Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki discusses how she will fight through her issues with Briana and Brooks.

on May 24, 2012

I loved watching Heather change her name to Dubrow for Terry, and to surprise him with it. I can understand Heather being hesitant early in their marriage of not wanting to change it right away due to her acting career and her "identity." I could see how happy it made Terry, which was so touching. I just love them.

Now onto me. . .As most of you know, I give advice to my clients regarding insurance, retirement planning, and small business consultation for a living. I feel I am very good at it, and through the past 20 years have many awards and recognitions to prove it. During my personal appearances across the country, I also give advice. In the next few weeks, I will be in Las Vegas speaking before a ballroom of over 500 women in business about their retirement planning and budget counseling called "The Women's Money Conference." This conference is sponsored by The International Association of Working Mothers and is presented by the Nevada State Treasurer's Office. The first words I will tell them is something you will see I must also do myself: Face your fears and only YOU control your own destiny.

In this week's episode, I told Brooks that Briana called him an "opportunist." Is he an opportunist? Absolutely not! Does Briana think he is? She said yes -- but there is more to her anger and it is not just about Brooks.

There have been continuous reoccurring issues with Briana's fear of abandonment which stems from her biological father -- and from Donn. Briana has never really wanted to deal with this head on, and I feel she was comfortable knowing that I was just "settling" in my marriage and my just settling wouldn't upset her home life.

Now that Briana (and Michael) are adults, I have decided to make changes for my future, and this is hard for my kids to digest. Mike seems to be handling it much better than Briana, but I know it's hard on both of them. Briana said some pretty awful things about Brooks in our fight last week, and all of it was untrue. Fact is, he has four children but NOT with three different women. It is with two women, and she hurt him and his children by saying that. Fact of the matter is, he has three children with his ex-wife and they live in Mississippi, and a son that is three years old that lives with an ex-girlfriend in another state. He loves his four children and is an excellent father, which is one of the things that attracted me to him.