Cast Blog: #RHOC

Through the Ick

Tamra: Lizzie's Obsessed With Me

Shannon Settles the Score

Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Heather: Why Hate?

RHOC Reunion GIFs: The Gloves Come Off

Lizzie on That Kentucky Fried Nickname

Shannon on Heather's Double Standard

RHOC Reunion GIFs: Psychics, Opinions, and Shade

Heather Weighs in on the Dinner Party

The Difference Between Shannon and Heather

Lizzie Forgives Tamra

Vicki Wants the Best for Tamra

GIF Recap: RHOC Season 9 Finale

Vicki: I'm Tired of Tamra Causing Problems

Recap: 13 GIF-able Life Lessons from Bali

Tamra: Lizzie Is the Worst Kind of Person

Lizzie: Tamra Has it Out for Me

Shannon: There's No Hope Tamra and I

Tamra: Lizzie's Out for Blood

Heather: Can't Friends Disagree

Lizzie: What Tamra's Doing Isn't Right

GIF Recap: Kayaks, Crowns, and Elephants

Shannon Was Shocked Tamra Would Betray Her

Tamra: I Was a Fool to Defend Vicki

Heather: Newsflash It's Not All My Fault

Vicki's Warning to Lizzie

Shannon Isn't Putting Emotions onto Tamra

Lizzie: I Thought Tamra Was My Friend

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Lonely Birthday Dance

Tamra: I'm Going to Be a Tam-ma!

Vicki: This Episode Was Hard to Watch

Heather: I Did Owe Shannon an Apology

Shannon: Tamra Is Stirring the Pot

Lizzie: Tamra Is Stirring Up Sh--

GIF Recap: What Does Tamra Remember?

Vicki Is Trying to Stay Neutral

Shannon: Tamra's Lies Are Mind Boggling

GIF Recap: Lizzie's Dinner Party Disaster

Vicki Advises Shannon to Keep Communication Lines Open

Lizzie: "I Take Sun Kitten Swimwear Very Seriously"

Through the Ick

Vicki wonders why Gretchen can't let go of the Bunko Party incident and her feelings about Brooks.

I hope you enjoyed this week's episode as much as I did. I found myself laughing out loud in many situations so I thought I would start with the fun, instead of negativity.

Seeing Heather and Terry discuss her desire to go back to work was very sweet. Terry is an extremely supportive husband and just wants Heather happy. I know how hard it is to be in a career for so long and then having to put it on hold when you have children. I think Heather has this burning desire to do what she is passionate about, which is acting. It has to be hard for her, because having four children under the age of seven is a full time job just in itself. I wish both of them the best in this journey for Heather's future. I know it must be a very tough spot to be in.

When we were all in Las Vegas, we had planned to be at dinner at a specific time in order to be in our seats for Gretchen's performance with the PussyCat Dolls. I had talked to Alexis earlier that evening, and she told me she was having her makeup artist come to her room to do her make-up. We all love having our makeup done by a professional because you can really tell the difference (especially when we see the episodes -- the HD cameras are brutal on my complexion, especially as I have a tendency to get cystic acne which is terribly embarrassing).  I know I feel like my skin looks so much better when I have a professional apply my makeup over when I do it myself. I'm not much of a "primper" and can get ready from start to finish in less than 45 minutes, which sometimes definitely shows when I see myself on camera. . .unfortunately.

I texted Alexis to see where she was and what was taking her so long and she told me what had happened with her make-up. She said her face was close to a grayish/black color and that she had to wash it and start all over again. I didn't understand how that could have happened, but after watching the episode this week there was NO WAY she could have come down looking like she did. I found myself hysterically laughing on how cute Jim and Alexis were when she was getting ready and whispering on how to get the makeup artist out of her room so she could wash her face and start over.

I went to Vegas with the mindset that I wanted to have a good time. I wanted to be the bigger person and show Gretchen that an apology was in order for both of us -- and I was willing to start it. When Gretchen looked back at me like she did, I was embarrassed. Her continued anger towards me about the "deadbeat dad" or "hypocrite" situation is getting old.

As I told her, I am not a hypocrite. I do not condone MEN not supporting their children nor will I ever. I also told her I understand situations where men fall on hard times, and they do whatever they can to pay support, even if it is a reduced amount. I have said this many times. Mike and Briana's father did not consistently provide child support for the majority of their upbringing. I was able to find a career to support us, and although I would have loved to have received child support, I wasn't going to lie down and not support them or myself. In Brooks' situation, he did pay support to his wife, however he was unable to pay the full amount due to a decrease in his salary after the 2008 crash. A hypocrite would condone his behavior and say "YES. . .I totally believe in men not financially supporting their children." I never said that nor would I ever.

Heading out to Vegas, I was in the mindset that I'd rather be platonic then to have this anger festering between us. Obviously she felt different than me and wanted to continue this bickering back and forth by not apologizing back. I feel she and Slade want to focus the negative towards me to mask his issues. I didn't nor do I ever want to fight with either one of them. I decided years ago that Slade's support orders are none of my business, nor do I want to be involved in them. Gretchen is the one this year that decided to reopen that wound, for whatever reason. My dad always told me that "the cream always rises to the top," and if she can't apologize for her actions then that's her choice. I know at the end of the day, an apology goes a long way, and I was very sincere with mine. Looking back, I don't know what I would have done different at Bunko, but I know I shouldn't have yelled at her the way I did. Hindsight, I probably should have just walked out and not even given it "life." It's hard to do that though when the person you love (Brooks) was being completely thrown under the bus and having his character attacked without him being there to defend himself.

A lot of people have emailed me with amazing information about thyroid disease and asking how Briana is doing. I am happy to say this is her first month where her thyroid levels have gotten in the range that was needed. She takes 225mg of synthroid and is finally feeling like herself again. It's been a long haul on this.

Mike is doing great and is still working at Coto Insurance & Financial Services. He is studying for his Property and Casualty exam, which will allow him to be a full service agent. I am very proud of Mike, and it's wonderful being able to work with my son on a daily basis.

Brooks and I will be going to the Kentucky Derby May 2-6, and Mike and his friend Wes from Colorado will be joining us as well. Michael will be playing the Celebrity Poker Tournament for "Backpack for Kids," which is an organization that supplies under privileged children with food for a year for only $80. This will be my second time going to the Oaks and the Derby, as I went last year. This will be Mike's first time and he is really looking forward to meeting those "southern bells" that I’ve told him about. Wow, last time I was there I could not believe the beautiful people in the south.

Thank you all for your amazing support and encouragement. I'm all about plowing through the "ick" in my life and the people that try and throw it in my way. I'm happy and my family is healthy.

Tamra and I are only a few weeks away from our launch date of "Wines by Wives" on May 8. We are so excited to launching our wine membership on a national level. If you are interested in learning more about it, please visit our website at WinesbyWives.com

Last but not least, please don't forget to protect your family with life insurance. For pennies on the dollar, life insurance is one of the only policies that 100 percent of the time will pay out if it is designed correctly. To put it bluntly -- there is a 100 percent chance we will all pass away and if you are the bread winner in your family how would your passing financially affect them? Visit my website at CotoInsurance.com for more information.

Have a great week and don’t forget to smile! It will confuse everyone!

Love,
Vicki
www.vickigunvalson.com

Heather: Why Hate?

Heather wonders why you'd live in a place of resentment and tries to move on with the ladies.

We have put ourselves on a show where our every move is scrutinized. We are not perfect people. No one is perfect. We all do and say things we regret. Most of us do not do it in front of an international audience. You are all entitled to your opinions. It's what makes the show interesting, fun, and a "watercooler" conversation piece.

Regardless what you think about us, the show and/or what you believe truly happened this season -- I feel blessed and grateful.

My "reality" is an incredible husband who loves me and respects me, four healthy, amazing kids, a career that's been revived largely in part to the exposure of being on RHOC, and a group of friends that accepts my weaknesses and celebrates my strengths.

Truly, there is nothing more I could ever ask for. It's very easy to judge and hate -- but why? Does it make you feel better about your own life? Have you never done or said anything you regret? Can you imagine if it were captured for the world to see? I hope to keep growing and learning from my mistakes and my experiences. I hope you all do too. I hope you are all not judged too harshly and are forgiven when you are ready to make amends. Living in a space of hate and resentment is a bad place to exist. It's much better to love, forgive, and move on. I feel that's where I've come with all of the ladies at this point. Now we will see what the future holds. Thank you again for your support of our family and the show. . .

Until we meet again. . .

XX,
Heather

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The first six episodes of #SEQUESTERED are available for download at Crackle.com and the next six will be out in October! Thanks again for your continuing support!

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