When a bunch of jealous cows come up with bogus reasons to gang up on you, just know they are absolutely eat up with envy.  The fans see it clearly.  You did nothing wrong in attempting to speak up for yourself.  You were probably reminded of the verse about "pearls before swine".  In other words, why waste your breath when they had obviously rehearsed their harpie scrpts before you arrived.  Look at them and then look in the mirror.  That should explain part of it.

I will admit that I have not been a fan of you Alexis.  I just watched the episode for Tamara's dinner.  It is aweful how they treated you.  Tamara has been a bully since the begining and all the girls are scared of her.  I have lost all respect for Tamara, Gretchen, and Heather.  My girlfriend and I have watched this show since the begining and we both agree we are done.

You really think you do not do anything wrong do you? You signed up for the show, you chose to go to that party knowing these people and the one you are suing are there, you wanted a paycheck! Please stop acting like you had to be back on the show. You are money hungry and stop acting like a pitiful martyr.

I think you went cause Bravo made you. 

Alexis,

You have what the other women want.  You are in a good marriage, with children, and you are happy.  Don't let the other women bring you down.

Poor me no one likes me! I don’t know what I did to have everyone always bully me. Woo is me…what a laugh. Grow up girl. You have more than many women; I actually don’t know why you’re on the show. You’re boring, you don’t communicate well, you exclude yourself, and your fake. Step out of the picture and get a grip on what life really is about. In the past you had to look up couture when you had your dress line, you had to see a map to know where Costa Rica was, and now look up bulling, what are you doing on the show. You need to see the show again at Tamara's gym pre-opening dinner. You’re the one that initiated the tension. You said: check please, and you pretended you had a knife, saying you can cut something with a knife. You then exploded, and told the hostess to but out. Your other most insulting behavior was at Heather's party when you kept telling her to "get over it" when that crazy pal of yours messed up Heather's cake: If someone defiled your wedding cake or your kids cake you would have been offended also. You’re the bad person you’re not paying attention in church, you just feel sorry for yourself and continue to make money. I'd appreciate Bravo would find another cool person like Lydia and Heather. Try Sesame Street.

You are probably right. I hope not.

Maybe if you owned up to your narcissistic behavior, things would blow over quicker. All you do is blame the other women and say things like, "I don't know what I did for them to hate me". Not saying how they behaved is right, but you're not innocent in all this either. 

Alexis, when you don't allow anyone to get a word in edgewise, it makes everyone dislike you.  I wonder what they would all do if you just sat quietly.  All you do by talking over everyone is give them fuel to go after you.

You have too many good things in your life to waste time dealing with Tamara and Gretchens negativity.....Tamara will always feel insecure around you b/c all the money in the world couldn't by her any class...She should be and probably is jealous of you b/c no matter how hard she tries she will never have enough good qualities to cover the ugliness that shines through so brightly in her.  There isn't really much at all to say about Gretchen for her looking at your life and the joy that shines through it just reminds her of her misery.....and misery loves company.

The women are bullies! They are just trying to diffuse it because of the current publicity the word now has....but, it is a real situation. I am someone who doesn't need a cheering team if I have something to say to someone. One on one and if we can't work through this then

Matthew 10:14 "Whoever does not receive you, nor heed your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake the dust off your feet. King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.) .

.Luke 9:3-5. He said to ... If the people in the town will not welcome you, go outside the town and shake their dust off of your feet.

TEAM Alexis!!!

you must be yourself and not change to what someone else wants you to be...i think that you and porsha stewart were in the same boat because you had a traditional relationship with your husbands be the head of your household. there is nothing wrong with that...

So are you All friends now...

This may seem rather frank, but do you realize that some of the points you made about yourself and these women, really pertain to children?? Your reference to "that type of behavior" not being ok "in an office, cafeteria, or playground," conveniently are all at schools, which also conveniently references to children. FYI you are NOT a child, meaning that you canNOT put yourself in the same category as them. You may act like a child, but that doesn't mean you are one. Do I think the Tamra treated you kindly in Costa Rica? No, but Heather and Gretchen were just being constructively critical of you, NOT bullying.

Alexis -

I do believe you are the current target & ....yes bullied.  My issue - You continue to bring a knife to a gunfight (metaphor),  then later moan  'pity-party for me'.  Some of this you continue to bring on & engage,  rather than take a walk. Let them rail, your silence CAN be golden!.

To say you haven't talked smack about the other housewives or continue to plead "clueness" regarding the issues they hold about you (legit or not) is delusional and straight out not embracing truth.  Find your inner strength!

Alexis, you were bullied, plain and simple. Go to Heather's, Lydia's, and Gretchen's blogs to see how most of the viewing audience feel about them and Tamra (she is mentioned A LOT, and not in a good way). The huge majority of us believe they are bullying you, by definition. But whether everyone agrees on the semantics here or not, most all agree that their behavior is still clearly vicious towards you! As well as unprovoked and therefore unwarranted! Hang in there!

Even if the ladies were mean to you, does not mean you are automatically correct.

I think you should just own it that you were acting &sounding phony, fake, superficial from the last seasons. It may not be the real you (wwhatever that may be, who knows) Even if you were like that, you didnt deserve to be screamed at and picked at. Im sorry if you went though that. I hope its a second wake up call for you to grasp reality. Watch the other seasons and evaluate yourself. I know the opinions of others are very hurtful but it may be the truth.

Stop with the saying God is on your side. Guess what? God is on everyone's side. It drives me crazy with your holier than thou attitude

I've been watching OC for awhile and I never really cared for you bc all you talked about was what u owned and money. Also, your husband seemed very controlling and you seemed as if you were walking on eggshells. I really like you this season and I love the positive growth between you and ur husband. You both are communicating really well and you seems comfortable in your own skin. Thumbs up to Jim. I think you make a wonderful friend. I really can't stand Gretchen. She is so far up Tamra's ass and seems to forget how Tamra treated her in the past. I guess she always wanted to be Tamra's friend and Tamra felt bad for her and threw her a bone. All the best for you and Jim :)

I know you got a lot of "you shouldn't have gone", but this is a reality show and you have to interact with each other if you want to be on the show. You were my fav from the beginning. I knew you were going to have a hard time because you are a girly girl, can't we all get along in the name JESUS type of girl. Your husband wants you to be more aggressive, please just continue to be you.

Alexis,

   To start I do not think you are a bad or terrible person but I do think you make bad decisions and have some unflattering traits. As human beings we all have faults. To address the current situations. You decided to attend a party where you do not get along with the host or really any of the other guests attending. I understand you probably did it to try to be supportavie of Vicky and maybe hoped to reconcil with the other women. Tamara probably only agreed to let you come because she is trying to mend fences with Vicky. As we see in the show she regrets allowing you to come before the event ever begins.  I can understand why Tamara questions your motives for coming to the party. If I had publically declared that a group of people had repeatedly bullied me and threatened to sue one of them, I would not come to a party where these people made up the  guest list and one was the host. It is just asking for trouble.

    When the arguing does begin and you decide to tell to Tamara to butt out I can understand why she gets upset. This is her event that she was gracious enough to allow you to attend and you think that you are going to tell her what to do??? You would not allow someone to come into your business or home and try to tell you how to act. It is a normal response to be upset. I have to say that Tamara was over the top and did over-react to scream at you. Personally I would have taken you aside and politely told you it would be best for you to go.

    You may feel that the women were mean and unfair to you in Costa Rica when they tried to talk to you about issues that were bothering them. Your feelings were hurt that is understandable. It can be hard to hear things about ourselves that are negative or we do not see. That being said you don't necessairily have to change who you are for them, but you probably don't want to continue to socialize with them knowing how they feel.

    If you do not feel their concerns are worth considering stear clear of this group and continue with any other friends you may have who you can get along with.

Alexis, be strong, speak slower, answer any irritating question literally with minimal amount of words, and be smart, alert, watchful when you are among those three oc vamps. I hope you will emerge from all these battles a winner .

You care way to much what these morons think of you etc.. You need a good lesson on how to beat them at their own game and I think that entails not giving a rats ass about what they think.  They know you care and so you are fun for them to pick on and bully.  Just be happy, don't bother to get into it with them - they will all wind up pooping in their own mess kit as time rolls on so sit back and watch the show begin.  Please don't let these low lifes stress you out - you are a kind women with a beautiful family - live life and don't look back!

you're my favorite! :)

Alexis, you did great at Tamara's so called 'Gym" party.  You held your own really really well although I know those bullies hurt you terribly.  Get a new set of friends.  I have always liked Gretchen up until the party.  She was an alien from outer space.  You were calm and "right on" with your comments.  I was so embarrassed for the rest of the girls because they were all totally "BULLYS".

Has anyone seen the movie Bully? Alexis is a grown woman that has willingly put herself in these situations. So I say to Alexis go through what these children are not emotionally grown up to deal with and talk to these families that their children took their lives because they saw no hope and no end to their situations. I am sure these kids who are truly being bullied would take your situation over what they deal with day after day, this makes me so angry then to see people actually indulge this is just crazy. I am just saying to keep it real. I just feel Alexis causes her own grief because she seriously does not take any responsibility for anything she says our does. I'm just saying, Everyone needs to stop with the bully train out of respect for those that have taken their lives and the poor kids who on a daily basis endure horrible awful things daily.

Alexis, from what I see of you on the show, you appear to be a very grounded person. I love your relationship with your husband, your children, and with God. Anybody (Tamara) that makes fun of a person like you, is seriously lacking something in their own life. I too have a husband, three kids, a full-time job, and I attend classes to pursue my degree in Political Science. So I understand you completely and I fully admire what you do. Let the haters be your motivators. After all, if no one is hating on you, then you are doing something wrong, i.e. Heather. Keep doing your thing girlfriend!!!

I feel bad for you , only because you had to endure the torture the hyenas at tamras "party" . No one deserves to ever be treated so badly, and i do see it as bullying. You should have known better than to put yourself in that situation. These women( and I use the term loosely) , are vicious and NASTY, and you should avoid them at all costs.

Semantics?! DUMMY!!!!!!

You were not always my favorite but you have seriously evolved into the person I think everyone knew that you were. True. I think you handled yourself beautifully on the show so far. Especially with such evil people has cast members. It's almost sometimes hard to watch how mean Gretchen, Tamera and Heather can be. Their names are even evil - sounding. I hope that you stick it out. You have such a good support system at home with Jim by your side. Seriously, he has always been a true player and is such a good match for you. Last season at the Dubrow's party when Jim confronted Terry I felt it was so unfair the way Tamera and Heather jumped in when the men were trying to talk. It was such a childish thing to do. Terry did not handle the situation well at all either. What kind of grown man involved himself with women's drama? Jim has stayed out of it as far as the women were concerned. Sure in the "privacy" of your home did he let his feelings be known but other than that it was lips closed. Terry has always been sticking his nose where it did not belong. Does he want to be a Housewife or something?

They have told you plenty of times that you are pretentious, fake and phony. That's the problem they have with you. You say you are an optimist and you keep hoping these women will change but I don't understand who put you in charge. Why isn't it you who needs to change and not them. Then they will have no reason to "bully" you.

I say next time your with the wolf pack and they start with you, flip a table like Teresa and they will back off lmao!

You said it all. I find that you are an excellent communicator. You are not a hypocrite, God knows us through our hearts. You are strong and you can stand against the storm. Continue to grow and as Jesus said   "Let the dead bury the dead, pick up your cross and follow me."

Blessings Always.

You told Lydia to ask the girls why they treat you so poorly because you have no idea why. They each are envious of you for different reasons. Jealousy is when they wish they had what you have. Envy is when they wish they had what you have and don't want you to have it at all! Such as you clearly are the most beautiful one, you have a solid and happy marriage with a family head who knows how to and actually takes the lead, you have a strong spiritual foundation in life and marriage, stable finances w/ flexibility in business, children - healthy ones too, and more I'm sure that they've seen that we viewers have not. When you're spiritually stable and happy, it shows and all this is very much to be desired. The others are struggling in various ways in life and see you not and their jealousy has simmered into envy. Find a new group of ladies who share your faith and goals. It is fruitless to keep trying with these women and continuing will only erode you. "Brush the dust from your feet and take your joy with you as you leave".

You handled it well my dear. You were above it all. Heather, Gretchen and Tamra are vile people. Feel good and move on.

Nothing gets under an aggressor's skin like a smile. Don't even try to defend yourself to tamara, gretchen and heather. Just smile and wave.

You shouldn't have gone to Tamra's party. You're not a child and being a Christian doesn't make you naïve. You should've known that what happened would happen.