Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki discusses how she will fight through her issues with Briana and Brooks.

on May 24, 20120

Maybe sometimes I am not easy to love because there are a lot of asteroids that are always coming my way right now. What most people DO know about me is I am not a quitter, and I don't give up or give in easily. I am a fighter. Here I am at 50 now, finding myself back to being a single mom with two wonderful adult children, whom I love with every bone in my body and who in return love me and the challenges that face us.

Yes, I am facing my fears and I'm not running away from them. Uncertainty is always around all of us and I sure don't know where my future is headed. What I do know is my life is under construction, and the final product is no where near finished. I am confident I can make my last half of my life be all that I want it to be. . .and I will. You will see soon enough that I am a woman of my word.

On a happier note, I am so proud to announce that I hosted a formal wedding celebration for Briana and Ryan in Santa Barbara on a beautiful sunny day overlooking the Pacific Ocean.

All of our families were there and their close friends. Both Donn and I walked her down the aisle, and Ryan wore his Marine Corps suit. Briana was glowing and the most beautiful bride I had ever seen. I went "all out" for her and we danced to a song that I had our band "Killing Time"/Brad Johnson rewrite for me of "Mommy's Little Girl" by Tim McGraw. There wasn't a dry eye at the reception. Life is good for our family now, and I am blessed to have had the resources to throw Briana the wedding of her dreams. I hope you enjoy some of the pictures (SEE THE ALBUM NOW).

I wish all of you a very Happy Memorial Day weekend. Please be safe, and don't drink and drive.

Don't forget about checking out Tamra's and my new wine club membership at WinesbyWives.com and become a member! It's fun!

As always, please contact us if you are in the need of any life insurance rates or if you have any 401K rollover needs. Visit my website at VickiGunvalson.com for more information.

Lastly, if you happened to be in Las Vegas the weekend of May 31st, come say hi to me and remind me about "facing your fears." I will help you face your fears just the way I do daily.

Warmly,
Vicki Gunvalson
VickiGunvalson.com

93 comments
InkyTinx
InkyTinx

Sorry after seeing how you spoke to your daughter during the argument and the way you put your man before everyone else I have a very hard time believing this statement by you  'y children are "my life" and always will be'

 

The way I see it is they will be your life as long as they are living their lives the way you want them to and as long as they do not disagree with you.

Sorry but that is how it appears to me

auroilli
auroilli

Vickie, I agree with you, People should not do that to each other. I think you should step away from Brooks not because he is a bad person or anything like that, but so you can focus on Briana. She is a very nice girl. No man can ever love you more than your kids.She is really coming from a good place." Tamara", stay away from her. Befriend the other girls. It wont be long before she crashes and burns Karma is real. Best of luck to you.P.S GET BACK WITH DON!

Judy Bunch
Judy Bunch

Take from someone whose child is already married. Love and accept your child's partner and move on. It isn't about you.

viewer2011
viewer2011

Vickie, Please take Brianna's advise to heart. Kids see more than there parents. Also have Brooks investigated (he just does not seem sincere and u are falling for it). He seems like the oportunist that Briana says. Shame one u for giving some guy access to your emails, financials etc. In this day and age u should know better (u just met him and he is a smooth talker yuck,yuck) u seem to fall for this crap r u that HARD UP.. U clam to be this intelligent business women, but pretty much suck on ur life choices for men...(although u had Don a good one and threw him under the bus) u told Don NOT to come to your office so sorry he couldn't bring u coffee like Brooks (Brooks the not working SEX tank filler upper). I can just see u as a Momma to Brooks's children...LOL

Patricia B
Patricia B

I was divorced at 50 also. At that stage of the game be very very careful. Everyone wants someone around that loves them and appreciates them for who they are. I personally feel you are jumping the gun getting so tight with someone so soon. Divorce takes time to get past and also you need time to figure out what it is you really need and want for you life at this time. Is it really all that terrible if you are alone for a time. You need time to identify who you are without a man in your life. There is alot of difference between living as a couple and living as a single. I am not convinced that you have given being single after a divorce enough time. Everyone that is divorced can tell you that after all is said and done you are very needy and have many feelings of failure. Just slow down, and find out that being alone is only as lonely as you are. I am now 63 and still alone but not lonely. I actually relish my time with myself.

delphine bloodworth
delphine bloodworth

IH VICKI HOW ARE YOU OK GOOD ALL I ASK IS YOU GO WITH YOUR HEART BEFORE IT TO LATE OK WHEN HE IS GONE HE GONE OK BUT FIND OUT DO HE STILL FEEL AS YOU DO OK AND IF DO TAKE THE RIGHT STEP TO MAKE IT BETTER I JUST DID THIS AND I AM GALD I SAID TO HELL WITH WHAT OTHER THINK I LOVE THIS MAN HE LOVE EVERONE IS HAPPY DO NOT CARE IF I AM I FEEL AS LONG AS I AM SAD EVERONE IS HAPPY AND I DO NOT SEE THEM SO I GOT MY MAN BACK AND THE JOY I FEEL SO HAPPY GOD HIM ME OUR ON PLACE GO GET HIM OK LOVE YOU DELPHINE

Anita Buckler
Anita Buckler

Vicki, Please STOP w/ the "WA-HOO'S".... it's so annoying! Best of luck to Brianna and Ryan! Beautiful ceremony celebration photos. You all looked wonderful.

And....you know what they say,"outta the mouths of babes;" listen to Brianna; Brooks is like Slade but older. You deserve better Vicki!!!!

leo12kat
leo12kat

I so admired you but it seems you are on your way to losing your spotlight. I would be amazed if you are back next season it seems that you and Tamara are going to be leaving as you both seem to be fighting over the spotlight. You lectured Alexis on money yet you have made most of your money off reselling leads not financial planning.

shelliegirl
shelliegirl

I applaud you Vicki for your integrity and modesty through out the shows. My ONLY advice is to have some mercy on yourself and your daughter. You are a wonderful mother and provider, I hope you NEVER sell yourself short!!! You just have to learn as I did when it is time to be a Mom and not a stalker in your childrens lives. It is awesome the love you have for them, but there are limits...God blessing to you and yours always!! shelliegirl {mom of 3}

Summer here
Summer here

Vicki The gentleness in your blog suprises me.... and hope this is a sign for good things to come. In the meantime, tread carefully with Brooks. He is what you need right now. Enjoy it. But, don't force him on others in your life. Instead, listen to those who have loved you for years and years.

lovedana
lovedana

i see you suffering, but wow,, hugs.;((((

Gabriela Smith
Gabriela Smith

I admire your work ethic and how much you've accomplished in your life. I wish you could see with the same clarity in your personal life. I feel compelled to as you if you realize how stupid you act on trips? Why do you feel compelled to yell so much? You make Americans look bad!!

Cyndi-Lu Steelman
Cyndi-Lu Steelman

Vicki, I really like the way you handle your professional life...You know what you want an you don't hesitate to get it...A reall go-getter...BUT as far as Brooks is concerned (Your personal life) you need counceling...You are so swept up with the romance that you have blinders on...Briana is RIGHT...He is an opportunist...I know what it is like to get swept up in all the hoop-la, an TRUST me Girl-Friend, he is ONLY after what he can get from you...He is in debt an needing a way out...I would be willing to bet that there are more women gettin swept up by him...How convinient that you two live in separate states...What you need to do is concentrate on YOU...Be there for your kid's, BUT let them live their own lives, an make their own mistakes, that is the ONLY way they are gonna learn...I am ot sayin abandon them...Be there for them, when they NEED you...In other words, if they do mess up, then don't rub it in their faces, just catch them when they fall, listen & advise...BUT let them make their own choices in life...Cut out the dramatics...If you don't you will push them away...You probably think I don't understand, so how can I say anything??? Because I am a mother of 3 grown children, that have their own lives...I had to let go & let them make their mistakes, an their accomplishments...It is such a hard thing to do,BUT you can do it...Then you could take time for yourself, an concentrate on YOU...You have done your job as a 24/7 parent...Trust that you taught them right...Do some research on this guy Brooks...You might find out some things that you really don't like...Maybe even dispise...If you don't, you may bring yourself down emotionally, financially, & physically...Better think about that HARD...There is just something NOT right about this guy...Girl-Friend I see something you don't...I strongly urge you to do some DEEP research on him...I don't have dog in this fight...In others I have NOTHING to gain or loose by saying these things to you...I also think you need to see a Doctor, you really are way to emotional...Which could be affecting your decisions in your life...Seriously, I am not trying to be mean to you, I am trying to be a supportive Female...We have to look out for each other...I get so tired of WOMEN knocking each other, when we are suppose to rely on one another...Wish you the VERY BEST that life has to offer...But BOTTOM line is, is you have to make common sense decisions...Much Luv Girl-Friend...

lori o
lori o

It is a shame that the women on this show and all of the real housewife show seem to think that it is okay to knock down another woman rather than celebrate the differences of all women. We could all learn a little kindness and compassion goes along way in the world.

fan
fan

I'm not a fan of yours but I think your kids are great...you may not have been successful in marriage up to now, but you sure did something right with those kids! You are blessed with wonderful independent, intelligent and loving adult children...cherish them!

April in VA
April in VA

"Submitted by candicecandice on May 27, 2012..Please tell me where you bought the chain like ring on your right ring finger. I love it and have to have one!" .

The ring is from Tiffany.

Shade
Shade

I love you, now. I used to think you were hard. I love the new change in you. Brooks tells you everything. He makes sure no information will ever surprise you. He always has words of affirmation-all the time He had an understandable explanation to his financial lack. You can firmly say Brooks tells me everything no matter what. It makes you comfortable to pay for things, let him drive your car, stay in your home. This is how men from Mississippi hustle their women. There are many women just like you that fall for this. Its a good thing the divorce is protecting you right now. Go to Mississippi and see his home, his car, his kids. Take care of yourself. Hang in there with Gretchen she is flighty and I think she believes you deserve better too..Both of you are with men that are not equally yoked with you

Auntie Sis
Auntie Sis

Vickie,

I think your daughter is right, and many think Brooks is an oppurtunist as do I. He even asked you right out about your finaces that should of sent red flags up then if not before with all his bullcrap talk. And watch the episode when you told him what Brianna said because he pulled back like he was caught in his decietfullness. He knows exactly what he is and Brianna hit the nail on the head !!!

Viewer2
Viewer2

congratulations to you, brianna and ryan.

jmrfkdo9
jmrfkdo9

why is vicky wearing white at her daughters wedding?

Mrs. D.
Mrs. D.

My favorite person on this show is your daughter Brianna. I think she's the wisest and most honest and true person. I wish her and her husband a lifetime of happiness.

candicecandice
candicecandice

Please tell me where you bought the chain like ring on your right ring finger. I love it and have to have one!

Notomeangirls
Notomeangirls

Vicki,

Those pictures were just wonderful! You do have do beautiful children....inside and out. Don't forget that they love you and are just trying to look out for your best interest....just like you have done for them. Embrace how much they care about you...

All the best....

Mimiliciouos
Mimiliciouos

I don't like the way Tamra spoke to Alexis, but she did ask for it. Tamra didn't want to comment, but she dragged it out of her, I did feel sorry for her, but it is what it is. Brianna was wrong to speak to you the way she did, but mother-daughter issues are often complex.

Kids are difficult like that, they would prefer for you to be in a loveless marriage, rather than you get a divorce and move on with your life. I know myself and my brother at age 17 and 19 felt that way when my mom was divorcing and remarrying. But we have grown to realize it is selfish, your kids will feel differently when they are older, just give it time

layne
layne

Brooks is going to take you up the creek girlfriend....Women in general must wisen up...love yourself first...he is giving u nothing.......just words!

spnursejo
spnursejo

Briana did the right thing. Vicki thats the strong RN that you raised and you should not expect any different from her, she is telling you how it is. From one RN to another "keep being your mothers advocate". Love you both!

amorenomore
amorenomore

Good for you for calling Tamra out on her behavior towards Alexis! But keep in mind, that's how you treat others sometimes too. You have another lesson to learn too...when you are trying acknowledging something about yourself that is wrong...you don't follow up with "and they need to do this...". You just give & give & give & NEVER ask to receive. It's that person's responsibility & choice to give back or not.

AA amber
AA amber

Vivki, plz stand by alexis on the reunion. If all the girls gang up on her, step up to the plate & defend her. No ONE likes to see 1 person get ganged up on!!! xoxo

Susan B.
Susan B.

You are a woman, not a girl! Start behaving like a woman!

Patty from Arizona
Patty from Arizona

I'm glad you're going for it! You never want to question whether you did everything you could for your own happiness.

C. Whitehead
C. Whitehead

News flash! In REAL life, people don't treat each other the way you treat each other in your "reality show". Most people are considerate of each others feelings and don't back stab and bicker all the time. If I went through life lashing out at everyone I didn't agree with, and fighting with my "friends" constanstantly, I would be a very miserable person.

CriscoKid
CriscoKid

Go back to Donn. He treated you liked gold, loved the kids and is a good person. Life is not all going to be passion and new. It is the daily behavior that counts. Not cards and big promises.

Lori G
Lori G

Vicki,

You need to pay attention to your own words here. About Tamra treating Alexis mean, you do the same to others.

Sophiee
Sophiee

I'm so glad that you're not standing by Tamra on her comments to Alexis just because she is your friend. What Tamra said to Alexis was absolutely disgusting!

Special K
Special K

You stick up for Brooks WAY to much! He shouldn't need you to do that. You are not your OWN women by doing that. He is after all a grown man...let him deal with the sticking up for himself. No explanation necessary Vicki. Be you and support Brianna!

2011KIMBER
2011KIMBER

Brianna is stunning in her wedding photos!! What a beautiful celebration. Congratulations.

Daniel Tosic
Daniel Tosic

i thought all blondes were....u know what they say about blondes..anyway, gretchen i'm so proud of u not just looking @ slay's "puss in boots" eyes and going for whatever...i wish u all the best with his problems.u r a good person.

Ca mom
Ca mom

Was the dress you wore at Brianas wedding white, or was that the photo not showing a true pale color? I was always told not to upstage the bride and wear white. What was the color?

missamelie
missamelie

'..I am just a girl...' similar line from film nottinghill?

bellablueyes1
bellablueyes1

Vicki I wish you the best as I do all the women. Kids and adults can communicate with each other and disagree, it is growing and learning and feeling safe to voice our thoughts. We all have our own truth.

RDaniels
RDaniels

Vicki, I've watched you from the beginning. There have been times when I've agreed with you and not. For the most part, you have had a good head on your shoulders,etc. I happen to agree with you at this moment in your life. You have worked for your right to date and do as you please. God bless you!

observer504
observer504

The pics of Brianna wedding are beautiful ! Donn looked so happy to be there with and for Brianna. You were thoughtful to give Brianna the wedding. I'm sure she will look back on it in a few years a thank you. Great job !!

srider2916
srider2916

Vicki, I think you are a wonderful mom! You and Briana will be just fine - it's all part of her growing up and finding her own way.

Tammyindiana
Tammyindiana

Vicki, I am so glad that you see Tamara for what she is and has done. I wish you the best. No one is perfect and treat others as you would want to be treated. Tamara only likes Gretchen because she had too many haters when she treated her the EXACT way she is now treating Alexis. She did not have to be mean to Alecxis and Alexis only wanted her to stop the child like bad talking.

suzi powers
suzi powers

Wow you take the cake, Now the shoe is on the other foot. You raised her and she is speaking her mind. She is an adult now and making her own choices and decisions, that is a good thing. Just because it isn't your opinion or decision doesn't make it wrong. You want respect but you do not give it, even to your own child.

And let me say this girlfriend, I wish you luck with Brooks but as you have stated over and over again how smart you are, take your own advice, many red flag here and may things that you have disagreed with in the past. I say, stop, take a breath and give yourself some time....He is many of the things you disagreed with...

Blair979
Blair979

Vicki, I love you!!! But you may want to listen to Brianna. She may see things that you don't.

Good luck with all your endeavors.

Evelyn Rodriguez
Evelyn Rodriguez

Vicki don't be so hard on your daughter she loves you and wants the best for you. I know it hurts to hear the truth from your own child, but instead of yelling at her maybe you should try toning your voice and hear her out. I notice you do that when you are confronted. Alexis needs to learn her geography because Costa Rica is not in Mexico! Costa Rica is located in Central America, bordered by Nicaragua to the north, Panama to the southeast. Just sayin...

 A WOMAN
A WOMAN

A 50 something woman is never "just a girl". You have a successful business, have raised 2 children, walked down the aisle several times, and (I assume) participated in several adult activities. You are not a girl---screaming tantrum child maybe-- but you are not a girl. You are a woman. You've worked hard to get there so call it what it is!! Your wise daughter is right--Brooks does seem to be an opportunist. He is smarmy and gooey. I believe he is just a reflection of your fears. You are really afraid to experience life as a strong independent woman. Being alone at 50 is definitely not lonely...it's entitled to live however you want to live. You are financially able to have the life you want and it does not have to include a man fixture. They are nice to have around but face it...for you, they are only chocolate-add flavor but not a meal. You don't want a partner Vicki-You have to drive the bus. Embrace your freedom and get rid of the crutch.

lioness81
lioness81

Vicki, I am watching previous episodes so I am behind...working woman you know :) I am 30 years old and a stage 3 cancer survivor. I was diagnosed the week before Christmas of 2009. I understand Brianna. If you haven't been through it, you can't possibly understand the feeling of being lost and starting over when you think your life is about to end. You were there with your daughter the same way my mother sat with me everyday in chemo. You know the severity of the situation but you do not understand the constant feelings of loss and regret that you feel when you think that this might be the end. Brianna getting married, I get it. I completely understand where she is coming from because my boyfriend of a year and I have talked about it so often that I feel like had we gone to Vegas, it would have been done. I want to have a wedding with my family and his there, but when you have been in this medical situation...you feel like there is no time to waste. She want sto live her life and experience all of it to its fullest. Everyone makes mistakes but maybe this is a blessing. When you have cancer, that is what you look at...all the blessings and positives that come your way. I am not trying to stand on a soap box...but I wanted to let you know how I felt watching the episode where you announce Brianna got married. Give your daughter my best and let her know that there are those of us who get her :)