When I was saying goodbye to the ladies I didn't even realize that I didn't hug Tamra goodbye. To hear her say I was jealous of Tamra and Gretchen's relationship is just silly. I told Tamra last year, I had hoped that they could be at least cordial to one another and I encouraged her to stop all that nonsense. To say I'm jealous is the farthest thing from my mind. I have many, many "best friends" that you the viewers never meet and never have any of them been jealous of each other. I mean really. . .we are in our 40s. Why can't we have many friends versus just one? I feel Tamra is the type of friend that focuses on one friend at a time, and then tends to find faults in the others to alienate them from the group. You can see that happening this year again. It seems every year she is mad at someone or trying to find fault in someone, which I just don't understand.
My view on friendships is plain and simple. Have many of them, treat them with respect, laugh with them, learn from them, encourage them, be true to them, truly have their "back," and hopefully grow old with them. I wish and pray that Tamra and Gretchen will have a friendship that will last a lifetime. I think they are very much alike and that if they have chosen to truly "bury the hatchet," then they are both doing the right thing. But to state publicly they are BFFs right out of the gate is a little odd. . .
Now the subject everyone seems to be talking about this season is BROOKS. I am saddened and appalled that Gretchen and Slade felt it important to bring Brooks child support issues up. First of all, if most of you remember I did not talk about Slade, his work, or child support issues at all last year. If you recall I actually publicly apologized for commenting on something that is so personal and none of my business. I did not condone Tamra calling Grayson's mom when we were filming the reunion last year to discuss his personal and financial issues. It was NONE of my business or Tamra's, and I found it terribly disrespectful and felt it crossed the line. Now that I am dating Brooks, I guess Gretchen and Slade feel I'm a good target to hit because of Brooks' past situation. I think it's best to state the FACTS:
1. Brooks children are his utmost priority in his life. It is for this reason that I respect and love him so immensely. PERIOD. He loves his children with all of his might and sees his children as much as possible. He is not a deadbeat dad.
A paint-by-number paper! I wanted to kow how ALL of you painted the exact same shoe on a box.
Yours looked the best!
I can't believe what a fan I've become of yours! So glad you opened your eyes and see everyone for who they are, good or bad. Nice thatyou have stopped kissing Tamra's rude behind!
I AM LOOKING FORWORD TO THE UP COMING SEASON.IT DOES T LOOKK LIKE YOUR PAL IS RETURNNING ,I LOVED GINA.SHE IS VERY DOWN TO EARTH.I HOPE SHE FINDS SOMEONE AND BE HAPPY.
I hope we see you living out that last paragraph this year. I can't say I've seen those characteristics in you in past seasons.
Vicki ~ I have always liked you since day 1 of the housewives. However, I must say that i do believe there were some things that came out of your mouth in regards to Slade and his child support. Please, re-watch the reunion. You did play the part with Tamra. With that being said, I can completely understand how Slade and Tamara feel now that you are dating a man who actually went to jail for the same thing that you and Tamara have been slamming them about for the whole last season. You played the part last year with Tamara and now you need to step up and own it and move forward. If this new guy, Brooks, is who makes you happy then you need to deal with all that comes with him, that includes the past. I wish you all the best, I do really enjoy watching you on the show, you are real and I love what you have done to make sure that your children were raised well. I give you props for that, I loved your x-husband!
WHAT?! I'm sorry, I missed your "public apology" to Slade for being judgemental about his situation. When was that done? The reunion? Nope, I saw that show and don't remember that one. In fact . . . I can't remember you ever apologizing to anyone for your flagrant double standards.
I'm actually a little concerned for your sanity. Maybe it's time to see someone about your failing memory.
So tell us what happened when you apologized to Slade. You crucified him (along with Tamara) almost since the show began but especially calling him a deadbeat dad and now Brooks is the guy who, in reality, didn't pay child support and ended up in jail. You were on a mercilous campaign to trash Slade and Gretchen (and their relationship) which is none of your business. When I watched the reruns from the beginning of the show you were a different person. You have thrown away all that is important in ones life just for your 15 minutes of fame. You had a great friend in Jeanna and a wonderful guy in Don and you tossed them aside like they didn't matter. You and Tamara are two of a kind - always in attack/judgmental mode. You both owe Slade (and Gretchen) and apology and one would hope that you've already done that. I have no reservation in knowing that you and Tamara will end up attacking each other - you're all you have left. It's a shame--you could have been so much more of a person but you elected to go the wrong route.
Vicki, I do like you and I actually like Tamara. She can be a little "meanie", but I think a lot of what is taking as her being mean is just her sense of humor. She is always herself. (the good, the bad and the ugly) You all take yourselves way to seriously. (except Tamara) She knows she acts out some and owns it. Almost eveyone I know has said something about a friend behind their back that shouldn't have said. It's different when you get to see it played out on TV and see it. Sometimes it's just better not to know. As long as it is not someone outside of the "group" or some deep dark secret there should be no harm, no foul. It's a different story when it is someone that doesn't know the other party.(just my opinion) I would not want to be Alexis friend. She is soooo fake and I'm sorry but both of your faces had jealousy written all over them when it came to Tamara and Gretchen. Alexis even said in the back of the limo that she would have a problem with them being friends. It's Gretchen and Tamara's decision and neither of them should have to worry about a reaction from either of you if you are truly their friend. P.S. Tamara talks about sex around you just to get your reaction. You are so funny when she talks about it and she does it cause she can:)
I love to watch you and hope you Never leave the show. Your expressions alone, just crack me up. I think you are the total package. You are smart, successful and have a great attitiude. I wish The Real Housewives of Orange County was on every night.
Why they keep you on this show is beyond me. I guess you're the comic relief. You might consider drinking less--it might help your skin and weight issues. As far as your screeching voice, I think it's too late to try to do anything about that. Your ex must be shouting Woo-hoo to have gotten rid of you.
I usually am a huge fan of yours, but couldn't believe how rude your comments were to Tamree regarding her name. Didn't expect that and then, you just went on & on about it. And as much as others may love your expressions, eh..your constant wide eyed, head twisting startled looks when comments are made that surprise you, well..it's getting old.
Vicki you seem like a lot of fun. I've watched the RHOC since the 1st season. I have seen you change throughout. Sometimes I agree with what you say and sometimes I think you are way too judgmental and jump to conclusions even when you do not know the whole story. It is interesting to see you defend your boyfriend who has been to jail for not paying child support yet in past seasons, you must admit you crucified Slade without even knowing the details of his situation. Thank you for your attempt to defend your bf, who I think is actually quite sweet. But that does not get you off the hook for what you have done to Slade and Gretchen. I don't recall a public apology. What I do recall is how cruel and unforgiving you were to Slade. His child has a serious medical history, but I don't think you give a hoot.
I think Gina was always a good friend to you and the way you turned your back on her over what? Something about mixing pleasure with business. For you to support Tamra in what she did to Gina throwing paper and wine at her showed your true colours. You shouldn't be surprised when Tamra turns her back on you. Maybe she'll be BFFs with Gretchen and that would just embarrass you to the nines.
I am so glad to read your blog after I just watched the episode that was aired earlier in the week. I knew that things just werent what they seemed on this episode. I was thinking OMG !!! anyhow, I am a 51yr old swf, I am just now trying to build something for retirement....... u r my fav OCHW
vicki i think you look happier this year.i am excited to see were alexis and your relationship goes.i think brooks and jim would get along.slade and jim got along and now tamra is ripping gretchen away only to be friends with her.i do not like tamras mouth.if all could be friends.i remember jeana saying tamra could only have one friend at a time.last season was peggy. year before lynn.this season gretchen.i do not have a problem with gretchen forgiving it is about if she drops other friends to do it.lex did try and get those girls together quit a bit.i think you and lex and heather do have more in common as far as .you 3 do not have valgur mouths.you and alexis luv family and do not mind speaking of the lord which we luv.i think tamra is picking on alexis this year.tamra i think is insecure.i hate bullying and gaining on one.heathers seems fine so far.only her first season she will see how the oc rolls.glad peggy gone.wish jeana would take tamras place if there is a season 8.you and alexis god bless.we will see how sarah plays out.you and alexis are both very confident.she is far from phony.i said last season vic and lex have quit a few thinks in common.now look everything this season changing.bye!print this please to vicki and brooks.luv your name brooks.are son is named brooks awesome name.
Viccki-I have like you since the start of the show and still do though you have given me reason not to. I think the lesson to be learned for ALL of us when it comes to judgements, is to keep our mouths shut. You crucified Slade for not paying support when you didn't know the actual details. Now Brooks is being judged for not paying support AND has done jail time for it and you defend and support him. Why? Because you believe he is a good person and Dad, just as Gretchen feels about Slade. Lesson learned I hope! Don't judge people when you don't know their business. We can all learn from this lesson. I've realized it's just best to stay out of others business even when they ask for your opinion. No one wants to hear others run down the man or person they love. It's best to love our friends and let them live their own lives even if it isn't what you "think is best for them.
When Slade and Gretchen were talking about your boyfriend and what happened last yr I wanted to scream at the TV. Love Tamra but she is the one that kept bringing up Slade being a deadbeat dad so of course this confuses the hell out of me. Gretchen failed to bring this up. Slade saying he didn't get arrested but Brooks did meant nothing to me... every state handles child support differently and unfortnately Brooks got one of the bad punishments. I've seen fathers that struggle financially try so hard to keep up. Even when they lose their jobs they are still owing money they dont have!
The painting party made me cringe. I don't like the fact that Tamra was trying to push your buttons. She hid the friendship from you so your feelings wont get hurt but then turns around and does that the second she came clean about it??Doesn't make any sense!
You do not strike me as the type of woman that would get involved with a man that is not your financial equal. While many of us have gone through tough times recently, you have always prided yourself on the fact that you haven't. I sure hope that you don't let Brooks move in with you like Gretchen did with Slade. There is nothing worse than a successful woman financing a man, because they desperately want a boyfriend.
Please do not tell us that you went through a reorg at your office and you hired Brooks...
Vicki, I'm glad to see you have changed your ways, but you owe Slade an apology. I don't agree with him demeaning the other women and bringing up dirt, but he is still very hurt from before. You certainly made some comments to him at the reunion to "back up" Tamra. Slade is the one bringing up Brooks in return. I can't help thinking that if you hadn't dealt with the same problem as Slade, you would still be holier than thou. Where is the real Vicki? Hopefully she is a nicer person than before. Nevertheless, I like you a lot better this season, and I hope you JUDGE less. I like a clean slate, I just hope the new Vicki is here to stay.
Im not sure what RH show you are watching- but the ones I have watched you had a LOT to say about Slade. I call this Karma. Do we believe you didn't realize you left with hugging everyone except Tamara? Heck NO! The fact that you wrote what you did about her having one friend at a time spells out your jealousy loud and clear. I personally think you're better off without being Tamara's best friend- I find her trashy. I like Brooks and hope you're happy.
Vicki, Sorry not buying. You were definitely bothered by Tamra and Gretchen reconnecting. You and Alexis then showed how much it bothered you both. If you both wanted this soooo much you would have been tickled pink. But no, you hugged Alexis goodbye and everyone else, gave Tamra the cold shoulder and hautily left. That is truly what happened. Now Tamra is playing it over the top, as she plays everything else but don't think she and Gretchen know how to act about it really. So be happy with your new boyfriend, which people think is too fast after getting out of your marriage. You are a work in progress.
I have not always been a fan of yours, nor am I now, but I do continually try to like you. That being said, I just want to let you know how sick I am of hearing how wonderful Don was. Does no one remember the mean side of him that would occasionally peak out? He made very rude comments about Gretchen at Peggy's dinner party last season, and in front of friends he called you a B#@&!. No man I know of strong moral character would do that. I have a feeling that perhaps behind closed doors and off the camera that Don was not so easy to live with, but he knew just how to make himself look like the good guy and you the bad guy in your relationship when the camera was rolling. Sorry, but I just had to get that off my chest. Let me end by saying two cliches I have learned to live by that has made my life much better - 1. Think about what you say about someone, because you rarely regret the things you did not say and 2. develop and more tender heart and a thicker skin. Much luck to you and your future.
Hi Vicki It breaks my heart to hear about the new developments regarding Brianna's health. Hope things work out for her. She hasn't had it easy.
As far as Brook's concerned, make all the excuses in the world for him if you want. Not buying it. It's your life but it's disappointing to see you settling for someone like him. Be careful. You don't want him using you financially. Watch Judge Judy. It happens all the time. TC
Vickie... I have watched you since the first season. The following seasons have changed alot. In that first season, all involved were friends and had a good time. I know that it made the viewing boring but we still had the insight of the real housewife. As for you not slamming Slade last season, go back to alot of your interviews. The truth will hit you in the face, sorry. I am not condoling anyones actions but if you watched the episode, you would realize that Gretchen did say that she wants to drop all the drama and get along with everyone and that she made a mistake in telling Slade about Brooks. What Slade will do with that information is not Gretchen's fault. He is his own man and will do as he pleases. Remember how controlling he was over Jo? I do not think he has changed so much. I have not seen a husband on any of the housewives show that I have liked yet. I know they are apart of the lives of you women but if its not money, its the men you all are arguing over. How much acting goes on compared to the real life of you housewives is there? Seems like when all is going well someone wants more air time, all they have to do is cause a scene and they have their air time. Please don't get it wrong, I love watching all of the housewives, even my 2 daughter-in-laws are into them now, lol. Stay true to yourself and have a more opened mind to those around you. Kathy
Vicki~ maybe you didn't SAY anything about Slade's child support issues last year, but the fact that you just sat there and didn't even try to stop Tamra from spewing her venom at Slade during the reunion show, was just as bad. Every word of what Tamra said could have been slung right back at Brooks and you did NOTHING like a coward. Your past behaviour doesn't jive with your current relationship whatsoever. It is inconsistent and over-the-top hypocritical. I don't blame Slade for holding a grudge and you deserve the backlash. I'm surprised that your relationship has lasted as long as it has, it's very obvious that you're ashamed of Brooks' past and even the way he dresses, by the sound of things, but i guess it's true that desperate people do desperate things.
The thing I dislike about your new boyfriend is that he apparently is already allowing you to "call the shots" - in other words, you've castrated another man. To call him before the trip to Catalina and say, "wear one of the shirts I got you, and the jeans" and don't forget a ball hat and sunglasses...just b.s. Were his clothes so unsatisfactory you had to purchase shirts and jeans sfor him -- and can't the man pack for himself? And your double standard for dead beat dads is appalling. Having said that, I admire your work ethic.
Hi Vicki...just a couple of quick things. First, you have ALWAYS been my favorite housewife of all the franchises. I love your work ethic, your girlfriend ethic, you parental ethic, and have always admired how hard you work and devote yourself to each area of your life. Yet, you are also a BLAST and have a great sense of humor. I would not be watching the OC if it weren't for you. You are also very forgiving and are always ready to give someone the benefit of the doubt. Your heart has always shone through.
I wish you the very best in your relationship with Brooks. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
there are two sides to every story unless it is YOU telling one side of it. You are truly the most two-faced of any housewife on any of the show. Now that your boyfriend is having the same issues as Gretchen's boyfriend, you make excuses. Did you forget all the eye rolling and mouth gaping open you did when Tamra and Gretchen were having fun together? Look at how many of YOUR friendships have ended in the course of the show.
I 100% agree with Maggie's Mom!!!! You totally owe Slade a HUGE apology because you did say to the camera last season "Pay your child support!" among other things. I hope you keep Tamra @ arm's length because she is someone who will pull you down. She might not care about her own reputation (CLEARLY), but as a business owner, I would think that you do.
HI Vicki! I've missed you..so glad you're back and still classy as ever. Please stay real and don't cave into the high school drama unfolding this year. I wish you happiness and blessings on your new love.
Vicki I very much respect you and admire what you have done with your life. In turn I respect that you would pick a partner that is respectable as well. I am a single mother of three young boys. Their father skips out on child support constantly so I have realized I need to just depend on myself to give them a good life and be prosperous! I enjoy watching the rest of the season!
PU-LEASE! You were so nasty to Gretchen and now you are in the same boat trying to act like you're innocent. Get outta here already. sick of you.
Vicky, it's seems like you are avoiding the issue... it's on camera, you did say terrible things about Slade and the childsupport issue. Now that you are in the same boat... you are trying to come across like, "oh, well, this is different" It is different, Slade didn't spend time in jail. I'm not saying that Brooks isn't a great guy, but you need to watch who you drag thru the mud, because it seems you bite you in the butt more often then not.
Vicki Gunvalson-2010 "Speaking of Slade, we have never had a "real reason" not to like each other and I actually don't know how it even started. Bottom line is I have NO respect for the man. I was a single mother of two children who never received child support when I got divorced. For Slade to be jumping around from red carpet event to traveling and NOT providing for his children is wrong! I don't understand how Gretchen supports that in a man. I sure hope she doesn't have children with him with four children that he elects not to support. We'll see how much she condones his actions then!"
These are your words Vicki! I simply cut and paste them from the blog you wrote after the season 5 renuion. Why is it okay for you to have an opinion about Grethen's personal life, but it's not okay for her to have one about yours? Why is it okay for you to discuss Slade's personal issues, but it's not okay for them to discuss yours when you have found yourself in the exact same boat?? As a 40something year old woman, you really have to be more thoughtful about the things you say before you speak. You are beginning to sound like a hypocrite defending Brooks. There is no defense for not taking care of your children. When women "fall on hard times" they have to find a way to support their children or their children don't eat! Brooks's chioces are indefensible. Stop trying.
All I can say is...Donn is one lucky guy! I sure hope his new girlfriend appreciates him because you never did.
Vicki, I think you need to watch the reunion from last season. You did criticize Slade and now that you are in the same situation everything is suddenly different. You may want to believe everythng you said in your blog, but your actions speak louder than your words. It's time you take a good look at your behavior and stop criticizing others!
I am glad to see so many posts from viewers with good memories regarding the behaviors towards Slade regarding his child support issues. For those whom have been long time viewers, there was no issue when he was doing well in the real estate market and before Grayson was diagnosed. The one thing Slade did last year was he publicly explained his situation. He was very clear about the fact that his support payments were high due to his large income at the time and he just wasn't making that level of income anymore. Hopefully he is asking the courts for a modification. We don't know Brooks, however he seems to be a likable man. Perhaps he too should explain his situation like Slade did. In addition, it is clear that Tamara is abandoning you yet again and you are now on an island by yourself. I am thinking this season is going to unfold into one where you are going to get hit from all sides.
I am horrified at how rude the other women were about the food at your cajun party. Horrified! Wishing you well and looking forward to watching tonight's episode.
It was rude of Heather's husband to call your party, "low rent." Heather seemed to enjoy the dig. Perhaps they should get over themselves?
Everyone heard you slam Slade, everyone remembers that you trashed Slade for being a deadbeat dad in your blog and NO ONE can remember hearing you apologize for that in the public realm, where it needed - still needs - to be done. I'm not a Slade fan but his decision to out you as a hypocrite is very understandable. Really miss the old straight-talking but honest woman we met in the early seasons.
When I first read this, I was pretty confused because I very distinctly remembering you making very critical remarks about Slade last season. I didn't have the time to look for the evidence, but it is clear other people were able to find it.
Gretchen did not bring the stuff up on Brooks to embarrass him or put you down. You totally miss the point. You had no place in trying to control her relationship that she seems very happy in, and she is just pointing out that you are dating somebody with the same "issue" that you seemed to condemn Slade for. I actually think it's great because it just proves that you had no business sticking your nose in Gretchen's relationship and now you know how it feels.
I am done w RHOOC and ATL! The women are pathetic! Thx for blogging Vicki and good luck to one - I will miss you! The original RHOOC! You are the only one w a good head on your shoulders! Stay away from Tamara!
Dear Bravo. It is so refreshing to see some uplifting, happy shows like It’s a Bard, Bard World and Bethenny Ever After rather than the women on women hate shows of the Housewives. Enough with the affluent women behaving badly. Enough.
Hey Vicki, just a reminder that Geena had made the comment at the reunion that Tamra basically took you away from her as a friend because "Tamra can only have 1 friend at a time" Now you are saying the exact same thing. I hope you're guard is up with Tamra. She's really not a nice person at all, and whatever it takes to get attention, she'll do.
Vicki, you mentioned in the episode that everyone in Mississippi wears crocs, and I beg to differ! That was a little snobby and seemed like you think you are better than people in Mississippi. I was kind of offended at that comment. I was born in Mississippi and lived here my whole life, and I do not, nor will I ever, own a pair or crocs!!! I hate those and think they are very ugly and tacky and I don't care if people say they are comfortable. Please don't stereotype all Mississippians unless you have met us all. Believe it or not, Mississippi is not as far behind as you think and most of the people I know have a good fashion sense and actually dress as nice as you do.
I think Tamra is toxic, and brings out the worst in people. I havent been a fan of yours, but in all honesty its only when you are tight with tamra, otherwise I do like you and respect your parenting and work ethic. I also agree with the woman that posted about Don, I think he was very good at making everyone think he was the victim....but I would imagine he was distant and not easy to live with. I think if you stay away from Tamra, people would like you more.