Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki explains how she feels after the bunco fight.

on Mar 13, 20120

The issue with Slade and myself stems back all the way to Season 1 seven years ago when he was dating Jo. He lied about dating Lauri after Jo and him broke up, and he treated all the ladies like we were second class citizens or beneath him. I have kept trying to see the "good" in Slade and move on, however he just keeps stirring things up. Why does he continue to stir up trouble? What other man does that to women?

When Tamra and I called Slade a deadbeat dad several years ago, it was because of him bashing us on and off camera and it was our way of getting back to him where it hurt.

Brooks has never, nor would he ever, verbally attack a woman. . .EVER. One word comes to mind that I think Slade should consider is -- chivalry. Where I come from and how I was raised, men are to treat women with respect and class. This is something Slade doesn’t seem to be able to do. You either have it or you don't. Slade you might want to take some lessons from Brooks, Jim, Eddie, Terry, and the previous male RHOC-ers who have never verbally attacked a women. I really think he thrives on the drama so he gets more airtime.

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delphine bloodworth
delphine bloodworth

IH VICKI DELPHINE I JUST WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY OK SEE I MOVE HERE TO INDIANAPOLIS IN. WITH MY SISTER DAUG. OK I ASK HER WAS SHE SURE SHE WANTED ME TO LIVE WITH HER SHE SAID YES SO I CAN UP IN 12/10/11 TOOK ALL MY MONEY TO MOVE HERE ALL WENT WELL FOR THE FRIST 3 WEEK OK COME 1/12 ALL HELL CAME OUT SHE HURT ME SO BAD SO NOW I AM IN MY PLACE I MOVE TO ALABAMA AND TO TOP IT OFF SHE TOOK ALL MY BOXS AND PUT ALL MY THING IN TRASH IT OK BUT IT NOT RIGHT ALL I GOT LEFT IS MY PERSON THING IN 3 SUTICASE HAD TO START ALL OVER SO MAKE YOU HAPPY OK GO WITH YOUR HEART GOOD LUCK OK DELPHINE

Cjen
Cjen

You need to grow up. At this stage of our lives, we need to leave our hurt behind us. At 55(almost) I've begun a battle - with myself. It began with nightmares, moved to daytime drunkenness and to date is becoming an awakening. There has been joy, terror, pain,laughter, memories of horrific nature - and absolute pleasure in the greatness and power of ME! No - you're not my age - yet. When would you like to begin? You can't fight the whole world, nor, can you control it! Don't wait any longer to discover, that the best person you can be, you may very well have already been!!

ipartyka
ipartyka

Reading most of the comments here...I feel bad for you if you don't realize what reflects in the mirror. You cause a lot of drama and never watch what comes out of your mouth. I'm offended when you bring up "christian" to your title...because God doesn't not approve of people acting the way you do. REPENT.

OCVwr
OCVwr

Vicki, I belive, and have for a long time, that you are a very self-centered person. That's not to say that you don't care about others. But you seem to act as though this is your world and everyone else is living in it. You hold yourself to a different set of standards than you do everyone else. Your own daughter has called you out on it, yet you are in disbelief. I don't know what it will take for you to see the truth. You care about YOUR business, YOUR success, YOUR kids, YOUR image, YOUR home.... Your blog is full of self-promotion: for your insurance company, for your new wine business, your book. I wonder if it is all worth it.

betsy4444
betsy4444

Vicki, I can't understand why Tamra didn't tell you that Slade was going to be at the party except for the fact, she wanted you to react the way you did. If she thought Slade being there wouldn't upset you she would have simply told you before the party so that you could make the decision "to go or not". I would have been more furious with her since she is "suppose" to be your friend. And we all know "Slade is Slade" and not to waste time or emotions on someone like him. Friendships are somewhat like business, get rid of toxic people so that you can thrive. Especially, those that intentionally throw you under the bus for their hidden motives.

Pat P
Pat P

Vicki all I can say is you need to practice what you preach. You said you WOULD NEVER be involved with a man who didnt support his children yet now you will make an exception because you feel that he deserves a break. He went to Jail for non payment, therefore he was guitly. Just like you say no one knows the whole story about Brooks situation neither do you or anyone else know the full story about Slade. And why do you think you have the right to bash him anyway? you told Gretchen your boyfriend was none of her business well again I say practice what you preach. Slade was wrong in what he did at the comedy club and to that I say to ALL of you 2 wrongs never make it right. You all need to look first at yourselves, there is plenty to work to do there, so you wont need to worry about anyone else.

Renfromcanada
Renfromcanada

JUST BECAUSE SLADE IS A MAN DOESNT MEAN HE HAS NO RIGHT TO VOICE IS HURT AND OPINION! OMG! I am a woman but I feel it is so unfair for you ladies to be so cruel to Slade and expect him to zip it. There are always different sides to a story. No one has any idea what he was going through with his wife and the child support issues. Vicki come on please see this point. Wouldnt you get hostile too if you were Slade and your business went down and you couldnt keep up with your support and a gang of people were bashing you? Its so sad what you have to go through but its sad too what he had to go through. I feel you owe him a 'Sorry Slade' and he owes you a 'Sorry Vicks' you know? It isnt all his fault. Please. Just be done with it for your health and his health. Please.

JDH
JDH

Vicki. I really enjoy watching you on television and I think you are a great person, but I really can't blame Gretchen for being upset. I agree with the fact that Slade should have not said anything about you. That is rude, immature, and unclassy, but when Slade brings in the fact about Brooks and his child support and you get upset, the same thing happened when you and Tamara were upset with Gretchen and Slade a couple of seasons ago. I understand you and Slade have known each other for a while, but I think he needs to move on and so do you. Life would be so much better, especially with all that you have on your plate right now!

With Love, JDH

Scouttt
Scouttt

Vic, I don't think you have negative karma and throughout the years I've actually grown to like you. I do think you have trouble admitting when your wrong, but who doesn't? Frankly. Gretchen should be ashamed that slade is her boyfriend. Any man that acts that immature is embarrassing.

Kate 1234
Kate 1234

This only makes sense if you don't consider the context. The world doesn't revolve around you and your problems, and playing the victim makes you look even worse than you already do during this fight (umm I thought your eyes were going to pop out of your face). You're treating this as if Slade saw you were having a rough time and just decided to go at you, rather than a consequence of your own negativity towards others. I'm no fan of Slade's, but YOU brought him up time and time again, YOU have something critical to say about everyone else. And now that it happens to you, you lose it? If you don't want people bringing up your boyfriend, mind your own business!! Own up to your hypocrisy.

mscaligirl1111
mscaligirl1111

Starting to make sense why you get along with Alexis... Delusion and double standards you both seem to carry around. Quit pointing fingers at others because as time go by you look worse and start looking like you are living in a seperate world of your own. When you are wrong you start making excuses every time.

2012
2012

First off I would like to say wonderful blog! I had a quick question in which I'd like to ask if you do not mind. I was interested to know how you center yourself and clear your mind prior to writing. I have had a tough time clearing my thoughts in getting my ideas out there. I truly do take pleasure in writing but it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are generally lost simply just trying to figure out how to begin. Any recommendations or hints? Kudos!

Heather Chancellor
Heather Chancellor

I must say - I have blown up at my friends & family & sometimes it just happens! And after I have to own it and apologize which you did - thanks for being REAl!!

CalleyCreed
CalleyCreed

Should'nt have dumped Jeanna. Slade is just as bad as Brook.

tucsonviewer
tucsonviewer

vikki i am shocked at the things that come out of your keypad! we all know it hasn't been "several years" since Brooks had his child support issues. i couldn't even read your blog past the first paragraph because i'm so exhausted with your lies and double standards. i was very disappointed Bravo brought you back. i think it would be a good idea for you to follow Tamra's example and do some soul searching. i would think someone your age would be a bit more mature. watching you is like watching someone in junior high school. please please grow up because you really are a spectacle and at some point, if not already, your clients will no longer take you seriously. has everything you've been through in your life taught you nothing? honestly i see no evidence that it has.

Paige Bruce
Paige Bruce

What Gretchen was trying to say to Vicki this whole time is that who cares if she doesnt condone what Slade does. He is not the man in her life, family member, anything. Why does she care so much? Even if its true and he denies it, is it really affecting her quality of life? No. Let it go Vicki. You're much better than that.

Viewer01
Viewer01

I never was the biggest Slade fan, however, in retrospect, Slade seems to be the most honest of the OC Housewives cast. When Viki tired to attack him for his comedy set, he answered with the truth. Viki tries to pretend like her shit don't stink just like everybody else - she doesn't want to hear anything based in reality. Crazy soulless reality people will sell themselves out for a little bit of fame, then convenience themselves that their life is normal, that they aren't a product of their thirst for fame and money. Anyone of them could decide to lead a normal life yet are too delusional and addicted to being c list celebrities. What a bunch of classless people. Gross.

DebbieDLC
DebbieDLC

Vicki - are you kidding me? You can't talk trash about someone and not expect it to come back on you! Bottom line, no one had the right to bash Gretchen & Slade, and they didn't have any right to bash you and Brooks. Course, if all the housewives in OC stopped doing that, Bravo would have to cancel the show! I'm glad to see you're finally taking the higher road...taking responsibility for your actions & moving on...someone has to because we all know it's not looking like Slade will! Stop letting what others say about you and/or do to you affect your self-worth. Stay strong and positive...remember, no one can make you feel inferior without your consent!

FanKick
FanKick

We all make mistakes and we are all the product of our past. I feel that Vicky was emotionally neglected growing up. But she's grown up now. It's time to take stock. When your child is sick, take yourself out of the equation. When someone is dating a guy that you personally would not date for whatever reason, take yourself out of the equation. These things are not about you. Your child needs you to care for HER needs. Nobody wants to go to the hospital. Do you think hearing about how sick the person driving you there feels makes it better? Or worse? Judging others only turns the magnifying glass back on you. If you cannot control yourself, if you MUST air all of your opinions, then accept the fact that you are going to be judged in kind. Nobody likes to be judged, nobody makes all good choices, and you are no exception. There is nothing worse than having a sick loved one. But not everybody needs to go through that in order to realize "what's important". As a matter of fact, if you don't know what's important before, you won't know after. Don't you want people to treat you with kindness and patience? Don't you think it would feel good to do the same? Try it. You deserve it.

Leigh Adams
Leigh Adams

Vicki, Of all of the housewives, I've been most interested to see your transformation over the seasons. Of all the housewives you are the most consistent...always extremely hardworking, always a mom first, always true to your friends...and always speak your mind. I read the blogs...some have issue with feeling you were more focussed on your feelings rather then being there for your daughter during her illness/surgery...DONT LISTEN...The fact is, you were there before, during and after the procedure physically and mentally...We all deal with significant life events in our own ways....shame on people for thinking they know you through this breif medium (TV), or what it is like to deal with such a significant life event especially infront of the camera.You are beautiful and especially unique..and I LIKE that you dont change who you are based on popular opinion..(Most Do/Would)....I wish you and yours well...and will be watching and and throwing you my own boisterous.....WooooHooooo!!!! All the best! - Leigh

Hope from San Diego
Hope from San Diego

Hi Vicki,

I hope Briana is ok. I just had a surgery to remove all thyroid glands and was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and it was spreading to one of lympnode. I don't have any of my family members here in the US. I feel very fortunate to have a thyroid cancer, not pancreatic, colon cancer or other horrible diseases. I don't feel sorry for myself. I take this as a challenge in my life to overcome this disease. If Briana wants to talk please feel free to email me. I hope she is well.

angelsweet
angelsweet

Hi Vicki sounds like your getting alot of negative comments I have watched the real housewives of orange county since season 1 and i have to say i have noticed throughtout previous episodes of the show that you can be quite cold and judgemental especially when it comes to new women joining the show. and this business with gretchen and slade is so childish your all meant to be grown adults. But i do agree with you he shouldnt have made the comments he did at that comedy show i didnt find him funny. anyway despite what people say about you im sure you have your good points once people get to know you.

Viewer2222
Viewer2222

I do believe that Vicki IS a victim. I believe she is a victim of Narcissitic Personality Disorder. Look it up. It describes all the behavior we see from Vicki. I have a family member who also has this disorder, and I totally feel for Donn, Mike and Briana. In my experience, it's almost impossible for a person with NPD to admit it and seek treatment. But if they don't they end up alienating everyone around them. Good luck to you all.

804lindad
804lindad

Vickie I might be wrong on this but I dont think so ,but u strick me as a very insecure person who problely has taken a few punchs along the way and have learned to punch first before u get punched.U have a view on how everyone should behave but for yourself and that makes for some very entertaining tv but for some very bad behavour on your part.U butted in on Tam's marrage telling her to not take Simions views ,On Jenna u were just mean ( she really was your friend) Don wanted to enjoy life and u didnt like him being retired...FYI thats what people do when they retire...enjoy life!Maybe if u werent so driven to prove u matter u could have enjoyed life with him and had fun and the love tank would be full...by the way ...that sounds so age 16 so please drop that.Most people grow as they age but u seem to go backwards and u need to really have a hard look at yourself. I saw Brooks on a past show as he was the guy in the pool with u and Tam ...so how long did it take u to start the affair with him behind Don's back...come on Vic...fess up.I wish all the best for your Daughter as she is a beautiful young lady and wise beyond her years in spite of u...u could really learn from her.

LSK
LSK

I agree with you Vicki Of course you could act prim and proper all the time but that wouldn't make for good TV and you're professional enough to know what is expected and reputation is a sacrifice you make in exchange for the show and those of us who know the score are your friends . I went through cancer with my sister and I know how frightening it is until your there you dont realize what lengths family will go to to protect its all encompassing you find yourself doing things you never thought you would. You find yourself giving into all kinds of wacky therapies youll try anything and you eventually end up praying forever. I wish you the best you are a beautiful woman or you wouldn't be on the show dont forget it. And Slade is just doing the show as well.

Mila7
Mila7

Do you remember when Gretchen was dealing with her fiance's cancer and DEATH, and you and Tamra ridiculed, judged, verbally abused, and belittled her during her ordeal?

Do you remember when Gretchen started dating Slade and you and Tamra made her relationship with Slade your business and attacked Slade for having money trouble and for having some issues with child support?

Wow, I guess karma IS a bitch, but you don't seem to have learned anything from your own experience, nor do you remember your behavior when others have had similar circumstances, nor do you have any regret for your past behavior, but remarkably, you expect people you've attacked to be gracious back. That's illogical and self centered.

piperoni
piperoni

vicki you should stick with lex this season.she is the most sweet hearted christian girl.be nice.tamra is now hanging with gretchen and you were right about her on the clip where you said she was so far up her butt.now tamra wants small chest just like gretchen.tamra says so 80.if so 80 why now in the year 2012.she is older than gretchen and wants to be like her or alexis.if she was so condifident she would not act the way she does.bully bully she is so mean this season watch your back.you and lex favs this season.

Holly2012
Holly2012

Vicki I just read the Huffington Post about you. Hey we love you up the coast in Slo County California. The OC wives are the best. Your like wild ponies. Keep up the fun. Don't believe those comments. All of you women are good people and work hard. I love the show. Don't let the age thing get you down. Who knows maybe there will be the Real Grandmas of OC. Stay healthy and keep laughing. You keep me laughing . Try to get Tamera and Eddy back in a tub, swimming pool, they are hot and REALLY fun to watch.

love to cook
love to cook

I've always admired your professional life .. you seem very stressed this season.. not just about Brianna. Love that girl! I think you might want to consider getting Don back - he balanced you out.. although Brookes is adorable too!

Carrie K.
Carrie K.

I am not a Slade fan but this time you are so wrong. You need to own your mistakes and aplogize to both Slade and Gretchen. They are standing up for themselves for a change. Obviously you are not happy with yourself so you don't want anyone else happy. You are the problem and you need to change your attitude or get off the show. I like you less and less. I feel sorry for Donn and your kids. I wish the best for them and hope Brianne is healthy and happy.

NY carey
NY carey

Vicky, One question-why are you on this season? Aren't you the one that told Gretchen she should not have filmed when her ex was sick? Oh I know you will come up with some excuse that your situation is different,just like you did with the child support issue. Come on Vicky either you are in deep denial or you think the viewers are idiots. I do hope Brianna is feeling better.You should really listen to her since she has the voice of reason.

Keenan
Keenan

Vickie, ever the victim Vickie, if you are at your most vulnerable time here don't you think you should be avoiding drama instead fo stirring it up?

Kate Rose
Kate Rose

My heart goes out to you as a parent and a 40 yr old child of my parents. I can relate to how you feel, I had a cancer scare myself and I know how it took a toll on my parents even thou I am 40. And being a parent I would be freaking some too, no alot. I hope all is well and will be well with your daughter. God bless you and you family.

SMITHVILLE
SMITHVILLE

You are a beautiful women and never change. I pray for Brianna and your family. As for that creep Slade, you have been right about him since season 1. He is a real sleaze. I hope one day Gretchen sees him for what he really is and dumps him, but love is blind ! Your new boyfriend seems really nice, good luck with him.

MissMisty
MissMisty

Vicki, I really don't know how to put this but here goes nothing.

First off Brianna is in my thoughts and prayers.

As I've said before I'm a new viewer of the OC and had no idea about your problems with Slade and Gretchen but after watching these last eppy's over and over I have to say you are SOOOOOO (IMO) in the wrong accusing them of something you're doing. How is Brook's situation any different from Slade's (back child support)?? I mean come on now, Brook's went to jail, as far as I can see or read Slade didn't. I don't get you . . at that party you went completely bonkers on Gretchen and frankly made you look like a big fool.

Having said that I feel so sorry for your Daughter, having to see you gagging and constantly saying "I'm gonna throw up" while taking that dreadful drive to the hospital. Are you for real??? Your Daughter has so much more sense then you do.

Cough up and apology to both Gretchen and Slade like yesterday!

FYI, I am NOT a fan of Slade but the more you bash him the more I do kinda like him...weird huh?? If that makse any sense.

ocviewer
ocviewer

Vicki- No blogs this week from the ladies....

Let me say, that we may not be watching everything in 'real' time, but if my daughter had just had surgery with a possible unfavorable outcome, there would be no way I would be on a helicopter and acting so high and mighty. I am also confused with your relationship with Brooks. At this point your are still married? That seems, well a little like this has been going on for quite some time, or was at least planned. Own it Vicki-you can't fool all of us-especially your kids. Google cold sore also, your daughter is correct.

Dessi1
Dessi1

You should be embarrassed, just look at yourself. You don't get along with any of the women, so who's the real problem? YOU, VICKI. Talk about being desperado on staying on the show when no one cares to watch you. I actually feel bad for you, but what goes around comes around 10x worse!

SC Girl
SC Girl

You are out of touch! Read the comments on your blog, Gretchens and Tamara's. You shock me, you really don't get it and for that I am appalled and shocked!!! You CAN NOT talk smack about people and get away with it, it will catch up with you. To accuse Slade of using Brooks support issues and as a way to better his I age is CRAZY do you hear me CRAZY! You can not split hairs! You are the queen of being judegmental! You are human you need to make a fresh start. To co it use to defend your behavior will only hurt you. I truly like Brianna and wish her well but she is a grown woman, yes always your baby girl but have you not noticed how she keeps things from you i.e. her marriage if nothing else wakes you up that should. Go somewhere quiet, meditate, pray to a Buddha do something to change and OWN your comments and behavior.

SC Girl
SC Girl

You are out of touch! Read the comments on your blog, Gretchens and Tamara's. You shock me, you really don't get it and for that I am appalled and shocked!!! You CAN NOT talk smack about people and get away with it, it will catch up with you. To accuse Slade of using Brooks support issues and as a way to better his I age is CRAZY do you hear me CRAZY! You can not split hairs! You are the queen of being judegmental! You are human you need to make a fresh start. To co it use to defend your behavior will only hurt you. I truly like Brianna and wish her well but she is a grown woman, yes always your baby girl but have you not noticed how she keeps things from you i.e. her marriage if nothing else wakes you up that should. Go somewhere quiet, meditate, pray to a Buddha do something to change and OWN your comments and behavior.

wilkie
wilkie

my thoughts are with you and your daughter. i hope with everything that you are all ok. from what i've seen you are doing a fantastic job looking after her. all the best, keep the faith and keep fighting

Giant
Giant

Vicki, For the past two seasons I have liked you less and less. As for this season I am so hating you. I can't stand what type of person you are and how you act. You ALWAYS want to point fingers and insult everyone else but in fact you are the one with the big problem. Wake up it's not all about Vicki!! Don was so right about that. I really wish you would get off the show because I'm so tired of hearing poor me. You are NOT a nice person and you need some serious help. I feel bad for your children and for the way you treated Don on the show. I loved seeing him so happy on the show. Please accept your faults admit to your mistakes, stop making fun of people, change your attitude or get off the show!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

stopit!
stopit!

STOP SCREAMING ALL THE TIME AND ACTING SO IMMATURE FOR YOUR AGE! You are causing problems and you expect people not to say anything about it? Best of luck to Brianna, i like her so much in compare to you!

greatfallsfan
greatfallsfan

Vicki, the reason Gretchen and Slade brought up Brook's past is because it is relevant - failure to pay child support is the single greatest public complaint you have repeatedly launched against Slade prior to meeting Brook. Brooks went to jail. He paid his dues. But that doesn't mean Slade hasn't paid his dues. If the court deems his failure to pay child support egregious enough and without justification then he would have gone to jail also. Clearly Brooks' offense was far greater than Slade's which is precisely WHY he was forced to pay his dues. In this blog of yours you confess that there were ulterior motives for criticizing Slade's failure to pay child support. Whatever your ulterior motivation, it was a point you repeatedly made and it was humiliating for him. So now Gretchen and Slade are criticizing your boyfriend, as a way to show you the inappropriateness of what you did to them. Rather than admitting you should never have criticized Slade, you keep justifying and rationalizing and it makes you look like a true hypocrite and too proud. Apologize to them...without strings.

my1bella
my1bella

Vicki,

you really do have double standards.. you should watch the show and see for yourself. you use to be my favorite but the longer I watch the more i change my mind

suzanne cali gal
suzanne cali gal

Vickie, your daughter, Brianna, is so brave and I wish her the best .. She was right to notice that you seemed more caught up in yourself and how you were feeling instead of seeing things from Brianna's eyes. I hope you can grow and learn from these experiences for everyone's sake. I send your daughter healing thoughts and I think it's wonderful that Don is part of her life.

Also, I hope you can one day understand that the word "working" is not limited to a office job such as yours. There are all kinds of creative ways people can make a living and "working" be it from home, self employed or wherever .. I understand why Gretchen gets irritated with you when you constantly proclaim you are the only one working ..

And now that you are dating someone who has child support issues - hopefully you can drop the issue with Slade. You say your boyfirend's child support history is nobody's business - then why be on a reality show? hmmm ..

I am not a mean girl and only say these things in hope that you can grow in a positive way for everyone's sake - Peace ..

Pinnakal1
Pinnakal1

Vicki, Vicki, Vicki,

I have watched the OC housewives since the beginning and you were truly my favorite. You were level headed, strong willed, pretty and secure within yourself HOWEVER, you have become a beast. Its all about you and you never see anyone else's view. Negativity does not look cute on anyone. Nor does jealousy and envy. Yes, you may be the oldest housewife but do you. You have your own swag. Going through trials gives you no right to use that as an excuse for your self centered behavior. You preach about God this and God that when it comes to marriage and sex but what about love, kindness, joy, peace, etc. You will be a much happier person when you relinquish the focus off of you and place yourself in others' circumstances. I wish Briana a speedy and uneventful recovery. You can learn a lot from your daughter.

coto housewife
coto housewife

From one coto housewife, who is married for 30 years. You are a strong successful business women, congratulations for your success, however you do not have a clue when it comes to others in your life! Tamara is a devoted friend and you do not own her. She should develope a friendship with Gretchen. Slade is an unfortunate part of her life. I think everyone is in agreement, his mother even calls him out on the show. Gretchen is a sweet person and you have got to let go of your jealously. You were an absolute hyprocrite. It is great you have found love and you have obviously forgiven his past. Gretchen has the right to love Slade and forgive him and you should not hold that against her. I am sure there are some people in MS that may feel that way about you boyfriend. Lay off of Gretchen. I hope Briana is well she is a great girl and my son knew her. You did a great job with those kids!!!! Now be nice. lol, I am a fan of yours and I see you in pavillions sometimes.

Barneytaxed
Barneytaxed

I think Vicki has to be one of the worst housewives of all. from NY to NJ and on. She is so into her self and can do no wrong. But I think Heather is stuck up also. These shows are getting vicious. Don't they understand they look like fools??

ViewerMBD
ViewerMBD

Vicki, All your relationships are difficult because YOU are difficult. You need to change or your life will continue to be a train wreck. Your daughter is lovely and I wish her health and happiness. Donn is a sweetie and you never did appreciate what you had. Get over yourself.