No you are not crazy. Yes you were bullied. They pre-meditately singled you out, under some thinly veiled guise of "just being honest" to point out your flaws on an island thousands of miles from home. You were trapped and cornered. They were on you like a pack of wild cats and their behavior was disgusting. Sorry Alexis, but take a good look at the haters; a divorcee with 4 kids and a younger more attractive man while father time ticks. Then you have an unmarried air head waiting for her frog to become the prince she thinks she deserves. And then there is Heather, the least attractive of the group who looks like Jim Carey when she smiles. Can't even get a cover for her house. Shout out for Alexis, peace out haters.

Alexis, you and Vicki are the smartest housewives.  Don't let the other three intimidate you.  You're coming out on top!

Stay strong, Alexis. I love watching you with your husband and your children. Although I must admit that I didn't like your husband last year, I do think that you have both found a balance of respect. Be good to each other. Put God and family first. If you find yourself in a little house with a beautiful garden surrounded by your children and husband, I swear that you will feel peace.

It appears to me that Heather is not only a bully but a hater. She doesn't like your religion, therefore she doesn't like you. Shallow, very shallow.

Stand strong. Stand your ground and never back down!

Alexis what many people don't realize is that adult bullying does in fact exist and has become a huge problem.  Heather, Tamra & Gretchen must know deep down inside they have in fact bullied Alexis but they don't like the idea of being labeled a "bully" so they are in total and complete denial they are in fact bullies, Adult Bullies!  Before everyone starts yelling that Alexis hasn't been bullied please read the following article on adult bullying and maybe you will realize that bullying isn't just for children or teens, that in fact adult bullying has become a huge problem. http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/adult-bullying.html 

Come on lets be real here, one of the women's biggest problems in Costa Rica was the fact that Alexis was wearing a fake diamond ring and for some strange reason all three had a huge problem with that.  HELLO the women were on a trip out of the country and in many parts of the world there are in fact bandits and thieves who kill Americans to rob them.  Costa Rica has a huge problem with this as does Mexico.  The truth is that it was very smart of Alexis to wear and fake diamond and to have her real one put away safely in a safe.  In my opinion if any of those three bullies were wearing their real jewels they are darn fools.  So what?  Who cares if Alexis was wearing a fake zirconia diamond ring? They bully Alexis because they say she brags about what her and Jim has but yet all I've seen is Heather bragging right and left about her home, her career, and of course among many other things she drinks only the best of the best wine or whatever that was.  Doesn't anyone remember when Tamra started on the show she was bragging left and right about all the things her and her husband at that time had and how upscale their lives were.  Nothing but the best for Tamra.  Gretchen to be honest I haven't seen too much bragging but the young woman that I really liked on the previous seasons of the RHOC has completely changed since her friendship and bonding with Tamra.  Tamra is like poison and at least for me every woman that I liked that were on the show, once they became good friends with Tamra they changed completely and turned into mean spirited witches and backstabbers just like Tamra.  I honestly never really cared for Vicky from the beginning but I'm really starting to like the "new" Vicky since she and Tamra are no longer "best friends".  I hear that things are better between them now and I am actually saddened by this because I fear that Vicky's likeability will go down again once she becomes good friends with Tamra again for me. 

Alexis to be honest I really thought I was going to like Lydia but sadly it is becoming clear she is two faced and let's be real, Lydia should not have said you weren't bullied by those women considering she has never watched previous seasons of the show so Lydia hasn't got a clue what you have gone through with these women.  To see Lydia backstab you behind your back when she has a lunch with Heather and Tamra just shows me that she isn't someone who can be a good friend. 

Alexis you are my favorite housewife among all the Housewives shows and just stay true to yourself and never allow people to bully you.  You've done a great job responding to these grown up bullies so far this season and you've handled it with class so keep on this path and you will always be a winner.  I also have seen a tremendous change in Jim and it appears that he is much more relaxed now and seems to be much happier.  The end result is that he is a better husband and father to your family. 

Alexis, you are the ONLY reason I watch the show anymore. I have to fast-foward through all the other women's scenes... I love your new haircut. I think you've always been beautiful, but you really shine this season and you can tell that you are also sporting a whole new personality. I think you should be grateful for what the women have put you through because it's shown everyone how strong you are and it's great to see you bounce back.

Here's my beef with the whole "b-word" scandal. You have been bullied. You didn't make up the definition of the word, and if the women have a problem with that word in particular, they should... I don't know... take it up with the dictionary? Here is my theory: I think the other women have used the issue of bullying amongst kids and teens as a story line on the show in an attempt to finally be taken seriously by the real world and they are just using you as a way to bring it up. I think the other women really want to be taken seriously by viewers so they are pretending to care so much about an issue as serious as bullying, and that is sad to me. To hear Gretchen talk about bullying is HILARIOUS. She sounds like Miss Teen South Carolina when she talks about it... "Bullying, is like such as, a popular topic in like, such as, America right now and I think that Alexis, like such as, is using it to like, such as, attach her name to it." And what the heck did she say the other night? "KIDS ARE BEING BULLIED ON PLAYGROUNDS INTO DOING THINGS THEY DON'T WANT!" or something like that... She is such a joke. And I feel really bad for Lydia. I really like her personality, but I think that she is probably not that smart and confused on how to get along with everyone. When she said "Do I think the other women were ganging up on and attacking Alexis? Yes. Do I think she was being bullied? No." I wanted to SCREAM at my television. That's like saying, "Do I think she was putting food in her mouth? Yes. Do I think she was eating? No."

Tamra is still gross. What else is there to say? Her and Melissa Gorga from RHONJ are the WORST at being so OBVIOUSLY conscious of the cameras and making sure they do everything in their power to secure their spots on the show. Eddie actually seems like a decent person which makes me wonder if Tamra is a completely different person off-camera, because I can't quite figure out why they are together?

I don't like Heather but I understand the position that she's in. You are her strongest competition on the show and the only other side she has to go to SUCKS. Tamra and Gretchen are like, the tackiest people of the whole RH franchise.

And Heather, you are not that smart... I think the real message these ladies are sending out is sad. I remember being bullied so much in middle school (don't we all?) and my parents constantly telling me that it would get better as I grew up. I think the women are trying to convince us that bullying is something that only exists when you're younger, but they are actually just sending the message that bullying never truly does go away, even when you're all grown adults. They want so bad to convince us that they aren't bullies and how much of a serious issue bullying really is and that they are only "pointing out flaws" to Alexis, and then it is always followed by some awful, mean-spirited joke that is completely unnecessary.

I will continue to be TEAM ALEXIS.

Alexis most CERTAINLY IS being bullied. The real kicker is that ALL of the women who ganged up on her and ATTACKED her are THEMSELVES the epitome of inauthentic. It was a disgusting display of human behavior when they attacked her. I eventually had to change the channel, it made me so sick to watch. Each one of the ladies who are soooo hung up on Alexis, and they DO seem to be obsessive in their focus on her,  needs to invest that energy into working on their own shortcomings!

If you're not a victim and don't want a pity party then stop being a cry baby.

You pathetically use the term "bullying" to suit your own desperate needs. Sad. Your a beautiful woman on the outside but so clearly empty inside . I wish you better things, but bullying is a serious and deadly issue in this country and you are no victim of bullying, you were exposed to opinionated and sometimes very ungracious and unladylike behavior, but it was nothing we have not all seen you yourself do, so suck it up buttercup and put your big girl panties on and deal with it. If you can dish it out...... And you do ..... Then don't label it .... Live with it... It's called Karma. Not bullying.

Clearly you bring out the jealousy in the other women. What else can anyone say? You are the master puppeteer with Tamra because you have cleverly managed to control her emotions. Good for you. The ball is always in your court.

Your are an emotional bully.  You Imply others are negative things.  "I came to protect Vicky from you"  Openly implys that tamra is a biach.  That is obvious to me the game you play.   The game is called Defining the other.   You tell people what they are.   Actually that is verbal abuse.  So I understand lots of others fall for your bs, but I can see what you are doing.   Lots of fake religious people do this.   "I have god on my side"  Implys that god gives a crap about your silly over reaction to a simple question.  "Why did you come?" A normal answer would be, To make amends.  But you insulted everyone at the table with your defining and lack of any depth.   

Alexsis, Tamra is soooo jealous of you, she is just old and spent. She has stability issues and she would love to look like you. As for her calling you Jesus Barbie,shame on her. She needs some quiet time to bring herself back down to reality. Using the Lords name in vain is just terrible. You are a Lady and she will never look nor be what you are.

Alexis, you need to face facts and realize none of the fans really wanted you to return this season. And frankly, I think the reason you're playing the "bullying" card is to try and win viewers over. Well, it didn't work with me.  I can only suggest this is your last season. No one wants to see you and your slimey husband.

Hi Alexis., I don't approve of the behavior of the girls....any of them....but I want you to try and STOP looking for an apology. Let this stuff go. It will just make you look even better than you already do and so much more evolved than the others....which is not a stretch....and if you can avoid all dramatic conversations and not engage with them when they start in., boy will you have grown. Good luck. I am rooting for you. You are the sweet one. It is nice to see the public on your side.

You will never win with the three evil amigos.

Alexis-You don't need anyone's pity!!  You are doing great and I see you're becoming a stronger person every season now.  Ignore Tamra and her banshees-they do not want to own it, but Tamra is jealous of you and the rest are afraid of her wrath.  

What ever "advice" was supposed to be given in Costa Rica was poisoned by the malicious Tamra, who was doing all the screaming and finger pointing.  You're "friend" at the time, Gretchen, showed her true colors then, my friend, so SEE that and leave her behind.  The way the whole thing was presented was cruel and very hurtful and uncalled for on a vacation in any event.  Don't lament what use dto be- look forward to the future and new friendships that have true meaning.

I like the friendship you have with Vickie- hope you remain that way. Don't let the others divide you with their negative energy.  As for Lydia, she seems like a person who wants to "get along" with everybody and that's OK.. Hope she can find that fine line of being friends with people who are often hurtful to those who don't agree with them.  Lydia does not seem to have a mean side to her, but time will tell.

Anyhow- have joy in your heart and keep your faith!   Happy Mother's Day!!

it's all about love me I'm beautiful and great and do nothing wrong !!!! please !!!!!!

Although your blog says you don't want anyone's pity, you seems to thrive on pity and/or attention.  This was made very clear at your child's birthday party a season or two ago when you, in front of very small children, had to make the day about your labor and what happened, in detail, to you during and after childbirth.  It was very inappropriate and was an attention seeking moment on your part.  The children did not need to hear any of that and neither did most of the adults.  That is a story to tell your close friends, maybe, when it is on topic not to be announced at a child's party.  Again, your actions speak louder than your words, back then it was poor me and my childbirth at your child's party, now it's I'm a thirty something woman who is being bullied and instead of answering the accusations towards you, you deflect by saying your're being bullied.  If you're going to stay on the show, put on your big girl panties and have an adult conversation without  trying to get sympathy.

Alexis I freaking love how you handle yourself! Do I think in the past you may have seemed a bit conceited?! Hell yeah! But guess what people learn from their mistakes!! and move on!!! These ladies seem to forget that!! We have all said and done things that we regret!! Do I think Gretchen would take her ex boyfriend on vacation(again) while her terminally ill fiance sat in a hospital bed?!! In hindsight no!! But I don't see the mean three bringing that up?! If these ladies have nothing better to do than pick you apart, maybe they need to get lives!!! Keep doing what your doing!! Don't EVER apologize to these ladies for being you!!!! Especially to Tamra!! You have done nothing wrong!! If they don't like it they can lump it....

I'm watching the marathon on Mother'sDay. I'm totally Team Alexis. You made so much sense (maybe little much of the bully word). I totally get why you where saying that but they are so upset because it hits home with them they are the mean girls. Watching how they act after you girls leave is so ugly. I have always thought you were so pretty. Actions speak louder than words and theirs are not speaking pretty nice words. I read Heathers article saying y'all are in a better place. I'm glad for you but I hope you keep your guard up. I wouldn't want you to go through what you went through last season. Love!!!!

Heather and Tamera should pity you when you play the victim.  Your not being  bullied. Oh and God isn't on your side either. 

Happy Mothers Day!!! 

I wish you the best this season :-)

Katt

You know what I would love to see??? I would love to see this great Christian woman doing some charity work rather than showing off her new home and complaining about how abused she is. I mean she IS always going on about how much of a Christian she is. And she has proven one thing right that has been brought up time and time again...flaunting her wealth..she went on and on about the "new" house on the first episode...Sorry don't buy the "poor little ol' me rich girl act." Alexis is was pointed out you treated those behind the scenes horribly because you thought they were beneath you and you never denied it. Until you can show a humble person rather than a "look at what I have" fake one. I will ALWAYS side with the other ladies. Wake up!

Happy Mother's Day to all the supermom's out there!

You are awesome and genuine...a rare quality on this show! I think your great and love to see you and Jim overcome your financial issues. Good luck with this group... Jealous and vicious.

How offensive to even mention "Jesus" in your blog.  Your behavior (and everyone else's for that matter) is so far from what Jesus taught it's insulting.  Stop associating yourself with a concept  you clearly have no idea about - if you did you wouldn't even be on the show and you certainly wouldn't act the way you do.

keep you head up,stayed prayed up and you do NOT need to hang out wth those girls.i do think Lydia has some valid points.maybe those are some things you can work on.we need improvement and it takes a great friend to tell us our flaws. I just love her!

My Fav this season! Stay true to who you are!

I wonder why so many on here think that if the other women have a problem with Alexis, it has to be due to jealousy?  So simplistic.  I don't think the other women are jealous of Alexis - she's got her share of issues too.  Heather perceived her as being phony (who wants to hang around a phony) and addressed it with her, got called a bully for it, made up with her, but then got called a bully again.  Gretchen also got called a bully for the whole Costa Rica thing, and a liar about the job thing.  Tamra made it abundantly clear that she doesn't like her, don't know why Alexis would even try to socialize with her.  The other women seem to have issues with Alexis that has nothing to do with jealousy. 

When Alexis first came on the show, she was the religious one - it characterized her, but that has since toned down on the show.  Then she was Ms. I Want A Career, she was an "anchor" and a "journalist" (because she took a journalism class or something) , she mispronounced people's names because that's just how she says it (who does that?), and did stuff like exhibit major cleavage while doing a clip on how to protect kids from overly sexual content on tv, and a dress designer who has her dresses done by an actual designer (who she treats badly from what I saw).  Watching this made me think that she is not very bright, and can be very unaware of what she is saying, how she is perceived, and the disconnect between the two.  Now she is the "victim."  I think she is just trying to figure out which persona is going to work for her on this show, and the victim may be the one that works for her the best based upon the feedback I see on the blogs.   I sure hope not though, so tired of the whole thing and wish they'd move on.    

@brittanybitch20 thought you offered some great advice. It's nice to hear somene provide constructive advice without  sarcasm and from a good heart. I don't understand why people forget that Tamra and Alexis  had a one on one meeting  prior to the "intervention" in Costa Rica...At that meeting Tamra was filled with so much hate .....she  was so condesecnding  to Alexis ...Tamra  let her know right there and then  - she was not going to be Alexis's friend    Tamra has never really given Alexis a chance - it is jealousy. She has been focused on tearing  Alexis  down from the first time she stepped on the show. Always calling her stupid and materialistic .  Tamra is a sly evil fox, first she makes up with gretchen ( gets in the middle of gretchen's firendship with Alexis)  and very quickly offers Heather lots of hateful comments about Alexis, very soon after Heather is announced as the new housewife. Tamra made sure to repeatedly drill gossip about Alexis every chance got twith Heather. And becuase of this - Heather really didn't like Alexis even BEFORE she met her.  The diffrences that she Alexis encounterd and some of bumps they hit could have been  resolved fairly quickly l...Alexis and Heather could have become riends but tamra made sure  that wouldn't happen.  And then they three women decided it was time to tell Alexis what they all thought.... All of this instigated by the Tamra the FOX..... Yes i agree with you - its time for Alexis to stand tall and understand the truth  - see exactly how this whole demise started and what Tamra has done. Tamra initiated all of the animosity that we see today with the attacks on Alexis. If it's not Gretchen then it's Vickie now it's vickie and Alexis- - tamra is like a black widow  aewasy spinning her web. -----SO Alexis will need to forgive Tamra First. She will need to have empathy, humility  and love in her heart with a  convction that people who behave this badly deserve forgiveness too.   And then Alexis she needs to learn from this and move on, stop talking about and toss it to the wind.  If Tamra can't move and doesn't want to accept her part in allof this -  then that's her problem....she's got to accept responsibility in order to grow too..

The first words out of Lydia's mouth this season was to let everyone know how rich she is, not only is she and her husband  well off but she grew up that way as well. I have this strange feeling Heather will try to pull her away from being your friend she has already made some moves.  I hope Lydia has a mind of her own but I would watch out if I were you.