Vicki Gunvalson

Vicki defends her intense nature and explains her behavior in Costa Rica.

on May 30, 20120

I really don't like being around arguing, fighting or even calling people out on "who they are." I just don't think it's anyone position to do that. We all have "issues," and it was very hard for me to see everyone gang up on Alexis. In fact I had flashbacks to how it felt when it happened to me a few years ago in San Francisco. There's really no other word for it than "it sucks!"

I am the one usually in the middle of the tension -- or the target for the tension. I felt really bad for Alexis. I mean what was she to do. . .just sit there and agree with all of them as they are bashing her? It was brutal not only watching it, but also being there and really not doing anything to help her out. I felt no matter what I did I was going to be brought into it somehow. No matter how strong one is in their life -- business or personal -- nothing can compare to the hurt one feels when their friends all turn on you. I know that feeling and I am stronger for experiencing it -- I guess. I hope Alexis gains the strength from this pain and I hope she will come away from this hurt being a stronger and even more empowered woman. I really like Alexis and I think she has all the potential for her own greatness. In fact, I love all the girls. I just wish we could get to a place where we all can be friends and it's not so divided. It sure would make life easier.

I ask myself a lot what is it about women that puts us into this drama that we do to ourselves? Do men do that to each other? Do men go on a vacation and talk about their wives out loud? Do men call each other pretentious and fake? I don't think so nor have I ever heard it. I think there is something to learn from men in this area. Now don't get me wrong, I am so glad I am a woman -- but there are times when I wonder will we as women ever settle down with each other and start encouraging one another instead of breaking one down? What would it be like if we did?

28 comments
biancala
biancala

I am a little late on this one but had to comment-I feel so bad that you had to "defend" yourself for your skin!!! That is sad! You are very beautiful-sad that some people can only look for the bad in others and point out things that we are already self concious about! Keep smiling!!!

magsgg
magsgg

I think this Kelli person who sent the 100 page comment needs an intervenion. Its a "comment" not a blog. Also its a "reality show" not your life. I bet you and ole Lex would be best friends...you made the entire comment about yourself. I dont think anyone wants to hear all that.

Michelle L
Michelle L

One poster made a good point about Tamara latching on to you when she's down or hurt, but dumping on you when she's found her footing. Yes, last season, and some this season, you could be pretty hypocritical. But I must say I appreciated how you was there for Alexis considering she led the "intervention" against you a couple of seasons ago. You raised a smart, beautiful daughter, who seems to be more grounded and wise than most of you women on this show. If this Brook character makes you happy. So be it. Just as well for Gretchen and Slade. Hopefully, Tamara lucked out this time. Perhaps she will be a little more kinder with her delivery. Wishing you many Whoo Hoos!

sbgh
sbgh

Gurl u the best

tamara h
tamara h

Vicinki, Hello there,I'm sorry some people are dishing you and Brooks,including myself.I am very sorry.Alot has happen this season concerning you,and it has caused me to look at you differantly.I don't think your a bad person anymore,I see a softer human side to you that wasn't there the last few yrs.Again I'm sorry,On to the trip you ladies went on.I was so disgusted by the way Alexis was treated.Everyone involed should be ashamed of themselfs.Who does Tamra and Heather think they are? Heather doesn't really know Alexis she has sat there and let Tamr tell her how she feels about Alexis & Heather formed her opion that.And thats not kool.You mentioned how Tamra belittled you and making you feel foolish.Thats Tamara I think Tam,is insacure and so she puts the spotlight on others so there not looking at her.Why do you like Tamra why are you friends with her?She is so beneath you.Ycommings)ou are not a mean sprited she is and always will be,cause she is so unhappy and wants to make the people around her as unhappy as she is.You don't like all the fighting but as her friend you will always be in the thick of it.I really beleive you had a better friend w/Jeanna.You also said you don't feel its anyones position to do that.(calling out people's short).I disagree with that Vicki,I think there are at least 2 people that seem to like bring up there short comings as they see it.I wish everone would mind there own busness and get along.I am glad Vicki that you have found someone who loves you and you love him.I

smallmiracle
smallmiracle

Hi Vicki... Don't think that the girls were 'attacking' Alexis at all. They were trying to help her. There's nothing wrong with constructive criticism. If Alexis were a more intelligent person, she would have realized that. Everything they said to her...simply, went over her head. Real friends tell each other the truth, no matter how hard the truth is. Alexis...should have said...Thank you to everyone, in my opinion. She doesn't know how lucky she is, to have friends that care enough about her, to try and help her. Again...she isn't the sharpest tack on the wall. I'm sorry that you're having such a rough year.I'm sorry that your marriage didn't work out. In my opinion. all Brooks is...is a rebound person for you. It would be better if you just regrouped by yourself, before you plunge into another relationship. That guy is NOT your speed, and I think you know that. Contrary to your belief, I think he likes the limelight. In the overall...YOU are way too much for him....don't YOU get pregnant by him too, LOL. As you yourself said....If Don wanted you back, you'd BE back. I totally get that.

RH viewer
RH viewer

Wow Vicki I really agree with your comments about supporting each other. It is so easy to see the errors of others yet we can not see our own faults.

Ambygirl
Ambygirl

Vic, I'll give it to you, you've been through a lot this past year. And you are a strong, beautiful woman. You have a lot of experience and wisdom that you can share with other women and I appreciate that very much. However (isn't there always a 'but' somehwere), I have doubts about Brooks. I understand you wanting to protect him but he comes off as insincere and a little over the top. I miss the earlier relationship you had with Don and honestly I think you do too. I hope Brooks turns out to be all that you hope for because I truly think you deserve to be happy. Just take it slow as you say you are and really, really check out his history. I would hate to see him try to take advantage of you emotionally or financially. You deserve so much more. Good luck in your future! Happy days ahead..

OC fan
OC fan

Hello Vicky,wao that was an amazing trip so glad you guys went there so much fun.I have to say down the river i was so nervous oh God don't let them fall lmao.I think you were so sincere with how you felt with the divorce hey you were lettign out all thos emoions and is ok you need that in order to fo forward.

Im like kind of confuse with Tamara it sems like she does not cared about you like all the faces she was making when you wee crying to me it was mean.When the whole J.K situation happended you had her back and how quick when she became friends with Gretchen she is no longer interested in how you feel.

She could be friends with whoever she wants but why does she have any say if you want to be friends with Alexis.Little by little i seen how tamara is i hope that Eddie does not end up looking stupid.

I think is great you found someone that makes you laugh that you enjoy his company and if he makes you happy who cares what they say.You have to enjoy your life be happy.

Courtney Mae
Courtney Mae

Vicki, OK I both hated and loved your trip to Costa Rica. The bickering and screaming are getting dull. I still don't understand how a bunch of grown women go into battle mode at the slightest suggestion that they aren't perfect. That said, I found the white water rafting scene the most hilarious scene of the show (previous seasons included). Your face, Vicki, was priceless. That was some screaming to laugh about! I've watched that scene a dozen times already and I laugh every time. I know Bravo thinks all we (the viewers) want to see is "drama" (fighting, screaming, back stabbing, gossiping, blaming, etc. etc.), but I for one would love to see more fun.

KyVeiwer
KyVeiwer

Vicki you handled Alexis correctly! So what if she led the attack on u in SF, you were able to show her how to overcome differences with others without confrontation or ridicule and in a wwjd manner! As for the rest of the ladies it is clear that they are jealous of her! She has not done anything to them Heather and Tamra are constantly gossiping about her they waste their time bashing her! I see that Alexis has came along way with her clothing line getting off the ground to her dipping in casting rolls for tv! I know Heather is obsessed with being on tv while Alexis is getting work on tv so I see why she is soooo jealous. As for Tamra her venture will not prosper because of her hateful inner spirit and I am willing to bet some $$$$ that Edie will walk away if they can't sell a wedding to bravo! Be a friend a tell Tamra that 40 year old moms going through a divorce and custody battles don't act like that on tv!

LeeBee88
LeeBee88

Vicki's got herself a fixer upper. Kind of like This Old Boyfriend.

Oniis
Oniis

It appears that you have become quite the little drama queen-apparently in an attempt to garner attention which has waned from you! Your "boyfriend" is perfect for you-when you say "jump"-he does!!!!!!!

You've made a fool of yourself on numerous occasions this season to the point where a lot of viewers have stopped watching the show!

njmomof3
njmomof3

I miss the Jeana/Vicki dynamic. Actually I miss most of the former OC Housewives.

Misha78
Misha78

Vicki I can see where you are upset about your daughters marriage but it's her life, if it's a mistake it's her mistake not yours if it's a blessing then embrace her marriage & her husband. If you look at all her struggles that she been through just this past year you would see why she went and eloped she didn't hide it from you know her husband it's like she brought this guy from the street & said oh here's your son in law. She has a degree, a great job, a place of her own & now a husband to share it with. Maybe she needs a man in her life all the men in her life are not there anymore her father is a no show, her grandfather (your father) is gone, your soon to be ex husband Don is gone, who does she have left your new boyfriend Brooks??? Ugh no she doesn't even like him. I think you should get your prioritys straight before you start on your daughter who is successful in her own right. :) you go Brianna congrats!!!!!!!!!

mary ann raymond
mary ann raymond

Vickie I really like you so I'm saying this for your own good HIRE SOMEONE TO CHECK INTO HIS BACKGROUND. My husband passed away and iI meet a man that I thought was the best thing since white bread was invented, worse mistake I ever made. I am still having legal battles going on so as I said HAVE HIM CHECKED OUT FOR YOUR ON GOOD PLEASE

Utahfan
Utahfan

Doesn't anyone remember Vickie saying the Alexis made her feel "less than" or something like that??? She might not have been yelling but she did the exact same thing that Gretchen did! But people are saying that Gretchen threw her under the bus- Vickie included. What is wrong with you people! That is the problem when you change the channel!!

Mrs. D
Mrs. D

VICKI, I LOVE YOU GIRL AND HAVE MORE RESPECT THAN EVER FOR YOU. TAMRA IS USING YOU AND GRETCHEN FOR OPPORTUNITY. (COMMERCIAL FILMING, WINES BY WIVES, ECT.) BE CAREFUL. IF I WERE YOU I WOULD ALSO WATCH BROOKS. HE COMES ACROSS AS NOT REAL. PERHAPS HE'S NERVOUS AND TRYING TOO HARD BUT THE COMMENTS HE MAKES REALLY MAKE ME WONDER IF HE'S USING YOU TOO. I HATE TO BE HARSH BUT I TELL IT LIKE IT IS BECAUSE I CARE ABOUT YOU. BRAVO NEEDS TO GET RID OF TAMRA. I HAVE NO RESPECT FOR HER. SHE HAS NO RIGHT TO JUDGE ALEXIS. SHE IS APPARENTLY JEALOUS OF HER BECAUSE SHE LOOKS 100 TIMES BETTER THAN TAMRA. IVE HAD WOMEN TO GET JEALOUS, SO I KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO BE MISTREATED FOR NO REASON BELIEVE ME. TAKE CARE AND I HOPE YOU WILL STAY ON THE SHOW.

pennyone
pennyone

vicki, it was fun to watch all of the ladies in costa rica. finally a trip with no men.the only two that went home early have husbands. it seemed like a fun trip. you are my age, so keep on keepen on. sometimes menapause or empty nest or divorce seem to happen at the same time. not fair, be yourself.

<3 Alexis
<3 Alexis

Vicki!!!! I love you! I used to think you were a bully like Tamra but now I see that you were going through some hard times and you are absolutely not a bully! I love that you are nice to Alexis and you took the words right out of my mouth when you said they were jealous of her :) You are an amazing, independent woman. I hope you know you can do better than Brooks. Only time will tell. Good luck Vicki!

Confusedbyyou
Confusedbyyou

Vicki it was nice to see a more human side of you. You came across as very selfish in the past. I think Tamra hasn't had the best influence on you but now you're your own person and showing your own opinions. I think you're learning from your experience with the divorce and your daughter eloping. Taking a negative and learning from it that is very nice to see.

piperoni
piperoni

Vicki planting the tree for lexie was so sweet.i think you to got off on the wrong foot in season 5.alexis would be a true friend till the end as long as she is not tossed away and treated like crap in which gretchen did.god bless you too girls.bravo please print for vicki.

Nan1NJ
Nan1NJ

Thank you for having a spine and NOT participating in the bullying, and yes it was bullying. Tamra may be your friend, but she really is so self centered I don't think she is anyone's "real" friend. She's fake. She's phony. Sadly, she's a bully. It was nice to see you stand up for Alexis. You showed class. Tamra had none, so you are better off without her. But watch out, she has a razor tongue and a foul loud mouth. Those are the kind of people to avoid. Life is short, who needs that? You are the only reason to watch the show, because I can't stand the bullying and manipulating ever since Tamra came on and thought she was the queen bee. I already went through middle school, who wants to watch her behave that way on TV? Be strong, be happy!

5280mom
5280mom

Vicky, I really like you this season! You seem more real and in touch with life, maybe this is because you are spending less time with Tamra..... Oh, I forgot she got her boobs taken out so she must be SO REAL now - not! God Bless!

RHWCHDC
RHWCHDC

good for you Vicki to defend and support Alexis

DK Kathleen
DK Kathleen

Vicki, I have alot of respect for the way you handled the sensitive situation with Alexis! Sometimes our own personal pain gives us new perspective on the hurts of others... and allows us to see others in a different light. I believe you have done that with Alexis. I was touched by how you treated her with kindness & understanding! I also think you would be wise to distance yourself from Tamra- unfortunately, she appears to be a cold-hearted, mean-spirited person who will throw anyone under the bus as long as it serves her self-interest!