Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki discusses how she will fight through her issues with Briana and Brooks.

on May 24, 2012

As most of you know by now, I work really hard, but what you see on the show really doesn't really tell the whole story. I have an insurance business and I have a career. I have two teams and sometimes I wonder if there should be two of me. I am now at the phase of my life where I am enjoying my life and actually have someone who loves me like I love him. Brooks is not an opportunist. He is not in this relationship for my money -- and does not control me. I made a promise to myself not too long ago that never again would anyone ever control me or even determine my destiny. I am in control of my life and I like it that way. . .and I'm am not going to ever change that.

I admit I am not very good at marriage or at least haven't been up until now. Marriage has not been good to me. I have high expectations, and I believe that's what we should demand in a marriage. Many years ago when I was in my late twenties, I went to a counselor contemplating divorcing my first husband who was an alcoholic. I remember the women telling me about the "3 As": Abuse, Adultry, Addiction.

She told me if any one of those three were in your marriage or relationships that it is Biblically and more importantly "OK" to divorce if your partner refused to take the necessary steps to make changes. These are my standards and they have stayed with me since I was 28 years old. I will not compromise on this nor should I. I encourage all of you not to as well