I didn't know what to expect at coffee, but I wanted to move on and replace all the negative energy in my life with positivity. I wanted to hear her side, and I wanted to be heard, but I wanted to be treated with respect during it. The conversation went around in circles for a while, and we definitely did not see eye-to-eye on several topics. Many of our disagreements involve timelines and factors that are nearly impossible to prove.
However, the main point I was trying to get across during coffee was that it wasn't the isolated incident in Costa Rica that hurt my feelings so badly. It was the entire season of hearing Heather insult me or gossip about me to the other ladies or in her interviews. Once I realized this wasn't happening, I knew the old adage "let's agree to disagree" was the premise of our conversation. I honestly just wanted a sincere apology for my feelings being so hurt on several occasions. Regardless, I am very happy to say that we have both put the past behind us, and Heather and I are in a better place now.
When Lydia told me about the salsa party I was SO excited! Dancing and costumes? PERFECT! I was sad Jim couldn't go, but I was excited to get some girl time with Vicki. Almost immediately the party went a little south with Slade saying Lydia needed to eat a cheeseburger. After watching the scene, I do think Slade was joking and not intentionally trying to hurt Lydia's feelings. However, once he discovered her feelings were hurt, he didn't apologize or have compassion, which is why I think the situation escalated instead of fizzling out. Let me just say that I hang with Lydia often and that chick eats! I wish I had her waistline with her diet. . .shhh. Any of us would gladly take her metabolism!