I guess I'll chime in with an opinion, for what it's worth (no more or less than anyone else's). I felt really bad for you in Costa Rica. I think the ladies could have handled that situation and how they voiced their opinion's of you with far more tact. Tamara imparticular has no business telling anyone how to behave "like a real person". While some of what they said may or may not have been valid, the delivery was harsh. That being said, the bully label, I feel, should be saved for children and adolescence. We are fully grown women and should be able to process and deal with an ugly situation much more effectively than that of a child. What they did was rude and Tamara spews venom like no other. You didn't deserve such nastiness and I totally understand your being hurt by it. But, you're a big girl. Don't let anyone break you down. Turn to God, your husband and those that love you for support. Let it be a teachable moment for your children. We can all do better, everyday in living by the golden rule. Now, can we move past the past? Please

Alexis I am a huge fan of yours and just cannot bear to watch how they bully you. Yes that is the correct word! Tamra is the queen of mean and not one person agrees with her. As a viewer there have been times I have had to change channels as I feel so sorry for you! Wow these girls are terrible! Hang in there as everyone I know agrees with me. Heather can be very nasty as well, she is very happy with herself!

Re-read Proverbs, a woman of valor whose value is far greater than rubies. You do well enough in life. You have a few little idiosyncracies, but who doesn't? Your heart has a purity, a golden quality. Keep being who you are. Tamra and Gretchen are spoiled wines. Now they are vinegar and bile, and there isn't enough sugar in the world to sweeten them up. But you stay sweet, That will give you dignity. Stay out of the fray. They NEED to win at ANY cost. Find comforts elsewhere,with women who build each other up.  Increase the joy, decrease the suffering, for you as well as others.

Alexis I have loved you from the first show you were on.  I never cared much for Gretchen now I can't stand her.  NEVER liked Tamara or Heather.  They are gutter trash.  They don't like you because you are real not fake like them.  They are unhappy and it makes them happy to make others feel bad (which is bullying).  I really thought Gretchen was a guy or cross dresser or had a sex change because she looks like a guy in the face.  She looks just like those gay guys when they go around dressed like a woman.  REALLY I am not kidding even now every time I look at her I think of a drag queen.  Stay away from them.  Vicky seems like the only one I would even talk to.  Lydia I would not trust her.  She talks out of both sides of her mouth, she is a fruit cake with a mother for a fruit cake, she is two faced and she starts trouble look at when Vicky tried to leave the wine tasting how she ran out are you sure you want to leave in front of the devil Taz Tamara, Tamara will get mad and on and on to get Taz Devil Tamara a Q to ok attack.  I think she has had to much of her mothers fairy dust.  We love you Alexis keep true to your self and God.  Your the prettiest, best wife and mother and they can't stand it.       

hi! I think you are right, but I think you should look up ways of saying bullying without using the word, go back at other season and see how  the other housewives said the same thing when everyone was jumping down their throat,  and use their wording back at them; maybe they will get what you are saying!

Hang in there Alexis, I totally think you were bullied. Tamra and Heather are so disgustingly jealous of you, you are younger, prettier and sweeter than them, and no matter what you do or say they are never going to like you. I've never seen you do a single thing to deserve the way they have treated you. Tamra is an evil, nasty person that has to be tormenting somebody at all times, you became her victim after she was done being a witch to Gretchen. I used to like Gretchen but now I can't stand her, you were basically her only friend on the show when she was Tamra's target and the way she has turned on you to maintain her bestie status with witchypoo is disgusting and really shows her true colors. Like most viewers of the show I'm hoping Tamra is gone next season, I hate every moment she is on the show, and hopefully Gretchen and Heather are gone too, those three are just too obnoxious to tolerate for another season.

Alexis, While I assume tv does a lot of editing its great to see a lighter, funnier side of Jim. Despite what is going on with everyone I'm happy to see that tv is allowing us to see a stronger side of you and your husband because in the end those are the bonds that should shine and what really matter at the end of the day...you only make vows with one person and that's for a reason!!! I am glad that we are allowed to see the strength, love, support and loyalty between y'all (yes I'm from Texas haha)! It's very refreshing and puts a smile to my face as someone who is engaged!!!

Once again this group of "ladies" ganged up on Alexis.  Very disturbing to watch.  It's hard to believe, but they are truly in denial over it and vigorously defend and justify their behavior as anything but bullying.  So much for the toxic....Alexis I loved the footage of you and Jim.  I'm so happy for Jim, he has emerged this season on top, and not just because of his great new business. There is a new peace about him, like he was able to learn something valuable from the toxicity of some of the wives, and rise above it. It's easy to be brought down by a group attacking you, so kudos to Jim and Alexis. I hope your new business is a huge success.

p.s. Alexis, as always you look GREAT.

I am team Alexsis..........All the other broads and I means broads are sooooo jealous of her!!

No you are not crazy. Yes you were bullied. They pre-meditately singled you out, under some thinly veiled guise of "just being honest" to point out your flaws on an island thousands of miles from home. You were trapped and cornered. They were on you like a pack of wild cats and their behavior was disgusting. Sorry Alexis, but take a good look at the haters; a divorcee with 4 kids and a younger more attractive man while father time ticks. Then you have an unmarried air head waiting for her frog to become the prince she thinks she deserves. And then there is Heather, the least attractive of the group who looks like Jim Carey when she smiles. Can't even get a cover for her house. Shout out for Alexis, peace out haters.

Alexis, you and Vicki are the smartest housewives.  Don't let the other three intimidate you.  You're coming out on top!

Stay strong, Alexis. I love watching you with your husband and your children. Although I must admit that I didn't like your husband last year, I do think that you have both found a balance of respect. Be good to each other. Put God and family first. If you find yourself in a little house with a beautiful garden surrounded by your children and husband, I swear that you will feel peace.

It appears to me that Heather is not only a bully but a hater. She doesn't like your religion, therefore she doesn't like you. Shallow, very shallow.

Stand strong. Stand your ground and never back down!

Alexis what many people don't realize is that adult bullying does in fact exist and has become a huge problem.  Heather, Tamra & Gretchen must know deep down inside they have in fact bullied Alexis but they don't like the idea of being labeled a "bully" so they are in total and complete denial they are in fact bullies, Adult Bullies!  Before everyone starts yelling that Alexis hasn't been bullied please read the following article on adult bullying and maybe you will realize that bullying isn't just for children or teens, that in fact adult bullying has become a huge problem. http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/adult-bullying.html 

Come on lets be real here, one of the women's biggest problems in Costa Rica was the fact that Alexis was wearing a fake diamond ring and for some strange reason all three had a huge problem with that.  HELLO the women were on a trip out of the country and in many parts of the world there are in fact bandits and thieves who kill Americans to rob them.  Costa Rica has a huge problem with this as does Mexico.  The truth is that it was very smart of Alexis to wear and fake diamond and to have her real one put away safely in a safe.  In my opinion if any of those three bullies were wearing their real jewels they are darn fools.  So what?  Who cares if Alexis was wearing a fake zirconia diamond ring? They bully Alexis because they say she brags about what her and Jim has but yet all I've seen is Heather bragging right and left about her home, her career, and of course among many other things she drinks only the best of the best wine or whatever that was.  Doesn't anyone remember when Tamra started on the show she was bragging left and right about all the things her and her husband at that time had and how upscale their lives were.  Nothing but the best for Tamra.  Gretchen to be honest I haven't seen too much bragging but the young woman that I really liked on the previous seasons of the RHOC has completely changed since her friendship and bonding with Tamra.  Tamra is like poison and at least for me every woman that I liked that were on the show, once they became good friends with Tamra they changed completely and turned into mean spirited witches and backstabbers just like Tamra.  I honestly never really cared for Vicky from the beginning but I'm really starting to like the "new" Vicky since she and Tamra are no longer "best friends".  I hear that things are better between them now and I am actually saddened by this because I fear that Vicky's likeability will go down again once she becomes good friends with Tamra again for me. 

Alexis to be honest I really thought I was going to like Lydia but sadly it is becoming clear she is two faced and let's be real, Lydia should not have said you weren't bullied by those women considering she has never watched previous seasons of the show so Lydia hasn't got a clue what you have gone through with these women.  To see Lydia backstab you behind your back when she has a lunch with Heather and Tamra just shows me that she isn't someone who can be a good friend. 

Alexis you are my favorite housewife among all the Housewives shows and just stay true to yourself and never allow people to bully you.  You've done a great job responding to these grown up bullies so far this season and you've handled it with class so keep on this path and you will always be a winner.  I also have seen a tremendous change in Jim and it appears that he is much more relaxed now and seems to be much happier.  The end result is that he is a better husband and father to your family. 

Alexis, you are the ONLY reason I watch the show anymore. I have to fast-foward through all the other women's scenes... I love your new haircut. I think you've always been beautiful, but you really shine this season and you can tell that you are also sporting a whole new personality. I think you should be grateful for what the women have put you through because it's shown everyone how strong you are and it's great to see you bounce back.

Here's my beef with the whole "b-word" scandal. You have been bullied. You didn't make up the definition of the word, and if the women have a problem with that word in particular, they should... I don't know... take it up with the dictionary? Here is my theory: I think the other women have used the issue of bullying amongst kids and teens as a story line on the show in an attempt to finally be taken seriously by the real world and they are just using you as a way to bring it up. I think the other women really want to be taken seriously by viewers so they are pretending to care so much about an issue as serious as bullying, and that is sad to me. To hear Gretchen talk about bullying is HILARIOUS. She sounds like Miss Teen South Carolina when she talks about it... "Bullying, is like such as, a popular topic in like, such as, America right now and I think that Alexis, like such as, is using it to like, such as, attach her name to it." And what the heck did she say the other night? "KIDS ARE BEING BULLIED ON PLAYGROUNDS INTO DOING THINGS THEY DON'T WANT!" or something like that... She is such a joke. And I feel really bad for Lydia. I really like her personality, but I think that she is probably not that smart and confused on how to get along with everyone. When she said "Do I think the other women were ganging up on and attacking Alexis? Yes. Do I think she was being bullied? No." I wanted to SCREAM at my television. That's like saying, "Do I think she was putting food in her mouth? Yes. Do I think she was eating? No."

Tamra is still gross. What else is there to say? Her and Melissa Gorga from RHONJ are the WORST at being so OBVIOUSLY conscious of the cameras and making sure they do everything in their power to secure their spots on the show. Eddie actually seems like a decent person which makes me wonder if Tamra is a completely different person off-camera, because I can't quite figure out why they are together?

I don't like Heather but I understand the position that she's in. You are her strongest competition on the show and the only other side she has to go to SUCKS. Tamra and Gretchen are like, the tackiest people of the whole RH franchise.

And Heather, you are not that smart... I think the real message these ladies are sending out is sad. I remember being bullied so much in middle school (don't we all?) and my parents constantly telling me that it would get better as I grew up. I think the women are trying to convince us that bullying is something that only exists when you're younger, but they are actually just sending the message that bullying never truly does go away, even when you're all grown adults. They want so bad to convince us that they aren't bullies and how much of a serious issue bullying really is and that they are only "pointing out flaws" to Alexis, and then it is always followed by some awful, mean-spirited joke that is completely unnecessary.

I will continue to be TEAM ALEXIS.

Alexis most CERTAINLY IS being bullied. The real kicker is that ALL of the women who ganged up on her and ATTACKED her are THEMSELVES the epitome of inauthentic. It was a disgusting display of human behavior when they attacked her. I eventually had to change the channel, it made me so sick to watch. Each one of the ladies who are soooo hung up on Alexis, and they DO seem to be obsessive in their focus on her,  needs to invest that energy into working on their own shortcomings!

If you're not a victim and don't want a pity party then stop being a cry baby.

You pathetically use the term "bullying" to suit your own desperate needs. Sad. Your a beautiful woman on the outside but so clearly empty inside . I wish you better things, but bullying is a serious and deadly issue in this country and you are no victim of bullying, you were exposed to opinionated and sometimes very ungracious and unladylike behavior, but it was nothing we have not all seen you yourself do, so suck it up buttercup and put your big girl panties on and deal with it. If you can dish it out...... And you do ..... Then don't label it .... Live with it... It's called Karma. Not bullying.

Clearly you bring out the jealousy in the other women. What else can anyone say? You are the master puppeteer with Tamra because you have cleverly managed to control her emotions. Good for you. The ball is always in your court.

Your are an emotional bully.  You Imply others are negative things.  "I came to protect Vicky from you"  Openly implys that tamra is a biach.  That is obvious to me the game you play.   The game is called Defining the other.   You tell people what they are.   Actually that is verbal abuse.  So I understand lots of others fall for your bs, but I can see what you are doing.   Lots of fake religious people do this.   "I have god on my side"  Implys that god gives a crap about your silly over reaction to a simple question.  "Why did you come?" A normal answer would be, To make amends.  But you insulted everyone at the table with your defining and lack of any depth.   

Alexsis, Tamra is soooo jealous of you, she is just old and spent. She has stability issues and she would love to look like you. As for her calling you Jesus Barbie,shame on her. She needs some quiet time to bring herself back down to reality. Using the Lords name in vain is just terrible. You are a Lady and she will never look nor be what you are.

Alexis, you need to face facts and realize none of the fans really wanted you to return this season. And frankly, I think the reason you're playing the "bullying" card is to try and win viewers over. Well, it didn't work with me.  I can only suggest this is your last season. No one wants to see you and your slimey husband.

Hi Alexis., I don't approve of the behavior of the girls....any of them....but I want you to try and STOP looking for an apology. Let this stuff go. It will just make you look even better than you already do and so much more evolved than the others....which is not a stretch....and if you can avoid all dramatic conversations and not engage with them when they start in., boy will you have grown. Good luck. I am rooting for you. You are the sweet one. It is nice to see the public on your side.

You will never win with the three evil amigos.

Alexis-You don't need anyone's pity!!  You are doing great and I see you're becoming a stronger person every season now.  Ignore Tamra and her banshees-they do not want to own it, but Tamra is jealous of you and the rest are afraid of her wrath.  

What ever "advice" was supposed to be given in Costa Rica was poisoned by the malicious Tamra, who was doing all the screaming and finger pointing.  You're "friend" at the time, Gretchen, showed her true colors then, my friend, so SEE that and leave her behind.  The way the whole thing was presented was cruel and very hurtful and uncalled for on a vacation in any event.  Don't lament what use dto be- look forward to the future and new friendships that have true meaning.

I like the friendship you have with Vickie- hope you remain that way. Don't let the others divide you with their negative energy.  As for Lydia, she seems like a person who wants to "get along" with everybody and that's OK.. Hope she can find that fine line of being friends with people who are often hurtful to those who don't agree with them.  Lydia does not seem to have a mean side to her, but time will tell.

Anyhow- have joy in your heart and keep your faith!   Happy Mother's Day!!

it's all about love me I'm beautiful and great and do nothing wrong !!!! please !!!!!!

Although your blog says you don't want anyone's pity, you seems to thrive on pity and/or attention.  This was made very clear at your child's birthday party a season or two ago when you, in front of very small children, had to make the day about your labor and what happened, in detail, to you during and after childbirth.  It was very inappropriate and was an attention seeking moment on your part.  The children did not need to hear any of that and neither did most of the adults.  That is a story to tell your close friends, maybe, when it is on topic not to be announced at a child's party.  Again, your actions speak louder than your words, back then it was poor me and my childbirth at your child's party, now it's I'm a thirty something woman who is being bullied and instead of answering the accusations towards you, you deflect by saying your're being bullied.  If you're going to stay on the show, put on your big girl panties and have an adult conversation without  trying to get sympathy.

Alexis I freaking love how you handle yourself! Do I think in the past you may have seemed a bit conceited?! Hell yeah! But guess what people learn from their mistakes!! and move on!!! These ladies seem to forget that!! We have all said and done things that we regret!! Do I think Gretchen would take her ex boyfriend on vacation(again) while her terminally ill fiance sat in a hospital bed?!! In hindsight no!! But I don't see the mean three bringing that up?! If these ladies have nothing better to do than pick you apart, maybe they need to get lives!!! Keep doing what your doing!! Don't EVER apologize to these ladies for being you!!!! Especially to Tamra!! You have done nothing wrong!! If they don't like it they can lump it....

I'm watching the marathon on Mother'sDay. I'm totally Team Alexis. You made so much sense (maybe little much of the bully word). I totally get why you where saying that but they are so upset because it hits home with them they are the mean girls. Watching how they act after you girls leave is so ugly. I have always thought you were so pretty. Actions speak louder than words and theirs are not speaking pretty nice words. I read Heathers article saying y'all are in a better place. I'm glad for you but I hope you keep your guard up. I wouldn't want you to go through what you went through last season. Love!!!!

Heather and Tamera should pity you when you play the victim.  Your not being  bullied. Oh and God isn't on your side either. 

Happy Mothers Day!!! 

I wish you the best this season :-)

Katt

You know what I would love to see??? I would love to see this great Christian woman doing some charity work rather than showing off her new home and complaining about how abused she is. I mean she IS always going on about how much of a Christian she is. And she has proven one thing right that has been brought up time and time again...flaunting her wealth..she went on and on about the "new" house on the first episode...Sorry don't buy the "poor little ol' me rich girl act." Alexis is was pointed out you treated those behind the scenes horribly because you thought they were beneath you and you never denied it. Until you can show a humble person rather than a "look at what I have" fake one. I will ALWAYS side with the other ladies. Wake up!