Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki addresses her relationship with Brooks and laughs out loud about this episode.

on Apr 18, 20120

First of all I wanted to sincerely apologize for not posting my blog last week. I sat down several times to write it and ended up not being able to put to words what I was really feeling. This week I have a clearer perspective and thought I would comment on a few parts of last week's show that really bothered me, and then we'll jump into this week's episode.

There have been some opinions about what I said on the show referencing Brooks' access to my phone and emails and the assumption that he also has access to my bank accounts/records. Just to clarify to everyone, what I said was that he had access to my voicemail and emails-- NOT my money. I only said that was to merely point out that I have nothing to hide from him and that we are completely transparent when it comes to one another. Brooks does not have access to my money, my bank accounts, or any of my financial accounts. He has his own accounts, and I have mine -- and neither one of us have access to each other's personal finances.

Some people, including Tamra, have voiced her opinion about "keeping her eye on Brooks to supposedly protect me." My question to her is. . .PROTECT ME FROM WHAT?!

Although I find it nice that she cares about me, I've told her she has nothing to worry about. I have known Brooks in the insurance/investment business for over five years, which quite frankly is longer than she has known Eddie. I am not engaged to Brooks. I don't live with Brooks, nor do we intend on doing anything like that in the near future. We are comfortable where our relationship is, and we are both very cautiously optimistic that our relationship will last. To say we don't have struggles would be a lie, however it's been a long time (if ever) where I truly felt like I was with my best friend. Everyday that I am given the opportunity to spend with him, he is an amazing boyfriend and a true partner to me. If any of you have things that are negative or bad to say about him, I would request you to refrain as it is not only hurtful to Brooks, but also to me.

101 comments
VeryMary
VeryMary

It is easy to see that you have a very nice daughter. It shows on camera. Her personality and character are there for the world to see. Likewise, with Brooks. His personality is clearly visible and the words unctuous and smarmy are the only ones that come to mind.

Viewer2222
Viewer2222

Lol Vicki!!! Did you really just blast Gretchen for having too many business ventures? Really?! Let's see.... Insurance sales, author, eyelash goo sales person, wine distributor, show host, reality tv star... I'm sure I missed something. Once again, your rules only apply to others, never to you. SMH.

 caroline
caroline

Vicki I was pleased to see Brianna is ok. She is very grounded and sweet, one of my favourites on the show (even though she is not a 'housewife!'). I felt for her when she was upset over Donn and glad they still have a relationship. I think you seem genuinely happy with Brookes, it's ok for people to tread with a bit of caution, it's natural because sometimes people aren't who they say they are! Slade is one of my least favourites but I think perhaps you should be the bigger person and let it go, you'll never be friends but you will be able to be a room together for the sake of the group.

MenAl
MenAl

Vicki, I am so happy your daughter is doing well, God is good. I hope you continue to hang out with Heather as she seems to be the only one with some intelligence and class, maybe it will help you change into a better person and not judge others as you do. You are quick to judge but don't want to be judged. I guess having money can't buy you intelligence or class. I hope to see all of you OC women change a little for the better this year, might be a stretch.

PLM11
PLM11

Vicki, I like you but I do not see why you and Alexis make it seem like Gretchen and Tamra are the only ones who cause drama. You all have had your fair share of drama. Also, I do not understand how on the show you can say that you like Alexis now and that maybe its because you don't have Tamra in you ear telling you not to like her. You were a lot meaner to Alexis than Tamra was and you should be held accountable for your own doing you should'nt be placing the blame on Tamra.

S.B
S.B

The skunk scene was hilaruos. I watched it a few times lol

Cindy1963
Cindy1963

Vicki, There is something I've been meaning to write to you about but the days just get so hectic and time just goes by. I am watching the episode where you went with Tamra, Heather and her friends to L.A. Just as you were ready to start eating lunch, your phone rings and who is it-Brooks. You just got up and walked away without even excusing yourself from the table. What a lack of manners you have!! I thought you were so educated and think that you know everything better than everybody else. What happened there Vicki? Whenever I go somewhere public I put my cell on vibrate and the only time I answer the phone in a restaurant is when there is a family emergency and I am waiting to hear what is happening. Otherwise, I do not answer the phone. It is very rude. The person can always call back or you can call them when you are free. I don't understand why people have to be at the beckon call of others. Practice up on your etiquette Vicki- I think you need it!!

ViewerVA13
ViewerVA13

Hey Vicki- One word "OPINION"! Everyone has one, OK. If you don't want people talking/blogging negative and hurtful things about you and Brooks, then get off the TV, out of the public eye, and live your lives. You ask for it when you sign up for a reality TV show. Like it or not, positive or negative, you ask for it. People have the right to their own opinions about what we see. From what I've seen, I don't trust him as far as I could throw him. Brooks has not been shown in a very positive light. Oh sure, the daily "affirmation" cards, (RME/RollingMyEyes, in case you don't know what RME means), might make him look like a good guy, but, my "opinion" of them, is that they are ridiculous, overboard, and totally unnecessary. He's telling you everything you want to hear and it's filling that "tank" right up. Please!!! You asked in one of your interviews after Briana tells you about her new boyfriend, "Who is Ryan?", well, Briana could ask, "Who is Brooks?" Seems like she doesn't even know or care for him. Hmmm, maybe he should be called "Karma". Yeah, that sounds good.

Sunnyinfl
Sunnyinfl

Everyone is mean to Alexis. I am glad you are friends now. People need to stop calling her dumb. That really upsets me. She is gorgeous and such a sweetie. Sometimes she stumbles in a conversation-we all do! She is bubbly and I would be her friend. The OC has some catty women!!!

ari0348
ari0348

Hi Vicki First of all let me say I'm so glad Brianna's health is o.k. and she is cancer free. I've been watching RHOC from the very beginning and always have been a fan of you and Tamra. I have never written before, but I find myself saddened by a the relationship between you two this season. You have been through so much together so I hope you can get back to being friends again. I do think she has your best interests at heart regarding Brooks, just as you helped her see the truth about her "control freak" husband. I think it gives her some insight as to what a relationship with that kind of man can turn into. Checking your email and personal correspondence is not normal behaviour, no matter "how sweet" you think it is right now, and that you think it only shows he cares about you. You can say I've also been there and suffered through it. You are a smart woman, so I just hope you keep your eyes open and not get taken in, just because you crave some affection and passion after not having any at the end of your marriage. As for your new friendship with Alexis - ewww. I really can't understand how you can call her sweet and nice with her holier-than-thou attitude and spouting off about her husband being "the king" of their household, and always justifying things by saying she thinks God would approve. At least Tamra is honest and says what she thinks and is upfront with you - and she has a great sense of humour and fun. I don't know if you read any of your fans' comments but many others are worried about you as well, so I hope you are being careful with your heart.

cfbs2691
cfbs2691

It's so obviously Brook's is up to no good. Run!

mommyof2wildboys
mommyof2wildboys

Vicki, The way Brooks' eyes lit up when you said you had your own retirement account, the way he talked about tipping over the table to "bed you down", and pressured you to kiss him in public in front of cameras when you clearly weren't comfortable with it, access to your personal info. You're my favorite housewife of all time and don't want to see you get hurt. You deserve someone that won't take advantage of you financially or any other way. Best of luck.

Lagunatic
Lagunatic

My daughter is dating a "Brooks." She doesn't want to hear anything negative either. But she's a lot younger and has time to find another guy. Please I was never a big fan but girl...don't rush into another relationship because your love tank is empty (good grief, I HATE that saying; please stop saying it). Ladies our age don't have time to waste.

Viewer1953
Viewer1953

Why was Brooks so interested in who gets what in your divorce? When you said down was getting the beach house and the things there, I saw a tiny second of questioining on his face. Watch out.

Boston Housewife
Boston Housewife

Vicky, You have great kids. You really did a great job parenting them. It must be difficult being a female in OC. So much pressure to be beautiful and young. I think I would rebel and adopt a Bohemian style. Also, if a man wants to have access to your email and phone messages, that is a MAJOR CONTROL ISSUE. It can often be noted as the very first signs of impending domestic abuse. Be on guard.

Jackie S
Jackie S

Watch every episode! So glad to see that it seems that you have found out that there is more to life that working 24/7. Hope you enjoy your new life and enjoy every minute of it!!

Adeledixon
Adeledixon

Vicki, I didnt like it when you had lunch with Brooks and he inquired about the status of your divorce settlement and the details of what property you would get out of it. What up with that? That was so inappropriate for him to ask. Big red flag. I dont trust him at all!!!

ilcntrygrl
ilcntrygrl

I have to laugh at the people who act like they know what Brooks is like from the snippets shown on tv. Now that you know that Brianna does not have cancer you are calming down. I think Tamra moving on to Gretchen is great for you, she is poison. Just a troublemaker. I am liking the friendship with Alexis and you, and I remember very early in the season, before Tamra approached Gretchen, saying that you liked Alexis. She is calmer, and good for you, you really need that in your life. Tamara kept saying that you were jealous of she and Gretchen, when I know you were just so surprised because she has been vehemently trashing Gretchen for two years. I believe Tamra is jealous of you, and believe you should stay as far away from her as possible.

Wonderland
Wonderland

What is wrong with 'Brooks'? Better question: What is wrong with Vicki? I know this is 'reality' more like e.t. but I feel like I am watching reruns of All My Children with Erica Kane and one of her future husbands that turns out to be a dud.

OCAlly
OCAlly

If you don't want our (the viewers) opinions, then get off of the show. Duh. I'm afraid Alexis is rubbing off on you. And for the record, Brooks, Slade, no difference. Both were deadbeat dads at one time.

DignifiedAddict;)
DignifiedAddict;)

First, God bless Brianna, thank goodness your lovely daughter is well. I agree with you about Tamra. What's up with her being down on you and Brooks? She is NOT one to judge. However, it's a bit two-faced of you to ask your viewers not to say negative things about your new relationships "because it is hurtful" to you & Brooks. I say this because you have been on the show from day one, and have commented negatively about Jeana's marriage, Gretchen's marriage, Alexis' marriage....get the point???

Meredith75
Meredith75

Your a really nice person when your with people like Alexis and Heather. They bring out the best in you! Good friend choices!

ViewerB
ViewerB

I'm glad you apologized about the itty bitty titty thing. It was mean, bodysnark, and you are the last one who should be doing that. Apology not accepted. I'd rather be me than have huge fake ones.

amanda1980
amanda1980

I don't understand how women can rush into a relationship when they just got out of a bad marriage?!?!

John2102
John2102

Vicki, Loved your Glamping trip, but did you really need to lay on your bed with your boots on while talking to Brooks? NOW RUDE! Would you do that at home? Would you allow others to do that in your house?

miss lafang
miss lafang

Your friend Tamra has changed a lot this season. She's trying her best to be nicer I was never her fan. Now I am.Why don't you follow her footsteps. Don't you get sick and tired of reading negative comments about your character on your blog?

Andrea Kay
Andrea Kay

Clearly you didn't even watch the end where she didn't even blame you she blamed slade..so nice. :) But I am happy to here your daughter will be alright! Much love to you all :)

BM Barbie
BM Barbie

You CAN actually damage your vocal chords by yelling. Anyone who doesn't believe that is not a singer. Or an avid concert-goer.

I'm talking to you Vicki. And you kekekinz1.

KRK
KRK

Vicki: I've watched the show from day 1. I'm an average suburban upper-middle class mom. I must say that it's taken you quite a long time to really see what is important in life; however, better late than never. The other ladies haven't quite gotten it yet, but I hope they do. You can't take all your money and possessions with you when you die -- none of it matters one bit. Live each day as if it's your last. Live, love and laugh.

Surround yourself with people who enhance your life. Brush off those who thrive in drama/trauma. I was thrilled to see you so calm, cool and collected at the bowling outing. THAT is how people should behave around difficult people. Do not engage with anyone whose sole purpose is to cause trouble.

About Brooks: As long as you're happy and he's happy, no one else's opinion matters.

About friendships: Most girlfriends come and go -- acquaintances. It's usually best to have one go-to person who knows you and gets you better than anyone else. I don't really think any of the OC ladies are your true-blue, blood-sister-type friends. I feel this way about the whole crew. If you saw one another on the street, none of you would be friends.

Be good to yourself, Vicki. And remember this saying: It's not my problem; life is good. :-)

jessnmike99
jessnmike99

Vicki, It's great to see that you are happy and in a good place right now. I watch your relationship with Brooks and how he showers you with cards and affirmations and sweet words and it reminds me of a past relationship I had. I was engaged and my fiance at the time was the same way with me and went out of his way to do things to make me happy and was never negative to me at all. As our relationship continued all of the things he was doing started getting on my nerves and the mushiness of it so because of that I started withdrawing and being ugly to him and then eventually just broke the relationship off. I now know that it made me uncomfortable because I felt like I didn't deserve to be treated that way. I hope you never get the way I felt because everyone deserves to be treated that way! It's funny because I didn't want it back then but long for it now! I'm glad to see that, as you would say, "your tank is full.."

RDaniels
RDaniels

Vicki, You're a hard worker and deserve to be happy. I wish you that. However, you've always came across as someone who didn't let outside issues distract them as to what you really feel or think about a situation. God knows Tamra has something to say about everything but to blame her for you not liking Alexis is not right. I'm glad Briana is ok; she's a sweet girl. Take responsibility for what you do and have done and move on. Best of luck!

Tamra Fan!
Tamra Fan!

Hey Vicki, Thank God everything is going well with Briana so far. I love Briana! Really hoping that this drama between you and Tamra fizzles out soon, I love you two as friends and you've supported eachother through a lot. It seems a shame for all that to been thrown away this season.

All the best!

kekekinz1
kekekinz1

I also noticed Gretchen being very dramatic this season. I had to laugh when she blamed screaming at you on losing her voice. She should have never screamed to begin with and how does she explain the coughing?? Such a ridiculous accusation that makes no sense.

I totally get where Tamra is coming from because I'm always suspicious of my best friend's new guys. She even tells them they have to pass the best friend test lol. I cant even imagine how suspicious I would be if my best friend was on a reality show. I think she means well but shouldn't have said it the way she has been.

Loved this episode... drama free! I don't love the cattiness you and Tamra have over being friends with Alexis or Gretchen. I hope it doesn't ruin your friendship!

cindy69
cindy69

love you girl! gretchen cant blame you for her voice..did you hold a gun to her head and tell her to scream? no! so dont worry about it..

Blues Mama
Blues Mama

Vicki, Just love the changes I'm seeing recently! Always loved the mother in you, it certainly shows in Briana and Michael. They are great and truely show the love they have for you! All The Housewives on Bravo should be that blessed! All this talk about Brooks brings me to something I don't think you will be comfortable with but please try it. Kim Zolciak has a very accurate psychic please see her about this relationship. I know Your a Christian so am I ! But Vicki the first time I saw Brooks on screen the hair all over my body stood up! That has only happened once in my life when I met my Daughters Father in law to be. 3 years later we find out he was mafia and had a second family! If you read these blogs most people get this vibe from Your man! Your friends and even Your Daughter! I think it's in Your best interest to listen when so many are begging you to!

Ohio
Ohio

GOSH it seems people just really would rather have Brooks be mean. What has this world come to. I prefer it when people are nice and I am glad Brooks is nice. I think people with motives don't trust people that are nice. PERIOD GEEEZZZZZZZZZZ let Vicki be happy

funeblonde
funeblonde

You & Tamra are playing a 7th grade game by getting new best friends (Gretchen & Alexis). All four of you should meet, resolve your differences, and move on.

Ick
Ick

Hey Vicki! Keep your love tanks full and your bank accounts empty

kmbelfay
kmbelfay

Vicki if you could just sit back and really see with more than your eyes, Brooks is not right for you. Everyone watching sees it. Everyone with sense that is.

fanoftheOC
fanoftheOC

friend of Alexis> things you want to hear a friend say?? *needed a word that rhymes with *dire*> while receiving a gift from Alexis *do WE know that Shannon - is that that girls car?> about her choice in camping buddies *you can't fix stupid> when "defending" her to Tamra screw top wine...that's not even real is it> at least she got you wine..sheesh she's wearing a wedding dress camping> while handing you a cute scarf All I can say is ,, Alexis must be desperate for friends. Passive aggressive much Vickie?

Jerseygram
Jerseygram

If you don't want to have your choices and/or anything else about your life criticized, stop living it on a "reality" television show. DUH!!

jb5513
jb5513

Vicki-- why is it when anyone, your family, friends, the viewers of this show, etc. say something you don't like or disagree with, it is "hurtful". But when you make comments to and/or about someone on your show or their family members, it's not hurtful?? Can't wait to see you actually apologize to Gretchen in person for some of the things you've said. Are you being "friendly" towards Alexis because you disagree with Tamra's "friendship" with Gretchen??Makes me wonder if you really do see things differently since Briana's illness.

Fort Worth
Fort Worth

Wow... You invite us to keep our opinions to ourselves (about your boyfriend who is on a reality show) AND you invite us to call you to manage our money. N.O. thanks.

malibutls
malibutls

Vicky, everyone seems to be worried about Brooks, what they need to do is to watch your reaction to him. You are not stupid, very savvy and you are not buying it. I think you are going along for the ride right now. But people should not under estimate you. So very happy for your daughter, she is a true gem. Kind regards, Malibutls

Ruby2
Ruby2

great blog...but, was disappointed that you were speaking badly about gretchen. you should have quit while ahead. both you and gretchen should sit down and clear the air. find that peace that you are searching for.

Hatemeangirls
Hatemeangirls

Are you kidding me? If any of us "have things that are negative or bad to say about Brooks, please refrain because it is hurtful to him and You". You might want to take a couple of hours to read all of YOUR blogs for the past several years and count how many "negative and bad" things you have said about countless people......you just continue to amaze me!

Michelle
Michelle

I'm sorry, but I feel like I need to, and as a viewer of a public television show, have a right to comment and say how I feel about your blog this week. I think it's very wrong of you to ask people not to comment on your relationship with Brooks, or tell you how we feel about it, because we don't know him very well when we watch you do the very same thing week after week. For the past few seasons you've done nothing but be judgmental and mean to Slade, when everyone has even said you do not know him very well. For you to sit here and ask others to do what you can't do yourself is unreasonable to me. If you were to practice what you preach, I think people (myself included) would be more inclined to respect your wishes.

I also feel like you should be prepared for people to comment on your relationship with Brooks because you are no better and your relationship is no different from any other we see on the show. If it's okay for all of us, and you, to comment on the other girls, why should you get a special pass and be left out?

That said, I have to say IMHO, sharing email and facebook account information is not proof that you are honest with each other. If anything, it's detrimental because it only proves that maybe you don't always share everything, and maybe you both don't feel the other is always being honest.

My fiance and I are getting married in July. We have lived together for over 2 years and will be together a total of 3 years in August. While we share joint financial accounts, and have access to each others credit accounts so one of us can always make payments on our bills, neither of us knows the others email, facebook, or any other communication accounts. We share everything with each other, so why bother? I think the reason so many people chose to comment on that is because most couples don't share those accounts with each other. And why would we want to or need to? I'm sure my fiance doesn't want to read the various work emails I get, or about my girlfriends relationship woes. I don't want to read about his friends problems or all of his emails from various home improvement stores. Get it? I think a lot of people like to call things the way we see them, and even though we don't get the chance to get into the depth of Brooks like you do, I think most people feel the way we do about him because of how he acts on the outside. That's why your friends say the things they do. He does seem to try too hard, to be too over the top and he does seem too good to be true. Maybe if we didn't see so much of that, we wouldn't be concerned. Just saying...

keystone
keystone

You were a really bad friend to Tamra after her reduction surgery. She had very good reasons for the surgery (cancer scare) and you were totally unsupportive. You were really putting her down and saying all negative things. Shame on you.

Viewer 2143
Viewer 2143

I loved this episode. So nice to see a group of women enjoying the simple things in life, minus the skunk! I was almost fooled into believing that you have mellowed but alas your blog has once again proven me wrong. Why make such a sincere apology to Gretchen when she wasn't in your face and then slam her down again in your blog? Brooks IS creepy on camera. Might be all you say he is in person but he makes me go ewww. I think you were jealous of Tamara and Eddie's relationship and you have jumped into la la land with a guy that even gives the ladies pause. Oh well, your life, your bed, you have to live in it.