This was a wonderful week as Saturday was my sons seventh birthday! Happy Birthday to my Jamesy, the kindest, cutest, and funniest boy I know. I thank God every day for giving me this precious little guy.
Onto the show. . .
I'm glad Lydia makes the point that she can be friends with everyone. There are no friendship bracelets required in your thirties. I'm quite perplexed by what the women mean when they say they feel sorry for me. I don't need any pity parties thrown! I am very happy with my life and wouldn't trade it for anyone else's.
During lunch with Heather and Tamra, Lydia says she was confused who I was in the limo, and although she has never brought it to my attention, I thought maybe I would clarify. To summarize: I got thrown out of a party. I'm riding home in a limo with someone telling me my feelings aren't justified and I am extremely frustrated, so I am crying. I then make the statement that I have Jesus in me, which is why I am so strong, which is the truth. I am not sure where I would be without Him. It's that simple. Someone can be strong and frustrated at the same time. Those two qualities can certainly go hand in hand. I would love for the roles to have been reversed to see how she would have handled the situation that night.
In past seasons I did not usually relate to you. This season and last I must agree that the other ladies have really been "mean girls" toward you and Tamra really seems to be the ring leader. I really liked her in the earlier seasons but I cannot stand to watch her anymore. She is not really a true friend to anyone and her BFF's seem to change yearly. As for Gretchen, she has not been a friend to you at all which is sad because she seemed like a really nice girl. I enjoy watching you and Vicki and I am glad you have become friends. I think you are both ladies and are more mature in your relationships with other women. You two should stick together. I do not believe Lydia is as true as she plays to be. She seems to stir up trouble and then plays innocent. I notice that you and Jim seem much happier this season which is great. It seemed that he did not respect your opinions before but that may have been how the show is edited. It is obvious this year that he adores you and I am happy for you and your family. I have never written on any site before before but I felt compelled to for some reason. I applaud you for remaining a lady and I truely wish you health, wealth and happiness. I also absolutely LOVE your new hairstyle it looks beautiful on you. Be well.
You just keep doing your thing girl! I am not sure why people say they "don't like you". And you known really it doesn't matter to you or it shouldn't. I think many people on and off screen are jealous. Stay strong girl!
just wondering if you are such a Christian why don't you forgive them? also did you ever read the bible passage that says its easier for a camel to pass thru the eye of a needle then it is a rich man to get thru the gates of heaven?
Alexis you should've stay home and take care of grandpa Jimbo lol...why did you go to Tamara's party anyway? Just deal with it, it was your choice.
Please calm down and stop the worry about the other ladies. Meet with Heather, tell O.K. I'm not person you would like to me to be so get over it. Your not going to change and nether is she - agree to disagree. You cannot be friends with everyone. This a job for you, so work things out for the camera and go on living. They are milking the Mean Girl Thing for the ratings, please use your brain, don't let them take food from your table. (Unless you don't need this job/project) It's about money for them also, they are not doing this for free - wake up and smell the roses. Who cares if they call you fake, Be That and More. Live and Praise God to the Bank - It's a Check. Girlfriend!!
Alexis, I just looked at your dresses and tops online. They are beautiful! Oh my goodness, and your body looks amazing, especially those long, slender legs! They're gorgeous! I am green with envy! ;)
Alexis, please understand what the majority of the viewers are saying: we don't particularly like you and we certainly are more than ready for you to exit the series.
Lydia did NOT tell you your feelings aren't justified!!!!!!! She just disagreed with you saying you weren't "bullied." Aside from that, she was being completely consolable. No one can take you seriously when you contradict yourself SO OFTEN....you talk about being such a Christian but then you turn around and say you'd love for the roles to have been reversed onto Lydia??? This is one of the reasons people are calling you fake Alexis...you're not aware of what you do and how you come off sometimes, but the biggest thing about it is when you're being addressed of these ways, you WON'T and actually REFUSE to acknowledge/address/apologize/and fix it.
Alexis, I agree with dragonslayer!! Honey I dont understand why they call you fake, from what ive seen your very honest. Having faith should not be made fun of. All are jealous there is no other explanation! I wish bravo set these girls straight. I dont like when they gang up on people. your a good girl, be strong, and stand up for yourself and feel pride instead of hurt and smile and walk away that will make you feel better and it will get their goat because they cant hurt you anymore jove you lots
Alexis, those ladies aren't bulling you. You are just not able to tell the truth. The reason your
are frustrated because you are not real. You lie, to yourself, and to your God. Don't you think
it's time you do some soil searching, talk with your minister, and ask them, what am I doing wrong. Stop pretending you are someone your not.
Alexis - stand strong in your faith -continue to learn and Proclaim your faith. That is what christians are called to do. Many will say you hide behind religion... but we both know that to Live by God's will is the most perfect life a person can have...God is LOVE. God is Absolute....We are taught to love one another - even our enemies.... it is easy to love those that love us...a true life lesson is to love those that hate us and wish us harm.... seeing beyond their faults and their ego.
Okay, Let's Remove the word BULLYING from the definition of what happend in Costa Rica and at Tamra's GYM dinner / Celebration / Bad Vibe, Bad Luck "Cleansing".which may have not been there until Tamra "brought it" to the buliding ..with her Crazzzy antics. .
let's "call it" what it was...3 adult women acting badly. Having a conversation with another female that was very hypocritical and carried out NOT in a kindly manner - but more in ATTACK mode....That's it. And all of it manipulated by the queen of mean -TAMRA.
The 3 hypocrties had a chance to redeem their inappropriate behavior at the gym dinner ( where approxmatley 10 people attended - including Vickie Alex and Lydia ) - which goes to show how many friends Tamra really has...) but NO... once again, the three acted like teen mean girls. The truth for most of us viewers is we did not like what we saw and we believe Alexis deserves an apology...that simple. And we believe that Gretchen - if she really loved Alexis and cared for her would have had a private conversation with Alexis way before ithe confrontation. but instead, the only fair warning she gave her was on the plane... NOW fast forward to present day ...new season ....BORING!!!! It's a sad storyline about women that can't move on with Alexis...who many viewers love. and we want the nonsense to end. Alexis did try to make the first move by putting her neck on the chopping block and going to the dinner... Tamra was not a gracious host...Think of how Lisa Venderpump would have handled this? OH...yeah...Lisa would never have put Alexis in that spot in Costa Rica. These women need to GROW up. I hope Bravo creates other events where we can see just Lydia Alexis and Vickie enjoying life....We are bored with the melodrama from the others..."pretend rifts with Terry and Heather and with Tamra and Eddie ..Boring. Vickie or Lydia needs
to throw a party....AND then I believe this will be the Three Amigos chance to redeem themselves again....
Bullied or not, most of the women were over the top rude to you. As a guest at tamras party and should have been treated as such.
Please, I beg of you, take a look at yourself very hard and realize that you have some issues. You were not bullied what-so-ever and although the messages were harsh, they were very true. Truth hurts as the saying goes.
Ok Alexis, you do not need to justify yourself to anyone. By being defensive and using the word bully is what has so many people irritated. I believe you are completely misunderstood and you should not care what anyone thinks of you. If you dish it out, you have to have the emotional intelligence to take it, and using the word bully feels like you are trying to be manipulative and get them in trouble. This is something Omarosa would do, don't go to that level. Own up to who you are, if they feel you are shallow, so what! If they feel you flaunt your money, who gives a s--t. Own it, who cares what they think, when they told you that you brag, you should have said, "So?" whats your point get over it. Your a young women and your arguing with 40-50 year olds, really do you really care what their opinion is? Don't blog about the bully its really really ridicious and making you look bad, your an adult and make your own choices and you keep contradicting yourself. Find your goddness within and be a confident person.
Alexis, never change who you are. . Even though the 3 witches are so mean to you, you still try to see the positive in them. I believe alot of this has to do with your Christian beliefs. I think they are so jealous of your looks, and deep down, I'm sure they would like to believe in the Lord, but by putting down your faith, it somehow makes them feel better. Never brag about anything becasue that would only give those mean girls a reason to talk bad about you.
Alexis you are sooo weak if you think that what the ladies did was bullying. They were badgering you yes but not bullying. I suggest you look at the internet and what bullying was that kids go through and you will see that you are trying to be a victim. Please zanax for people talking about you. Maybe you need to pray to God for strength cause if you fall apart. because someone is telling the truth about you and you don't want to hear it you are too weak to be on the show.
ANTIOCH43 She always plays the victim ever since Costa Rica. I put the MUTE button on when she comes on because whatever she is saying whether it is with the ladies or with her husband just does not interest me. This season the storyline with her and her husband is so ridiculous. For instance, now he's gardening, he wants to take salsa lessons etc., it's just dumb to me!
I guess I'll chime in with an opinion, for what it's worth (no more or less than anyone else's). I felt really bad for you in Costa Rica. I think the ladies could have handled that situation and how they voiced their opinion's of you with far more tact. Tamara imparticular has no business telling anyone how to behave "like a real person". While some of what they said may or may not have been valid, the delivery was harsh. That being said, the bully label, I feel, should be saved for children and adolescence. We are fully grown women and should be able to process and deal with an ugly situation much more effectively than that of a child. What they did was rude and Tamara spews venom like no other. You didn't deserve such nastiness and I totally understand your being hurt by it. But, you're a big girl. Don't let anyone break you down. Turn to God, your husband and those that love you for support. Let it be a teachable moment for your children. We can all do better, everyday in living by the golden rule. Now, can we move past the past? Please
Alexis I am a huge fan of yours and just cannot bear to watch how they bully you. Yes that is the correct word! Tamra is the queen of mean and not one person agrees with her. As a viewer there have been times I have had to change channels as I feel so sorry for you! Wow these girls are terrible! Hang in there as everyone I know agrees with me. Heather can be very nasty as well, she is very happy with herself!
Re-read Proverbs, a woman of valor whose value is far greater than rubies. You do well enough in life. You have a few little idiosyncracies, but who doesn't? Your heart has a purity, a golden quality. Keep being who you are. Tamra and Gretchen are spoiled wines. Now they are vinegar and bile, and there isn't enough sugar in the world to sweeten them up. But you stay sweet, That will give you dignity. Stay out of the fray. They NEED to win at ANY cost. Find comforts elsewhere,with women who build each other up. Increase the joy, decrease the suffering, for you as well as others.
Alexis I have loved you from the first show you were on. I never cared much for Gretchen now I can't stand her. NEVER liked Tamara or Heather. They are gutter trash. They don't like you because you are real not fake like them. They are unhappy and it makes them happy to make others feel bad (which is bullying). I really thought Gretchen was a guy or cross dresser or had a sex change because she looks like a guy in the face. She looks just like those gay guys when they go around dressed like a woman. REALLY I am not kidding even now every time I look at her I think of a drag queen. Stay away from them. Vicky seems like the only one I would even talk to. Lydia I would not trust her. She talks out of both sides of her mouth, she is a fruit cake with a mother for a fruit cake, she is two faced and she starts trouble look at when Vicky tried to leave the wine tasting how she ran out are you sure you want to leave in front of the devil Taz Tamara, Tamara will get mad and on and on to get Taz Devil Tamara a Q to ok attack. I think she has had to much of her mothers fairy dust. We love you Alexis keep true to your self and God. Your the prettiest, best wife and mother and they can't stand it.
hi! I think you are right, but I think you should look up ways of saying bullying without using the word, go back at other season and see how the other housewives said the same thing when everyone was jumping down their throat, and use their wording back at them; maybe they will get what you are saying!
br1daw I was an educator and a published writer. Bully just seems to nail the behaviors on the head. Ganging up on someone? Disempowering, singling out one person for verbal and psychological chastising in public? I don't know. Keep it simple. Bullying.
Hang in there Alexis, I totally think you were bullied. Tamra and Heather are so disgustingly jealous of you, you are younger, prettier and sweeter than them, and no matter what you do or say they are never going to like you. I've never seen you do a single thing to deserve the way they have treated you. Tamra is an evil, nasty person that has to be tormenting somebody at all times, you became her victim after she was done being a witch to Gretchen. I used to like Gretchen but now I can't stand her, you were basically her only friend on the show when she was Tamra's target and the way she has turned on you to maintain her bestie status with witchypoo is disgusting and really shows her true colors. Like most viewers of the show I'm hoping Tamra is gone next season, I hate every moment she is on the show, and hopefully Gretchen and Heather are gone too, those three are just too obnoxious to tolerate for another season.
Alexis, While I assume tv does a lot of editing its great to see a lighter, funnier side of Jim. Despite what is going on with everyone I'm happy to see that tv is allowing us to see a stronger side of you and your husband because in the end those are the bonds that should shine and what really matter at the end of the day...you only make vows with one person and that's for a reason!!! I am glad that we are allowed to see the strength, love, support and loyalty between y'all (yes I'm from Texas haha)! It's very refreshing and puts a smile to my face as someone who is engaged!!!
Once again this group of "ladies" ganged up on Alexis. Very disturbing to watch. It's hard to believe, but they are truly in denial over it and vigorously defend and justify their behavior as anything but bullying. So much for the toxic....Alexis I loved the footage of you and Jim. I'm so happy for Jim, he has emerged this season on top, and not just because of his great new business. There is a new peace about him, like he was able to learn something valuable from the toxicity of some of the wives, and rise above it. It's easy to be brought down by a group attacking you, so kudos to Jim and Alexis. I hope your new business is a huge success.
p.s. Alexis, as always you look GREAT.
I am team Alexsis..........All the other broads and I means broads are sooooo jealous of her!!
No you are not crazy. Yes you were bullied. They pre-meditately singled you out, under some thinly veiled guise of "just being honest" to point out your flaws on an island thousands of miles from home. You were trapped and cornered. They were on you like a pack of wild cats and their behavior was disgusting. Sorry Alexis, but take a good look at the haters; a divorcee with 4 kids and a younger more attractive man while father time ticks. Then you have an unmarried air head waiting for her frog to become the prince she thinks she deserves. And then there is Heather, the least attractive of the group who looks like Jim Carey when she smiles. Can't even get a cover for her house. Shout out for Alexis, peace out haters.
Alexis, you and Vicki are the smartest housewives. Don't let the other three intimidate you. You're coming out on top!
Stay strong, Alexis. I love watching you with your husband and your children. Although I must admit that I didn't like your husband last year, I do think that you have both found a balance of respect. Be good to each other. Put God and family first. If you find yourself in a little house with a beautiful garden surrounded by your children and husband, I swear that you will feel peace.
naomiburton Activist1 Yes, I'm a little confused myself. She has never said she doesn't like the fact that she is a Christian. The problems are totally in another direction. The problems are not in the direction of religion. Where did you get that from?
Alexis what many people don't realize is that adult bullying does in fact exist and has become a huge problem. Heather, Tamra & Gretchen must know deep down inside they have in fact bullied Alexis but they don't like the idea of being labeled a "bully" so they are in total and complete denial they are in fact bullies, Adult Bullies! Before everyone starts yelling that Alexis hasn't been bullied please read the following article on adult bullying and maybe you will realize that bullying isn't just for children or teens, that in fact adult bullying has become a huge problem. http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/adult-bullying.html
Come on lets be real here, one of the women's biggest problems in Costa Rica was the fact that Alexis was wearing a fake diamond ring and for some strange reason all three had a huge problem with that. HELLO the women were on a trip out of the country and in many parts of the world there are in fact bandits and thieves who kill Americans to rob them. Costa Rica has a huge problem with this as does Mexico. The truth is that it was very smart of Alexis to wear and fake diamond and to have her real one put away safely in a safe. In my opinion if any of those three bullies were wearing their real jewels they are darn fools. So what? Who cares if Alexis was wearing a fake zirconia diamond ring? They bully Alexis because they say she brags about what her and Jim has but yet all I've seen is Heather bragging right and left about her home, her career, and of course among many other things she drinks only the best of the best wine or whatever that was. Doesn't anyone remember when Tamra started on the show she was bragging left and right about all the things her and her husband at that time had and how upscale their lives were. Nothing but the best for Tamra. Gretchen to be honest I haven't seen too much bragging but the young woman that I really liked on the previous seasons of the RHOC has completely changed since her friendship and bonding with Tamra. Tamra is like poison and at least for me every woman that I liked that were on the show, once they became good friends with Tamra they changed completely and turned into mean spirited witches and backstabbers just like Tamra. I honestly never really cared for Vicky from the beginning but I'm really starting to like the "new" Vicky since she and Tamra are no longer "best friends". I hear that things are better between them now and I am actually saddened by this because I fear that Vicky's likeability will go down again once she becomes good friends with Tamra again for me.
Alexis to be honest I really thought I was going to like Lydia but sadly it is becoming clear she is two faced and let's be real, Lydia should not have said you weren't bullied by those women considering she has never watched previous seasons of the show so Lydia hasn't got a clue what you have gone through with these women. To see Lydia backstab you behind your back when she has a lunch with Heather and Tamra just shows me that she isn't someone who can be a good friend.
Alexis you are my favorite housewife among all the Housewives shows and just stay true to yourself and never allow people to bully you. You've done a great job responding to these grown up bullies so far this season and you've handled it with class so keep on this path and you will always be a winner. I also have seen a tremendous change in Jim and it appears that he is much more relaxed now and seems to be much happier. The end result is that he is a better husband and father to your family.
LiveLife I tried to express my feelings in my own post, but you did a much better job of what I was trying to say! I am glad you brought up the Costa Rica trip. I was thinking the EXACT same thing. When everyone seemed to be furious that Alexis was wearing a fake ring, I was just thinking "uhm, did I miss something? Should I be mad too?" If I remember correctly, Heather made some kind of statement like, "robbers don't care if you say it's fake or not, they're still going to take it." Uhm, I think that's the point Miss Heather... and yes, Heather is the WORST at bragging. Uhm, you are on the show too just trying to make a buck like everyone else. She reminds me a lot of Caroline Manzo in the way they try to "relate to people" and point out their flaws and at the very same time, they are really just acting better than everyone else.
And I just agree completely with everything else that you said. Never was a big fan of Vicki but I really like the "new" her. She seems much happier with herself and as a result, much more understanding of everyone else. My only problem with Vicki is I want to her tell her son-in-law to BACK DOWN. I 100% respect that he wants to be cautious of who comes around his wife and newborn son but there is a way to express that and still be respectful of your mother-in-law. Brianna needs to demand more respect for her mom and they both need to work on the way they communicate.
Alexis, you are the ONLY reason I watch the show anymore. I have to fast-foward through all the other women's scenes... I love your new haircut. I think you've always been beautiful, but you really shine this season and you can tell that you are also sporting a whole new personality. I think you should be grateful for what the women have put you through because it's shown everyone how strong you are and it's great to see you bounce back.
Here's my beef with the whole "b-word" scandal. You have been bullied. You didn't make up the definition of the word, and if the women have a problem with that word in particular, they should... I don't know... take it up with the dictionary? Here is my theory: I think the other women have used the issue of bullying amongst kids and teens as a story line on the show in an attempt to finally be taken seriously by the real world and they are just using you as a way to bring it up. I think the other women really want to be taken seriously by viewers so they are pretending to care so much about an issue as serious as bullying, and that is sad to me. To hear Gretchen talk about bullying is HILARIOUS. She sounds like Miss Teen South Carolina when she talks about it... "Bullying, is like such as, a popular topic in like, such as, America right now and I think that Alexis, like such as, is using it to like, such as, attach her name to it." And what the heck did she say the other night? "KIDS ARE BEING BULLIED ON PLAYGROUNDS INTO DOING THINGS THEY DON'T WANT!" or something like that... She is such a joke. And I feel really bad for Lydia. I really like her personality, but I think that she is probably not that smart and confused on how to get along with everyone. When she said "Do I think the other women were ganging up on and attacking Alexis? Yes. Do I think she was being bullied? No." I wanted to SCREAM at my television. That's like saying, "Do I think she was putting food in her mouth? Yes. Do I think she was eating? No."
Tamra is still gross. What else is there to say? Her and Melissa Gorga from RHONJ are the WORST at being so OBVIOUSLY conscious of the cameras and making sure they do everything in their power to secure their spots on the show. Eddie actually seems like a decent person which makes me wonder if Tamra is a completely different person off-camera, because I can't quite figure out why they are together?
I don't like Heather but I understand the position that she's in. You are her strongest competition on the show and the only other side she has to go to SUCKS. Tamra and Gretchen are like, the tackiest people of the whole RH franchise.
And Heather, you are not that smart... I think the real message these ladies are sending out is sad. I remember being bullied so much in middle school (don't we all?) and my parents constantly telling me that it would get better as I grew up. I think the women are trying to convince us that bullying is something that only exists when you're younger, but they are actually just sending the message that bullying never truly does go away, even when you're all grown adults. They want so bad to convince us that they aren't bullies and how much of a serious issue bullying really is and that they are only "pointing out flaws" to Alexis, and then it is always followed by some awful, mean-spirited joke that is completely unnecessary.
I will continue to be TEAM ALEXIS.
Alexis most CERTAINLY IS being bullied. The real kicker is that ALL of the women who ganged up on her and ATTACKED her are THEMSELVES the epitome of inauthentic. It was a disgusting display of human behavior when they attacked her. I eventually had to change the channel, it made me so sick to watch. Each one of the ladies who are soooo hung up on Alexis, and they DO seem to be obsessive in their focus on her, needs to invest that energy into working on their own shortcomings!
@selena78 Where us your heart at? That is a cruel and harsh thing to say. I think anyone would cry a little after being talked down to and attacked like Alexis was.
Thinkbeforeyouact selena78 Has Alexis not judged several of the women in the past? has she not ridiculed them in her interviews? Has she ever stepped up for Gretchen in the past? And how was Gretchen being a bully in costa rico just by trying to explain how the other women perceive her? Im not saying that these women do not have various negative opinions about Alexis that may (or may not) be wrong... but this show (and the reason they are paid for being watched) is because each of them of unruly outspoken behavior, personality and opinions. Alexis saying she is being bullied and or broken down mentally and physically, its not even worth refuting the simple answer is... Give up the money bravo is giving you and stop going around these women with the intent of still being able to voice your own thoughts and they shouldnt be able to tell you squat. you sound dumb. Its not fair to call them bullies because they have similar opinions of you... either self reflect or find new people to hang around. but please...stop with the bully thing! and people please stop calling these women "cruel", "evil", "harsh"...OPINIONS...EVERYONE HAS ONE.... EVERYONE... its not evil to have them. or else we would all burn in hell.
@mars1 @Thinkbeforeyouact @selena78 it's your prerogative to have your beliefs and its Alexi's prerogative to have her beliefs. Tolerance means you don't judge what someone else's beliefs are, unless you want to be judged for your beliefs.
ALasVegasHousewife Gymratz mars1 Thinkbeforeyouact selena78 What I found kind of weird was when they were in the limo (Alexis, Vicki and Lydia) after this happened and they were in the parking area and Lydia saw Tamra, she told Alexis "oh the host is here" and Alexis said "what host?" HELLO? Who was the one and only host of the party? She is so ridiculous, she's so wrapped up in her crying session that she forgot who the host was, who just threw her out of the party? Come on, give me a break already!
You pathetically use the term "bullying" to suit your own desperate needs. Sad. Your a beautiful woman on the outside but so clearly empty inside . I wish you better things, but bullying is a serious and deadly issue in this country and you are no victim of bullying, you were exposed to opinionated and sometimes very ungracious and unladylike behavior, but it was nothing we have not all seen you yourself do, so suck it up buttercup and put your big girl panties on and deal with it. If you can dish it out...... And you do ..... Then don't label it .... Live with it... It's called Karma. Not bullying.
ReneeHopkins It is bullying because thousands and thousands of viewers who don't come from ghetto where such behavior is common have said so and because a doctor said so.
Also, Tamra wouldn't be hiding if it wasn't bullying.
@carom @ReneeHopkins and for the thousands and thousands of us that say it is not and the just as many Dr's that that we could get to testify our way and yes that is how it works trust me. Not bullying. Bullying is a serious problem for our youth her misuse of the term is self serving - a little bit narcissistic and whole bunch shallow and self serving but hey she has her story line. So what if a few thousand kids suffer for her cause.
ReneeHopkins Bully - Verb - Use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants. the vicious group gang up CERTAINLY is bullying. The lunatic nut jobs who are so obsessed with Alexis need to worry about their own flaws. It was BULLYING in the way they banded together as if in an attempt to intimidate Alexis with a group show of force. They are delusional in their thinking that Alexis is somehow accountable to them or owes them evidence of authenticity. What an arrogant bunch of hags those women are. Why are they so fixated and worried about forcing Alexis to behave how THEY think she should behave? Just live and let live. Tamara HEATHER and Gretchen have plenty of their own character flaws they need to focus on rather than what THEY perceive Alexis needs to change.