Maybe sometimes I am not easy to love because there are a lot of asteroids that are always coming my way right now. What most people DO know about me is I am not a quitter, and I don't give up or give in easily. I am a fighter. Here I am at 50 now, finding myself back to being a single mom with two wonderful adult children, whom I love with every bone in my body and who in return love me and the challenges that face us.
Yes, I am facing my fears and I'm not running away from them. Uncertainty is always around all of us and I sure don't know where my future is headed. What I do know is my life is under construction, and the final product is no where near finished. I am confident I can make my last half of my life be all that I want it to be. . .and I will. You will see soon enough that I am a woman of my word.
On a happier note, I am so proud to announce that I hosted a formal wedding celebration for Briana and Ryan in Santa Barbara on a beautiful sunny day overlooking the Pacific Ocean.
All of our families were there and their close friends. Both Donn and I walked her down the aisle, and Ryan wore his Marine Corps suit. Briana was glowing and the most beautiful bride I had ever seen. I went "all out" for her and we danced to a song that I had our band "Killing Time"/Brad Johnson rewrite for me of "Mommy's Little Girl" by Tim McGraw. There wasn't a dry eye at the reception. Life is good for our family now, and I am blessed to have had the resources to throw Briana the wedding of her dreams. I hope you enjoy some of the pictures (SEE THE ALBUM NOW).
I wish all of you a very Happy Memorial Day weekend. Please be safe, and don't drink and drive.
Don't forget about checking out Tamra's and my new wine club membership at WinesbyWives.com and become a member! It's fun!
As always, please contact us if you are in the need of any life insurance rates or if you have any 401K rollover needs. Visit my website at VickiGunvalson.com for more information.
Lastly, if you happened to be in Las Vegas the weekend of May 31st, come say hi to me and remind me about "facing your fears." I will help you face your fears just the way I do daily.
Sorry after seeing how you spoke to your daughter during the argument and the way you put your man before everyone else I have a very hard time believing this statement by you 'y children are "my life" and always will be'
The way I see it is they will be your life as long as they are living their lives the way you want them to and as long as they do not disagree with you.
Sorry but that is how it appears to me
Vickie, I agree with you, People should not do that to each other. I think you should step away from Brooks not because he is a bad person or anything like that, but so you can focus on Briana. She is a very nice girl. No man can ever love you more than your kids.She is really coming from a good place." Tamara", stay away from her. Befriend the other girls. It wont be long before she crashes and burns Karma is real. Best of luck to you.P.S GET BACK WITH DON!
Alexis confronted Tamra and wanted to know why they weren't able to get along. Tamra didn't volunteer her opinion about Alexis. Alexis asked for it. Tamra delivered. Read Tamra's blog. I hope Alexis does as well. Maybe she will try harder to BE authentic rather than ACT it. She's a horrible actress.
Ok...I'm wondering why you continuously say that Donn abandoned Brianna...I guess I'm not seeing it in that way...since well you filed for divorce and all. But seriously now saying that Brianna's issues are with the men who "abandoned her"...wow! Hey, don't get me wrong...I have "daddy issues" too but when my mother blames that for me reacting to something she has done I make sure to set her straight. I think some women use that as an excuse to be all "you have to deal with me and my craziness because I wasn't the one that abandoned you and it's your dad's fault for leaving"...too much of that going on nowadays!
OMG VICKI...STOP....classic Shakespeare....you are PROTESTING TOO MUCH. Clearly you think there is something to everyone not trusting Brooks or else you wouldn't be so defensive. And btw, just because YOU say something, doesn't means its true.
Vicki, you have many strengths to draw on from your own life experience, understanding and learning. Take a lesson from your daughter. It must have been incredibly hard to say those pieces to you, but it came from a place of love. Hold on to that moving forward. Take care, and give care.
its funny how you said it wasn't right for Tamara to tell Alexis her true feelings, but you had no problem telling your boyfriend that your daughter called him an opportunist.
I'm just sayin......................
No one, absolutely no one works as hard as you do to try to convince others that you are right and everyone else is wrong. You are so "driven" to accomplish this, you have fooled yourself into believing your self righteous words. One blog you ask the viewers to not post their opinions, the next one, you are trying to cover what we just witnessed you doing to others. You really need professional help. Take a pause, everyone, 2 husbands, 2 children, friends and aquaintences cannot all be wrong. Have you ever, ever asked yourself, "what am I doing wrong"...apparently not. You take no responsibility for your actions. You fail to realize that we see and hear what Brooks says, and if that is not enough, who acts like him....no southern gentleman I know. A man without a cause does not talk the way he does...he only says what he thinks you or others want to hear. Either grow up or be quiet.
Vicki, I like you and I get you. You definitely had a mean streak a few years ago but you have come a long way and changed for the better. I love the way you can see the good in people (unlike Tamra who behaves like a rabid pitbull). I think people are unfair to judge Brooks who they see maybe 3 minutes a week. I don't think you are a stupid woman and I know you would never be stupid with your money. Very happy that life is looking good for you.
Every time you talk about how you will support Brianna, you also add that you expect her to do the same for you. How about just simply supporting Brianna and the decisions she made, without expecting anything in return?
Vicki...I just looked at Briana's pics and they are stunning! She looked so gorgeous and so did you! Beautiful gowns! Thanks for sharing them! Your tiff with Briana seems like it was so painful to you but maybe she needed to feel safe to voice all of what she was feeling. It looked to me..as a viewer..that the glass of wine helped her get it out into the open and also now that she is married, she feels safer and more supported if she tells you something that she was dreading . A child knows their mother sometimes better than the mother knows herself! She knew how you would react and it was distressing her to say those things, but also very freeing for her to be able to be honest. There cant be anything real in a relationship if one person feels forced to choke back their feelings because of fear of hurting or offending the other. Briana made it clear that she WANTs to stay close with you...and it seemed like she wants you to be her "mommy" and reassure her...without you getting all bent out of shape about it. I thought Brooks was amazingly insightful when you two were discussing it. I think he is so funny and cant help laughing at how PERFECT he is in the things he says. He shows great taste in being with you! It is great to see you so happy at last! I also loved the comments that you made about the conversation with Alexis and Tamara...spot on! This is the best season of the Housewives so far and you are so much fun! Take care!
Vicki, In regards to what you said about Tamara and Alexis I do not believe Tamra was being mean to Alexis. Alexis asked Tamra why she didn't like her and Tamra honestly told her. I used to be an Alexis fan, but I no longer am. Everything is always about Alexis and she is always right. The thing that turned it around for me regarding her was the bunco party where she just sat there while you and Gretchan were arguing, but then got mad at Gretchen for not jumping into her argument with Tamra. Not only that, but Alexis continued to berate Gretchen about it for which Gretchen even apologized in the limo. Alexis always makes everything about her, the most recent being her twins bday party.
Secondly, you mentioned that Briana has abandonment issues with her bio dad and Donn. Excuse me but why would she have abandonment issues with Donn. He didn't go anywhere.
Also, Briana is not a child and had every right to talk to you the way she did. She wasn't rude or ugly about it, but because she said things you didn't like you turned it around on her and her marriage. You've even attempted to make that all about you complianing about how she robbed you of all of the wedding planning. Unbelievable. You also said that you admit when you're wrong? When has that ever been. The only time you've come close was when you apologized to Gretchen, but then you immediately demanded an apology in return.
As far as Brooks goes if that's what makes you happy then so be it, but you let a truly wonderful man go in Donn. To me it's complete karma that for all these years you've bashed Slade and now your new boyfriend is even worse than Slade.
wow...i hope you have seen enough of your bad behavior and bullying in the past years to realize you better make a change... Maybe it's because Tamra has a new BFF to be hateful and mean with - Gretchen.
I hope you keep this new attitude..
Loved you blog... Thank you for admitting T was out of line.... There is no reason to be such a mean awful person... She acted disgusting and someone needs to tell her that.... She cld have just said, I don't want to be friends and left it at that.... . I want to stop watching this show I love now because I never want to see that person again!
Vicki, I"m glad you're in a better place now, but that does not forgive what you've done to your costars over the last 7 years. You have been awful to Jeana, Slade, Gretchen, Alexis and pretty much everyone. You need to apologize
dont make excuses for briana for the way she feels about Brooks. she cares alot about her family -like the time she didnt want to sell the lakehouse-and doesnt want her mother to get hurt esp if she assumed y'all had a emotional relationship already brewing pre-seperating from Donn. Michael felt the same way it was obvious. No wonder all the sudden you had no issues with Gretchen and now say its none of your business. I cant believe Brooks has a 3 yr old!!
I am so glad that you are finally seeing the truth about Tamra and that Tamar is the real toxic in your life not Gina Kehoe. Tamra has serious problems, if some one is happy she is going to rip them down. Alexis does not act fake and she is pretty, young and happy, and if anyone is truly happy Tamra is ready to bring them down. You look great this year!
Tamra was wrong people. No matter that Alexis asked. You don't have to say such harsh things & in such a condescending manner.
Vicki's right. Everybody should just be kind to each other. Whether you like them or not - if you are in the same circle for work or whatever - be nice!!
I have a favorite saying, which I love, and that is. . ."just because you say it, doesn't mean it's true." Remember that!
Sorry Vic, if anyone has daddy issues, it's you and you are probably projecting that onto Briana, who is a lovely girl by the way. Kudos to you and Don for raising her that way. Brooks is too much, too soon. And quite frankly, I think you can do a whole lot better. Concentrate on yourself and your kids and be happy. Real love will come.
Brianna and Donn always seemed to get along and they seemed to hang out together at family functions. Donn seemed to always be there for her and to be a good dad.
Ryan wore his Marine Corps "suit"? REALLY? Beautiful pictures of the wedding. Happy to see Donn smiling (as usual). Everyone wishes the happy couple all the best in their future together.
I have been where you are. Careful with this guy... I don't know where things are with the two of you but, I think Brianna could be right. Again, I don't know him, so I can't judge...but do give yourself some time... Get to know him and don't rush in...even if Brianna did... (remember...she's a lot younger. :-) )
Vicki- It's obvious that the bond between you & Briana is strong. I believe that is why you both distrust each others partners. You both believe that the men aren't "good" enough for mom/daughter. This is a typical family reaction when a new member is introduced into the family. However, there may be some validity to both of your concerns. Or maybe not...only time will tell. You know hat they say, love is blind. Anyway, I wish you both the best! Good luck.
I am so happy you are now friends with Alexis. Tamra is such a bully! It is hard to watch. I like you SO much better now that you and Tamra have some distance. You are mature and lovely to watch. I pray you and Alexis stay friends. PLEASE... help her out during the reunion. You know the "mean girls" are going to gang up on her =(
I don't know why people are so hard on you. I like your openness and your independence. You work hard and love hard. Good for you.
Have you noticed how Briana keeps coming to you and speaking to you about the issues she has with you? That doesn't mean she has issues with Donn and with father, that means she has issues with you.
Hi Gang,in the UK I am totaly addicted to the series, but we are way behind with the series, as here you are just divorcing Donn!! Would be so great to get the new series screened in UK as I have withdrawal sympton!!! Do so hope you can be happy Vicky, but stop telling Brianna what to do and stop behaving like an overgrown child yourself- Gina was and is a wimp! Tamra whilst spirited is a little viscious and so doesn't get the irony of her situation in relation to Gretchen and so on!!! please get your newer series screened soon in the UK
Since the beginning, you have had very negative things to say about most of the husbands or boyfriends on the show (Slade, Simon,Jim) and you didn't seem to hold back your opinions of Gretchen, Alexis etc. There were many times you were quite rude and negative. Everyone, including their partners have been subjected to the blunt opinions of others (viewers,castmates)so, you are not being treated any differently, but expect special consideration.It's one thing to admit that you've done so and say you realize now how wrong it is. It's another to act like you've never done the things you find so offensive. Also, you are using any issues Brianna may have and speaking for her as if her opinions on your situation are not valid. Obviously, many outsiders have formed the same impression. Think of it as a good thing that Brooks is aware of people's perceptions, perhaps he will be more careful of having and proving good intentions.People are doing you a favor
I've always liked you Vicki and rooted for you too but I really do hope that Brooks is all you think he is. He just seems kind of creepy to me, like he's trying too hard - something isn't right about him. If his kid is 3 and you've been with him for a while now (we heard Brianna talking about what was going on) does that mean he left his girlfriend for you? If that's the case, you DEFINITELY need to watch out! How can he be such a great Dad if his 3 year old is in another state and he's always with you?? Something is not right here and I really hope he doesn't screw you over!
I think that if Brooks would stop b--- s--ting so much, and felt like he had to say something nice or prophetic to or about people he doesn't even know, then maybe, we wouldn't dislike him so much.
Vicki your daughter's wedding pictures are beautiful. She looked absolutely gorgeous in those pictures. I'm so happy for her and Ryan and I truly wish the best for you and Brooks as well, even though I have doubts about that relationship. I don't want to express an opinion on Brooks because we really don't know him only from what Bravo allows us to see and that's pretty hard to determine what kind of guy he is or isn't with only bits and pieces of film.
Vicki - I've always been a fan, but you really need to listen to Brianna. She SCHOOLED you, my dear. You told her to "bring it on," and she did. Your attempt to characterize her problem with Brooks as "abandonment issues" is absurd. Everyone around you is signaling the alarm about this guy, yet you remain oblivious because right now he fills your apparently insatiable need for attention. Trust me, it won't last.
I had to chuckle when I read your criticism of Tamra regarding her conversation with Alexis. You have arguably been the meanest and most snide of all the housewives, and your new-found "friendship" with Alexis is suspicious, to say the least. It's pretty obvious that you're simply reacting to Tamra's reconciliation with Gretchen (who also schooled you beautifully when she pointed out your hypocrisy in criticizing Slade for being behind on his child support payments).
Brianna was most right in stating that you have changed. You really seem lost right now. Take what she said to heart and give your self some time alone. If nothing else, you are a successful and beautiful woman and deserve better. The fact that you either can't or are unwilling to see how smarmy and creepy Brooks is speaks volumes. Please heed your daughter's advice and give this embarrassing relationship a rest.
I'm not sure which bible you live by, but the 3 A's are not in the King James version. You marry for life. You can always separate for pretty much any reason, but a woman is not free to marry again until her spouse has passed. Oh sure, that doesn't apply much in the world anymore, but that IS what the bible says. So maybe reading it and not taking the distorted version of a friends would better serve.
As for Brooks, I guess only time will tell.
Vicki, I am watching previous episodes so I am behind...working woman you know :) I am 30 years old and a stage 3 cancer survivor. I was diagnosed the week before Christmas of 2009. I understand Brianna. If you haven't been through it, you can't possibly understand the feeling of being lost and starting over when you think your life is about to end. You were there with your daughter the same way my mother sat with me everyday in chemo. You know the severity of the situation but you do not understand the constant feelings of loss and regret that you feel when you think that this might be the end. Brianna getting married, I get it. I completely understand where she is coming from because my boyfriend of a year and I have talked about it so often that I feel like had we gone to Vegas, it would have been done. I want to have a wedding with my family and his there, but when you have been in this medical situation...you feel like there is no time to waste. She want sto live her life and experience all of it to its fullest. Everyone makes mistakes but maybe this is a blessing. When you have cancer, that is what you look at...all the blessings and positives that come your way. I am not trying to stand on a soap box...but I wanted to let you know how I felt watching the episode where you announce Brianna got married. Give your daughter my best and let her know that there are those of us who get her :)
A 50 something woman is never "just a girl". You have a successful business, have raised 2 children, walked down the aisle several times, and (I assume) participated in several adult activities. You are not a girl---screaming tantrum child maybe-- but you are not a girl. You are a woman. You've worked hard to get there so call it what it is!! Your wise daughter is right--Brooks does seem to be an opportunist. He is smarmy and gooey. I believe he is just a reflection of your fears. You are really afraid to experience life as a strong independent woman. Being alone at 50 is definitely not lonely...it's entitled to live however you want to live. You are financially able to have the life you want and it does not have to include a man fixture. They are nice to have around but face it...for you, they are only chocolate-add flavor but not a meal. You don't want a partner Vicki-You have to drive the bus. Embrace your freedom and get rid of the crutch.
Vicki don't be so hard on your daughter she loves you and wants the best for you. I know it hurts to hear the truth from your own child, but instead of yelling at her maybe you should try toning your voice and hear her out. I notice you do that when you are confronted. Alexis needs to learn her geography because Costa Rica is not in Mexico! Costa Rica is located in Central America, bordered by Nicaragua to the north, Panama to the southeast. Just sayin...
Vicki, I love you!!! But you may want to listen to Brianna. She may see things that you don't.
Good luck with all your endeavors.
Wow you take the cake, Now the shoe is on the other foot. You raised her and she is speaking her mind. She is an adult now and making her own choices and decisions, that is a good thing. Just because it isn't your opinion or decision doesn't make it wrong. You want respect but you do not give it, even to your own child.
And let me say this girlfriend, I wish you luck with Brooks but as you have stated over and over again how smart you are, take your own advice, many red flag here and may things that you have disagreed with in the past. I say, stop, take a breath and give yourself some time....He is many of the things you disagreed with...