This blog will be very short and sweet since I was only in a small part of this week's episode.
Many of you have asked so I feel I should answer your questions. As we all know, I struggled with returning this season. It was also very difficult for me to WANT to be around the ladies after what occurred at Tamra's gym party. I was invited on the Mexico trip, but did not feel it was a good choice for me to go for SEVERAL reasons. Now that Tamra and I worked things out, I begin hanging around with the women a lot more. Thank you all for your support and for asking where I’ve been!
Vicki, Lydia, and Tamra cracked me up this episode. I loved watching the three of them dancing and having fun! Looking at the three of them have such a great time, I did wish I was there. Although, after seeing what happened the next night, I'm so happy with my decision to stay home.
I truly don't see what Alexis brings to the show. She bores me with her "holier than thou" statements while bragging about all the material things she and her husband have. Go have another kid, Alexis and quit the show.
Alexis, as weird as this sounds, I wasn't the biggest fan of yours previously, but after last season and seeing you this season...there is a HUGE difference and I totally LOVE you and are my fav. Maybe in some jacked-up way the message the girls gave you last season really made a difference (despite how harsh it was and how HARD that had to be) But you are so much happier and seeing you with Jim and living the family life makes you the most genuine Housewife this year. To see everyone drinking, trips, parties, fights...thats not real adult life. What you have done is took the criticism and made it into something positive and (for reality TV) are actually living REAL. Your beautiful and go get that fourth baby!!!! God bless you Alexis, that was a hard and painful thing and you came out on top while everyone else seems to be in the same place. Screaming, Drinking. Trash talking...God's proud and so am I!!!
keep your life jacket on ..Your dignity and graciousness shine as you deal with these disturbing women.....rock on..
Alexis , you are my favorite on the show! I am so sorry for the way heather attacked you! She would do anything to be in the crowd. She is a follower and not a leader. She is hard core to pretend and fake that she is miss boss, but it all comes from insecure and she has no idea who she is. I commented on her blog and I hope you read it! You are a leader, but you are nice and respect others feelings and they mistake that for vulnerable. So, that's why they think they can attack you. Thank you for standing for morales and GOD. HE is the only one we have to answer too. Gretchen, she also will do anything to be in the in crowd. She is getting hers episode by episode ! Aren't you so glad you can hold your head up high above the rest of them? I am! I am so proud of the way you are gaining more strength and you are not laying down! Thank you for showing us strength when everyone of them has tried their best for you to quit! You have won the war!
Team Alexis! You are way better person than "Snake 1" and "Snake 2" (Heather & Gretchen). Stay away from them!
Alexis do what you feel is right,ignore the negative comments and as they say here in the uk chin up girl and be true to yourself. Ps you and Vicky should pay the uk a visit x
I forgot to say that I am looking forward to you being on the show more. A little time gave things time to calm down a bit and gave you time with your family.
It is very interesting to watch how in a very conservative marriage you are pushing forward your 'one more baby' idea but are very submissive otherwise. Which is fine, to each his own, I am not asking anyone to change because who am I to claim that liberal marriages are better than conservative ones?
On the other hand, tell Jim to look up the definition of insanity. Whatever odd version he stated there, of course, is not the definition. He does not know it therefore he has no rights to correct you. As far as the odd, incorrect version went, you made more sense about it than Jim did.
Alexis Love your hair. It's a weird friendship with all the girls. I wouldn't be friends with them but you're getting paid to be, so go for it girl. HA Tamara is a mean girl now, hope she can make it right. You and Gretchen are the most beautiful on the show. YOU have the best body a girl could have and they are jealous. You're handling it with pride, good girl. I wouldn't let that Heather run all over you either like at the coffee shop. You held your own. I happen to be gorgeous too, feels stupid to say that, but I understand how women can treat you. Hang in there and stay on the show!!! Love you
Hi Lex--Just a thought from a couple episodes ago I meant to relay to you: You clearly love and respect your hubby. Good on you. But I want you to be strong in yourself, and not rely on him so much. EXAMPLE: while in your bathroom having a convo w/him, he mentioned smthing to you about asking you if you knew what the meaning of the saying "you know what the definition of insanity is"..do you remember that? You answered him "yes. It's doing the same thing over and over again getting the same result, or expecting to get a different result"...and YOU WERE EXACTLYRIGHT. He then corrects you, wrongly! But you accept his correction, statin that you knew what you meant but just couldn't get I t out right. I get that maybe he miscommunicated what he meant, but the fact remins you allowed him to correct you while you did say it correctly. Be more secure! But remain humble--be secure on things that are worth security). Know what I mean?
Well, let me just comment for you regarding the strip show--one of the most raunchy things I have ever seen. It will forever tarnish those girls'... (Vicki, Gretchen Tamra--I say them because they participated rather than saying ENOUGH!)) ...reputations and none of us viewers are so ignorant as to believe that wasn't exactly what they were looking for! Esp Gretchen who from the get-go was trying to the Mexico party a raunchy, alcohol, sex filled venture. She can deny her intent all she wants, but we saw the bikini she wanted for Tamra, the penis toys, the words she used during the strip show (I'm actually holding his c***". (and yet she continued to stay a willing participant in the show.) Though she wants to act classy, her true intent shows up every episode as far as I'm concerned. As the saying goes, "if you're looking for trouble, you just might find it"! GOOD ON YOU FOR NOT GOING! Your husband would've been shamed and you would've seriously ruined your witness. You missed nothing and gained everything.
I love you Alexis and feel for you. I wish we could see more of you... the bits and pieces of your story line are ridiculous. I hope it picks up soon. I am tired of the Gretchen- Heather- Tamra Bitchfest.
Alexis.Dont have another child. Last season you were all focused on your TV career and finding new jobs to do. A baby is a 100% time committment...You seem to just want MORE attention and this is a way to get it. As a Christian Mother of 4, let me remind you, the man is the head of the household. If he says NO, its NO! Follow his lead and respect his decisions. It never ceases to amaze me how you have time for FULL hair and makeup, working out, social hours with 3 children at home. Kids need a FULL TIME MOTHER...From the middle of the night feedings, to early morning breakfast, to putting the kids to bed...I dont know how you can do all this AND have time for a TV show. Dont be selfish!
I've been trying to figure you out for 2 seasons now. You appear to be very immature, selfish, self-centered, materialistic, condescending and lacking in self-esteem. You married a man 15 years older than yourself. I understand his concern about having another child. He raised the concerns he had last season. If you have another child your husband will be at least 70 when that child will be entering college. He does not have a stable job as an entrepreneur so your financial future is uncertain. It seems to me that your husband is unable to give you the lifestyle you would like. You should've married someone with considerable wealth and with a means of keeping or increasing that wealth. You didn't and you should be mindful of what your husband can comfortably provide for you and your children. You basically told him this episode that the house you have is not big enough and you will outgrow it. Not cool.
As for the way you treat people, I don't know if it's because your a Christian and think you're better than everyone else or not. Let me be one to tell you you're not. If there is another reason for your issues a child is not the answer to fill this void in you. I think it would be a good idea to reconsider your current decision about another child. I seriously doubt you will though, because you going through life with blinders on, just like Vickie. You are unable to accept any type of criticism or consider that perhaps you could use some improving. Trying to villanize the other housewives is just ridiculous. Just because you don't like what someone is saying to you it isn't bullying. You need to take off the blinders and start taking accountability for your behavior. Find out what is missing in your life and go from there.
In the sentence that you begin with "The scene with Jim and I..." Take Jim's name out. Now does the pronoun "I" make sense? The scene with Jim and ME. It's ME, not I!
I rarely comment on any webpage, let alone BravoTV, but after reading these comments I felt compelled to write a little something as I really do love most of the Housewives in Jersey, OC, and BH. You are strong in your faith and appear to be a good wife and mother. All of the houseives must have the thickest skin, because the comments written on these boards are nothing short of disgusting, people hurling insults from behind a computer screen. SO sad. I really respect and enjoy the way you live your life, and watching your segments on OC,I can only hope you do not let these comments, and the other Housewives upset you too much, and you leave when your heart tells you. Maybe better opportunites await you, Jim, and your family!
I really didn't enjoy this episode at all...... Basically this episode sucked because you were mia... Hopefully we see more of you next week.. Gretchen did a horrible job putting that week end together!! She is just too much...I really hope you hand it to Heather next week!! She needs to know how disrespectful and condescending she is...... The rumors that Gretchen and Laurie are spreading about Vicki are disgusting! I'm glad you have her back...
Hi Alexis glad to hear you will be more on the show i feel you should be around more because is not the same without you.I was so not a fan of your friendship with Gretchen because i felt she was going to do you dirty at the end and used you to get back at Vicki .Even if you had your own arguments with Vicki before it was Gretchen that was making sure the feud kept going. You are happy and thats what matters. XOXO to the kidds
If you can believe the Enquirer, Tamra was asked about whether she was going to invite Vicki to her wedding and her answer was "Um, maybe." But when the subject of inviting Alexis was brought up she said "No!" So it sounds like Alexis and Tamra haven't really worked things out like Alexis says in her blog.
Kind of hard not to admit you really are pretentious and materialistic after this conversation about wanting a bigger house - your own husband confirmed it with his point that "only you" would think that a giant house wasn't big enough!
Hon, the void you feel cannot be filled with more children. You are being controlled by a husband who seems to look at you as a piece of property and not as an equal partner. Every time I see you on the show, I wonder WHY you are still on it. Your husband is insecure and you are too.
sorry you decided to return, your almost as full of it as your husband. I for one definitely don't value anything you have to say
Alexis, glad you stood by your family no matter how much pressure the other toxic women gave you. Classy Lady, look forward to watching you this season.
Loved Jim's comment that he didn't want to hear anything more about the Girls. And that's when the "let's talk about our things" conversation started. I wish you two could talk about something besides how big your house is. You just seem to go there on auto pilot....then I have to fast forward.
This is what bugs me. You act and say that Gretchen and Heather shouldn't feel bad about being left behind. WOW! What if you were in the limo and Gretchen, Tamra and Heather left YOU behind?? That would have been bullying.
You know that it was wrong, rude and hurtful but because you don't like Heather and Gretchen you say there was nothing wrong with it. Come on, Alexis. The girls ADMITTED what they did was wrong and Vicki said, "my plan worked."
Alexis, it was wrong. You are ganging up with the mean girls this time. Why don't you just stand up for what is right? I am trying to like you and then you say this stupid stuff. You could have said, "if I were left behind I would have felt bad too." Why didn't you?
It's interesting that you predicted to your husband that the girls would turn "vicious" on Lydia if she excused herself from interacting with strippers, yet they all graciously wished her a good night and didn't say anything further about it. I guess that's because Lydia isn't a pretentious, self-righteous pain in the rear!
Who are you to judge anybody's marriage? At least she's actually a housewife, not just shacking up or making a mockery out of marriage. So she wants another kid with her own husband. Good for her.
The communication in a marriage does not have to be perfect in order for the marriage to succeed. So many people are afraid to get married because of these false expectations. Alexis seems pretty astute when it comes to dealing with Jim. She loves him, respects him, and accepts him. She doesn't go out of her way to nitpick everything into stupid battles. She's pretty unselfish. They seem happy, and that's no mean feat in this day and age.
Well said, there. I, too, am baffled by Gretchen's judgmental attitude. Her behavior says it all.
@niceocgirl She was trying to combine some fun that Tamra wanted with some of the refinement she wanted. Heather was in charge of the refinement and Gretchen in charge of the fun. I don't think those strippers were what ANYONE bargained for, and they did say enough. In Tamra's words, "I want naked wasted, and penises."
@Missybrock I think Alexis could handle another baby with no problem. She handled twins already.
@Missybrock A mom also needs time to take care of herself. I think her son is in school. He' s 6 or 7.
"Jim and I" is used when the combination is the subject of a phrase or sentence, "Jim and me" when the combination is the object of a phrase or sentence."Jim and I went downtown.""George saw Jim and me downtown."The one widespread exception to this traditional rule is when the verb being used is a copulative verb, such as "is":"Who is it?"It's Jim and me." "Traditional grammar," however, would require "Jim and I" @SFViewer
@SFViewer Yea! One of my major pet peeves and becoming so pervasive.
They ALL went to the wedding. Heather was a bridesmaid. Alexis went. So.....?
@timbunThere is a big difference between "workng things" out with someone and wanting them to be included in one of the most important days of your life. I'm sure Tamra didn't everyone she knows to her wedding.
@MiraB Heather didn't think her ginormous house was big enough. Did you forget her 1st episode last season where she was house hunting, and Tamra was showing her a vacant lot that she and Terry could build a new home on. They were living in that huge home seen on all the episodes that followed. Duh!
@stlouisviewer Everything is about taking sides with her. If they are not on her side she can not see their side.
Have you read their blogs??? They are too making a big deal about her leaving for the stripper show!!!
@Uplander actually if you read their blogs... they do say stuff about Lydia not attending... actually that's what Heather's blog is mostly about.. how lydia can dance on the cab but not see strippers... she also said that lydia was judging them... which is further from the truth.
Merriam-Webster. Definition of JUDGE. transitive verb1: to form an opinion about through careful weighing of evidence and testing of premises.
Actually, you don't have to be anyone to form an opinion. People are social animals and evolutionary the fittest of us have survived by forming opinions about issues and matters around us as we are not born with this knowledge. Therefore you formed an opinion about Alexis' marriage in your post.
@Gymratz @MiraBHeather's only issue with her house is that it was built before they had Collette and as a result, Collette's room was actually a downstairs office because there weren't any spare bedrooms upstairs. Yes, a rich person's problem, but it was more about convenience than size. In Alexis' case, it's more a matter of conspicuous consumption. A nouveau riche person's problem! LOL
I'm talking about IN Mexico.
There was nothing vicious in what Heather wrote. Alexis seemed to be under the impression that they ladies would "turn on" Lydia like they turned on her in Costa Rica. But they actually LIKE Lydia, big difference!
@Uplander @Gymratz @MiraB All of the housewives are pretentious and materialistic, or have been at one point or another. Tamra has been forced to tone it down since divorcing Simon because her personal net worth is below that of the others now. Personally, I think Heather takes the prize in being the most pretentious and materialistic.
@UThousewife So, is this Heather's phrase about Lydia calling Alexis: "Lydia, why is it OK to ditch friends, get drunk and dance on bars, walk barefoot through Mexico and then be super judgmental about the racy gifts and strippers?!?"