You can be "concerned" all you want, but your mother is a capable, strong and reaching woman. She will make her mistakes in life, but she has watched you  grow up making your own mistkes. I find it ironic that you didn't feel it necessary to tell your mother you were getting married, and even more revealing, did not invite her. With that message, you disinvited your mother from your life in significant ways. She does NOT need your pernission to be a grown woman. She tolerated an incredible, humiliating hurt from you, You don't get to have it both ways, You separated from her, at a time all mothers dream of, their daughter's wedding, deprived her of that joy. So, let her live her life, please. She is an admirable woman who makes mistakes, but her work ethic has served her well, especially in how you turned out. You could thank her, you know, for all you like about yourself because she probably contributed greatly, and then take responsibility for your human failings, because they are yours and yours alone. I do like you. You are my first daughter's true twin.

Wow, if my daughter and husband moved into my house rent free and he told me who I could have come into my house I would move his ass out in a hurry.  What a jerk, since when did he become the man of the house?  If he wasn't married to Vicki's daughter he sure as hell couldn't afford to live in O.C. Obviously you are holding the baby as a trump card to exercise the control over Vicki that you have.  Not nice 

Briana I think you are spot-on re:Brooks. He is very shady and I think your Mom is so desperate to have a man love her,,, any man.. that she is willing to accept/ignore the warning signs. I find him very icky....I do, however, think that it is not right for you to tell her she cannot see him in her own home. I think you should move out so you can keep your distance from Brooks ...she is an adult and entitled to make mistakes...I would be worried about him somehow getting control of her finances but I do not know any way in which you can protect her from that. she may have to get burned to wake up.

Ryan comes across very controlling!!! I think that he and Briana should stay in their place (a child's place...yeah they grown).  I understand that Ryan and Briana don't care for Brooks; hell, no one does (on the show) but, they're taking it too far. They will have Vickie's love for them and their brand new baby choose...

I don't really care for Brooks either but, I feel like it's Vickie's life and like she said, she just want to be happy in her later years, etc. If she is making the wrong choice, then so be it!!! Just be there for her, to pick up the pieces.

The two (grown) KIDS will gladly use Vickie's love for their child against her and take the baby and leave.  That's crazy!!! What's even crazier is that, they need to have their own place anyway. You can't come into Vickie's home, making her scared to have company (Brooks) in her own home.  I know that Vickie want them there (especially, the baby); I'm a grandmother too.  But enough is enough.

Briana and Ryan just shouldn't be mean about it!!!

Get your own place! YOu are a big girl now with a family.

Your mother is a very bright woman; she runs a very successful business and has raised two wonderful children.  She has earned your respect; you have not earned theright to run her life.

Hi Brianna,

     I had no idea you had a "voice" on this venue; I'm glad that you do. I posted a blog to your mom's (lol) for lack of a better word "spot" on this site and had many questions regarding Ryan's 

deployment, etc.. 

     I watched Ryan's interaction with your mom regarding his apprehension about Brooks' proximity to your child and I felt that what he said was completely heartfelt, so much so that it unnerved me. I will be honest and didn't say this to your mom in this public forum but it was in the back of my mind. 

     Now that I've read your blog, I completely understand where you are with this subject. 

Vickie raised an extremely bright young woman in you... :)   The public has no place here, especially with a sweet baby and a young man off to war is concerned.

All of the best and my prayers have been with you,

Melinda

Used to like u you but strangely u have become very selfish and bratty with your mother. I get that brooks may not b the man for her but you should let her figure that out for herself she is your mother for Gods sake! U and Ryan acting like boot camp sergeants and are putting her in a VERY difficult place. Shame on you. You're a new momma u will soon see its not always easy being a parent and being alone.

I hope you can become a full time housewive of RHOC.

Happy Mother's Day to all the moms out there.

Love you Bree!!!! Troy is gorgeous!!!

You are lucky that I am not your parent because I would throw your ungrateful and controlling behind out the door. As for your disrespectful and such a jerk of a husband, I doubt if I would have even allowed him to move in. He may think he is the man of the house but he needs to grow a pair first.

When you go through a divorce it is very stressful when you lose that love and trust with someone you shared so much with it leaves you so empty as a person.  I think your Mom just wants companionship, is Brooks the right person maybe not but she needs to find that out for herself, and she is a smart woman she will come to terms with this on her own and the harder you push and your husband pushes the more she will gravitate towards Brooks. Leave it alone you don't have to socialize with him but let it ride out. 

For the most part, I've always found you the voice of reason on the show.  But on the subject of your mom's love life, I think you're off-base.  It's a hard thing for a child to assess.  I'm not particularly a fan of Brooks.  In fact, I don't care for him at all.  But I'm not the one who wants to date him.  Your mom does, and she's an adult woman, with a business she's built that seems to be doing well, a luxurious home that she's put a lot of time and effort into making comfortable for her family, and 2 grown children.  One of those children has moved away, and the other has married and has started a family.  Vicki is alone, and she's lonely. 

You admitted that she & Donn had not had a true marriage for a number of years.  She'd known Brooks only superficially & idealized him in her mind.  IMO, when the opportunity came to be together, she jumped at the chance to be loved & to be happy.  If you & her friends had voiced your opinion once, then let her date him without constantly berating him & chastising her, she might have seen Brooks the same way you did & ended the relationship long ago.  The roles are now reversed.  Many moms will say that if they tell their daughters they don't like a boy, the daughters will do everything to hang on to that guy...even if he's the most worthless guy in the world or treats her like crap.  Again, IMO, Vicki fears being alone.  She wants love so badly, she's willing to settle for someone who isn't worthy of her.  The way everyone voiced their opinion of Brooks came across as belittling her feelings or making her look foolish.  Now she's backed into a corner, & has convinced herself she really loves him.  His behavior at the dinner was awful.  I thought she'd see by the things he said what a nasty guy he was, but she's desperate. 

Briana, your mom needs your kindness & support more than ever.  She doesn't need threats of moving out, or words like the man she loves is an opportunist.  Those are harsh & hurtful, even if they're true.  She's not going to hear them.  You're a strong, smart, & loving woman.  Maybe both of you need to bend.  Would it hurt you if Brooks stopped by?  I wouldn't want him to move in either.  But if he stopped over, couldn't you & Troy stay upstairs if you don't want to see him?  Compromise.  Maybe then your mom will take your opinion more seriously if you voice it in gentle loving words.  It's easier to take the truth packaged that way too.  Just sayin'. You're lucky you can all be together while Ryan is deployed.  I like watching you & Vicki when you're together & happy. 

Briana, I think the reason you don't want your mother to date Brooks is because you want to remain at your mother's house, not rent free but certainly above your means. Brooks on the scene complicates your plan.

Brianna, You are a very intuitive young women!! Stay true to your values...You Rock!

i know you love your mom but its time you and troy either fess up with was exactly you dont trust brooks or you cant expect people to give any empathy. also you and troy "appear" to be using the baby as a weapon, troy is a marine, marines  see things black and white and you have a mom who sees in shades. frankly he doesnt come off as a good son in law. if there is a reason because of brooks, say it now because troy looks like kind of an....

Briana and Ryan can make the choice to keep their child away from Brooks. They can do that without installing cameras and banning him from Vicki's home.  They can make a point of being in a different part of the home while Brooks is there.  They are going about it all wrong. They are trying to control Vicki and her home and that is wrong. 

Briana, YOUR husband seems very controlling. Your "man" is being judged and spoken about from a reality show where we really don't know the inside story. Just like Brooks (is my point.)  Now imagine if Tamra chose YOU as her next victim to "pick on" for sport, and she started with the other ladies (who want to stay on the mean girl's good side), a "gossip fest" about how controlling and awful Ryan is. And then your MOTHER joined in. Just like you did to her --How would YOU like it? And the blogs, twitter, Radar Online, and the reunion, all the women,including your Mother, backed the fact that Ryan is awful, and controlling, and the other women went to town with it... Whether it's true about Ryan/Brooks or not--doesn't matter. You've put your Mom through hell siding with her tormentor--- YOU.

I sure can understand why you chose to move into your Mother's home, given your circumstances. I have daughter, who has a young child, and I would have offered to take them under my roof, if needed. I am sure your Mother loves having you there and seeing her grandson so often. What blessings for all of you! I can also understand why you are protective about whom your Mom dates. It is sort of like you and Mom have switched positions a little; that you are being the mindful "parent", watching who her companions are! The trouble with that is, the same as it is for the parents of a teen who is dating. You can warn a son or daughter about the people they choose to socially rub shoulders with, but in the end you have to trust they will use their  God-given common sense! Agreeing that  your Mom can see Brooks  at her the house, at the same times as you and your little family are residing there, would NOT, (in my opinion) be negative in any way. You don't have to allow the baby around Brooks if you prefer. That should be easy, since the house seems quite palatial. I respectfully suggest you cut your Mom some slack. I'm not crazy about Brooks either and I haven't even met him! Your Mom is a smart cookie. Given the chance, she will work it out. Good luck and blessings for your boy!

I think when Ryan and Briana say they want to protect there son from Brooks what they mean is they don't want a repeat of the past. The day they found out there then unborn child was a boy Brooks called a local radio station and announced it, before they even had a chance to let all there own family members know. He also called the same station to let the world know when and where the formal wedding was being held. He also told same station what her due date was and called to let everyone know when the child was born none of the above was his to do or say. Not only did he make these calls he sold stories along with pictures to online sites and tabloid magazines. They have reasons to not trust him. Briana herself told all this that had happened to date to Andy at the reunion with her mom sitting next to her and Vicki did not argue with one word of it. If I were them I wouldn't want him anywhere near me or my child. He only wants fame and money from stories such as these if he is around them he could do these types of things all over again. With Ryan overseas fighting a war for his country he needs to have the peace of mind that his wife and child are safe.

Let your mother find her own happiness--you did.

Please don't be like Beverly Johnson's daughter Anansa.

I don't think Brianna is being anything other than truthful. Vicky agreed when they moved in that Brooks would not be there. Now she is changing it and that is her choice/her house and has the right to do so. However, it is also Brianna's choice to move out if she does not want to be around Brooks. Very simple and very honest. All Brianna and her husband are saying is "if Brooks moves in/comes around, then we move out". Vicky is changing things around by saying they want to control her. No, they are not! That is not what they are doing! I know Vicky 'wants' to be with her daughter and grandchild'. I know she 'wants' for Brooks to be around too. But sometimes life has consequences to the choices we make, this is one of them. Vicky can't have it both ways and only her wants met.....and solely her way. That is just not how life works and it is truly unfair for her to make Brianna and her husband look like they are taking over her life and home....not fair at all!

Briana move out of your mothers house,out of sight out of mind don't tell her where you live just like your brother did let her have her Brooks,she tried so desperately to defend him and make him look good that she made you a target for stupid comments.Your mom is hypnotized by this creep she won't stop until she has him moved into her house.for your own good move out in the long run she will probably resent him for it.let her have him she doesn't want to listen to you then she gets what she deserves.

Quit trying to control WHO your mom dates!!  That's just wrong!! Your "well we'll just move out " comment is getting old!!! MOVE OUT!!!  How much more stable of an environment do you want for your baby?? You don't live in the ghetto!! He's very safe being there and won't remember anything!! Also, She's a smart women, she'll figure it out on her own!!

Briana,

I think you are a nice young lady. It's unfortunate you and your husband can't afford a place of your own for your new family. I think you should focus on that and being independent and let your mom enjoy her life. You chose to get married to someone your mother didn't know. So leave her alone! Your husband my love you dearly to be so caught up in all the drama! 

Congratulations on the arrival of your bub! He's gorgeous. Brianna I think you forget sometimes that you're Troy's mother not Vicki's, if Vicki wants to date Brooks and if he is someone of poor character she should be the judge of that. At her stage in life it's not easy finding someone you like or someone you can get along with . You and your husband seem very selfish in trying to decide who she can and can't see. 

I don't understand parent's that tip toe around their children in their own home. It's ridiculous! She opens up to you and wants your support but all you do it try to tell her what's best for her instead of just supporting her. If Brooks is the "devil" you claim him to be then when he shows her that side of him all you have to do is be there for her and help her go through a bad time. 

Stop dictating Vicki's life you have hardly lived yours, you may think you know all the answers now, but you will only regret it when you are face with the same situation at Vicki's age. Think about it.

By the way about the whole positive thing around Troy..please get real, he's just a baby he can't tell who's who atm..I don't think brooks presence is going to have any impact on his life. Just focus on your life and let Vicki focus on hers.

BRAVO Briana...you rock!

Clearly you're a very intelligent woman, both intellectually and emotionally. You had a good role model and it's clear you respect your mom. You will have a good life with your attitude! I have watched the show from the beginning and always was impressed with how much love you all had for each other. Your mom has really grown. And she looks WONDERFUL!!! 

Hope to see you in more episodes cause this show needs sane people taking up some airtime!!!!!!! 

Briana you are a nice lady. You should respect your mom's decision. She's 50 and deserved to be happy. Life is too short you never know what will happen. Tomorrow may never come and you don't want to live with regrets for the rest of your life. Brooks may not have it all but he made your mommy happy. We all love our parents and they deserve happiness.

i think you all need to move out of mommies and stop trying to control her ,, your relationship is going to go down the drain if you all dont 

instead of being concerned about your mom and brooks i would look at your new husband and be concerned about his behavior. he is sooo disrespectful to your mother in HER house don't forget, living off of her funds! your husband is so full of himself and possesive thinking he is the "man of the house" is a laughable joke. he is embarrassing and pathetic. he looks like a loser to me. i like you and wish you the best but you deserve better.

I feel for you!  You're the only one that seems REAL.   I hope your family finds peace.

Honey, you desperately need to look at the website Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. Your denial was sad when it was just you but now you have a helpless child who needs you to provide a stable and loving environment for him, as well as healthy emotional role models, and that's not going to happen until you can be honest with yourself about your mother. 

I once dated a man of whom Brooks reminds me.  Corny, "charming," and such a sweet-talker.  This man ended up being the biggest control freak, and ultimately, he robbed me of my voice and identity.  I lost myself in that relationship and am glad to be done with it.  I am not saying Brooks is exactly like this man was, but I definitely see red flags with him.  Your mom has too much going for herself to have a single ounce of self-worth invested in any man... and I'm afraid she is basing at least some of her self-worth on the level of emotional involvement Brooks has with her.  Big mistake.  I don't like the games he is playing with her.  And I don't like how quick she is to react to his stupid remarks.  I feel for her and hope that Brooks phases himself out of her life...

My son was born just under a month after your son and I can relate that having a baby is exhausting enough but to have the drama that Brooks brings you don't want that around your son. You are making the right choice!