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True Embarrassment

Vicki explains how she feels after the bunco fight.

My thought on the never-ending bunco episode is "true embarrassment." Am I disgusted at myself and how I lost my temper with Gretchen and Slade? One word -- absolutely!

I felt, after watching this week's episode, Gretchen and Slade were both just trying to make a case for their innocence for Slade's past child support issues. Fact is, once they found out that Brooks had been arrested for back child support several years ago, they felt it was a way to make Slade look better or equal by bringing Brooks into it.  

Instead of questioning Brooks directly, they decided to attack me when I was most vulnerable and going through a very rough time in my life. I guess the saying that some people love kicking you when your down is true with Slade. Class, integrity, and character are something you cannot buy or wish for. . .you either have it or you don't and for Slade to do what he did in front of 300 people was disgusting and made me very sad.The issue with Slade and myself stems back all the way to Season 1 seven years ago when he was dating Jo. He lied about dating Lauri after Jo and him broke up, and he treated all the ladies like we were second class citizens or beneath him. I have kept trying to see the "good" in Slade and move on, however he just keeps stirring things up. Why does he continue to stir up trouble? What other man does that to women?

When Tamra and I called Slade a deadbeat dad several years ago, it was because of him bashing us on and off camera and it was our way of getting back to him where it hurt.

Brooks has never, nor would he ever, verbally attack a woman. . .EVER. One word comes to mind that I think Slade should consider is -- chivalry. Where I come from and how I was raised, men are to treat women with respect and class. This is something Slade doesn’t seem to be able to do. You either have it or you don't. Slade you might want to take some lessons from Brooks, Jim, Eddie, Terry, and the previous male RHOC-ers who have never verbally attacked a women. I really think he thrives on the drama so he gets more airtime.

This season the ladies tend to gang up on Alexis for no reason. She clearly admitted on getting her nose fixed when the sinus surgery was being done, so therefore I don't know why they continued with the conversation. It's like some of them just sit there and figure out ways to belittle and hurt people. I hated that for Alexis because no one defended her, which was wrong. If Gretchen were a true friend, she would have done that.

It was nice seeing Briana and Donn having a beer with each other at her home. I'm so proud of Briana that she has realized how important it is to have a relationship with Donn. If there is one good thing that has come from our separation is that as they were not previously close and now they are. It's definitely hard seeing them joke, laugh, and have fun together -- it reminds me of the good times we all had together as a family and makes me sad.

In spite of my flaws of being a parent, I am proud of who Briana and Mike have become as adults. They are hard workers, have respect for authority, integrity, a sense of humor, morals and core values, which people love to be around.

Hearing Gretchen and Briana both say, "things tend to turn out to be about Vicki" was hurtful. I would never ignore other people's feelings or concerns, nor can I ignore my own. I am a very emotional and passionate person and when it comes to my children or my family's health I'm even more so. Briana has been sick for over three years with no real diagnosis, so the decision to go ahead to have her thyroid removed was a very emotional one. Once that vital organ is removed from your body, there is no turning back. The thought of Briana having cancer terrified me. She has so much life ahead of her, and I don't want this to be something that she had to endure right now. I don’t know of any other parent who wouldn't feel the same way as I did.

I am in NYC and just finished visting US Weekly,, and a radio tour. I will be on Watch What Happens Live with Andy on Tuesday night (3/13) so be sure to stay up late and watch if you can.

I have received so many amazing messages from my fans thanking me for inspiring them to get into the insurance business or simply take control of their finances. My advice is always to pay yourself first, save at least 10 percent of your paycheck, save for retirement, be in control of your own financial future while not depending solely on someone else, and always spend less than you make. If you follow these rules, you will never get yourself into a financial disaster.

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And lastly, Tamra and I are so excited to announce the launch of our new company "Wines by Wives.'  This is a wine club membership that will ship you two bottles of wine per month that have been chosen by us from all over the world. Please visit our website at for more information and join the club!

Enjoy the rest of your week and thank you for watching.


Vicki Gunvalson


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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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