Fast forward to arriving at the party. At first, it seems it's going to be a smooth night. Tamra accepts my gift, and even takes me on a tour of her plans for the gym. Phew, it's all good! For a moment.
Then we all sit around the couches and the awkward silence begins, topped with several under-the-breath comments. I'm wishing I could leave, yet I know that I am in a no-win situation no matter what I do. So when dinner begins, I'm simply trying to be the quietest, non-person there. Vicki thanking Tamra for allowing me to come is both uncomfortable and strange, and it sends the night into a tailspin. I try several times to diffuse the situation, and all I want to do at this point is run away. It shocks me that Gretchen pounces on me within six seconds of Tamra and I arguing. It shouldn't have surprised me, especially since before the party she said I am "asking for it" by going back and sitting at the bully's lunch table. She called herself that name in that moment, not me. Well, if the shoe fits. . .
Then Heather jumps in when I'm already trying to diffuse Tamra and Gretchen. Now looking back I should have walked out. But I was in defense mode. I realized I became numb to Gretchen several months ago, but it really opened my eyes to how cold her heart truly is when she clapped as I was being thrown out of the party. That moment was so surreal for me. Tamra, Gretchen, and Heather are all screaming at me. I am scared Tamra is going to hit me when she walks over to my chair, and then my ex-friend is clapping while I'm getting thrown out of the party. I was crushed. I felt like I was at that lunchroom table at that moment. I was humiliated, yet so relieved to get out of that environment. Get me away from the line of fire. I was emotionally and mentally prepared to be there for Vicki that night and stand by her until the end, but honestly I was glad to leave early.
Please don't use the "bully" word you are a grown woman you can handle it and maybe instead of drugs that you don't need you should pray more!
n 1. A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people.
v.tr. 1. To treat in an overbearing or intimidating manner.
I'm sick of these other vapid housewives and fans who use the horrible incidents that happen at school to THEIR advantage. Gretchen, Tamra and Heather absolutely ARE bullying Alexis. Just because Alexis is an adult, just because she isn't getting her head banged into a locker, doesn't mean that their behavior isn't abhorrent and being carried out in a "bullying" manner. How do adults deal with issues? Well, they sure as hell DON'T get a gaggle of friends to attack one lady at a party. You discuss your gripe privately, or stay the hell out of everyone's business. You can absolutely have opinions, but what about keeping them to yourselves?! You aren't her mother, her grandmother, her guidance counselor, or her priest. I don't agree with Alexis more often than not, but that doesn't mean I have the right to tell her what to do. What does it matter to you anyway?! Move on with your own lives! Seriously.
And lastly I'm very disappointed in Heather. Thought she was going to be the voice of reason on this show. Unfortunately, Tamra & Gretchen really pulled you down to their level. So sad.
@Kasey_S @stikit2 your right she is not being bullied and she needs to stop using that word in her case. I think she is a big girl and can handle it.
As an elementary teacher, I deal with social issues a lot because the social growth is just as important as the cognitive. It hurts me that you would use the bully card so loosely. In Costa Rica, it was understandable. But at Tamra's event, you were NOT bullied. You were mean and a bully. It is possible for the bullied to also be a bully. For the person who is not being heard to also not listen to anything anyone is saying. That is what you are doing. Take ownership.
I just watched the show at Tamra's party . . .Alexis, perhaps if you quit playing the victim card, the ladies would get along better with you. The reason this all started was you flashing your phony wealth all the time, and that is what they tried to tell you in Costa Rica. You are phony, and so made up and clearly all that matters to you is material things, no matter how much you talk about God - you talk the talk, but you don't walk the walk. You were not bullied. When a grown woman is telling you her opinion, that is NOT bullying. You are making yourself look even more ridiculous running around flying that flat.
Alexis you should look up the word Bullying. You are not being bullied, get a back bone girl. you should never had come to that dinner party. Tamrs should told Vic no from the start. you can dish it but you can't take it. GET A BACK BONE.
I think you are letting these women rent way to much free space in your head Alexis, If you can't swim don't jump in the shark tank. You should have shut it all down in Costa Rica, It was supposed to be a vacation, Not the time or the place. But you ran to your room with baby tears, I would have split that table with a sledge hammer and sent all of them crying to their rooms. as I said in another blog post, Grow some ovum. I have had those in my life who attempted to gang up on me, I give them hell in a hand basket, People who know me and love me and those who have tried to inappropriately cross me well, just don't any more, But you seem to invite it in and when you start to drown, you get chunks taken out of you because you lowered yourself in the first place. I have learned how to control dangerous or negative situations in my life training horses, The horse never lies, They can sense weakness fear aggression and will fight back if you pick on them and also need to be taught respect , right out of the gate,,They took a shot at you because you allow it and invite it in.But also pick a fight with a horse for no reason well good luck winning that one,,sometimes I need to check myself..Other times you have to pitch them out run them in little circles until they get so tired then come in licking their lips. To worn out to ever think about doing it to you again, then you praise them reward them and move on . I invite you to come to my ranch and try some horse therapy .You might learn a lot about yourself and how you can live in harmony and gain respect and love by understanding the root of the problem. I don't just climb up on a wild or unruly colt and expect an easy ride, I do the ground work first , I take a step toward them they take a step toward me, And if they get out of line I pitch them out and work them down . I don't quit or cry, I embrace the challenge..teach them in a living but firm manner, that's not right and you will learn if it takes me all day or month that I won't allow that, And then leave it on a good note quit while you are ahead , and just move on .
It's good to see that when it gets to hot the people who can't take the heat are getting out of the kitchen. It appears Tamra is in hiding and not posting here on the Bravo site ..... people in glass houses, shouldn't throw stones and in her case boulders. Good to see that maybe getting a bit of her own medicine she realises how she should act. Can't wait for Bravo to say "Its time to go Tamra".
Maybe, your kids should give you a lesson in bullying. Then, you would see that you are not being bullied! When you start a confrontation with someone, you are the one doing the bullying. Now, I know that may be hard for you to understand, but, that is how it works. After seeing you on the Jay Leno show, I realize that you are not the sharpest knife in the drawer, and probably never have been. I remember you seemed to have trouble when you worked on your local news show as well. Face it babe, you are not too bright. Keep a low profile so no one notices.
It doesn't matter how the three 'Mean Girls' try to spin it, they are bullies. I hope they come to their senses and knock it off. Heather and Tamra have children. Would they be okay with their kids treating someone else like they treat you? And Gretchen wants to have a child. I really hope she grows up first. BTW. I love your new hairstyle Alexis. Very fresh and summery.
After reading this particular blog I have to comment............ YOU WERE INDEED BULLIED AT TAMERA'S PARTY!!!!! And don't EVER forget Gretchen's clap as you were walking out!!! You are spending time around some really nasty fame-whores. Tread slowly and carry a big stick!!! Trust NONE of these women!!!!!
Alexis, it is obvious you have grown a lot since last season. Keep taking the high road!! It doesn't matter if you call it bullying or any other name. That's just semantics. The truth is Tamra, Gretchen, and even sadly Heather are being very mean-spirited. Those women are snotty and bitchy with behavior and comments very unbecoming of ladies. Do not sink to their level and don't let them intimidate you. Fly high above! Much love to you!
Alexis stop jumping into conclusions, you just take things so personally. If you are a real Christian then DON'T HOLD GRUDGES. As the Bible says "For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But, if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive you.
You are the classiest most caring housewife on this show.
Last year I didnt get to know much about JIm, but this year, I found him to be very caring and loving. He gives good advice. Dont put up with the bullies. You go girl !
After the fiasco at Tamra's, it was plainly obvious that you have this game plan that if everybody doesn't agree with you, then you make this blanket victim statement that everybody is bullying you. You're wrong! Even Lydia saw that you weren't bullied.
I'm sorry but I have to agree with the other Housewives about you thinking you're being bullied. I have been bullied all my life and to this day by my older cousin. Being bullied isn't something that's being address by two or more people. Those are opinions. When you have one on one confrontation with someone who has done nothing to u but push you around on the playground, make fun of you in class, makes you feel like you're two feet tall when walking through the hallways or even into a room alone. Someone who u can't get away from even if you try. That is being bullied. A group of people who give their opinions about u to your face to let u know why they think the way they do about u isn't being bullied. Bullies are people who make u want to try and or even consider committing suicide. Making you feel like u have no place in this world. So please stop saying you're being bullied when you're not. It's offensive and ignorant. Thanks.
Bully*bullied*bullying...has not age limited, has no economic status...no gender..ethnicity or creed...
I am sure if Alexis didn't sign a contract she would not hang around those "girls"
We need Heather, Gretchen, and Tamra to fight on the side of the rebels in Syria. They would kick some serious butt in a real civil war. They are wasting their talents on a reality show.
Ship em all off to the Mideast where their talents for attacking others can be put to better use and perhaps make a difference in the world.
Hang in there Alexis.
Alexis, it's really very simple. The girls don't like you because of how you behave. That's it. And how you behaved at Tamra's dinner party, once everyone sat down, told us reams about you: that's you're totally self-absorbed, narcissistic. Change that, and you'll gain many, many more friends.
Let's get one thing straight. All that the Real Housewives franchises are, in theory, nothing more than a soap opera version of Survivor. We all, thoroughly enjoy watching the drama and we take pleasure in hating and loving them all. For those of you that take the time to post comments, have fun with it. Don't take it so personally. I'm more than confident that if the RHOC were thrown onto an island amongst non friendlies, they would most definitely put aside their differences, come together and bond to kick some @$$ and then promptly go back to their childish dramatics as soon as they were back in civilization. It's called entertainment and each and everyone of them are earning their checks;-)
Having said that, bring it on bitches!
@MizzouTraveler OMG....so well put.....exactly...but I have noticed that because I don't fight on a team, but comment randomly the way I perceive something,,,it is not always posted...which is ok...but I see a pattern....apparently if there is something the hw character does not want to be reminded of...it seems to be taken quite personal by whoever approves posts...you notice the same person you post to continually takes offense....that is pretty lame for them to be on an entertainment show where tons of controversial behavior goes on and comments are squashed as if we are looking into their windows...we are not....this show is taped and edited, so it has lots of room for scene changes and do overs...nothing real about that...when i comment...i feel like i am commenting on what the show wants to put out and nothing more....the show Survivor does come to mind...all these women are trying to survive and reinvent themselves all the time....as we all should do....good points you made
You went trying to be a good friend to Vicki. Stick with Vicki and stay away from the mean girls! They are trying to bully you off the show, and the fans want Tamra and Gretchen gone, not you or Vicki!
Alexis, I think that going to Tamra's party was a bad move . Vicki should have known better than to invite you to go with her. She knew that Tamra was going to go off on you. Tamra, Gretchen, and Heather love to gang on you whenever they get together and I think they are jealous of you because you have the husband and family they would like to have. Gretchen has nothing and Heather has the whole thing but seems so unhappy!!! Vicki should have walked out with you the minute Tamra kicked you out. Instead she sat there and tried to please Tamra. The new girl of the group needs to be her own person. She seems to be saying all this neutral stuff instead of getting on one team. Stay away from these woman Alexis . They are toxic and want to bring you down. It's like they just don't want you in the group no matter how nice you are to them.
Dallaschica Tamra , Getchen and Heather are jealous of Alexis and would like to have a husband like ..JIM.. LOL . you are obviously watching a different show to me and a different JIM cant imagine either Tamra or Heather to be happy with a control freak husband,... yeah good call, BLAME VIKKI, as poor Alexis had no choice, as Vikki dragged innocent Alexis to the party by the hair
Alexis, I am outraged by the behavior of Tamra, Gretchen and Heather. You came in peace, you offered to talk privately with Tamra and you didn't react when she kicked you out. She is a vile, crass moron and anyone dumb enough to be her friend deserves her. You were in the right and I am sorry it happened. Yes they were bullies and no we should not be afraid to use that word. Please don't give them any more ammunition. Avoid them. You don't want their crude, craven behavior rubbing off on you.
I Luv u, and Vicki.... Fall back and let the rest of the girls @like Jerksand for The record you were being gang up on bullied and the hole everything else....
Alexis, I am so proud how you handle yourself after being viciously attacked by Heather, Tamra, And Gretchen...you stayed strong through it all. I LOVE YOU!!! and Please never leave the show, you're an inspiration to me! <3 STAY STRONG ALEXIS!!! YOU GOT YOUR FANS SUPPORT!
Would you please stop saying you are being bullied?! You are NOT!! This victim role of your's is getting old and tiresome. If you don't like how the other girls treat you then stop going around them. You have a great family and good friends, focus on that.
Looise45 Exactly!!! so sick of the bully word used so lightly - in the mean times kids are getting beat up at school or are committing suicide because they were made fun of being gay - there's a huge difference here - she has Big Panties!!! Grow up!
You need to get your fact straight Vivdancing. Bullying is behavior that goes far beyond the playground and classroom. Companies in America are spending billions of dollars in paying out money for cases they have lost because an employee has filed a case with the EEOC for being bullied. Bullying is when a person is attacked, whether by one person, or in Alexis's case by several. Those women use intimidation tactics (such as not speaking to her, leaving her out of activities, and other subtle forms of cruelty) to bully her. You need to research the internet and find some legal sites that will help you become informed on the definition of bullies. You and the housewives who don't know the scope of this problem need information.
Looise45Yes, three or four people, planning a "confrontation" on a trip where she needs to get on a plane to leave, is bullying. Extreme bullying.
Absolutely Ilcntrygrl. The comments here in which people disagree that the behavior in question was bullying need to research and get their facts straight. The law is clear on what constitutes bullying, and in Alexis's case, it is classic.
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NOT!!! People telling you that they don't like your behavior is not bullying! They did not have trapped. She could have left and no hurt, harm or danger was going to come to her. Please stop with the non sense! I was bullied daily and afraid because my safety was threaten. I have no room for these rich people problems!!
cbush235 suzanneszq ilcntrygrl Looise45 I agree , I was bullied for nearly 10 years, , and it turns my stomach to see alexis on the show, telling everyone she is a victim of bulling.... she openly walked into a party where she claimed these women were bullying her previously.... why ?? Because she likes to play the victim. and the poor me syndrome, yes i agree 100%, tamra 's behaviour NOT ACCEPTABLE . Alexis is an adult and has choices , her choice was to attend the party, she could have easily refused, she could have stood up to leave the minute she felt uncomfortable with these women, but again she made a choice. if alexis is that affected why can she not walk away from these.." bullies"....
oh yeah I forgot, she. want to show her kids how to stand up to bullies. and your on medication because of how these women treat you.. you are full of bull....judging from the comments you are fooling a lot of people with your phony holier than thou attitude. but i guess at the end of the day your laughing all the way to the bank .
Looise45 I don;t think she can stop being around them...its probably in her contract...I think she is being bullied...there is no age limit...or economic status that makes you immune.
Sm1lingEv_day Looise45 im sure if shes on medication due to stress and anxiety, she would be able to get out of her contract due to medical health reasons, why would anyone put them selves through all that torture and bullying, it doesnt make sense. and we all know.. when something does not make sense.... ITS NORMALLY NOT TRUE !!!!!!!
Alexis, keep being you and keep your head up! True, kind, caring people like yourself will always prevail! Have a beautiful day with your family and friends!
I think you are such a classy woman. Last season you accomplished so much, the dress line, the Fox 5 spot, the cameo on a national tv show, General Hospital or was it All my Children? Anyways those a serious accomplishments that you should be very proud of. I wish you can continue with your career. Spending personal time with Vicki could really assist you in getting a plan together. I know the kids and family are a priority but soon they'll be in school and you'll have more free time. You have a lot of natural talent. Wishing you the best.
CarmenE Oh Carmen honey, if you're a Christian do you not take medication if you have cancer, diabetes, or heart disease? Please shut up if you don't have a medical degree. Alexis' doctor prescribed a medication to her for a legitimate medical problem. It has nothing to do with her religious affiliation. Look up anxiety online if you don't understand it's implications and effects on the BODY and mind. You aren't a doctor and you aren't God and you obviously aren't qualified to be giving advice on this topic.
You tell me to “shut up”, well you just showed your immaturity on not being able to have a civil conversation here. I can see now why you defend Alexis and her bad behavior, so I won't reply any further to your comments.
CarmenE doxyroxyCarmen, you were not being civil. wow, who do you think you are?! I guess everyone is wrong but you. Tamra, um, I mean Carmen.
The problem with some here is they take things out of context. To compare the illness of cancer, heart failure, etc. to a conversation between 5 women trying to get clarity on a situation is absurd. Obviously they watch the show in the same manner, hear what they want, see what they want and the truth gets left behind.
CarmenEThe point being made is that anxiety is an illness, and Xanax is a treatment for anxiety. You are the one trying to take her medication out of context. Geez, no wonder the other lady told you to shut up. Tamra.
It's really sad that some of you come on here and act so immature. I will not fight with any of you. It is obvious some of you take things out of context and I have no time for that. May God bless you.
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