Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki explains how time will (and has) healed all the wounds from her divorce.

on May 9, 20120

Both Mike and Briana are very guarded and very territorial of me. You could feel the tension in the air when Brooks and I sat in the room with Briana and Ryan. Looking back, it was probably one of the most uncomfortable moments of my life. I really do not like conflict and when it comes to my kids, they are the first priority in my life. I don't like them being disrespectful, but I do acknowledge that they didn't mean to be. It's interesting that now they are 25 and 26 and are adults. I still worry about them like they were five and six. I guess that feeling will never go away. Sometimes I think it was easier when they were younger than it is now. Either way, they are my kids. They are my priority, and I understand their fears and the uncertainty that comes with their mother dating.

 

Since this night seven months ago, we are all at a much better place. Brooks, Mike, and I just got back from the Kentucky Derby together and Briana, Ryan, Brooks, and I go out on double dates quite often. It's not perfect by any means, but it is much better than it was when this episode filmed.

I am not rushing into marriage with Brooks, as I myself have a lot of growing and healing to do. The only thing I believe that will help me through is TIME. Those of you that have ever been divorced, understand that it's like dealing with a death -- except the person is still around. It's a void that is very difficult, but I know it's the right thing for Donn and I. Brooks has been a real partner through all of my transitions and can feel the stress all around. He has stood beside me encouraging me to be patient with Mike and Briana, and consistently influences me to shower them with love. He continuously reassures me that "everything will be OK in God's timing." To say I haven't shed an ocean of tears through all of this transition would be an understatement.

134 comments
Robin Aughtman
Robin Aughtman

Vicki I know you got hardtimes but just remember your beautiful, smart, sexy successful and a wonderful Mother and friend! So when hardtimes get you down try to think of those things and remember you are important to yourself and everyone you love and that will get you over those hardtimes! Stay strong and LIVE, LAUGH and LOVE!!!

Realhousewifenotinorangecounty
Realhousewifenotinorangecounty

Vicki do you not realize Brianna eloping is the product of you drilling all of your nonsense about waiting until marriage to have sex? By the time you're 25 of COURSE you're so insane to have it, this is exactly what happens if you think you must be married first. Please rethink some of your insane ideas around sexuality, as not even you walk the walk.

Jules-Ga
Jules-Ga

It would take to much of my time to post my opinion, so I'll just post a couple of observations when I read your blog. You have the ability to sugar coat everything, I've never posted to one of your blogs you talked about people missing Don as the reason for the feeling about Don, It wasn't about Don at all, although he's a great guy, he's a good man and by the way deflecting is also another one of your abilities. It's it about the way Brookes has lived his life that's public knowledge. Brianna had a valid reason for being uneasy about him and to question you about it. You went there for that talk even though you didn't like hearing about everything she found out. Therefore can you question her feelings and judgement on her husband or the way she got married. She could always have the wedding at a later time which did happen.

hibby
hibby

Hi Vicki Just wanted to say I am so happy for your daughter. My sister wasn't so lucky with her results. Stage 4 cervical cancer nothing we can do. We have 8 months of radiation and chemo. I wanted so badly to move to California and meet you and Tamra. I have alot in common with both of you. (controlling husband). I was ready to leave, and then got the news of my sister. So, I am putting that on hold and focusing on her. I hope I can be as strong as you are Vicki. I plan on taking my sister to California for a visit once we get thru the radiation. I hope my sister and I get a chance to meet you and Tamar. I fill her hear every week about you girls. I believe so strongly that she is going to be okay and we are going to move to the Sunshine State. Again I am so happy for you and your daughter. Hope to meet you and Tamara someday.

Southern Lady in South Florida
Southern Lady in South Florida

I want to say CONGRATULATIONS to Brianna and Ryan! Brianna is such an impressive young lady. There are soooo many girls on tv right now that are a hot-mess and live a crazy, drama filled life with no substance, and Brianna is really setting a great example for girls. She finished college, has a job- a real one, not a spokesperson gig, supports herself, has dealt with real life issues, like cancer and non-elective surgery, isn't body conscience- we certainly don't worry about her being unhealthy from smoking and drinking red bull all day, is showing that you can say no to people and not try to please everyone around you without being a b---- that's important to see there is more than the airhead or the b----, and has demonstrated that in life sometimes you have to be willing to take a chance on love. So many girls are too scared of getting divorced that they set unrealistic expectations for a possible mate and doom the relationship from the beginning. Brianna is showing that when it's right, it's right and not knowing where you will be in 20 years is okay. As someone who's been married 16 years, I can tell you, it's hard to look more than a few years down the road, no matter who you are. And now Brianna is having a baby, so we will see the ups and downs of that in a more realistic way than photos of million dollar nurseries in magazines. I hope Vicki is so proud of her daughter- she is really the best thing to come out of the RHOC franchise. To be raised in that environment of spoiled kids and misplaced priorities- the gated OC community- while being filmed and to turn out as amazing as she has really shows a lot about her character and upbringing. I give Vicki credit for managing to instill values in her daughter, whether directly or indirectly. I just wish the entire family health and happiness for years to come! God Bless!

dtad
dtad

Vicki. How can everyone else be wrong about Brooks? Please listen to the people that love you. Briana is so much more mature than you are. She is very wise for her age. She obviously did what she did so they didn't have to deal with you making it all about you. You need to slow things down with Brooks and get some therapy for yourself.

Maria martin
Maria martin

I became a widow at 47. My beloved husband knowing that he was dying told me that he wanted me to find company as I was so young. But cautioned me about opportunist guys that looked for vulnerable women. He was so wise!!!! Soon guys knew that I was a widow with a large inheritance, pensions, stocks, real state holdings in addition to my profession as a medical legal administrator as I am a R.N and a Paralegal, I started to get offers for dates. The elimination was that the perspective guy should be at least equally solvent or should have more assets than me. Everyone was eliminated!!! Surprised??? It has been over 10 years since my husband left, and I am happy BYMYSELF with my dignity intact as well as my bank accounts and all my assets are still mine. I would never pay or buy clothes, let drive my car, use my credit cards, pay for vacations to a man some he can keep my GAS TANK FULL as you put it. Where is your common sense? Please, be cautious with Brook, he seems so fake and I think he has a problem with drinking. He always appears impaired. Please watch the shows and see for yourself. Good luck, be careful. I do care! It would be so sad if he is the way everyone sees him, except you. Do an extensive background check on him. What I am saying to you is out of caring and not out of malice. God bless you!!!!!

Michelle K from O-town
Michelle K from O-town

Vicki-I have to say sometimes you make me crazy when you argue over people! That said, my heart went out to you tonight. I was Brianna's age when my parents got divorced after 30 yrs. It is such a difficult time for the entire family. We all get divorced when parents split up, even the kids. Our family breaks up and no one quite knows how to have one on one relationships with each other. It's painful, sad & it takes a while for everyone to get their footing. I thought Brianna (who I adore) was pretty tough on you. She clearly loves you and wants to protect you from any predators, but I thought she could have been gentler. I realized through my parents divorce that it was not about me. I was 23 and the first time I realized I needed to support them for a change because they were both so paralyzed with grief and fear that I was terrified for them. Golden Rule for Kids of Divorce: DO NOT TAKE SIDES. Golden Rule for Divorcing Parents: DO NOT ASK KIDS TO TAKE SIDES. P.S. My folks went on to marry wonderful spouses, both of whom I adore, and I have had the pleasure of watching my parents be truly happy in love. What more could any child ask for? Vicki, it will all work out in the end. It just needs time.

flobe
flobe

Vicki, I think alot of the comments are right. Slow this thing up with Brooks. He just doesn't seem real, Southern or not. Alot of phoney going on there. Congrats to your daughter!!! Please remember what support means and give it whole heartedly. She has your back Momma. Listen to her...

SouthernT
SouthernT

So happy for Briana- she is a wonderful young lady. You should be proud of her desire to seize love and life-she gets it! I find it sad that you have made this about what happened or didn't happen to YOU! God blessed your daughter with good health and now a baby. Don't project your mistakes to her life, they were your choices, your mistakes.

Do you always put a sales pitch at the end of your blog?Sometimes money doesn't solve problems but creates them( like not being able to get divorced because you don 't want to pay Donn-geez, I can't imagine Brooks would have any money either with 4 children thousands of miles away)! Briana has her priorities in line, please join her!

Boston Housewife
Boston Housewife

Vicki, You know that Briana did what she did to have control. Let her have that. Don't be a jerk to her or you'll lose her. After the cancer scare just be grateful to have her alive!

 Chell
Chell

Vickie I have been watching the show since it started and have seen the many changes that have happened. You have changed a lot and I am sorry to say not for the better. The way you acted when your daughter told you she got married, was embarrassing, for one thing the guy does not ask the mother for a daughters hand in marriage they ask the father. You talk about how your daughter reacted when she meet Brooks, and you were embarrassed on how she reacted, and that she was not bought up like that, Go back and look how you reacted to her. She's 25 has a mind of her own and she knows that she is in love, you should be giving her support and understanding, at least shes going to have a wedding with her friends. Could it be that you were upset because you have lost control of her, and that she has grown to be independent? How can everyone be so wrong about Brooks? I don't see how you can condone having an affair with someone before you are even divorced. Sounds like you were having the affair even before you and Don split. Dating after a separation is bad enough, but to set and say your tank is full is called adultry. Take the time to listen to your family and friends and don't rush into anything that you might regreat. Listen to your daughter she has a good head on her shoulders.

mariaaaa
mariaaaa

Vickie, you are so smart BUT you don't need a man that bad do you? listen to your daughter, we all see something you don't? maybe you should watch the show, he is after something and god bless him he will tell anyone anything to have it plz, your kid is right on this one

Cecilia Ponce
Cecilia Ponce

this is the first time I have ever made a comment but after watching the episodes it amazes me how a strong women like you is buying into everything this new man is telling you. YOU do not need a man to make YOU HAPPY! you are the only one that can make you happy! Being in a relationship from the age of nine"teen" a "teen" ager up to now and always depending on man to make you happy is really sad. In order for you to find "true love" you need to learn how to be happy being alone! until you learn how to do that "NO MAN" will ever make you happy. You have another shot at doing it right and you should take this time to focus on yourself and your relationship with your kids. Have fun with your girlfriends and enjoy being single. Your daughter is right on and being a parent myself I know that we always want to be right and know what's best but there are also times when as hard as it may be our kids can teach us something. You're very blessed to have kids that are honest with you and want the best for you so don't blow it because you want to be right.

Katie R.
Katie R.

Vicki PLZ PLZ READ THIS...i just wanted to share with you something that i've gone through with my parents being divorced and as soon as they seperated my mom started dating the first man she met. I dont want u to take any judgement from this b/c i dont personally know you or brooke's. I was alway super close with my mom she was great with all three of us kids, she started dating this man that we had some concerns about and everything changed drastically. We argued with her b/c she didnt want to hear our concerns and he seemed like an opportunist to us, we werent being mean but just worried about our mom, we love her ya know, but she would always be defensive and tell us how happy she was and come back with attacks on us and our lives. She had never introduced him to my brother and my bro came home one evening and he was there and things ended very badly and my mom defended him after he treated my brother with an sarcastic attitude and that ended their mother son relationship, she chose him over her kids. She married the guy and he did turn out to be an opportunist, shes broke, started beating on her, and completly alienated her from her kids. After they married he wouldnt let her around us and would say horrible things about us and just cause alot of fights between her and us. Its been ten years now and sadly we havent had a relationship with her for these ten years. My brother just got home from war, he's been a marine for five years and she had no idea what was even going on with him. My sister is married and has a three year old, my mom didnt come to her wedding b/c her husband wasnt invited and she doesnt even know her grandaughter. Im married and having problems getting pregnant, and shes not been there through anything. I dont want to see this happen to you with your kids, im not saying its the same situation but its really a horrible thing. It kills us that we dont have our mom, and im sure its hard on her too, but it all started from her not listening to our concerns about this guy and now shes married to him and feels stuck. I am not saying brooke's is like this, he doesnt seem like the type that would try to alienate you from your kids but i just want you to keep your eyes open and keep close with your kids, i just see some similarities and i dont want anyone to ever go through the pain that we have b/c we do want her there. But even time to time when we try to talk to her she just goes off about how we need to accept him and blaming us for things. we do accept that he's her husband but b/c he has given us plenty of reasons to not like him we dont want to be around him and she could have a relationship with us outside of him but he wont allow it. So just plz make sure no matter what dont lose the relationship with your kids b/c of a man, even if brianna and mike chose to not like him and dont want to be around him, dont push them and be defensive just continue having your relationship with them outside of him...lots of love...good luck Vicki i hope everything works out great for you!!

khanoumcheh
khanoumcheh

Beautiful Brianna just wanted a private moment with her love. Congratulations to her and her new husband and best of luck to them both. He has served his country and she has gone through harsh experiences and they both certainly are more mature than you and see what is important. I hope that they can keep you at a healthy distance as they are moving forward in life because when it comes to you, it's only about your love tank and no one else matters. Open your eyes, you are not a bad woman, but you always seem to be jealous of others' happiness and success. Brooks on the other hand is not even worth mentioning, just one word: BEWARE!!

susanamarie
susanamarie

Be cautious with Brooks, he seems too pushy!

Asl
Asl

Vicki, I try not to comment on what is viewed with-in an hour. Vickie, you have (2) wonderful children, they along with some of your friend(s) see something that you choose to put blinder's on regarding Brooks. You said that you know thing's about him that no one knows. (OK), It might help your children if you would share some bit of information with them that might make them understand him a little more. When a man ask a soon-to-be, or a divorced women about her, property, finance's, what will she own after the divorce is final, he drives her car, has access to her computer you are buying him clothes THAT RIGHT THERE IS A REAL BIG RED (FLAG). Vicki, you are about to loose the most important thing's in your life (THE RESPECT OF YOUR OWN CHILDREN) and god know's you don't want that over a man that they cannot even relate too. I know that you need your TLC, but there is something that is really not right with "Brooks". Vicki, please slow the love bus up with Brooks, and dig dipper into his underground life. Something is really not right with this man, stand up and take some of your own advice.

HeatherHIckman
HeatherHIckman

CONGRATS on the new online wine and wife company hope all works well you the two of you..

heatherhickman

HeatherHIckman
HeatherHIckman

Oh my gosh, Vicki, I love love you and your show an I have to disagree with the ones who say you were wrong to have your AUDLT children meet the man that you are dating it not like you have different men meeting them your happy and all you want is you kids to bet happy for you but you should better inform them of his personal sisuation off camra. Your daughters consers are important. With that being said, I would also like to add to the lady's yes I understand you don't really know him but I must say Southen MEN are the best men to have by your side. I know it's not somthing you lady's are used to but, take the time to get to know him and I am sure you will see just what Vicki see's in him. On the marriage thing I have to say CONGRATS, I understand how you feel Vicki I have a daugther of my own and I would be upset if that was the way she when and got married, but again being the daughter of a military father they don't just get married because and you have one better he's a marine and they really don't get married just because. They are honest hard working men that do thing we could never understand. You have a good son-in-law take the time to get to know him and you will see just how good he is for your daughter and how good she is for him. I really just had to say that lost my cable for a couple of weeks and just caught up on the episodes i missed I'm a long time fan and think your show is the most realistic on the air. The other's are ok but, at time they seem fake OC is real all the time. hope you take the time to read this. P.S. I know the new one is on tonight like i said lost my cable for a min just caught up. lol

Your fan, Heather Hickman

Viewer42352
Viewer42352

Vicki, I love you and I love the show, but I have to say something!

Watching Briana and Michael meet Brooks was soooo frustrating for me! I am an adult child of recently divorced parents and I can 100% see where your kids are coming from. When my father started dating even before the divorce was final I felt like he had every right to do so and every right to find happiness-and so do you.

That being said, I had absolutely NO desire to meet any woman that he dated, but he forced me and my siblings to meet a couple of them and to "accept" them. Honestly, I resent him for this. I feel that the right way to go about this would be to, first of all, be with one person for several YEARS, and secondly, allow the meeting to happen naturally and casually. If my father had been with a woman for a couple of years, then it would almost be a guarantee that his girlfriend and I would meet naturally, and if I had been hearing about their relationship and how happy he was for that long, then I would be much more inclined to accept them without any push from my father.

I wish you and your family the best, but just try to put your children first, even if they are both grown, and you need to respect them and their wishes before you can ask them to respect any man you are dating.

God Bless.

Pamela1961
Pamela1961

It was weird when Brooks asked about your assets. He also comes off as if it's all b.s. compliments. BUT I don't know him, you do. You're a bright woman...just heal as you have said and take your time. I also did not think your kids were rude, it was just award that they met him at the party...and he acted a bit overblown with his conversation with Ryan. Again, I don't know him...you do. Just keep your eyes open and realize that your friends and even your viewers do worry about your. :D

Kamela
Kamela

I know you filmed this several months ago but Brooks doesn't sit well with me yet. Anyone who says they love your children and act like they know them personally, isn't telling the truth. He's either co-dependent or has a motive.

My father is the same way. He tells a woman anything she wants to hear because he doesn't want to be alone. Once they are married, or the relationship goes past a year, he's a jerk. The real person starts to come out because they can only keep up the appearance for so long.

If any man said to me, "I love your kids like they were my own" after the first conversation with them, I would run like hell.

Him going to jail for the child support issue and not moving back to Cali makes me think he's still having issues in that department. You investigate and dive into the other ladies men, you should do the same for yours.

I hope you find true love and if he's the one, he's the one. Just don't let anyone take advantage of you.

HousewifeFan54
HousewifeFan54

Vivki, Telling your adult daughter to "shut up" probably isn't a good way to try to get close again. I love that Brianne has you down spot on and calls you out on it. That takes alot of courage and boy does she have it!

Killeen
Killeen

Mute the sound and watch the episode where she tells him what assets she is able to keep after the divorce. Brooks lights up like a Christmas tree. Run, Vicki. Run fast and far. Don loved you and your children, and he kept it real. Brooks is so fake, it's not funny.

Cheryl AM
Cheryl AM

Vicki wake up. You are smarter than this. The guy is after your money. Love is blind, listen to everyone around you. Finish one relationship before you rebound into another.

lolita11
lolita11

Vicki, Wake up and smell the coffee,Brooks is a loser!

Unique71
Unique71

Brooks seem like there is something he is hiding, just saying. I don't like to judge but just saying that first conversation with him and your son was interesting, okay just weird. I can't blame your adult children for feeling a little apprehensive about meeting him.

You seem to like to control their lives but when they have an opinion about you, its not good. Be careful!

Beth Simon
Beth Simon

If you ever read all of these, read this: You have great kids. They are smart. They are intuitive. Listen to them. Brooks, on camera, seems like a walking Hallmark Card. Disingenuous. Programmed. You may be starved for love, but don’t settle. There are plenty of great, single, men out there. You need someone strong, not a lapdog.Understand the emotional roller coaster of divorce, play around, do whatever. Do not marry this guy. It will end up in divorce number 3. Great TV for Bravo, but not great for you in the long run.

fanfrumdayone
fanfrumdayone

The way I see it, y'all are one step away from a failed and broken relationship. Marriage, parent, friend, lovers....that is the kind of drama that keeps you in front of the cameras and with a little extra cash dear Vicki. Seems as if you think your hijinks are less risky than investing in real estate. Poor misguided career gal.

MilitaryWife
MilitaryWife

I hope the wedding was beautiful today and that you are looking forward to meeting your grandson!

JodiAnn
JodiAnn

I loved Don he seems so real....brooks gives me the creeps.

Sasyvee
Sasyvee

Although I am happy that you have found happiness with Brooks, there is just something that is a little off about him. Whatever you do Vicky, don't ever let that man get ahold of your finances.

I have to commend you on your reaction to your daughter eloping. You handled it way better than I thought you would. I was waiting for the other shoe to drop & you telling them "What???!!! Are you CRAZY"????!!!! LOL!! I understand your hurt feelings, I would be too. I hope it works out for them.

SadieB
SadieB

I agree with what others have said about Brooks. He was too interested in your financial situation, not good. What does he do for a living anyway?

Rhonda Mairose
Rhonda Mairose

Hey Vicki, is Brianna going to mention the cost of the rings in her upcoming wedding ceremony like you did when you remarried Don?

maryfm
maryfm

I do not agree with you. I think a wedding is about the love two people share. I don't understand why mothers feel the need to make their daughters fulfill their wishes for their daughters. She's a grown up woman and you need to get over yourself. You are probably one of the most selfish housewives of any series.

sherry
sherry

YOu go girl...you only live once and you should be happy!!! I am going to sign up for the wine club!!! Yeah!

stephanie grif
stephanie grif

Vickie I have always liked you on the show. I have been a viewer since the show began. So I gotta be honest with you. Brooks is a gold digger & you can't see it. He is not sincere. He may be good in the sack but in my opinion he will break your heart or steal your money mark my words. If you could see what the viewers see you would be running from this man. Hope you take the blinders off soon! On a lighter note it is so good to see your daughter healthy & happy. Briana truly seems like she is an good place in her life. Hope you things only get better for you & your children. Hugs to you & I wish you all the happiness your heart can hold:)

nyclee
nyclee

Brianna was with her current husband for a few years prior to getting married. She did not marry a total stranger.

merljan
merljan

Congratulations, you have a new son in law and you are going to be a grandmother!!!!

dkettle
dkettle

I am a little surprised and perhaps I missed it, but my take from Briana eloping was that she finally decided she was going to have a moment and a memory in her life that was just hers. She offered to do all of the things you said were important, which in the long run aren't, but wanted a drama free wedding, without cameras to capture what she and her new husband wanted and felt. I was disappointed in your reaction. I, as a mother would have been disappointed, but she offered to play the game with you afterwards. Why couldn't you just say, "Congratulations. I am happy for you both and welcome to the family." I am sure she would have appreciated it. You want your children to accept Brooks, but you don't accept the people in their lives. Michael was disrespectful to Brooks, but he came on too quick and crossed the line. Clearly they hold you at fault for the fall-out between you and Donn. They seem to still adore Donn. Are you sure you aren't have a mid-life crisis? It seems you are. Most everyone that posts seems to have a good opinion of Donn. He is a handsome man and patient to say the least. Why not take a step back, work on the the many things you need to change and then look at the possibility of a relationship with someone else? Most women who see you as strong and independant were a bit shocked at how quickly you clung on to someone else. I personally would have had much more respect for you if you had taken a break and was really on your own for a period of time.

Streetglide07
Streetglide07

Vicky, I understand that you are looking for happiness but am taken back a little at the fact that you have blinders on when it comes to Brooks. He reminds me of a character I used to see on the television show " Leave it to Beaver ". He sounds just like Eddie Haskell. I am also wondering why you did not put this much effort into your previous marriage. Don seems like a genuine person. I think you are going to be very sorry someday because the grass is not greener on the other side.

Maxine Maximus
Maxine Maximus

I am so embarrassed for Brooks every time he opens his mouth. Does the guy say anything that isn't contrived and something he THINKS everyone wants to hear? Is the man capable of having a normal, social conversation in a room full of people who are socializing? Every time he speaks the entire table rolls their eyes. No one wants to hear it. The way he talks should be private moments between you. It's like he thinks everyone believes he's so sweet and charming but it comes off creepy and weird. Saying that he loved Mike like his own son was beyond bizarre. If that didn't red flag you, you are in your own private Idaho. He's so busy blowing smoke up everyone's butts that he can't even be a normal guy for 5 seconds. It's UNCOMFORTABLE! I can see why Brianna and Mike were awkward around him. Mike actually gave him a chance. Things need to start slow. But, leave it Brooks to embarrass himself and ruin everything. I commend Mike for putting the kabosh on him. And for a split second I thought he was going in a decent direction with Brianna by saying he feels he already knows her. I think that's Brooks limit. One sentence before the dripping creepy comes back in. He's so gross! But then again, you're no prize so you're probably a good match. Don is one lucky guy that he's out of your marriage. I think you did everyone a favor. After seeing you eat up Brooks' weird, creepy vibe I can tell why you wouldn't like Don. He's a real guy. He says real things and everyone around truly enjoys him. Not Vicky's cup of tea. She likes freaks who repulse people for miles.

SusieInRehoboth
SusieInRehoboth

Vicki is a smart businesswoman, and if she was not in the middle of all of Brooks comments and loving her in many ways, she would have, and probably has, run a background check on him! I have no assets, but if I were single and had things of value, I would absolutely check out the new man in my life, before it would ever get serious. I can't imagine Vicki is so far gone that she is not keeping her business and romantic life, separate. Brooks, if you don't want people to talk about you in a negative light, then don't ask Vicki about financial things. It is none of your business! I understand how difficult it is to have your daughter show up married, and you didn't get the chance to help plan that big day. It has to be upsetting, however, your daughters wedding is your daughters wedding, not yours. You shouldn't make it to be yours. Congratulate them with sincerity, and buy them something they need for just starting out, and pray that this is what is going to make the two of them happy together, forever. Give praise that Brianna is well.

CaliGAL62
CaliGAL62

Vikki, I have a little diff. Opinion about you. I think it is hard sometimes for mothers, myself included to separate our wants and desires from children's. You always want the best for them, but their choices aren't always what we think are best. I actually think you handled yourself very well considering Brianna is your only daughter. You felt the pain and shock and it showed but I think you recovered your composure nicely. I felt the same hurt you felt just watching you as you heard the announcement. I think that now you should leave it alone, Brianna is not a child now. Now she is a grown married woman. Let her and her new husband now decide what to do. A wedding now? Sure if they as a married couple want to pay for it!! lol to indulge them now with an extravagant wedding would make you look silly. They WANT to be grown ups, they made the choice and its done. They are married so now it is their responsibly. As far as Brooks......were you having an affair with him while married to Don or something? He seems to have been around a LOT longer than we've know about.....sorry to say I think his "niceness" is over-kill. Makes him look like a sissy. My husband leaves the room when Brooks is on because as a man it embaresses him! lol You are strong business woman. Don't let this guy blind you into not using your radar! FYI we miss Don. Wish you would have tried a little harder to show him more respect, he may have just given you the attention you craved. The tongue can be a deadly sword.....you should have put yours away for just.

blm
blm

Vicki,brooks seems nice.only time will tell if it is going to be long lasting.you do not want to rush into anything.how long have you been seeing him.did you say 3 years you have knowned him.good luck.you seem happy this season.except the gretchen part.she owes you and lexie a sorry for being wrong.

KitWhite
KitWhite

I can really relate to strobval's comment. My son is in the Air Force and also recently returned from Afghanistan. It's a completely different world from your cat fights, costume parties, wine parties and constant whining how your daughter has shamed you.

Brianna and her husband have both been through life-changing events. They are obviously in love and deserve to be happy.

Get over yourself Vicki, and embrace the future or you'll lose your kids.

Gavin Cormany
Gavin Cormany

Vicki,

I would like to start off by saying that of all the housewives in OC, you are my top girl. You are a woman of strong conviction and tradition. This world needs more people like you. You have held your head up high in front of all the world to see as you go thru a very trying time in your life. I personally want to thank you for your bravery in sharing this with us on TV. I have a deep admiration for your parenting skills. I have no children of my own but i hope to be one shred of the parent that you are. You children are not perfect... they are human. And it is amazing to see that you did not just abandon them after they became adults. I feel that everyone needs to back off of Brooks. He is a pillar of strength for you at this time in life and if he makes you happy what more could your friends ask you? The fact that he brings a smile on your face should be enough for everyone. I will continue to watch/support all your endeavors you display for us and pray for you to be showered with blessings like the Queen you are.

Your loyal Fan Gavin :)

NaNaRhonda
NaNaRhonda

i have always loved brianna, but felt like she was acting like a child...she was very disrespectful and bratty about the elopement and brooks deals...i would have gone ballistic if my only daughter had eloped with someone she really doesn't know that well....mothers and fathers do have dreams about the day their daughters marry and no, it is not all about brianna...people who think that way are pretty selfish...vickie has killed herself working to provide for her family and think she deserves some respect for that...and as for her treating donn the way she is with brooks, we never got to see the beginning of their relationship so how can we judge what she used to be like? we got to know them during a hard time in their marriage...i have been married for almost 36 years (since i was 17) and do i behave with my hubby like i did 36 years ago....no, i do not...