Cast Blog: #RHOC

Glamping, Camping, and Skunks

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Glamping, Camping, and Skunks

Vicki addresses her relationship with Brooks and laughs out loud about this episode.

First of all I wanted to sincerely apologize for not posting my blog last week. I sat down several times to write it and ended up not being able to put to words what I was really feeling. This week I have a clearer perspective and thought I would comment on a few parts of last week's show that really bothered me, and then we'll jump into this week's episode.

There have been some opinions about what I said on the show referencing Brooks' access to my phone and emails and the assumption that he also has access to my bank accounts/records. Just to clarify to everyone, what I said was that he had access to my voicemail and emails-- NOT my money. I only said that was to merely point out that I have nothing to hide from him and that we are completely transparent when it comes to one another. Brooks does not have access to my money, my bank accounts, or any of my financial accounts. He has his own accounts, and I have mine -- and neither one of us have access to each other's personal finances.

Some people, including Tamra, have voiced her opinion about "keeping her eye on Brooks to supposedly protect me." My question to her is. . .PROTECT ME FROM WHAT?!

Although I find it nice that she cares about me, I've told her she has nothing to worry about. I have known Brooks in the insurance/investment business for over five years, which quite frankly is longer than she has known Eddie. I am not engaged to Brooks. I don't live with Brooks, nor do we intend on doing anything like that in the near future. We are comfortable where our relationship is, and we are both very cautiously optimistic that our relationship will last. To say we don't have struggles would be a lie, however it's been a long time (if ever) where I truly felt like I was with my best friend. Everyday that I am given the opportunity to spend with him, he is an amazing boyfriend and a true partner to me. If any of you have things that are negative or bad to say about him, I would request you to refrain as it is not only hurtful to Brooks, but also to me.

One thing that you do not get to do is get into his soul, his mind, and his heart, as the show captures us at times in a very skewed way. In any event, all I ask for you at this time is to support us, and not to belittle or voice your opinions about someone you don't really know. He is an amazing father who loves his children unconditionally and consistently financially supports his children. He makes me very happy and at the end of the day that is all what we should wish for one another.

This was one of my favorite episodes so far. I don't know about you, but I found myself laughing out loud and really enjoying the "no drama" for once. When I visited Tamra after her surgery, I was actually very surprised on how she still had "boobies" even after her implants were removed. I thought she looked great, even though I made fun of her "itty bitty titties." Now that her bandages have been off and she is all healed, she actually looks very proportioned for her body. I think she looks very natural and amazing. I owe her and everyone else an apology if I offended anyone about saying "I don't know why anyone would want itty bitty titties." That was an inappropriate thing to say, and I misspoke and sincerely apologize if I offended anyone.

I think it was so awesome for Alexis to plan our "glamping" trip. It was thoughtful of her to put together the s'more bags and to buy us such cute scarfs. I really enjoyed spending time with the ladies and actually without Gretchen and Tamra there it seemed to be less stressful for some reason. I don't know why, but it did. I don't like the conflict that is brewing between Gretchen and Alexis, nor do I like Tamra not really liking that I am friends with Alexis. I like Alexis, and now that I have gotten to know her on a more personal level, she's harmless, sweet, and very easy to be around. At the end of the day, that is much easier than someone who wants to fight, judge you, or is confrontational. It's been very easy between us which I need more of in my life lately.

I had so much fun glamping because although I'm not a true "camper." I really liked being out in the woods, building a fire, chasing skunks, and sleeping in a real bed with running water. When the skunk appeared at our campsite, all the girls ran in their cabins and Briana and I actually took it upon ourselves to chase the skunk away. We laughed about it so much when we went in the cabin that night and said how similar we both are. We were not going to let that skunk ruin our night!

It loved getting to know Heather more and I really like her. She's not as "fancy pants" as I thought she was. She fit right into the camping environment right away. We ended up taking a walk just the two of us, and it was nice spending time with each other without any outside distractions.

I love spending time, with Briana and glamping was perfect for her after all that she has been through. I found out while we were laying in our beds talking that she is "in a relationship" with a man that she met a few years ago who has been at war. He just returned from Afghanistan, is a marine, and she seems to really like him and he makes her very happy. He's been very sweet to her while she was in the hospital, doing daily video chatting with her and sending her tons of flowers. She deserves to be treated like the princess that she is, and I'm glad he has recognized how special of a person she really is.

Now onto Gretchen. . .OMG talk about drama queen! I have NO idea or clue how or why her vocal cords were damaged but to blame it from our fight from the Bunko Party is hard to believe. I think there is much more to the story, which we will probably never know, but if anyone was going to lose her voice it should have been me. She seems to be the "drama" queen this season on her ailments. Between the "sprained ankle" at the mud run to (now this week) her voice, I don't know if she's looking for attention or if she's really believing her own BS. To be carried off the mud run in such a dramatic way with Slade putting her in a medic golf cart to then the next day wearing high heels just doesn't make sense. My thought is she just didn't want to be in the mud run anymore and maybe she did twist her ankle, but quickly figured this was a great way to get herself out of there.

Regarding her voice. . .it did sound like she lost it or was a bit raspy, but did she ever think it was just a cold or laryngitis or maybe she screamed at Slade about the stupid Improv show? Who really knows what happened to her voice, but at the end of the day it was not my fault or will I take responsibility for it. Slade and her caused all this conflict between us and as I said before I'll take 50 percent of the blame but not 100 percent.

As I close this blog, I'm feeling sad, happy and everything in between. I am going through so many life changes and as I have just approached my 50s, I'm realizing more and more that I'm going to embrace each and every day as is if it's my last. I'll surround myself with positive influences, hug my kids a little bit longer, tell my family how much they mean to me as often as possible, and continue to inspire others NOT TO SETTLE. Although I have to go through some tough moments to get to that place of peace, I am confident I am on the right path.

My son Michael is doing great. Many of you have noticed he hasn't been on the show much this year, and he says his life was a little bit "boring" and therefore there wasn't a lot to film. He still working at Coto Insurance and is our life insurance specialist. I am proud of Mike as to the man that he has become and he has a bright future ahead of him.

My WinesbyWives company with Tamra is doing great too. Our memberships are growing daily and people are really excited about being part of a company that gives back to two great organizations. To find out more about our wine memberships and to register, please visit WinesbyWives.com.

Keep me in mind if you have recently been laid off or changed jobs and have a 401K you need to rollover, please email me at info@cotoretirementplanning.com. I look forward to assisting you.

Have a great week and don't forget to do a little "Woo hoo" now and then.

Love,
Vicki
Xoxo
VickiGunvalson.com

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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