Alexis Bellino

Alexis explains why she's a part of Season 8 and what really happened with Tamra's "Jesus Jugs" comment.

on Apr 5, 20130

The style of this home is different than any other home Jim and I have owned, so it has been a really fun project. It is Spanish/Old World theme, and Jim and I like modern, so we decided to add just a touch of modern flare, and I think our home came out beautifully. Jim and I were renting for 11 months, and I was ready to have a place to call home -- where I could paint what I wanted, decorate how I wanted, and not worry if the kids spill cranberry juice on a rug that I didn't own! It wasn't easy remodeling this home, but holy cow, I finally feel settled. I love, love, love it! We are almost completely finished remodeling. The only thing left is the garage and the the kids' bathrooms and, to be honest, I am tired of having construction going on so I have put a "hold" on those two projects. Lucky for you, you all will probably follow me on that stressful, dirty project next year. Yuck, I do not look forward to it.

There is one thing I want clear up from this episode, and that is that I WAS NOT suing Tamra for the "Jesus Jugs" comment. You cannot sue for blasphemy, so it's ridiculous for Tamra to even make that statement (although we should all pray right now!). Jim and I went through a year of Tamra making false accusations, spreading false rumors, and telling lies and we were tired of it. You CAN sue for defamation, slander, and libel and that is exactly what we were prepared to do if she didn't stop. Once we met with our attorney and heard our rights, we knew we had a case. I have all the tweets saved, all the quotes documented, and we had enough evidence to pursue a case, so we made it known. And I guess she got the point (that we would have sued her) because she shut up.

258 comments
jwhit
jwhit

Alexis I hate to be the one to tell you this but you do act like your all that and a piece of cake too and you are not being bullied so stop throwing that word around like you are and I agree, a robber or mugger is not going to stop and ask you if the ring your wearing is real or fake and wait on you to get the good stuff, he is either going to rob or mug you period.  Last year your best friend was Gretchen this year it's Vicki, who looks and acts very old.  Don't you ever get tired of changing best friends, and if you and your husband's actions are those of a christian then give me the devil every time, cause if either one of you were real christian's you would both learn to turn the other cheek and learn forgiveness...real forgiveness and not some kind you make up in your mind and the only reason you don't like what Tamara or Gretchin have to say to you or about you is because they are speaking the truth...Some people would look at what all the women especially Tamara has to say as bad behavior but to sue her just cause she says or does something you don't like at the time (remember there was a time when you went after Vicki the same way) is just wrong...I say this cause you shouldn't get mad about the "Jesus Jugs" comment (after all you did have a breast job, a nose job, etc...) and going after them in court or whatever is just wrong and even though they are talking about Vicki now (who you used to not be able to stand) and you are standing up for her cause you have simply run out of friends or people you seem to think or friends, remember that Tamara, (the big bad bully) used to be friends with Vicki for a very long time and if I've learned anything by watching all these real housewives shows its you need to keep your friends real close and know what they are saying about and to you at all time...

Trophyclubwife_71
Trophyclubwife_71

Hi Aexis, I think you should sue her. Obviously Tamra doesn't realize there are consequences for bad behavior. She's been behaving this way since the day she came on the show and doesn't stop. Money is always a good motivator for tempering actions when someone can not be dealt with like an adult.

BevMac2
BevMac2

Bullies come in all ages and sizes. This was proven on this episode!

tlanderson354
tlanderson354

Alexis, I believe the other women on RHOOC are jealous of you because you are prettier than any of them.  

 

Realfanhouse
Realfanhouse

You signed up to be on a Housewives franchise, and you do not like name calling? Collect the paycheck and take it, or walk away. It is that simple.

Tesh13
Tesh13

Alexis I love your family. I think you are a beautiful person and I wish the best for you. You are strong and you give other women strength. :-)

MusicLover13
MusicLover13

Alexis, You are a beautiful woman on the inside and out. I can relate, because I've been in the same situations before. Sometimes, we have to do through these trials to really find out who our true friends are. Tamara is just terrible and it's unfortunate that Gretchen is now following in her footsteps. She used to be so nice and now, she's turning in to Terible Tamara 2! Focus on your husabnd and your family and don't let this stuff get you down. Hey, we live in a beautiful city. Come take yoga on the beacj in the morning, you would love it!  I just love Orange County :) Wouldn't ever leave!! :) 

2thDRinTN
2thDRinTN

I hate seeing grown women so overuse and misuse the word bullying. When you can give it back like you do and talk over others, that sure isn't bullying. I don't think that the situation in San Francisco was any different with Vicki. She wasn't bullied anymore than you. It is grown women expressing their opinion to each other. Watch Tamara's party episode and I think you will see that there was no bullying. I am sorry you can't all get along, but the way the word BULLY is being thrown around in reality tv, is hurting the true victims of bullying. Good luck to all this season.

Ablolu
Ablolu

I tried to watch this season but can't stand it......Alexis, I'm so sorry they are treating you this way......I'm sorry too that you came back.....bless your soul and heart for trying, I'll give you that.....you tried but it's hard to clean up trash....I suggest you throw it all out of your life.  Good luck to you and your family.  You have a kind heart, you'll be ok.  

As they say....I'm done.

LosAngelesBravoLover
LosAngelesBravoLover

Not a fan. For some reason you are reminding me of Adrienne....I fast forward your scenes....

jennj3
jennj3

Oh, and I LOVE that you let Tamara know to shut her trap... or else! YES!! Mwhahaha! That's all the damn girl needed to do... course she don't get it, she just runs her mouth again and again... but one can hope. Not holding my breath or anything... member what she did to Vicki and Eddie when they all went to Catalina or somewhere with Brooks... and she got all bent up jealous over Vicki and Eddie having fun, she said they were flirting. Seriously! I thought 'pleeease tell me you're not that insecure'.... but she definitely showed otherwise. That's why she's so busy talking trash about EVERYone else, to try and keep the trash off of her. Though, in doing so, she makes it evident. Ok, nuff said... way to go, Lex & Jim! 

jennj3
jennj3

I'm real glad you came back, Lex! I loved reading this blog and I think you're awesome. I'm happy to hear you're in a better place now, and won't continue to let people who don't seem to give a damn about you or your family tear you down. You do not deserve that. I hate who Gretchen has turned into since she became Tamara's side kick. After you had her back for seasons, years really! She dropped you because of the BS Tamara was putting in her ear. It's sad. She could be your friend through all those seasons when NO one else wanted to be her friend... and all those times you picked her up after Tamara knocked her down... when it came time that you needed her help with Tamara, she turned on you. I REALLY hoped last season that Gretchen would've told Tamara to stop what she was doing to you. If Tamara was really her friend, I felt she would've listened. But Wretch, I mean Gretch didn't have the balls to stand up to Tamara for you after she got on her nice (kissbutt) list. I'm sorry G did that to you, most of all, that had to hurt the worst!! No worries though.. you got Vicki on your side and I genuinely think if she doesn't have Tamara in her ear, she'll show us her nicer side. I believe she has a good heart. Tamara and Gretchen... not so sure... maybe they belong together! Can't wait for more RHOOC!!!

qdntoy54
qdntoy54

It would have been so much nicer if you didn't come back!  You are so phony, so immature, so nasty, I can not believe you are a real "Christian".  You owe people who have really been bullied an apology!  When people try to give construction comments about your faults, you might listen to them and change her horrible actions instead of whining and boo hooing, you might just grow up and become a better person.

gibsontara34
gibsontara34

Tamra has evil in her - I can see it in her face and EYES.. no pun intended (evil eye)

goldyeelox
goldyeelox

Good for you that you did not quit.  You are absolutely RIGHT that the so called discussion in Costa Rica did not come from a place of love.  If it came from love, it would have been a different kind of offering.  Tamra is horrible.

kerrylil1
kerrylil1

Dont forget how awful Vicki was to you the first couple years. She is only making nice now because 1) she has no one else who will put up with her garbage, and 2) she is trying to upset Tamra by being your friend since Tamra became friends with Gretchen. Vicki even admitted to this last year ON CAMERA.

Your desire to be liked no matter who you have to pretend to be is very sad and telling.

debi.henderson.5
debi.henderson.5

Blasphemy is the act of insulting or showing contempt or lack of reverence for a religious deity or the irreverence towards religious or holy persons or things. 

You are none of these things. 

Maur
Maur

Hi Alexis be strong! Tamra is the biggest Boole I aver sow she has no respect for other people feelings she thinks she is all that but it's no thru .she was after every one on this show and now is your time but smart and don't let her get to u. Good luck!

Marie-Elizabeth0918
Marie-Elizabeth0918

It is my observation, as limited as it is as a viewer, is that their cruelty was in part due to their frustration of trying find out who the "real" Alexis was without all the window dressing.  And, conversely I believe you are not a materialistic lady but rather an insecure soul who doesn't believe in your true worth.  Because of that you feel the need to impress others with things that are tangible and materialistic. 

 

My sincere hope is that you receive this letter with all the good intentions I mean to send.  Remember, the beautiful you is what comes from your heart and soul.  You don't have to lead with all that goes glitter.

 

All the very best to you and your family

JEBFP6969
JEBFP6969

Love the new hair! I think the girls tried to tell you things you needed to know, but went about it in the wrong way.  I hope you got the message though & didn't disregard it just because the delivery as wrong.  I disagree with Jim about them going at you like a pack of wolves, come on now, it may have hurt, but it wasn't all that.  Stay real.  I think you do not dress like the Bible says to dress, but that's between you & God.  Best of luck to you & your family!

motherofthreebeauties
motherofthreebeauties

Alexis you are the only real housewife on this show who actually spends time with her kids and has a positive attitude.   You are my favorite housewife.   Bravo needs to get rid of Tamra, Gretchen & Heather, their negativity brings the show down.

 

Kudos to you for standing tall and not quitting the show.  I really enjoy watching you and your family.

roshy41
roshy41

Hey Lexy, :) I am so glad you didn't flee, from those crazy Academay award wannbee's. I like you, alot. Each person is different, (can you imagine if we all were alike, blahhh) Jealous!!! Ya think!!! Sit back and analyze the haters. Judgement and cliquish ways, soo tweenish. Watch what is revealed. It's been proven time and time again. Some thanks to Bravo for that. (following ppl and their daily living habits) Look at Vicki, i know that's your girl. But i've never missed an episode, from the the very first time it aired. Vicki went from soft spoken business woman, to raging bull, to insecure puppy, and now she wants her reign back. I don't feel sorry for you Vicki. Alexis, do not follow in their steps. Heather will soon be exposed.

1ocfan
1ocfan

Alexis I am so glad you can back. You did not deserve what some of the other women did to you last year. I agree with you that they ganged up on you. Tamra is a very mean, crude person and I'm glad you didn't let her bully you off the show and Heather is just a snob. I don't think you could be any more pretentious that her. I hope Gretchen see's those two for who they really are before its too late.  Love your new hair style..

teakee1980
teakee1980

I honestly LOVE you!! We have talked a bit on twitter & you prayed with me a few days before my surgery a few years back... you sent prayers to me & my family when my father passed away January 29th of this year and again on March 12th when my Uncle unexpectedly passed away. You are one of the most caring, honest. loving, sweet wives on RHOC, and that's the TRUTH! I've written to Jim on his blog posts as well... ya'll are both very sweet to ya'll's fans & have NEVER treated us badly. 

I am so glad you decided to come back for the 8th season & I look forward to seeing you on every episode and every season from here on out!! 

 

LOTS OF LOVE#TeamAlexis 

jgallo33
jgallo33

I completely understand how you feel about owning your own home. We are currently having one built and I cannot WAIT to paint and decorate it and truly make it a home! :)

AnneGirl
AnneGirl

The other women (Vickie excluded) are very nasty to you on the show.  I'm glad you're back.  You are the best part of this show!

Lck
Lck

I'm glad you and Gretchen got rid of those cheap looking hair extensions. You both look much younger. Hope Tamra is next..it really bugs me. More isn't always more.

dobnerk
dobnerk

I think that you should run for your life.  These women have very dark souls.  The word evil comes to mind so often when I'm watching.  Don't let them get to you!!!!

mp.212
mp.212

I will admit I wasn't fond of you last season because you DID come off as pretentious, due to the fact that you consistently kept talking about (expensive) materialistic things and it just got old, quick. Nevertheless, I give you props for focusing more on your family by being a better wife and mother. Love your new hair btw! I do really want to like you because, like you, I am a Christian, and believe that we makes mistakes but must do our best to hold each other accountable, while supporting and encouraging one another. That being said, the one thing I'm sorry, I will never agree with you on is this bullying issue. Did the other women attack you? Yes. Did they say hurtful things? Yes. Did they come at you in Costa Rica? Yes (though the ONLY one who "attacked" you was Tamara). But did they bully you? NO. You are an ADULT. Adults do Not get bullied, CHILDREN DO because they can't defend themselves. That's what adults are for! Being told you are pretentious, materialistic, etc. by some caddy women at some dinner is NOT bullying. It's simply women being immature and stupid. Children all over are getting teased, put down, and literally beaten for being a different race, gender, weight size, etc. it's completely HORRIBLE and heart-wrenching to think about, but it's true, and it literally makes me want to throw-up. So, I'm sorry, but don't you dare try to stick yourself in the same boat as these children, some whom have taken their own, precious lives because of the way they were treated, all because someone ignorant woman called you "Jesus Barbie." If adults can't hold each other accountable and they act like children, then who are the children supposed to lean on, look up to, and go to for help?? Please tell me that. I've been "attacked" by girls verbally (like EVERY other girl) and you know what? It sucks, bad. So, I understand where you're coming from, but bullying is a very big and very REAL subject that should be taken much more seriously, and I don't think that you should use it in reference to what has occurred in your life from last season. Just my personal opinion.

Nora-Jane
Nora-Jane

Good luck with Sky Zone. It looks fun!

natashaoo7
natashaoo7

I love how you and your husband have kept it moving! You were a friend to Gretchen and she chose to follow such a mean spirit like Tamara. Your a good person remember that and you didn't lose anything it just shows the beautiful spirit that you have . Congrats on your family business...

indyswim
indyswim

Alexis,

Love the new haircut! Now you don't look like Tamara and Gretchen which is a good thing!! Congrats on the new Skyzone business! We have two were we live now and LOVE them! Don't listen to what Gretchen and Tamara say they "THINK" they rule the world and that revolves around them but honestly no one cares what they say. It's usually trash that comes out of their mouths anyway!

peqn8
peqn8

Alexis, when somebody tell you that it seem that you ask permission to your husband just tell them, so what! At the end only you and your husband know about your marriage. There’s nothing wrong to owning what you do, who the heck cares what anyone thinks.

summer123
summer123

I do like you. I think you probably name drop too much or talk too much about money related stuff but hey you are in Orange County and that seems to be what people do there. No fear. You are loved by many and your spirit shines. I worry about your husband and how he treats you but sometimes woman like the domineering men. Just don't settle for things you do want in life. Seems like the Fox 5 was something you were really excited about. Its def. hard to juggle but now is the time to take advantage of some of this fame coming your way but keep it in perspective. I think you have the right priorities. Your family, your husband, God, and being a good friend. Karma will take care of the other ladies and their bad behavior.

90210_latin83
90210_latin83

So gorgeous and sweet and regardless of what you do or how you do things Tamera and her little followers of trash are SOOO JELOUS OF YOU! well as they should be, they're all OLD and traggic! your fabs! keep it up! p.s love vickie!

Passion8Lily
Passion8Lily

Alexis,

I dont think you are bullied. Honestly I think this petty stuff between you and the other girls is ridiculous. Not pointing fingers- everyone has thier part on the blame. But hun, you have got to get over your insecurities and gain a little self confidence. You are GORGEOUS! And obviously extremely talented! You dont have to win anyone over. Just be your sweet self. I honestly think that once you and the other girls put all this behind you and move forward, you ladies will rock the OC! Honestly, you are not much different from them. You are all wonderful and I know you can be great friends!

 

Looking forward to the season :) Prayers to you and your family!

countrykimbers
countrykimbers

 @2thDRinTN Yeah remember last season Gretchen called Vicki a bully after their screaming match at Tamra's 80's party? Funny how now she is attacking Alexis for using that word to describe three people and not just one...

ScottsdaleJoy
ScottsdaleJoy

It's "constructive criticism" they were trying to give Alexis, by the way, which is yes ganging up on someone and yes bullying. Bullying comes in many forms. Alexis owes no one an apology. These women have a lot more faults than Alexis and one of them is compassion. Would you accept friends like this? Alexis has acted like a lady with class. These other women, even with all their money and status will never have class; it can't be taught..

PGurl
PGurl

 @mp.212 Adults get bullied too. Check definition online. Its not limited to children. What she  going through is workplace bullying. No I do not think she was bullied in Costa Rica,but the other crap they pulled on her Yes!.

Suzanna
Suzanna

 @mp.212 I don't understand? You mean to tell us that adults ( mostly women) that are beaten and it does not matter by who are not bullied and put down, told they are not worth anything? If that were true then I don't think we would have as many social workers, Psy., and shelters, learning centers and things of such nature. Come on ? If a person is screaming at you while telling you that you are fake and calls you disgusting names including body parts.. I don't care what its called >>>> I call it WRONG, cowardly,  childish, disgusting. Whatever the name you want to use for it.. Who cares, your missing the point by putting attention on the name of it and not the act of it.  Maybe one reason why we never get any where is someone  always analyse the terms to death. 

 

I know Alexis was not beaten..but words hurt just as bad and the effects of it last.

calimom@reno1
calimom@reno1

@mp.212 I'm sorry. Adults can be bullied. It's called domestic violence. I agree that Alexis wasn't bullied but please don't imply that all adults are strong enough to defend themselves in a no win situation, including emotional as well as physical abuse. I work with women every day in this kind of situation. I'd like you to tell them they weren't bullied when their partner beat them into submission and demoralized them so badly they felt they didn't have the right to defend themselves let alone the capability. Sorry for the rant, but you really struck a nerve.

dobnerk
dobnerk

 @Passion8Lily Except that the other ladies are mean and nasty and they don't like nice women.  They will be 90 before they have enough maturity to actually like a nice person.   

coloitalian
coloitalian

 @Passion8Lily I agree with part of your statement.  I do think that Alexis needs to be a little more secure with herself and that she has a lot to be secure about.  I think her insecurity is what caused her to do some of the silly, pretentious things she did, including the way the others indicate she treats sales, people, etc.  If the viewers can see that, why couldn't her cast mates and approach her with kindness (outside of Tamara, who is obviously incapable of kindness unless it is self-serving)?  I would not equate her behavior with the others, though.  It would have been so easy for her to distance herself from Wretched when the others were so harsh and judgmental of her; instead she showed her kindness.  She was loyal to Wretched, even though it certainly increased the fire she was under from Tamara and Vicki.  While I can say that I have seen loyalty and kindness from Vicki (and kindness from Heather), I have never seen any kindness nor loyalty from Wretched and Barnyard unless it was self-serving.  I really wish that Bravo would dump these two back at the trailer park where they belong.  Please note that when I refer to trailer park, I am not referring to a geographical place; rather, I mean it metophorically.  There are many decent, classy people who live in a trailer, I am sure.  I am more referring to a lack of class and values.

studenthousewife
studenthousewife

 @ScottsdaleJoy

 its called an intervention.  do you not remember the season where her friend who had relations with her husband years past and Alexis started in on her.  This young girl needs to grow up and face her demons.  She is far from christian. Christains live by Acknowledgeing that you have faults and then repent -- change your attitudes and pray. Try to see the perspectives (point of view) of others, even if you personally disagree with them.  All I hear is sniff sniff waa waa, someone get this girl a diaper and a burp cloth, cause she is missing her big girl panties