I know this will shock many of you, but hearing Tamra's past was not a surprise to me. Through the last few years of seeing her tough exterior, I could also see a sad, wounded child. I knew there were layers to her that none of us knew. Although someone's past is never an excuse for his/her behavior, hearing her story definitely helped me understand her better. We all have experiences from our past that haunt us. Tamra is learning how to adjust her current actions to not reflect her past, and I applaud that.
Many of you tell me I should move on with Gretchen if I can move forward with Tamra, and I have to say this: I HAVE moved on with Gretchen. We are not enemies; we are not friends. A couple years ago, Gretchen and I were dear friends, and I had a deep trust, respect and love for her. When she threw our friendship away so easily, I saw her true colors. Once that deep trust with a friend is broken, it's impossible to gain it back.
Tamra and I never had that trust or respect for one another because we only hung out a handful of times, and I think we always knew we were polar opposites. Today, Tamra and I are not claiming to be best friends; we have simply decided to look at what similarities we have rather than focus on our differences. It feels good to know she cared enough to reach out to me, and I'm glad we are able to hang out and have fun together, rather than fight. It's easy to forgive, even though you don't necessarily forget. . .