Cast Blog: #RHOC

I Need Time

Vicki explains how time will (and has) healed all the wounds from her divorce.

I'm so excited to unveil Tamra and my new company, Wines by Wives, on tonight's episode. It's a concept that we talked about doing for several years, and finally launched it tonight with a formal party with all of our closest friends. We know that wine is a cocktail that many people enjoy, and we wanted to have a membership so our fans could share in our "favorite monthly selections." The best part of our new company is not only will you be able to enjoy our favorite wines of the month, but 10 percent of all the proceeds go to each of our chosen charities.

I thought it would be a perfect night at the Wines by Wives party to announce to my close friends that Briana eloped and is legally married. HOLY CRAP! Although I was still in somewhat of a state of shock that she was married, I wanted her to feel the joy of finally letting everyone else know. What Briana didn't know is that I flew my brother Billy (her favorite uncle) in to surprise her and find out that she just eloped. I think Briana was just as surprised that Billy came to see her as I was when she told me she eloped. I love surprises!

There was an uncomfortable moment this evening when both Mike and Briana met Brooks. I knew there would never be a good time, but felt tonight was just as good as any. Looking back, I wish they would have met without other people around, but somehow after several failed attempts we just couldn't make that happen.

 

Both Mike and Briana are very guarded and very territorial of me. You could feel the tension in the air when Brooks and I sat in the room with Briana and Ryan. Looking back, it was probably one of the most uncomfortable moments of my life. I really do not like conflict and when it comes to my kids, they are the first priority in my life. I don't like them being disrespectful, but I do acknowledge that they didn't mean to be. It's interesting that now they are 25 and 26 and are adults. I still worry about them like they were five and six. I guess that feeling will never go away. Sometimes I think it was easier when they were younger than it is now. Either way, they are my kids. They are my priority, and I understand their fears and the uncertainty that comes with their mother dating.

 

Since this night seven months ago, we are all at a much better place. Brooks, Mike, and I just got back from the Kentucky Derby together and Briana, Ryan, Brooks, and I go out on double dates quite often. It's not perfect by any means, but it is much better than it was when this episode filmed.

I am not rushing into marriage with Brooks, as I myself have a lot of growing and healing to do. The only thing I believe that will help me through is TIME. Those of you that have ever been divorced, understand that it's like dealing with a death -- except the person is still around. It's a void that is very difficult, but I know it's the right thing for Donn and I. Brooks has been a real partner through all of my transitions and can feel the stress all around. He has stood beside me encouraging me to be patient with Mike and Briana, and consistently influences me to shower them with love. He continuously reassures me that "everything will be OK in God's timing." To say I haven't shed an ocean of tears through all of this transition would be an understatement.

It's not that they don't like or respect Brooks. I believe it doesn't matter who it would be they would probably feel the same way.

Thank you all for your encouragement to both Briana and Ryan and to myself with dating Brooks. He is a very sweet man that does not deserve the backlash that he has been receiving from some of my friends. I appreciate their concern, but at the end of the day it's my life and if I'm happy that should be enough for them.

I hope you all have an amazing week and smile at someone you don't know, give a hug to someone you do know, and always look at the glass half full and not half empty. We control our thoughts and how we reach our destinations. . .It's the journey along the way that is important.

In closing, don't forget to contact my company if you are in the need of a 401K rollover recommendation, IRA rollover, or life insurance. We look forward to servicing your insurance needs.

Warmly,
Vicki Gunvalson
www.vickigunvalson.com

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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