I'm sorry that it has been two weeks since I wrote to all of you. If I even started to let you know what I've been through and what is going on in my life. . .it would take up this entire blog. And most of you aren't here to read about that, you're here to read about my thoughts on what you have seen so far on our episodes. I am going to combine Episode 4 and 5 all into one blog.
To recap Episode 4 -- it was sad for me to see how Slade decided to make fun of Tamra and I. Why would Slade do that? Was it done so he would feel better about himself? There is nothing more to say other than, I would be extremely embarrassed if I was Gretchen. I mean really? What man makes fun of your girlfriend's friend's looks and body image? How embarrassing? Gretchen, thank you for sticking up for us, and I'm sorry you were put in the middle of it. I hold no grudges against you. . .so far. You were put in a really tough place and I think you handled it very well.
When Tamra came over to my house for breakfast and to catch up, it was the first time in a long time that I had a moment with her privately. She had no clue the stress I was going through with my fears about Briana's upcoming surgery and all my life issues, and I actually just needed to know that she was there for me and tell her my concerns about her and Gretchen's newfound BFF friendship. There are times in all of our lives, when we are givers and when we are takers. I was at the point where I couldn't really give much, but really just needed to "take," which is not typical for me. I'm usually one to "give" and am uncomfortable receiving -- however at this time in my life, all I really wanted was her time and for her to understand what I was going through. When I had the opportunity to tell her what I felt about her and Gretchen's newfound "relationship" I meant it. In one aspect I was really happy that they were finally burying the hatchet, and then, in another, my gut was telling me something didn't "sit right" with all of it.
Viki have you addressed the situation of Brooks not paying child support vs Slade? You may have and I have not seen. I would just like to know how you can answer. It would be great to hear also,why you talked about Gretchen and her purse for breast cancer, when Tamra (which im coming to love!!) that did the campaigne topless for no hate? I applaud all 3 of them for what they have done and supported, just no so much you.
Vicki, Perhaps you should take your own advice! You tore Slade apart for the last 5 seasons regarding child support, his childs cancer. Now you want sympathy from viewers for Brianna and your new boyfriend who is Very delinquent in child support. We all have our sorrows to bear in life, this should teach you a little about compassion. In the last 8 mths, my (nephew, 46) passed away from a massive heart attacke (diabetic) , my 30 yr old daughter almost had her foot amputated, as she was a new diabetic and didnt realize her foot was soooo infected. The foot has taken 6 mths to heal, it had gone into her bone. My older daughter (46) had a brain anuerysm the first of Feb , she almost died and I thank God she has made it through surgery and is doing well. So we all have problems, its how you handle them that makes the difference and show the real character of a person. Your just so judgemental about everyone and poor Vikki, Live and let Live and keep your vicious comments to yourself.
Vicki- Im so sorry to hear about Brianna. I hope she is doing better now. I came to the Real Housewives show in Atlantic City and just wish you had gotten a chance to speak more! Thanks for sharing your life with the viewer.
You are something else! You are all over Slade but now Gretchen cannot mention your boyfriend. Really? I'm so over you, you need to quit the show or be fired!!!!!
Please keep plugging your businesses ad nauseum. It's such compelling reading. Over and over. And over. It really lends you great credibility. Seriously, keep it up, what could possibly be more fascinating?
vicki- I feel so sorry for the health problems that Briana is having ; however, you are the meanest housewife ever !! You're no fun, you're not entertaining, you're BORING. I don't know why Bravo keeps you. You are DEFINATELY not a people person and I have NO IDEA why anyone would buy anything from you. You have rejected and been mean to EVERY single housewife Bravo has brought to the show.
Why must you advertise your businesses with each blog?? Very tacky! you need to bring Brooks child support payments or lack thereof in the forefront. You bashed Slade all last season. brooks needs to come clean.
Vicki, I cannot believe you have the nerve to say "treat others as you wish to be treated". After all, you treated Slade badly, and now he is treating you badly. So why are you mad? He's just doing to you what you did to him. Oh, that's right, you think that you can do whatever you want, but no one can retaliate.
I do feel badly for Brianna's health issues, but everything else stressful in your life is your own doing. You devoted your time to your business instead of your marriage, and now you are getting divorced. Your business needs to be looked at to see how much money you are actually bringing in. Was it worth it? Where are all of your other employees? There were at least 3 more when you took them on that business trip and made them share rooms. Did you let them go?
i agree with whats been posted thus far. what a hypocrite! you seem to me to be more narrow minded than i thought. get a grip!
Can you ever write a blog and just talk about the show. Why must you always have to include your insurance business? It makes you look very desperate. Maybe include a line or 2, but not 2 paragraphs. I hope you watch yourself this season. I have liked you in the past, but your really making alot of people dislike you.
What is your problem? Why are you so sour grapes ALL the time? Let Gretchen and Tamra be friends and stay out of it.
Vickie~ My prayers go to you and your daughter. I went thru a cancer scare with my 21 year old daughter. She had a lot of non related symptoms and they have put her thru so many tests. We would sit on pins and needles waiting for blood, CT,MRI and other tests to rule out some scary and serious diseases. I would not wish that stress and fear on my worst enemy. I hope all turns out well for your daughter. I can see how much you love her. Keep your head up, be strong for her. The worst part for my daughter was seeing me cry and worry. You are in my thoughts.
Cee
Vickie, I love you gals! (well, not all, but don't tell, I'm trying). We all have faults and say things we probably should not have but that does not make us bad people. The main reason I am writing is to tell you I am praying for Briana. I have not heard anything about her health other than this last episode. I pray she is doing GREAT! I am praying for you also. Stay positive and always know that our Lord will never leave us.
I agree with Liz from Bay area ! YOU are such a Hypocrite ! YOUR saying NO man you would ever be with would ever talk about another woman !!! Really Vickie?? You really need to start watching past episodes, and reading real info. about your perfect boyfriend, YOU try to come across so perfect when really you have flaws just like the rest of us!!
Oh Vicki, Vicki, Vicki-what you said tonight about Gretchen staying out of your boyfriends business, so sad. You cannot do this. You have said how terrible Slade was for not paying his child support and you are now dating someone who you say you are very happy with, but who is in the news for the same thing. Don't you see how what goes around, comes around. Do not be so surprised it is back in your court now. Take care with what you say. Gretchen was trying hard to get Slade to not do the improv about you guys. You and Tamara have been so, so horrible to the two of them, I have to say I almost can't blame Slade for his anger at you.
come on people get off the back lashing of vicki. they ALL talk about each other. i don't get why people want to get on here and bad mouth a person when thats what they don't like about the person they are writing about. get a clue people. you are no better. give encouragement to people. didn't your mothers tell you if you can't say anything positive keep your mouth shut. sorry vicki about your daughter. with cancer in our family it's hard to see them go through it. hope all is well. keep your head held high and you do not have to explain yourself to anyone. you feel what you feel and it's your life not any one that writes on here.
I have never cared for you, still don't. You have created more problems, more drama then anyone else on the show.It's always been about you. You treated Don like dirt. You berated him, degraded him year after year on national television. You have said over and over and over again how people need to get a job. You must live in your own little world to not see what is going on. You have made fun of some of the women on the show because they lost their homes. How did that make you feel? It's sad and pathetic how you look at others. I wonder Vicky, how would you feel if your kids did not have Health Insurance or a job? How would your kids get medical attention without Insurance? It would be a shame wouldn't it? Your daughter may be sick, have cancer? Slade's little boy has cancer and you knew it and went after him VICIOUSLY, you attacked him and Gretchen on every single show. Gretchen's fiance had cancer and died, and you still went after her year after year after year you have created nothing but problems. When are you ever going to grow up? When are you ever going to treat others with respect? When are you ever going to show any human decency?
Vicki-
I know you are a good person with a good heart. Please...when someone attacks you, before you react: pause...take a breath and then ask yourself, "What is going on in this person's life that they would behave so poorly towards me? Is their problem truly with me or are they just hiding from their own problems?"
When a person lashes out, they are (usually) unhappy in their own lives. Judgemental and critical people tend to be insecure and miserable.
Don't let their issues cloud your own life or bring you down.
WE SHOULD ALL TRY TO BE THE BEST VERSIONS OF OURSELVES THAT WE CAN. As Maya Angelou says, "When we know better, we do better".
You are a strong, beautiful, loving person.
Living your best life is the best revenge. Don't judge and be as happy as circumstances allow.
My best wishes to Brianna. And Michael as well.
Vicki - I'm stunned at your comment this date "Please be careful to judge any of us." WOW! For all the seasons I've watched OC, it seems that you have been guilty of judging others every chance you got. You were unkind to Jeana, you stuck your nose in both Simon and Slade's business. Not only that, no empathy was shown to Gretchen when she was losing Jeff. Now you are having a hard time? I wish the best for Brianna, but otherwise.....I can find little sympathy for you. What goes around comes around? -- Looks like it's your turn......karma. I really hope you learn something!!! (Be kind to others? Don't judge others? If you don't have something nice to say, say nothing???)
First of all living through I would not wish what your daughter is ging through on anyone. I hope everything turns out well for her, but science has come so far that their is treatment the cures 80% surviver. As for you, I know that you are a God fearing women and lets just say, he punishes those who are deserving, shich is what he did when he gaved you Brooks. How does it feel to go through what you have put Slade through. Since season you have been so evil and judgemental and had that holier than thow attitude. It's time for you to pay and it is so rewarding watching happen. It does not look like it has work up to tonights episode so unless I see you apolize to Slade and change your attitude, I hope life continues kicking your behind. Sometimes its some people falling to the bottom to learn their lesson before they humble themslef. It looks like you still haven't. Good luck to Brianna. By the way by no means do I feel she is part of your lesson. However, maybe this experience will change your evil spirt.
You three commentors before me should be ashamed of yourselves. This is a show...it's a portion of their lives...stop acting like you know them...or like you live a perfect life! I am sure if your lives were on television we could have plenty to put you down about as well--stop being bullies. Vicki, it is always okay to not be perfect--nobody is. Focus on what matters!
HOW DO YOU THINK THAT ANYTHING GOOD CAN BECOME OF HURTING PEOPLE - Vickie needs to say this to herself - or maybe she (FORGETS) what she even says or tries to play the blame game. Isn't your plate full enough without sticking your nose into other people's business especially when you have picked on Gretchen about Slade and what do you know? Can you say HYPOCRITE. I used to be a fan of yours until I got to see the true you from the last 2 seasons, please do all of us a favor and leave the show or is it good advertisement for your business????
Sounds like you are apologizing for your bad behavior in advance. Must not be pretty in future episodes. Funny, you describe yourself as a giving person, but I've not seen much of that. Please take a really, really good look inward. You may be fooling yourself, but the viewers are not easily fooled.
Vicki please don't waste your time talking about Slade, he is the scum of the earth and everyone knows it. You are the reason I still watch the show. My prayers are with you, Briana, and the rest of your family. Also be careful when it comes to Tamra, she has stabbed you in the back before, and it looks like she is going to do it again.
What about Tamra, she to was also bashing slade, I guess none of you remember that in the reuion show? Than goes and becomes his friend.. But We all forgive Tamra. Vicki stay strong girl.. Give it up to Vicki for hanging in there through all the seasons.
I know you guys prob wont post this, cause I already posted, but I was just watching show again, and seen where Viki kept talking to the guy and the people at the table that talked crap to Gretchen. Really?? What did Viki say about coming to someone's house and being disrespectful? When she had her end of summer party? I do think it was wrong of Slade to do what he did. His act was wrong. How long did it happen to him though? BUT for someone who was not even there to run his mouth and talk about Gretchen "throwing her and her under the bus" needs to check his facts before he comes to someone elses party and tries to ruin it...luckily his opinion was not that important. Keep doing what you are doing Tamra!! My friends and I are loving you more every episode!!!
Very Surprised at you vicki, clearly the stress is getting to you physically and mentally. Slade is just giving you guys a taste of your own medicine...now say aaaaaaaahhhh
Vicki, I am confused. You state your beliefs, which include, treat others as you wish to be treated, forgive and don't judge. You don't seem to practice what you preach. You put it in writing and you accuse Slade of being a deadbeat Dad. How ironic that your boyfriend is the real deadbeat Dad. It is not appropriate for anyone to talk badly of anyone's looks, be it a man or woman. Slade shoud not have done that, but you did it first, and still continue to do it. I suggest you take a long hard look at Vicki before you continue to make a fool of yourself!
Sorry Vickie...used to be a big fan of yours, but this season....not so much. Slade has a right to be upset with you,,,,and it is not Gretchens problem. the way you "ladies" percieve each other is absolutely ridiculous. Why Tamra can not be friends with someone other that you is so incredibly ridiculous...you don't even try to see the other side of anything....we all have empathy for what is going on with your daughter, and understand you have many other things going on....I always admired you for your work ethic, and all you did for your family...but, now.....you seem to think you are queen Ka Ka....and all should bow to you......sorry, you are wrong on this one.
Hey Vicki- Umm, go for the "bag"! That will fix it! Let's see, now why would Slade do what he did to you and Tamra??? Hmmm, maybe a payback for all the crap that YOU and your best-bud Tamra have thrown at him??? On another note, Donn asking for spousal support is fantastic! I hope he is awarded it. Karma.
Vicky....I cannot believe you are using your blogs to try and sell us on THREE of your investments. You flaunt your success and truly your only love is money...you were so mean to Don. You are crossing the line by not paying for your advertising....you have more money than 90% of the people who watch your show. Honestly have you no shame, how old are you???
VICKI- WE ARE ALL RESPONSIBLE AND ACCOUNTABLE FOR OUR OWN ACTIONS, THEREFORE, WHAT SLADE SAID ABOUT YOU HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH GRETCHEN. TAKE IT UP WITH SLADE! JUST BECAUSE YOU DON'T LIKE GRETCHEN, AND YOU DON'T LIKE TAMRA AND GRETCHEN BECOMING FRIENDS, IS THE REASON YOU ARE THROWING GRETCHEN IN WITH WHAT HE SAID. SHE ASKED AND PLEADED WITH HIM NOT TO DO IT, BUT YET HE DID IT ANYWAY, SO HE IS THE RESPONSIBLE PARTY. AS FOR YOUR FRIEND, THE GUY (LOOSELY CALLED THAT) "RICKY" AT THE BUNCO PARTY, HE NEEDS TO MIND HIS OWN BUSINESS. THAT PARTY WAS NOT THE PLACE FOR HIM TO START RUNNING HIS MOUTH. YOU ARE SUCH THE HYPOCRITE AND VICTIM AREN'T YOU! AT LEAST TAMRA IS TRYING TO DO BETTER THIS SEASON, YOU SHOULD TAKE A LESSON FROM HER. YOU TALK THE TALK, BUT YOU DON'T WALK THE WALK!!!!
You and Tamara were pathetic about how you said no man would attack a woman on their looks! You poor victims! How about how you two crucified Slade over being a deadbeat dad when hid financial situation wasn't any of your business to exploit for your own personal gain. You have now made me team Slade...
Funny how you say "Treat others as you wish to be treated" then you get upset when slade trashes you, I believe you are being treated they way you treated them..I don't wish you bad at all I do wish everyone a great healthy life just saying the way I see it.
Vicki I just love you! You say it like it is which is good and bad sometimes but you are real. I wish the best of luck for Briana and for you, it has to be very difficult watching your daughter go through this. I just wanted to tell you that I think you are wonderful, a hard working independent woman and have the utmost respect for you. Stay Strong!
Vicky, I have never been a fan of yours, but you do deserve credit for having a strong work ethic and raising two great children. There's no doubt how much you love them. I hope Briana is doing well. She is an amazingly mature young woman with a big heart.
That said, over the past seasons, you have shown a lot of immaturity, petty jealousy There are certain blindspots you've had about your own behavior toward others. I hope you will grow in those areas and at least be honest with yourself first. Brooks may be a very "charming" man who gives you the kind of attention you felt you were lacking. Just remember...and beware....you are financially secure, he is not and so he can afford to prey on your emotional vulnerabilities.
I hope with everything you have going on all is well in your life with your family and friends. I am not to dwell on the negative for life is too short to do that. I have love watching you since the beginning. Whatever anyone says there will always be negative people all we can do is keep it moving. I want to wish you and all the ladies well
Vicki,
I understand that you are human, and that we are getting just a raw glimpse into your life. Obviously you aren't perfect. I think what you need to do is address IN YOUR BLOG the issue of your slandering Slade. He's not my favorite guy, but your Brooks is in the same situation. Instead of acting as if you never said anything about Slade (per your last blog post), you need to own up to everything you said and apologize. At least let us know that you are aware of the double standard. Because you aren't winning any friends by simply ignoring the fact that you are in the same situation as Gretchen.
I hope you and Tamra can remain friends. Tamra needs to feel safer talking to you, and you can say "this is what I'd like from you." She may agree or disagree, but it will be a very honest communication and you will both be able to deliver your strengths, and understand some areas you're just not the right person for. But at least give her an opportunity.
I think Slade is disgusting - but, I think Tamra was just trying to let go of negativity. I sort of understand needing to let bygones go... for your own self. It doesn't mean she doesn't have his number. Everyone sees him for what he is. His act sucked, by the way, and I agree that bashing women's looks makes him a jerk. I would never do that as part of a routine. That was cheap and eman spirited. I do think it's good to be assertive that his his comments are not okay.
If I were Gretchen, I would not support that act by doing it. It was also obvious he was only there on her coattails. Yucko.
Briana will be okay! She has more maturity than all of you! I mean that in the kindest way! Good job, Mom.
I find this confusing, from your blog this week...
"My feeling and beliefs are simple and true to my core. Treat others as you wish to be treated, try to look at the glass as half full -- and not half empty, hug someone that you just met, be forgiving instead of judgmental, smile a lot (it will confuse "them"), save more and spend less, be honest and don't lie, and do a little "woo hoo" once in a while."
1. Treat others as you wish to be treated...Why did you feel it necessary to condemn and accuse Slade of not paying child support then make excuses for Brooks. Could they possibly be in similar situations? Have you seen all the court documents regarding Slade's case or are you just relying on word of mouth? I am confused.
2. Try to look at the glass as half full -- and not half empty...If this is the case, why are you so sceptical of Gretchen and Tamra buring the hatchet? Glass half full says it is a positive thing for these girls to work things out. A glass half empty says things will never change so why bother. I am confused.
3. Hug someone you just met...Do you not remember how you treated Linn the first time you met her? I am confused.
4. Be forgiving instead of judgmental...I can see you have done this in case of Brooks but certainly not for Slade. I am confused.
You use the reference, "My World," a lot. People are not being loyal to you, or thoughtful or coming to rescue the marriage that you sought to end. You appear very self-centered always need affirmations of how great you are from others. I would suggest you look into that character flaw. No one is perfect but then again most of us dont put our lives on reality show and get upset when the reality isn't what we want it to be.
I can't believe what I'm hearing! You saying you're at your lowest point and that Slade should know this and be understanding!?! When have you ever been empathetic to others problems? Ripping Gretchen apart while she was dealing with Jeff's illness, gunning for Slade while his son is battling cancer - the list goes on and on. I hope these trials have made you a more forgiving person. Not everyone lives in "Vicki's World" and are an extension of you. These are real people with real problems and they don't need your help in making their lives harder. Chickens DO come home to roost, Doll.
Vicki,
I am going to be short in my comments to you. First, who has a dinner party and tells their guests to leave. I think that is very rude! If you were so concerned that it was a "school night" then you should have had it on a Friday or Saturday. I agree that the response to seeing your food by Gretchen was not very nice but Alexis was not very nice either. The way she put her face looking at the food as if it were something alien. At least Gretchen put on her gloves to try and eat something. Anyway, your approach to getting your guests to leave was not at all classy. I'm not even going to touch the whole Slade vs. Brooks child support thing, maybe some other day. Lastly, I just hope that all with Briana is well, she really does have a good head on her shoulders. Tell her to stay strong which I know she will. Also please tell her that the couple of times they showed her on the show when she is talking and explaining her part of the episode, she looked very pretty. Her hair looks good straight and it apperars that she has lost some weight. She looks great! May God bless her with much health and happiness in the future!
BRAVO PLEASE POST!!! Dear Vicki, i strongly urge you to re-evalute you relationship with Brooks. We know the FACT that he has been arrested twice for not paying child support...that alone should have made you keep on walking, i mean the hypocrasy is mind blowing! Now we are hearing about this Shelly Campaign person who obviously has a judgement against him from Ind. This guy is a very shady character and seems to run from state to state to avoid paying his obligations. And to top it off he gives you Herpes! WOW! You need to cut ties with this opportunist before you get caught up in his unstable life! You need to listen to Brianna and NOT be in a relationship until you have had time to heal and figure out who you are at this time in your life, you should go through therapy and then after all the kaos has settled down around you then let things happen naturally! The first thing you should do is apologize to Gretchen and Slade for crucifying them to the country last year about something you had no business commenting about. Slade's son has cancer so you should understant now how he feels. if you dont then you are going to continually wreap what u sow. Do the right thing Vicki, the viewers will gain respect for you if u do!
Vicki, Yikes! You are horrible to watch. Do you not see what you did to Slade and see the parity of what is going on in your own life? Please, tell me you have at least one true friend in your life that will help you see what a hypocrite you are. You have been bashing him for years all while he was dealing with a child BATTLING cancer! I hate to say it but KARMA, you get what you had coming to you! Seriously, accept you are wrong, apologize and move on! I have always pulled for you and respected the fact that you are uneducated but have made something of yourself. However, your lack of education is showing! Enough all ready! You were never supportive of Gretchen when she went through CANCER with Jeff or Slade with his son. Gretchen has enough class that she will still be kind about Brianna's situation, open your eyes and see the class in that!
Vicki, Or should I say HYPOCRITE. In your last sentence of your blog you wrote, Treat others as you wish to be treated, Well In my eyes that is what Slade is doing, He is treating you the way you treat him. You seem to talk about everyone and the min they call you out you play victom or walk away and say they are not nice. Do oyou really think it is ok for you to bash people and harm them with hurtful words and accusations but NO ONE has the right to say something about you? You need help, a therapist, really you do. Stop playing bully and then victom.
Bravo please post this-
No mention of Slade's attempt at standup here. I hope it the dinner with Briana was edited because it appeared she was needing to talk about her health concerns with you and you didn't want to have that discussion. She is a phenominal young woman and I know you are extremely proud of her, but you came across as EXTREMELY selfish by not wanting to hear about "it". I was livid. You are the parent and she is your child that needed you at that time. Again, I hope it was editing that made it come across that way.
Vicki, Do you not have a clue with anything? Stop having a pity party for yourself. If you had any knowledge, Thyroid Cancer is very curable. A friend of mine was diagnosed during her pregnancy and waited until after her baby was born before having it removed. It is a slow growing cancer and therefore very treatable. Good luck to Brianna and hope she has a fast recovery.
As for Slade and his improv show-DEAL WITH IT. You and Tamra had no problem slinging mud at him but when he turns the table-you cry foul! Also, people in glass houses-you are dating a man with a similar issue!
Finally, STOP using your blog to promote your business. I would never use you for my insurance and financial needs. You can't keep your house in order, how can anyone trust you to do the same for them. Just sayin'





i would love to hear about your new boyfriends child support problems? what is the difference between he and slade with this issue and im sure you want say it is because slade owes more. I dont agree with not taking care of your children but you can't say one is right and one is wrong if they both owe or have owed, it still make BOTH deadbeat dads. I think it was hurtful for anyone to pick on another, not just about looks but about anything that could be hurtful, But i think you should look at the economics now all over our country, Everyone is losing jobs, businesses are closing and people just can't eat, this also im am sure has affected both of these men,as well as alot of others with paying child support,and although this isn't right, it is happening.You picking n slade aboutchild support is about as bad as he picking on you about your looks.All of you need to take lessons in being gracious. now that would be a money maker in orange county!
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