I know this will shock many of you, but hearing Tamra's past was not a surprise to me. Through the last few years of seeing her tough exterior, I could also see a sad, wounded child. I knew there were layers to her that none of us knew. Although someone's past is never an excuse for his/her behavior, hearing her story definitely helped me understand her better. We all have experiences from our past that haunt us. Tamra is learning how to adjust her current actions to not reflect her past, and I applaud that.
Many of you tell me I should move on with Gretchen if I can move forward with Tamra, and I have to say this: I HAVE moved on with Gretchen. We are not enemies; we are not friends. A couple years ago, Gretchen and I were dear friends, and I had a deep trust, respect and love for her. When she threw our friendship away so easily, I saw her true colors. Once that deep trust with a friend is broken, it's impossible to gain it back.
Tamra and I never had that trust or respect for one another because we only hung out a handful of times, and I think we always knew we were polar opposites. Today, Tamra and I are not claiming to be best friends; we have simply decided to look at what similarities we have rather than focus on our differences. It feels good to know she cared enough to reach out to me, and I'm glad we are able to hang out and have fun together, rather than fight. It's easy to forgive, even though you don't necessarily forget. . .
LISTEN Alexis! Just try to LISTEN for once and stop talking. You tend to talk too much that you forget to listen. If only you are not so self absorb you will realized that Gretchen was really a good friend to you. A friend is not there to just agree with you all the time but, be able to tell you like it is. Gretchen was telling you how the other women perceives you and nowhere insulting you. You should watch the episodes again with an open mind.
Gretchen may have messed up but if you can't forgive your friends then who can you forgive. She got caught up in Tamra's bullcrap. I'm sure glad Jesus forgives us so easily or we would all be in a mess. If he can do it then why can't you. To me you were never a true friend to Gretchen or you would still care about her and find it in your heart to give her another chance.
I think you are making a wise move by not returning and I'll bet its the same reason you decided not to return. Now with Gretchen gone you again will be Tamra and Vickie's scapegoat. They only befriended you to get back at Gretchen. Good Luck in all you do.
I cant believe I'm saying this but I will really miss you. I didnt care for you the first couple seasons because I thought you were very materialistic and showy. But this last season you came across very secure and confident and more real. You definitely grew on me. Plus your style this last season was amazing! Loved the short hair too. Will miss you!
Sorry to see that you aren't returning to the show. I think you were an asset to RHOC and hopefully will see you in new roles. I wish you and your family all the best. Best wishes.
So sorry to hear you may not return next season. I thought this season you were finally settling in, opening up a little more, and getting your husband to embrace your choices. I'll miss seeing you grow but wish you well!
Heard rumors you won't be returning next season. Wishing you and your family well in whatever endeavors you pursue. I liked watching you grow over the last few seasons, and though it was often hard to see the pain you endured, you came out a stronger, classier, more mature woman on the other end. I enjoy your ditzy, caring, fun-loving personality! Alexis, you're a beautiful woman and I'm sure you'll go far in life. Take time now to enjoy Jim and your kids, and always stay true to yourself.
Sorry to see you go, but I'm glad you got to come back and make amends with everyone. Except Gretchen of course, but then maybe she'll want to be your friend now that you two will both be unemployed. She is a user, so watch out.
I was pleased that Eddie backtracked on the uninvite. What is it with some of these men on the show? I have never seen such a bunch of little beatches in suits in all my life. I thoroughly enjoyed the way you stuck to your guns and stood up to the "mean girl bullies". Bullying is bullying. It comes in many forms and many degrees. Best of luck to you, beautiful lady.
Greg said it best-Jesus was exposing the artificial righteousness of the religious leaders. Their righteousness was an external masquerade. Their religion was a dead ritual, not a living relationship. It never hit their hearts. The irony is that it made them proud instead of humble. That is why Jesus saved His most scathing words not for tax collectors or prostitutes, but for that Pharisees. They were interested in actions instead of motives, doing rather than being, and details rather than principles. In Jeremiah 17:10, God said, “I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind, even to give every man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his doings” (NKJV). God is still looking at the heart today. Instead of trying by our own efforts to somehow be righteous, we need to acknowledge that we are sinners separated from God. He loved us so much that He sent His Son to die in our place, and now has credited the righteousness of Christ to our spiritual account. As a result, we have a righteousness that exceeds that of the scribes and Pharisees, not because of what we have done, but because of what God has done for us. If we know anything of that righteousness, it should work its way through our lives, and we should seek to be godly people. We can’t do it on our own, but as Philippians 4:13 reminds us, we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us.
I wish you have smaller breasts. Just take the fake stuff off. I bet you will look ten years younger and much more beautiful now that you seem to improve in the other departments already.
Allways Know your the most beautiful. cause sometimes especialy around "The Bullies" lol, you have that " i am lower than you look on your face" when you should relax and naturally rule at looking Hot. k bye
Alexis, you are the best personality on the show! You are real, you are who you are and you don't apologize for it. You are just being yourself on the show and I think you are very endearing and entertaining. Perhaps the other women are jealous of your beauty, because it is easy to see you are naturally more beautiful on the outside AND inside than all of them, except for the new gal Lydia, who I also like this season. Hope you are on the show to stay Alexis!
I feel very sorry for you Alexis. you seem a lovable person and you love your family, but boy are you naive or what??? I don't understand how you can't see that everybody is playing and using you? They don't care about you, they apologize to you and husband when they think it will helps them....but it's clear that they don't want you to be around them. I still cringe when I think about how dismissive Heather was to you in the bus regarding Malibu Country. So my advice for you: please don't be so needy, you don't need them, I'm sure you have real friends....
How did it feel to know that Eddy wanted you to be uninvited to the wedding? Did you and Jim actually go even after you heard about the un invite, and then asking the wedding planner to be ready to kick you out? or anyone causing drama? If you went to the wedding, do you now wish you hadn't? No way would I have gone if I knew about that. regardless if Tamara wanted you there, obviously Eddy didn't and it was his wedding, and Tamara would of uninvited you if Eddy had not caved.
Alexis I thought you were totally amazing this season and I loved the red dress! Are you ever gonna launch your dress line?
I think it is disgusting the way Vicky lets Brianna run her life. I think Ryan is a terrible addition to the family. He is a loose cannon!! I don't care if he is in the military. His attitude is awful. On camera we can see that he is arrogant and a liar. The way he treated Lydia's mother shows what an uneducated and disrespectful human being he is. An then he has the nerve to talk about Brooks? If Vicky does not put a stop to this, she is going to wind up with no life at all!! I think Vicky is taking all this crap because she is afraid of being alone. But this Ryan guy has got to go!! Brianna can do a lot better but this is her fault for marrying someone she did not know. These two "love birds" need to be held accountable for their actions. I am soooo disgusted!!
I have never been impressed by your husband. However, the reunion really cemented my opinion of him. People's true colors always come out. When he, a supposed Christian was the one making fun of the other guy for being a virgin when he got married made me realize he doesn't even know what being a Christian means. I'm through watching.
You go girl, the people (well, my people) adore you, it's like someone so flawless like yourself has the same issues regarding bullying that us plain people have. and it makes you all that much more approachable and endering.
Alexis I absolutely loved you this season!! You stood your ground with these ladies! I can appreciate that! You were also open enough to forgive and move on with some of the ladies!! At least you tried to move on with Gretchen! She came to that lunch with a chip on her shoulder! And she was as cold as ice! Maybe she will have a revelation and apologize to you and move on!! But the ball should definitely be in her court...
Does anyone else think that red dress she wore at the reunion was amazing! I thought it was so hot and cute.
That's all. ♥
I'm just going to throw this out there and say I have NEVER EVER liked Alexis...that was at least until this season. You actually became more than just an extra and I found you to be quite engaging. I'm still unsure as to what your career is, but hey there's no shame in being a home maker. It's a 24/7 demanding job so pat yourself on the back for it and don't try to sugar coat it. I really think you showed a lot of authenticity this season and you actually seem to have a beautiful core. Looking forward to seeing you in the next season :)
A little comment. When "secrets revealed" showed Jim at dinner with all the husbands. Why was that on the cutting room floor? He seems so normal there and actually pretty funny. Great to see the guys getting along and having fun together.
AND Tamra with her mom/family at dinner, just gross --- can you say super TRASHY?
Alexis you took the high road all the way those girls were mean to you and for you to turn the other cheek is commendable ....when they ganged up on you in Costa Rica it was hard to watch you being ambushed on all sides.....anyway Gretchen is the target now so you are in the clear......you were the best dressed for the reunion Heather was number 2 Lydia a 3 because she is the only cast member who can carry a little of the Bohemian cute hip look ........Vicki and Tamra terrible choices and Gretchen was the worst gaudy overly made up yuk
Alexis is so dumb and boring. The only time I liked her was when she was friends with Gretchen. She keeps pretending to have a career and spending money on coaching, etc. Maybe she could find someplace spiritual to work. That might be more interesting, and true to her character.
Next to Lydia, I like you because you have a decent core though in past seasons you came out as those girls said: narcissistic, bragging, and at time ridiculous.. Since you had been ganged up by the trios, you had been imrpoved leaps and bounds. You have shown that you are a decent person and not untrustworthy like Tamra, Vicki, and Gretchen and not conceited like Heather. However you have to see why Gretchen was confused by Tamra's decision to invite you. After all the BFF bracelet exchange and the streams of negative gossips Tamra spew to Gretchen's ears about how much she disliked you, Gretchen would be totally and naturally fortified in her stance against you. Tamra's secret truce with you was actually a breach of trust between the two allies again the common enemy. Imagine USA secretly making a truce with Germany and let England fight the WW2 while being midled to think that America had her back. Tamra is an untrustworthy snake who cannot even keep up with her shift in positions: she forgot why she tortured one in the first place and what were the reasons to change her decision.
she caused havoc everywhere. The only person who could keep up with Tamra is Vicki. So stay away from Tamra.
Philippians 4:13 reminds us, we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. AGREE!!
@tjjpt I wish you could take an English course,if your going to insult someone,at least have the decency to do so with a proper sentence. As for your 10 yrs comment,she is gorgeous just as she is,I'm sure no one can say the same on your behalf.
I can't see why you and your husband would even want to go to Tamra and Eddie's wedding, or hang out with them - ever, except for the taping of the show .... They are a couple of phonies, no personality, uninteresting people. They should get married and ride off into the sunset ... and off the show!
@Redridinghood good point. I kind of wonder why Eddie didn't have a clue that Tamara had made up with you, I mean it seems like she talks to him about most of her ah ha moments in her life whether he wants to hear about it or not. there might be something more to what Tamara told Gretchen.
@1984Grad Let me guess,christains are not supposed to joke around??? It's obvious you don't have a clue to what being a christain is.
No. They create the drama and without drama their is no point to watching this. They would have to replace them with equal drama queens or the show would have Laurie who is totally boring.
Don't replace them Bravo. They are as trashy as you can get for reality tv...and besides...what would these ladies do without us????
I love Alexis!!!!! I would love to see an Alexis, Lydia, and Lydia's mom spin-off!
alexis has class all the way ,something Gretchen will never have, I do believe she messes around on jeff, and god will make that trash pay for that, may be slade will be the one to do that, I would love to see jo come back on the show just to watch her and slade, I believe he would leave gretchen
@rholawrence So much hate in your heart will give you premature wrinkles, honey do yourself a favor get a hobby.
@rholawrence Alexis is smart and natural. I think she has a heart of gold and morals! I wish Tamra would get off the show so I could watch it again. I watched the show since it first aired, but since the 2nd episode of this season I stopped. Tamra just disgusts me.
I agree, Alexis is dumb and boring And acting lessons or coaching? Give me a break!
tjjpt Very well said. I hope Alexis will Listen to your analogy because it's so right on. Alexis. It's okay to make amends - but never trust a person who's black heart you've encountered. Tamra is a phony and so it Heather. Two peas in a pod..
As much as Vickie LOVES Tamra - Tamra LOVES Vickie - they will be on the fence again.
There's a rumor mill circulating that Gretchen and Alexis won't be back next season - I hope it's not true because there's no way I'm watching a show that circles around Heather Tamra and Vickie.....no way! I'm not watching.
If you're going to tell someone to take an English course then you might want to do the same. When you said, "if your going to insult someone at least have the decency to do so with a proper sentence. when you want to say you are the correct spelling is you're not your. Just a little tip for the future so you won't look so dumb telling someone else they need and English course when you do as well.
@Gymratz Gym, I agrre with most of your post - except Alexis is fully confused regarding Gretchen and Tamra.
@Golfview @rholawrence Dumb and boring,yet you took the time out of your oh so exciting life to comment on her blog....sounds like someone is jealous. Don't hate on her because she's hotter then you.
@Espi How many comma's does one paragraph need? Maybe, you need the course!