Gretchen has made comments about How you should have been more sympathetic to her and Slsde because they have been thru it But for it to hit so close to home esp your daughter it would I imaginé be an Eye opener. May God be w you and your daughter and carry her thru this bad time.

Mississippi Mom
Mississippi Mom

POT meet KETTLE!!! You are unbelievable, and not in a good way!!

Mairead in Houston
Mairead in Houston

Agree with what Barbara 28 said. Also, love that you served "mud bugs" as we often call them here in Texas. I thought their squeamishness hilarious-- they probably eat lobster and caviar without batting a false eyelash.

Mairead in Houston
Mairead in Houston

I am a nurse, have worked ENT for may years. The best way for you to feel a little less frightened about your daughter's thyroid surgery is to get educated about it. People have thyroidectomies every day, and usually do just fine. Acting terrified of any medical condition doesn't help you or your daughter, who could use a little comfort and support from you right now. I hope everything goes well....please don't show up at the hospital and have a melt-down. Life is full of situations that challenge us to step up .

Mkracquel
Mkracquel

Keep up the good hard work ladies :) I love watching your show ..

Shelly M.
Shelly M.

Vicki...I have also been in the position of being a single Mother to 2 kids with no child support. I went and got my Nursing Degree and worked my way into a good position that NO matter what I could support myself & my kids. I took my ex-husband to court numerous times with no avail. Then I met my husband Robert. It was love at first sight, but I was very cautious about bringing another man into my kids life. I have always said that if I thought for one second that Robert treated my kids unfairly I was out of there. I saw it growing up and in no way would I expose my kids to that. My heart would mend, but the damage would affect my kids for a lifetime. As I said my husband, we have been married for 25 yrs and had 2 more children together. During my years of marriage not once did Robert even make the "child support" an issue. In fact he always said that if we received something then it was a bonus for the month. They are 28 -20 so know I am trying to deal with the empty nest, and it's really empty. We never keep the kids from my ex-husband. I didn't want them to grow-up and say "why didn't you let me see my Dad!". My husband NEVER made it an issue, I did! What I saw was my ex-husband Now they are adult and have made their own judgement about their "bio-Dad (that's what they chose to call him. Eventually we did start receiving child support when I went through the Child Support Enforcement in our town. He was so far behind he paid until our last daughter was 23yrs old, know that is disgraceful. Oh and I received $255.00 (only). The crap we had to endure at the hands of that man would fill a novel. Now Brooks...I am from the south and see his as nothing less that a kind, gentle, loving southern man. He might not have been able to provide financial support, but he was always there for his kids and at times there is no value you can put on that. Oh Lord I can't believe I'm going to say this...but Slade's issues with his ex(s) is his business. Dragging him through public as the tabloids have is his concerns. Even if NO "Housewives" had every spoke a word about Slade the tabloids would have found out this information and would have drug Slade through the mud anyway. Keep your head held high Vicki as you always have and concentrate on what is important, Michael, Brianna, Brooks, your business & your happiness. Shelly