Cast Blog: #RHOC

Wearing a CZ Isn't Phony

Alexis comments on Briana's feelings on Brooks and wonders why Heather is still talking about her wedding ring.

I wanted to preface this blog by saying it's hard to think about anything else when there are so many people in Boston suffering right now. My thoughts and prayers go out to them all. I love what President Obama said, "On days like this there are no Republicans or Democrats. We are all Americans, united in concern for our fellow Americans."  I pray God wraps his arms around all the victims and their families right now.

Although it's difficult to do, I'm going to move on to happier thoughts. . .

Happy eight-year anniversary to my gorgeous husband, Jim Bellino! We are not celebrating until the end of the month, but I had to open my blog with that because he is my best friend, my love, and my boo-boo. (Do NOT tell him I called him that! HAHA!) He makes my dark days bright, he is the best father to my children I could have asked for and he loves me for who I am. Oh, and HALLELUJAH. . .we made it past the 7 year itch!!! LOL!

I love it when episodes start off positive! You finally get to meet baby Troy. How freaking cute is that baby? I just couldn’t quit smelling his little head the entire visit! Briana is such a good mommy! It brought tears to my eyes to see her and Troy together. I love when moms finally get to feel what everyone always says, "that there is no love like the love you have for your child."

On that note, I am truly having baby fever. The only problem is that I can't figure out a way to get Jim on board for Bambino Number 4 (and I kind of need him for this...). If anyone has any advice please share it with me! For the first time in our eight year marriage, our age difference is actually becoming an issue. I am 36 years old, and my clock is ticking, and Jim is 50 years old and his kitchen is closed! I told him that he needs to buck up and deliver because it's his fault he chose a younger wifey! Ha, unfortunately, that didn't work. HELP ME!!!

My opinion on Vicki and Brooks stays firm in what I have said the past year, and that is that Vicki needs to make the decision on her own. When I asked Briana how she felt about it, I was hoping to get a different answer than I did. I thought maybe having baby Troy would help Briana look at things differently. I knew Briana was completely against her mom dating Brooks, however, it's not really Briana's choice. I am not being insensitive to Briana, however, as I have already said in several of my blogs. Vicki is a 51 year old woman, who can make up her own mind. Whether Brooks is good or bad for Vicki, she will discover it on her own. It's like a mom telling her child not to touch the oven...some children must touch the oven and learn the hard way.

I feel bad that Vicki and Briana are experiencing this stress in their relationship. It must be difficult when your daughter is giving you an ultimatum, and who knows -- I may react the exact same way as Vicki if one of my daughters did.

By the way, many of you have asked me this and the pink maxi I wore to visit baby Troy is from my line Alexis by Tal Sheyn! Thank you for your compliments about it! Go to AlexisByTalsheyn.com to find it!

It was funny watching Tamra and Gretchen baby shopping! Those two dress similar in every scene. Do you notice that?

It's always difficult to blog on scenes that took place months ago because often times the relationships are different when the scene actually airs. The next scene is the perfect example of this because Heather and I are currently in a better place and I don't want to confuse now for then. However, there are things I must comment from this episode.

Heather making the remark about my cubic zirconia is uncalled for. The fact is (and I explained this to all the women) that I only wore a cubic zirconia to Costa Rica because it was unsafe to wear my real diamond wedding ring. However, thanks to the women making fun of me, I have since given my extremely nice cubic zirconia away. I wear an eternity band now when I travel without Jim. It's sad and irritating that I let their comments affect me, but the truth is that it did. Calling me phony for wearing it is actually incorrect. It's the exact opposite of phony. If I had NOT admitted that I wore a cubic zirconia, then THAT would have been phony. I was authentic and honest about the CZ, and I didn't hesitate to tell them. I honestly never thought it would have offended the ladies so much. I have many wealthy friends that travel with cubic zirconias, and hopefully they haven't allowed this judging to change their ways like I did. By the way. . .why was my wedding ring even a topic of conversation the first time Heather met Lydia?

Ending on a positive note, I’m so glad you all get to know Lydia this episode! She is a happy yet STERN girl and I think you all will really like her. I love that she is always smiling, yet if you cross her, she will bite your head off! The dinner and boat ride with her and Doug looked amazing. They are a cute couple. The duck call really summed up her personality!

I know you can all tell from the preview that the next few weeks are going to be CRAZY! I will probably be watching with one eye closed...

Til next week,
Alexis

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Lizzie: Tamra Doesn't Fight Fair

Lizzie thinks Tamra's comments about her children were meant to deflect from her own problems.

Happy Labor Day!!! I am going to make this blog short and sweet. It’s a holiday and I am going to be spending the day with family in Newport wearing a Sun Kitten and a smile. I hope you all are having a great holiday weekend.

To be honest, the second half of the Reunion was hard to watch. I think it got too ugly. I am not going to insult any of your intelligence in explaining this episode. We all know that misery loves company, and "projection" is as easy to spot as a $2 dollar bill. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that everything miserable that comes out of Tamra's mouth is a direct reflection of what is going on in her life. In my opinion, children are off limits. It's quite apparent that Tamra does not fight fair and when all else fails she will throw your kids, marriage, and even your body under the bus in an attempt to hurt you. We filmed the reunion for over 10 hours and after listening to so much ugliness my heart just couldn't take it anymore.

I do not regret telling Shannon all the things that Tamra said about her. Everything I shared with Shannon was something that happened and was said on camera. I didn't take anything and create unnecessary drama. I would do it again in a heartbeat and I would think my friends would do the same for me. I simply did not know the truth about Tamra. Danielle told me all the things Tamra said about me. That is why after my birthday I was so hurt by her. It's hard for viewers to understand because these things weren't in the show. She could have called me and said she wasn't coming. I called her after sitting on the bus for over an hour. The next day she made fun of me to Danielle, in addition to asking plenty of questions looking for negative details regarding my party.

On that one-year free membership to Cut Fitness: Let's delve into this shall we? I was the one that contacted Tamra days after my party. She did not contact me to give me present. I had invited Tamra, Eddie, Danielle, Joe, Heather, and Terry to the Kentucky Derby and Tamra was the only person that had not sent in the RSVP. It was past the deadline and it was getting borderline rude at this point. Tamra, in fact, was making fun of the Kentucky Derby and the charity event that would be hosting us to Danielle. So, I reached out to Tamra regarding the Kentucky Derby and she texted me back saying, "I want to give you a free membership to CUT for your birthday." Tamra knows I am already a member to a sports club and that was the last I heard of this "free membership." I never received any kind of certificate or card for membership. I suppose she thought I would have the gall to show up and say, "I got a text message from Tamra for a free membership!" It's almost laughable. Needless to say, I don't go to her gym and she didn't attend the Kentucky Derby with me.

There is nothing else to say regarding the Shag, Marry, Kill game that I haven't already discussed in great length in any of my previous blogs. I said the word "marry" and that's that. Tamra even glared at me on the way out of the Valentine's Party and repeated it. "Marry you?" Tamra has said multiple times she couldn't even remember because she drank too much and there are even text messages where she says it too. Her story changes continually, like the words that come out both sides of her mouth.

During the Reunion, Tamra said many more hurtful things that you didn't see. She went on to talk about my son Preston and my marriage. We all remember the episode in the park where Preston hit me on the head with his elephant. He was asleep in the car and he had a mini temper tantrum. He was three -- it happens. I would assume most mothers have had it happen at some point. In addition, my husband and I got in a fight on my birthday. I feel awful about it, yet it made us closer. I just wanted what every woman wants -- to feel special because of her man. I am a big time believer in learning from your mistakes and that won't ever happen again. However none of those incidents had anything to do with Tamra. But on her quest to hurt everyone, she managed to drag in some irrelevant topics. I know it's all to deflect from what's going on in her life and to make someone else look bad. . .but it does hurt nonetheless. My babies and my marriage are my life so I guess her goal was to attack the things closest to my heart because she can't fight fair.

I hope you enjoyed this season and I hope you had a fabulous summer!!! The fall is my absolute favorite time of year, so I say bring on football and cooler weather.

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