First of all I wanted to sincerely apologize for not posting my blog last week. I sat down several times to write it and ended up not being able to put to words what I was really feeling. This week I have a clearer perspective and thought I would comment on a few parts of last week's show that really bothered me, and then we'll jump into this week's episode.
There have been some opinions about what I said on the show referencing Brooks' access to my phone and emails and the assumption that he also has access to my bank accounts/records. Just to clarify to everyone, what I said was that he had access to my voicemail and emails-- NOT my money. I only said that was to merely point out that I have nothing to hide from him and that we are completely transparent when it comes to one another. Brooks does not have access to my money, my bank accounts, or any of my financial accounts. He has his own accounts, and I have mine -- and neither one of us have access to each other's personal finances.
Some people, including Tamra, have voiced her opinion about "keeping her eye on Brooks to supposedly protect me." My question to her is. . .PROTECT ME FROM WHAT?!
Although I find it nice that she cares about me, I've told her she has nothing to worry about. I have known Brooks in the insurance/investment business for over five years, which quite frankly is longer than she has known Eddie. I am not engaged to Brooks. I don't live with Brooks, nor do we intend on doing anything like that in the near future. We are comfortable where our relationship is, and we are both very cautiously optimistic that our relationship will last. To say we don't have struggles would be a lie, however it's been a long time (if ever) where I truly felt like I was with my best friend. Everyday that I am given the opportunity to spend with him, he is an amazing boyfriend and a true partner to me. If any of you have things that are negative or bad to say about him, I would request you to refrain as it is not only hurtful to Brooks, but also to me.
Vicky, if you are going to begin a new friendship it should be with Heather - not the fake and idiotic Alexis. Surround yourself always with SMART women. Also, the viewers do not know Brooks, but sometimes outsiders can see things that you dont. When we are in a relationship we tend to have rose colored glasses on. Just be careful, he comes accross as very phony. Take your time.
vicki you seem happy.i think brooks seems real nice.alexis is harmless and she is a real sweet kind person.it is gretchens loss if she looses lex as a friend.i said a few seasons ago you and alexis seem more alike than gretchen and tamra.you 2 ladies have the lord on your side and you are the 2 favs of the oc.i do not like the other ladies bullying and calling alexis names.the men get involved with name calling is so not right.jim and brooks would never call the women names.alexis is so confident and secure she can handle alot.you are starting over and it can be drama free if you hang with the possitive people.gretchen is such a drama queen.she seems so different this season out of all.she is being selfish about her friendship with alexis.it is all about her her her.lex does not need the - nor do you.you and alexis do not have near as much bad blood in past seasons as gretchen and tamra.do not listin to -.the scarfs were so cute.this week was one of my favs so far to.except heather dogging lex about her bussiness.wish she would of stayed home.good luck to you and lexie.god bless.bravo print the possitive for vicki.so happy for you daughter.thank god
Vicki, glad you got to go and be with Briana and the girls. You seemed much happier and relieved that your daughter is fine and things are good for you. I think Tamara looks much better...glad she did that. I agree with you in regards to Gretchen..this is so silly..she needs to forget this and move on for what ever reason she is going on and on about losing her singing voice..did not know that she had one.
-- Glad you enjoyed camping with smaller group. The reality is that more people affect our perceptions and sometimes its nice to get to know people without distractions.
--That said, I do not agree with your comment about Tamra being in your ear about Alexis. You were already closed to Alexis when Tamra was more open to her.
--I also think you threw Tamra under the bus re: Gretchen. While I am glad that relationship is calmer, I still believe that G and S are AT LEAST 50% to blame. To that end, I do think Alexis supports that. G gets away with that because she is charismatic.
--I understand Tamra's concern over Brooks. Time will tell. I do hope you guys are very happy though! She will come around if she hasn't already when she sees her concerns are put to rest. Try not to be mad.
" If any of you have things that are negative or bad to say about him, I would request you to refrain as it is not only hurtful to Brooks, but also to me. "
Pot calling the kettle black?
Dear Vicki, I believe the viewers are questioning Brooks' sincerity not to be mean spirited, but out of concern for you. Last ep was fun in tone. Briana is adorable and sensible. I love watching your scenes together. I laughed out loud when you screamed at the skunk. That was hilarious. Good job guarding the group and fighting that animal off with your voice. Have a great week! xo.
Lmao at the Gretchen voice comment i agreed with on that,I like Gretchen but she is doin toomuch on the voice thing....
Vikki...I'm SO happy for Briana, and you! It seems this has been an eye-opening, enlightening expierence for you...and I pray it sticks! I loooved and admired your 'almost apology' to the girls while glamping. Now, I hope you will embrace the opportunity...and gift of apparant class...and offer it, in person, to Gretchen. You both need closure and to extend UNDERSTANDING to one another...and admit that whomever you choose in your personal lives is just that...personal, and that you DO NOT have the right to comment on each others man, kids, life, etc. I KNOW you have it in you to be a classy lady, now...but on your big girl shoes, and show it! Likewsie...may want to heed some of what Briana has observed. PS: I'm not the 'ususal' fan. I'm 70 years old, 3 daughters, 7 grandchildren, 1 g.grandchild, divorced, widowed, and married to the best guy....so I know a little about life...so take it from me, 'things' are nice but don't bring happiness, just envy from those who don't have the same. 'More, bigger, better, etc....is ONLY that. Stuff is stuff. PERIOD. Your family and true friends are what make life good and worthwhile and whole and fulfilling and fun and beautiful. Forget the junk you've been doing and dealing with. Move and and be a bigger person.
I think you should practice what you preach, Vicki. You have a tendency to say judgemental, hurtful things as well, probably more then the rest. You treat people like you want to be treated...respectfully!!! just sayin.
Vicki~ Thank you for apologizing abou the itty bitty....comment. I was offended by it. I had naturally big boobies. I couldn't wear cute tops, I had to order swim suits on line and I couldn't exercise. Last year at the age of 42 I had a breast reduction and lift. It was the best thing I ever did and I am just sorry I waited so long. I wear anything I want off the rack now, I can exercise and everyone thought I lost 20 pounds! Thanks for the nice blog this week. :)
Vicki, i love, love, love ur blog! u have turned a complete 180! to be honest, i think not spending so much time with Tamara has opened ur eyes and softened ur heart! i for one questioned Brooks but if ur happy that is all that matters! i think ur beautifully written words to ask that everyone lighten up about commenting on ur relationship was understandable. i wish u nothing but happiness! I totally agree with u about Alexis, she is very sweet and would not do anything intentional to hurt anyone! unlike Tamara and Heather, i really wish they would stop calling her "stupid", it's terrible that they treat her that way. I also enjoyed watching u and Brianna on the glamping trip, i know it had to be wonderful after what she just went through. God Bless!!
Vicki,I'm glad your daughter is cancer free.Good luck w/Brooks and your future endeavors.I can't say I always agree w/your opinions on the show,your one of the few though,that stay true to yourself,Whoo-Hoo!
Viewers only question Brooks intentions because they care about you . Bottom line you brought him on the the show and into the public eye . You want to share your relationship with the public and apparently so does he . There for questions and concerns are going to be voiced . You want the money , fame , and platforms for business this show gives you then you have to deal with the comments as well . I am still a Vicki supporter and have been since season 1 but come on now you know how the reality game is played . Wishing you both all the happiness in the world .
I don't understand Tamra's criticism of you. You are truly trying to move forward with everyone but it seems as always, it's only okay with Tamra if it's people she has decided to like this year. Her comments about Brooks are so out of left field. Since when is a guy bad for being too nice? He's done nothing that we the viewer has seen to give anyone cause for alarm. I love your nicer more positive attitude about everything :)
I'm glad you addressed Gretchen blaming her voice on you. That was getting annoying! I'm sure there is more than the cameras showed but she didnt even really "scream" at you. It was just a convenient excuse for her to come up with. And I like how as soon as she was in front of the vocal coach her voice seemed to get more raspy. I can do that too and my voice isnt "gone". Gretchen is such a drama queen! Vicki you're not perfect but you dont try to be someone you're not! Same goes for Heather and Tamara, good for you girls!
I miss the old show. Would you really hang out with those women if the cameras were not there? Show seems fake. Although the OC is my fav. Been with your show since the beginning.
I don't trust Brooks at all. I ABSOLUTELY agree with Tamara. He says all the "right" things at the "right" times. Since he has been married before, there is NO WAY that I believe everything that comes out of his mouth...who else has heard his "lines." He is giving you what YOU WANT to hear. There seems to be NO relationship between the two of you. You obviously have your blinders up. Even though you and Don didn't always get along, at least he was real. I really think that he is AFTER your MONEY and FAME of the show... Again I DO NOT trust BROOKS just as much as you DO NOT trust SLADE.
I'm glad you are realizing what is important in life. I've never really understood all the negative feelings for you, it's like I'm watching a different show than the people on the blog I read about the housewives, yeah you have your faults but everyone does and I don't really see yours as any worse than the next person. I've always felt that if you are lucky enough to find that one person in life that makes you happy then good for you, it sounds like right now that person is your new friend, I wish you the best. As far as the friends who bring you stress and are negative, sometimes it's just better to limit your face time with them and move on. I have a friend that is so negative I have limited my face time with her to once or twice a year, I just can't take it anymore and so this is better than ending our long friendship all together, it might be time to do that with a couple of these ladies, be nice but disengage from them. Anyway good luck. I'm glad your daughter is well also.
VICKI- Tamra looks beautiful and natural because she IS NATURAL!!! You'll be making a tremendous mistake if you distance yourself from Tamra, who has always been your loyal, true friend. I couldn't be happier about Brianna's biopsy report. She is, obviously, a strong, intelligent, sweet, sweet young woman.
Vicky, You are the best person you have ever been on the show this season. It is amazing how being unhappy in our own lives can affect how we treat others. I have seen the difference with Tamra since she left Simon as well. I am happy to see the women changing cliques and forgiving one another. I hope that you and Gretchen can get through your differences as well as she seems to be one of the more down to earth people that have ever been on the show and she could be a good friend to you. Keep being a strong, smart woman and you will go far!
I came on here to tell you that it wasnt nice the way you treated Tamra after her surgery and that you came off jealous, even though you had no reason too. However, you beat us all to the punch by initiating your apology first. Spoken like a true Aries!
I think Brooks and you are great together and I am so happy that you found true happiness. I agree Tamra doesnt need to worry about you so much, I think maybe its still too new for her, although it shouldnt be..
Take care! Rosemary Martin Fellow Aries...
vicky i think you are handlein yourself quite well an the other girls will make there own mess an will not come out smellin like a rose an as for briana im so happy she doesnt have cancer for u see i,m really goin through the whole ordeal i have small cell lung cancer an i think i have beATIN EAT NOW I AM DOIN BRAIN RADIAITION AS A PRECATION BUT IT IS A BIT OF A RUFF RIDE I WATCH YOU LADIES FAITHFULLY EVERY WEEK YALL SHOULD HAVE A CONTEST FOR US SMALL ( LOL) PEOPLE TO TRY TO MEET YALL IN PERSON OR ACTUALLY GET TO GO SHOPIN WITH YALL THAT WOULD REALLY BE A LIFT UPPER WELL KEEP BEIN YOURSELF HUN IM GONNA KEEP WATCHIN I LOVE THE SHOW GOD BLESS YALL ALL
Hi Vicki, I could tell in the scene when you were talking on the phone with Brooks just how much he sincerely means to you. You reminded me of a schoolgirl in love. It was great of you to offer an apology to Gretchen. Unfortunately I have NEVER seen her take responsibility for anything, so I doubt she will make the gesture in return. And, for her to try to blame YOU for her losing control of herself and yelling....ridiculous.
I was finally able to see what you are describing in Alexis this week. I'm usually not a fan, but felt bad for her this episode. She does seem like a sweetheart, despite not being the brightest girl! I sure wish your daughter, Briana, blogged. You should be very proud of your down-to-earth, intelligent girl!
I have been a fan of RHOC since day one. I've watched each season and have always considered you as one of my favorites. Vicki, I have to admit that the last two seasons you have become someone very different. You're very judgmental of everyone around you because they don't have "real jobs", and you always seem to be able to tell someone else about themselves but don't want to hear someone else's opinion of yourself. I also have no idea why you chose to put down the fact that Tamra and Gretchen are trying to put things behind them and have a friendship, and while I may not be right, it definitely seems as if you're only befriending Alexis in spite of their new friendship. I'm not saying you're a bad person nor am I trying to attack you as everything I'm saying is my opinion of what I see on the show. I think you're a powerful woman as far as work and being a mom...why not use that same power to be supporting of the women in your circle and not critical of everything they do, say, wear or how they act??
The blog this week was good. I still wish everyone would just stop saying things behind others backs, but I guess that's what people want....drama. I loved the glamping episode and even though I do like Tamra and Gretchen both, it was a nice show without all the cattiness that comes along when EVERYONE gets together. You make some very very GOOD points in your blog, to which people should take heed. You're your own woman and as long as you and Brooks are having a good time, enjoy the time together. I will say, though, that I feel like his being so far away might be what you need at this point. You're fairly new out of your marriage and being joined at the hip may not be what any person needs this soon. I feel like if you have time apart, you'll get to know each other on a better level than if you were to see each other every single day. You will most certainly be more appreciative of the time that you are together and, therefore, spend it genuinely. Plus, you know what they say...."absence makes the heart grow fonder". So think of it as having that wonderful new relationship for a lot longer than most. Good luck with it all, Vicki. Enjoy your family and your man!
YOur such a great lady, glad you are trying so hard this year to take the High road:) and you are spot on about gretchen, have you read her blog its so rude to everyone:)
" If any of you have things that are negative or bad to say about him, I would request you to refrain as it is not only hurtful to Brooks, but also to me. "
Hmmm wonder what Tamra thought of the comments you made about her and the boobs/butt??? Girl, you are harsh and there's no reason to talk about a friend like that. Mean girl?????
You don't appreciate hearing from the viewers about your new beau when they question his sincerity. You don't like hearing anything negative at all. Hmmm. Sounds familiar. It sounds exactly like the behavior you've exhibited toward Gretchen and Slade. Pot meet Kettle.
I did like this upbeat ep when you girls went into the woods. It was especially funny when your screamed the skunk away. Vicki was Victorious and saved the day by being brave and stubborn. Briana continues to impress with her sensible and smart persona. Your scenes together are great. You're like a couple of friends.
Ya had me pleasantly surprised and back in your corner until you slammed Gretchen......sadly, I wasn't surprised to read that part since it's the Vicki we have seen before.....just thought, for a moment, that Vicki went on vacation. Brooks? Don't slam Brooks? Geeeeez, Vicki......do you hear yourself? I for one don't have an opinion on Brooks....that's what most do.....hold their opinions until they know the WHOLE story. If any here have slammed Brooks as you claim, how can you be surprised? It's what you do on a regular basis.....judge others without knowing the whole story......try learning the whole story first. Try it....it works.
Vicki, I admire your strength. I read your book more than a housewife and have watched you from the beginning of the RHOC. I have continually found strength in watching you and reading your book and reading your blogs. I am a single mom of 3 and greatly appreciate your honesty about everything your going through from dating to having a rough time sometimes. I can definitely relate to you. Thank you!
I admire your strength. I have watched your from the very first season of RHOC and have read your book as well as your blog. I am a single mom of 3 and can relate to everything you are going through from dating to being a parent and the daily sturggles of life. Thank you for being honest.
Vicki, Although I have not always agreed with everything you have done in the past. One thing I will say is you definitely seem happier and in a better place this season. I totally disagree with other comments recently about Brooks. Why is it viewers are so quick to judge someone for doing/saying nice things for their partner....I DON'T GET IT!!!!! Even your own best bud Tamra is questioning it. I don't understand how someone saying sweet things to you and giving you nice cards is a bad thing....SOMEONE EXPLAIN THAT TO ME. Do we just live in a society that we have to just always find something to criticize. I think it is so sweet and endearing. To me Brooks seems very loving and attentive to Vicki. I think that is a great thing. Even though, noone knows what the future holds in any of our relationships....just be happy for a couple that seems in love and let it go. Be happy for her and move on.
Vicki...you are so much fun to watch on this show....my daughter and I cant wait to see you every week. To see you in love with Brooks....Briana is doing sooo well and is happy in a relationship of her own...and you two spent time together on the camping trip...plus all the hilarious things you say during the show...it is all wonderful and fun! Briana is a Princess and such a sweet one, but there are glimpses where you can see that she is like you in some ways...she is very outspoken and knows her own mind, and of course, the chasing away of the skunk together! That was sooo funny. My daughter and I looked at each other and laughed because we knew that no skunk was going to stop you! I love it that you and Alexis are now friends! That is amazing that you two were able to forgive and move on. Tamara did come between you as she has now done between Heather and Alexis. Gretchen blaming YOU for losing her voice is too funny and when you wrote that you should have been the one to lose your voice it cracked me up! You are too much fun and this season is the very best of them all! So happy that your life is moving forward is such great ways!
Dear Vickie, Every season you seem to be searching for a balance to your life and you seem to want to change your behavior and yet you never seem to achieve either. Maybe a good look into your behavior and non compassion towards others is a good indicator of why bliss eludes you. We all reap what we sow.
I do not trust Brooks either. Tamra has a right to be concerned, she's just being a good friend. Just like how you were protective of her when she was with Simon and she didn't see the bad parts of him.
Saw Briana in an article in the May Glamour (with Lauren Conrad on the cover), love her so much. Briana is my favorite person on the show I wish she was on more. : (
Vicky, I can see where people are coming from with the Brooks issue. I'm sorry, I think it's sweet that he lavishes you with affection, but the reality is that something isn't right about a man who gives you a greeting card every day of your life. I know this from EXPERIENCE. I can guarantee you, every man like that is a control freak and bigger issues will come. You can't see it now because you're blinded by love and passion. I get that. You are also newly off of an old relationship that had run it's course. I get that too. BUT...there's something wrong with him. He tries too hard and I saw a glimpse of it in a scene from a couple weeks ago, when you were at dinner and you didn't want to give PDA. He looked at you and said "NOW". And you did it, against your will. That's a control issue waiting to rear it's ugly head. Beware!!!! I've seen this exact scenario time and again. BTW, just because you "knew" him throuhg business for five years, doesn't mean you actually KNEW him. Again, speaking from direct experience.
I love you Vicky, and you seem so much happier! What is wrong with a man saying all the right things people???? Would you rather Brooks treat her like crap and call her mean names like Don did??? Keep on living with no regrets Vicky, you are fabulous and I really look up to the woman you are.
Vicki I have been following the show since it started season 1. First of all I just wanted to tell you that I am so happy that your daughter Briana is does not have cancer. I lost my mother from colon cancer last November and it has not been easy for me to forget all of the suffering she went through. I never comment but I really admire you for all of your hard work and all that you have. Please I know that you say that your tank is full now with Brooks but really I think that he is after all of your money. You are a very successful women and you do not need a man to come in into your life and take advantage of you. Take your time, and really listen to what everyone is saying sometimes we do not see what others do. Please take care and be careful!
Vicky, Did you notice that everyone was getting along because Tamra wasn't there/?? Also, Brianna is beautiful. You are so lucky to have such a wonderful daughter, please don't chase her away by trying to control her.
Gretchen is blaming her vocal problems on your fight just in case she gives a less than stellar performance with the Pussy Cat Dolls. Gretchen and Slade always have a motive. Also, I think the time has come for you to bury the hatchet with Gretchen. You are a fifty year old woman who has no business fighting with a thirty three year old "girl".
Could it be that you are finally growing up??? Could you actually be seeing how your actions affect other people?? Did you take a look around and realise that the world does not revolve around you??? When the attention is on someone else, are you really not screaming WOHOO to get the attention back on you? Are you finally understanding that you are 50 years old, and not a college kid? I can't believe it. You will be so much happier now.
I'll say the same thing I've said before to Alexis and Gretchen. If that man is what YOU want and YOU love him it's NO ONE ELSE'S place to have an opinion. YOUR LIFE, YOUR SMILES AND YOUR TEARS!! I wish you nothing but extreme happiness! I at the same time need to say (I'M SORRY) for thinking you had a mean heart and nasty soul. I was so impressed that you told Alexis you were sorry and wrong for judging SOMEONE ELSE'S heart and love. This week on the show you let me and everyone else see the ACTIONS that matched the woman you've always claimed to be. And Vicki I'm proud of you! I'm sorry things are hard between you and Tamra but have you thought maybe you were laughing OUT LOUD was because the contrast negative things she says wasn't there o pull you down? Sometimes we HAVE to move on from those people. Again, I hope you and your fella much happiness! Life is way to short to have any less. I also KNOW how those SOUTHERN men can melt your heart! This Oregon gal married her Alabama sweetheart 26 years ago. And honey there's a lot to be said for a man who's been raised with southern charm!! God Bless y'all!!!
I was married to a "Brooks." He said all the right things at all the right times. My friends would ask, "Is he for real?" and tell me that he was the perfect guy. BIG RED FLAGS, WAVING WILDLY! Long story short... 13 years and three kids later, we're divorced. Now I recognize what a chameleon he was the entire time. Your fans and friends care about you and therefore express their concerns. I like you, but why should people refrain from their comments? You never have held anything back with anyone! I think that Brooks can take care of himself, too, and he has agreed to be on national t.v. Opinions and observations come with the fame package.
Best of luck, but tread lightly. ;)
As EVERYONE knows, Alexis and Heather and Gretchen and Tamara and Vicki are all different people. And you can have a different kind of relationship with each person who walks into your life.
Vicki, you a very strong woman and i don't know how you dealt with your daughters sickness. I don't have kids of my own but i do have a step daughter that i would take a bullet for or take any kind of sickness she had away from her just so she could grow up to be the strong girl i know she is. Goodluck to you and your family I hope you all stay healthy!