Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki explains that she's taking things day-by-day

on Jun 21, 20120

This week I launched my new collection of t-shirts with my favorite phrases and I chose "Woo Hoo" to be the first one. When I see you wearing my new Woo Hoo t-shirts, I will stop and give you a hug. You have given me so much love and support these past seven seasons, and you have encouraged me to stay when many times I didn't think I could. I never had any idea really that anything I would say or even yell out would be recognizable to all of you. When my t-shirt collection was completed last week with all with my favorite sayings. I was humbled and excited all at the same time. If you have any other suggestions, please visit my Facebook page and post some ideas.

In closing, I hope you have enjoyed this season. I wanted to give you an update on my family. Michael is doing great and is now 26 and a half. He's turning into a fabulous life insurance salesman and is the top agent in my office. I couldn't be more proud of him.

As of today, Briana is six months pregnant and for those of you that don't know -- she is having a boy. Her due date is October 10th, 2012. Ryan and her are very happy and are excited to meet their son. I went to her ultrasound visit the other day and it was so amazing seeing my future grandson move his fingers and toes and be active and healthy. The "circle of life" song became very real to me now anytime I hear it.

You can view my new collection by going on my Facebook page or to this link.

Thank you for reading my blog, and I hope you have a fabulous week. I will be going to Ft. Lauderdale on Friday through Monday to see my client and also to have some R&R to clear my head.

Love,
Vicki Gunvalson
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238 comments
Lhaywood
Lhaywood

Vicki,

You must have such low self esteme because you allow Brooks to act the way he does with you.  what are you "friends with benefits"? come on now.  Are you so insecure that you would settle for someone like him?  for a woman who  is suppose to be so "business savvy" you sure are not relationship savvy by any means.  Get a pair, stand on your own by yourself if you have to, don't be so affraid to be without a man.  A man does not define you, YOU and your actions define you.  Move on....if you don't find a partner, so be it!  Enjoy your family, grandson and your friends....if you have any left.

jwhit
jwhit

Vicki, even though you are the only origianl orange county housewife, you look terrible and are constantly acting even worse and while we are on the subject, I too, think Brooks is packing a load of crap and talking a load of crap... in other words he is telling you exactly what you want to hear so he can live the orange county life but have you foot the bill...plus no matter how lonely you think you are, remember that Brianna is your daughter and you made the choice to have her, raise her no matter what and if she (your daughter) doesn't like Brooks and doesn't want him at the house then who are you to say anything, afterall your the one who wanted her, her husband and your grandchild to live there and she doesn't feel comfortable around Brooks at all....

bevbhart
bevbhart

I don't care for Alexis's husband, but he was absolutely right taking up for his wife and he was ambushed by Heather and Tamra coming over and butting in.  He wanted to talk to Terry alone.  In fact he really wanted to do it at lunch.  Tamra especially should not have come over.  Other than she started it by lying about what Terry said.  It was none of her business.

ladama
ladama

One more thing, WAKE UP.  You deserve more, do not settle for this.  Consider Don the one who got away.

 

bevbhart
bevbhart

We see very little of these people's life.  I don't know if Brooks is good or bad, but people have to make their own mistakes.  You speak your mind to your friend and then let it drop.  It will get them to thinking and if the person is not good, it will come out.  A friend does not go to a party and bad mouth you and your date in public and try to turn your daughter against you.

bevbhart
bevbhart

A good friend does not try to turn your daughter against you.  You can give your opinion one time to a friend and if it is not accepted shut up.

STLfan
STLfan

I was so glad to see Brooks call Tamra out on her eye-roll or whatever it was. She's a bitter, miserable woman and I'm relieved that you finally see that. Until this episode, I was on the fence about Brooks -- but not anymore. In fact, it became clear last night that Jim and Brooks are the only real men on this show.

ElizMilligan
ElizMilligan

Vicki, the brilliant actress Shelly Winters once said, "Before you marry the man of your dreams, have lunch with his ex-wife."  I think you'd be wise to do just that.  There is always another man to love, but there will never be another daughter who only wants the best for you. If nothing else, acknowledge Briana's concerns, slow it down with Brooks, and wait and see.  If it's a healthy relationship, it will survive the vetting process.

lavone
lavone

omg vicki wow ntamara rolled her eyes i have always loved you the lady full of the woo hoo is now dating a guy like simon for real! he just kept on and on they say love is blind and girl you told tamara to run you need to do really check him out deeply cause he is like simon and you are acting like she did when they were married and alexis is so phoney not your friend but you better watch your back with brooks everyone has a past and his is deeper thn you know good luck but dont ever put a man before your kids i walked that mile and you dont want to go there

mduffee02
mduffee02

Vicki,

 

I have always liked you but i have a question why you keep telling everyone you are so happy, then why did you yell so much at everyone this season?  Now granted we onlt see a small sample of your life, but from what I see about Brooks, I think Briana and Tamra are concerned and have your best interest at heart.  Love is a stanger think and we all love someone for different reasons, but you can not shut out everyone else in your life because you have a new man in your life.  I hope you and Briana patch things up and get back to that great mother daughter duo that you are.  I also hope you work things out with Tamra as well,  you too are friends and friends often fight just like family members that does not mean you stop caring about someone because you do not like what they said.  Maybe if you and Don would have had some explosive fights and shared your feelings you would still be together. 

lisahawaii
lisahawaii

YOU REALLY HAVE MELLOWED OUT THIS SEASON AND I RESPECT YOU FOR THAT.  YOU WERE NOT MY FAVORITE IN THE PREVIOUS SEASONS, BUT YOU DEFINITELY ARE MY FAVORITE NOW.  I CANNOT BELIEVE TAMRA WOULD YELL AT BROOKS LIKE THAT.  SHOW SOME CLASS AND RESPECT.  YOU ARE ALL OLDER WOMEN AND SHE IS ACTING LIKE A CHILD.  I ALSO DID NOT LIKE HER BADMOUTHING YOU TO YOUR DAUGHTER.  THIS USED TO BE MY FAVORITE SHOW, BUT THERE IS TOO MUCH DRAMA AND THE LADIES ARE JUST CRAZY! ADDING HEATHER TO THE SHOW WAS A TERRIBLE IDEA AND JUST MADE IT WORSE.  I PROBABLY WILL NOT WATCH THIS SHOW IF  THERE IS ANOTHER SEASON.  I AM SO GLAD YOU STOOD UP FOR ALEXIS.  NO ONE DESERVES TO BE IN THAT SITUATION. IT IS NOT LIKE SHE MADE OUT WITH ANY OF THEIR HUSBANDS.

young4uf
young4uf

Vick,

What Brooks is doing is alienating you from the people that are closest to you who would point out that he is taking advantage of you.  It's a very old trick for those that take advantage of others.  Wake up Vicky before you lose everyone.  Tracy

 

southernlady1
southernlady1

Wow! I'm glad I wasn't hosting Heather's party! Talk about stirring the pot. Vicki, I wonder if you are truly happy? Happy people don't feel the need to control the lives of everyone around them and you have done that since Day 1. The screaming me-me fits are not becoming and signal that something is wrong. Don't permit Tamra or anyone else to taunt you into losing total control. Sometimes the best thing is to say nothing at all...

 

You have some many positives in your life to enjoy. You have succeeded in building a successful insurance business and other spin offs that other women only dream about! You are obviously an intelligent, acute business woman who has overcome many difficult challenges. Believe in yourself and let your children happily live their own lives. You gave them "roots", now give them "wings." Yes they will make mistakes but you will always have their love. You need to earn respect, not demand it!!!!!

 

We all want to be loved but beware a wolf in sheep's clothing my dear. Brooks needs to also earn respect and many viewers have expressed their doubts about the shroud of secrecy surrounding his past (and present). I do think Tamra really does care about you despite her foul mouth and classless behavior. So she rolled her eyes...why did Brooks feel it necessary to label that gesture "evil eye." One could deduce that your reaction to Tamra and Gretchen exchanging lipstick also as an "evil eye." Being part of a reality show does not reveal what goes on behind the scenes so if Brooks absolutely makes you happy so be it. Just know that even with the negative comments being written about him, deep down your viewers want to protect you.

 

Take care of yourself Vicki and I truly wish you much happiness and joy as you welcome your precious grandbaby!

dearmichelle1
dearmichelle1

Vicki, if you loved Brooks & he were such a great catch you wouldn't be working so hard at changing him.  You have stated you have never been happier yet the person you portray on the show is anything but happy.  If anyone else on the show were w/someone like Brooks...you would be saying the same things the ladies are saying and more!  You need to start practicing what you preach.   

Blake1
Blake1

Keep your chin up Vicki. You deserve to be happy and if Brooks makes you happy then it is nobody's business. The guy has done nothing but be respectful toward you and true friends should be happy for you. Brianna is the only one allowed to have any concerns which you two should settle privately.

janb55
janb55

Vicki-- when will you ever figure out that you can't control who your friends can be friends with. If Tamra wants to be friends with Gretchen,  so what's the big deal? You raised your children to be smart, independent people, but you can't control how they feel about Brooks. And you shouldn't attempt to control how Briana and Ryan raise your grandson. You expect that everyone in your life must agree with you on everything and do what you want them to do.  Please get some counseling for your control issues before you lose the people you care about.

nanamom
nanamom

Vicki, When my Mom got remarried, I too was skeptical about her husband but as I began to let myself know him and see how happy he made my Mom, I knew I was wrong about him. Just do what your heart tells you and hopefully everyone will fall into place. Congrats on your news that you will be a Grandmother soon! What joy! Hang in there. Woo Hoo!

kim_01
kim_01

Vicki....I hope after watching last nights episode for yourself you saw that Tamra didn't give you the "evil eye'.... She didn't do anything that you don't do every time you see her and Gretchen together.  Although it's impossible to know just watching the show, I think that Brooks is pure trouble.  When you least expect it the right man will walk into your life.  I've had a lot of years working with women and I understand women being defensive at this point but the truth is, your on the rebound.  You didn't give yourself any time to be alone and regroup.  Being lonely is the worst thing but we all need to go through that part before starting with someone new.  Men like Brooks are a dime a dozen and come out of the woodwork for brilliant, successful women when they least need them.  When you get to the other side of this you will see that your children and your friends only have your best interest at heart.  The difference between Tamra and Simon and you and Brooks is that they were married and you are not.  Thank goodness you aren't!   I know that you never will marry Brooks because if you haven't already, you will see through him and that will be the end of him.  

 

Congratulations on your new grandson!  There is nothing better than becoming a grandmother.

lia3
lia3

Vicki you are one of my favorite on the show,  but a little disappointed watching you this season. I hope you and Tamra reconcile bec I thing she only looks up for you,  you are both friends for a long time and dont let that be ruined bec of Brooks, its not worth it. Not sure about Brooks either,  I think I would believe Brianna and Tamra for now until I see somemthing on Brooks that would change that.

 

cindy8w
cindy8w

Vicki,  I seriously hope this season's storyline was put together by the producers and you just ran with it.  If not, there are some great meds out there that would help.  You would be able to see things more clearly.  You would realize that you are not  the strong woman you brag about.  Every season you are a hot mess and require lots of maintenance.  You expect others to put you on a pedestal and when they don't you loose it.  I'm guessing Brooks bends over backwards to praise every little move you make.  You also demand respect, especially from Brianna.  Have you heard the phrase, "you have to earn respect?"   Your children, your new son-in-law, and other Housewives, have been trying to have rational, mature conversations with you, but you go for the jugular.  Please run, don't walk, to your doctor or get a specialist.  Your life could be everything you pretend it is.  

 

P.S.  I would love to read a weekly blog by Brianna. 

LeftyAL
LeftyAL

I am not a big fan of yours or Tamra's, but I love your daughter.  It looks like I'll be loving her husband, too, because he handles you in a respectful but firm way, just what you need.

 

What I saw on yesterday's show was Tamra rolling her eyes and then your boyfriend interpreting it and accusing her of giving you "the evil eye."  Therefore, it seems to me, he was at least partly responsible for your fight with Tamra, since it was not her intent to give you "the evil eye."  You flipped out in a major way and even lied to Heather, telling her you saw Tamra give you the evil eye. 

 

While I'm commenting, a look into your "heart" occurred when you were driving your daughter to the hospital and commented about the fog or haze making you feel like you were driving into heaven (or words to that affect).  Your comment was disturbing to your daughter because she was worried she probably had cancer and might die.  When she said something about your choice of words, you snapped "grow up." 

JodiS
JodiS

I just watched the finale and I've got to say, it did look like Brooks wanted to instigate a fight between you and Tamra. The so called "evil eye" was an eye roll, and wasn't suprising seeing as you were toasting someone that wasn't there. You know Tamra doesn't like Alexis so the eye roll shouldn't have suprised you. And just as Brooks wanted, you and Tamra got into a huge fight and you sided with him. Then you think that Tamra is going to brainwash your daughter? Brianna told you to your face that she loved you and had concerns about Brooks as did Tamra, and all you could say is that your daughter and Ryan did the same thing. I really think you need to open your eyes with what everyone is telling you. If you was one person, different story but you have many people telling you. Hope you and Tamra figure things out and that you and your daughter work things out. You keep choosing your man over your children and friends and family, you will have no one left. Good luck to you and Congrats on your soon to be grandbaby!

tessa3968
tessa3968

I also believe Brianna is the most mature one in your family.  She's bright and is clear-headed.  Maybe you should listen to her!!

JoyFromChico
JoyFromChico

Team Ryan!! This young man has more maturity & class than you do, and he understands how to conduct himself with dignity. No wonder Briana loves him. You are fortunate to have him as a son-in-law and, if you're smart, maybe you & Brooks can learn a thing or two from him in how to behave like grownups.

Housewivesaddict2
Housewivesaddict2

How is it that you can bashed Slade, Gretchen , Jim , Alexis, Simon. And then when everyone mentions dead beat dad in Brooks ,you think its different. He went to jail, is not working , drives your car . All this according to Briana. You need to get a grip and come down from whatever you are on. Look in the mirror and judge yourself for a change and not others. Listen to your daughter, she seems to know more then you.

LIndaback2NJ
LIndaback2NJ

You were the one that I thought had her head on straight and her blinders on tight, and then I didn't watch for a season and BAM!!!  You are off the tracks.  What happened?  Okay so you got a divorce, there was no love there to begin with - yet when your own daughter elopes and you are not there to even see her build her family - something tells me it is more YOU then her.  Brooks is just that, a fleeting memory.  Sure he loves you, you are hot and you have money but please do not confuse the two here.  Loving you for the right reason, to loving all that you have.  

I do wish you luck - and congrat's on becoming a grandma :)  Best wishes - just please put those blinders back on.  Tight.   

LuvMyYorkie
LuvMyYorkie

PS!!! PLEASE READ AND HEED NERDINA'S POST!!!! 

LuvMyYorkie
LuvMyYorkie

Thanks for defining who and what you are all about on the finale last night Vicki.  When you said that "you were the happiest you have ever been in your life"  Even though your children and friends are concerned and unhappy, you said that you didn't care!  WOW!  Adversity doesn't build character, it merely reveals it......like I said, "WOW" very sad.....

colloctor
colloctor

Vickie,

You barding in on Heathers toast like a bull was as bad behavior as Sara's picking off the bow  on the cake!! Its NOT all about you. You are NOT the boss and you need help!

sandra.saravo
sandra.saravo

Vickie I have watched orange county ever since you have been on and I  always loved you in the show.. that guy brooks is not good for you hun look at it from the outside looking in, you will see what your daughter and amra are trying to tell you.

AzHighLife
AzHighLife

Vicki, 

 

It is difficult to watch what the show has become this season. I know this is a contractual business agreement you all have with Bravo, but don't lose what is most important. Stay strong and focus on who and what matters. These women are not coming from a place of friendship or well being. They say and do terrible things, dismissing their involvement while focusing on the reactions of others as the issue. (Much to do about nothing.)

 

Obviously we can not change the opinions or decisions of others, the only thing we can do is be responsible for how we respond. What they say and do is on them and obviously how they see themselves and the world around them. Remember, people are still watching and listening to you... You are never a failure until you start blaming others. 

 

"When you take things personally you give up your power. You become a victim. Understand that those who judge you, are only projecting their own fears, doubts, and insecurities. It is they who are coming from a place of extreme weakness. Knowing this, you can hold your head up high and smile at them. This not only removes the sword from their hand, but greatly empowers YOUR SPIRIT."  ~Eric Allen

califgirl9498
califgirl9498

It is hard to watch you turn your back on your daughter when she is trying to point out that you are being used by Brooks.  You are a smart business woman who really needs to open up her eyes about the situation you are in.  

 

RHFanatic
RHFanatic

We get it, you're happy! Then just do your thing, don't concern youself so much with what others have to say. But also don't condemn your friends for "not having your back" when they voice concerns from a place of love. They don't seem to be trying to come between you and your happiness, but rather warning you take a more objective look. They are HAVING YOUR BACK which is generally your theme as an important trait in any good friend. I dont think you should take anything Tamra has to say as an attack- she's your best friend- she's only trying to look out for you. Another thing, why is it ok for you and Alexis to be BFFs now after all the awful things you've said about her and the problems you've had in th past, but not so for Tamra and Gretchen? I know the word hypocrite bothers you, but please rewatch this season and see what that gets said- you are. I am not saying that as a bad thing, but more of a constructive critisism. Child Support- Slade v. Brooks, Friendships- You & Alexis v. Tamra & Gretchen, Relationships- You & Simon v. Tamra & Brooks. You often stand in one corner when it suits your interestes and then in another when it doesn't. Just something to look into.

lizzyb10
lizzyb10

Vicki - you are very well spoken, intelligent and a nice person.  Tamara is NOT a nice person and never will be and I'm surprised you were ever friends with her in the first place.  I also think your daughter is way out of line, but she needs to grow up and she'll figure that out one day.  Tamara needs to stay out of your business and shut her mouth.  She is one of these woman that becomes uglier the more you get to know her....there is nothing kind about this woman and I hope that you stick to your guns about the "friendship" being over.  She is not and never was a true friend to you.  I hope it works out for you and Brooks, but even if it doesn't don't let Tamara back in your life..that woman is pure poison!!!!

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

Did anyone notice that right after Brooks told Vicki "I've got your back always" he bolted backwards away from them when Vicki and Tamara got into it in the hall at Heather's? 

lynnwhitlock
lynnwhitlock

Please think about the possibility of being a mark.  This happened to someone I know.  Brooks may be fulfilling your every need for affection, affirmation and attention but when that comes with the alienation of those who love you it is a red flag.  You are a woman who is vulnerable and looking for love.  Remember when someone is manipulating you what they are trying to convince you of is that they are what you want/need but it is not genuine. Think about what he possibly could be after and protect yourself.  You have people who truly love you. When you truly believe you are lovable and love yourself you will not settle.  Remember Briana. Michael and Tamara have nothing to gain by looking out for you.  There is someone out there who is the whole package when you believe in yourself.     

Win20902
Win20902

I think Vicky should love whoever she wants to love. Tamara should stay out if it and especially Tamara should not be recruiting Briana to gang up against her own mother. By the way, doesn't Brook talk and look a little like former President Bush?

cascades
cascades

Vickie, I don't think Brook has been a good influence on you. You say your happy, but you don't look it or act like it. Your physical appearance has also changed. Didn't you think it strange that he said he LOVED your children the very first time he met them. This will probably not end well. Good luck!

AshAlisa
AshAlisa

Vicki

Hopefully you find yourself watching the footage as a viewer and can see the concerns your family and friends have for you. Out of love people see, say, and do things they would not normally do. Sometimes things are said that one may view as an attack or hurtful or people may do things with rose colored glass on... all in the name of love. Such as... You buying brooks teeth, letting him drive your car, paying for everything etc... Because you are in love. In the same sense look at your sweet daughter and Tamara: They say things that you may not want to hear and try to voice their concerns, even get frustrated and sometimes yell,  to you because they love you & just want you to listen and truly hear them! I believe at the end of they day your family and "soul mate sister" do love you and are just so concerned I just hope you can see they try so hard to get to you out of love. No one wants to see you taken advantage of and from a viewers standpoint Brooks does seem like an opportunist. Sometimes love blinds us & hopefully you can see that the ones who have known you the longest even at the lowest points in your life/divorce are the ones you should listen to. Even if you don't want to hear it.... they have your best interest in mind.

Barbarajean
Barbarajean

Looking forward to hearing that you have broken it off with Brooks. Vicki, you are too smart to be taken in but I am at a loss why you can't see what is happening.  We all need some love in our life but I know that there is someone out there for you that is worthy of your love unconditionally.  Please be careful. I am so afraid that you are going to get hurt again and this time it will be hard to pick up the pieces.

viewer92
viewer92

Well, I posted again and again it's not here, so I guess maybe I'll just be safe and say GodSpeed.

pschmidt
pschmidt

 @Blake1 ..Finally a brillant reply I could not have said it better...

bethe006
bethe006

I couldn't agree more with your observations about Brianna's husband.  Right away I thought to myself, "Oh boy, Vicki's met her match!"  The guy's a marine who's done service / tours of duty in Iraq.  He ain't takin no sh*t.  He's a straight-up, no-nonsense, very respectful guy.  I really like him and IMO i think they are a good fit.

gimma
gimma

 @studydaze Ditto! You saved me the time of having to type out my thoughts.

rachel_s
rachel_s

@studydaze .... very well stated

playsindirt
playsindirt

 @Itokagi23

 Brooks attacked her for an eye roll.  An eye roll.  Yes, Tamra overreacted but she was provoked.  And for Vicky, who prides herself on acting "classy", she should have leaned over and told him to put a sock in it.  Tamra's anger issues are second only to Vicky's low self-esteem. 

JAESF
JAESF

 @playsindirt I don't think it was an over reaction. For some reason, Vicky is trying to act as if she is a lot closer to Alexis than she really is and after Alexis strolls into that party with that uninvited crazy chick and after the drama with her husband, it didn't really make sense to toast the person responsible for the drama that took place at that party. I would say it was more a look of surprise that Vicky would be toasting Alexis of all people. It seems to me that this season the MEN on the show have been more catty and drama promoting than the women! And for a well known plastic surgeon, Dr. Dubrow sure acts like a gossipy Desperate Housewife!