Hey Gretchen, I'm new to all this blogging but have been watching the show from day one. Right now when watching I could care less about your relationships with the women, it does not even matter. You are supporting Slade and what he is going through with an ill son. No one really knows the why or how comes in the relationship Slade has with his son and his sons Mother. But he is making an effort and I for one hope it is 100% even when the cameras aren't around. I know it has been some time since filming and I hope Grayson is on the mend. 

Gretchen...death row inmates go kicking and shouting to the electric chair...shouting I did not murder that person, but their DNA is all over the crime scene...stop kicking and shouting that you and Tamara are not bullies and you don't like the way that Alexis is throwing the word bully around! you and tamra are bullies! own it! you were the one who got tamara all riled up at that party by whispering destructive negative things about Vicki and alexis...although I was not a fan of Alexis or Vicki now I am...you and tamara are junk yard dogs without a cause! bully!

I think it's really sad that your blog is the longest and you find it necessary to use almost 6 pages to justify your incredibly rude and childish BULLYING behavior. I also think that it's kind of funny that you  have so much confidence in your actions, yet there are very few comments out of 1441 that are positive towards you. Rather they all call you out on how terrible your behavior is now and how you've turned on Alexis when there isn't anything that Alexis has done that was anywhere near bad enough to justify how you, Heather (Cindy Loo Hoo??), and Tamra have been treating her. Tamra is a bad egg, G. She really isn't someone you should be looking up to an imitating. Grow up, move back over to the other (nice) side. The mean girl look isn't becoming on you and I think you will find it to come back and bite you in the a$$!!! Just sayin'... 

"Protective of Tamara"  Wow, really?!  Why didn't you protect Alexis if you were her friend?  You could have stayed quiet and spoke to her alone about your thoughts but no you joined in.  You are not  a friend to anyone just phony and wanting to side with the mean girls so you're not being attacked.  

I never comment on these things; however, this particular subject truly touched my heart and I felt compelled to speak. 

I was diagnosed with cancer at 17 years old (3 years ago), and the hardest part had nothing to do with my own illness, but instead was watching what my parent's were going through (while watching me "suffer")... they tried to hide their tears while I went in for chemotherapy treatments, and provided so much support it was almost suffocating. I understand what its like to watch someone you love suffer emotionally, and I truly feel for you.  

I know Grayson isn't your actual son, but I can see, even from the limited number of clips, how much you are suffering for both Slade and his son. 

Hang in there... I'm praying for you. 

Don't you get tired of leftovers, husbands, friends....your insecurities are always on display. Protecting Tamra,  please! More like making the marionette dance. I wonder if she knows you are laughing at her behind her back.

I'm watching the rerun that I swore that I wouldn't watch again and I'm disgusted all over again!!!! who you gonna sell all them handbags to now?

     It doesn't matter whether you call it bullying or not, you were mean and sadistic to someone who's only crime was having "irritating" personality traits. Deriving pleasure from inflicting pain on another is the ugliest personality trait of all and you have it in spades.

Gretchen, I think you are too good a student at the Tamra Charming School.You enjoy the new found skill so you are using it indescriminately. You are giving back to Vicki who had been cruel to you in the past because you no longer feel intimidated by her. However being mean and heartless does not suit you. In the first season you seemed a loose person but at least you were charming and not nasty. Now you are becoming a mini Tamra the way you snide and jab at Alexis and Vicki. If you cannot be classy, at least don't be vicious.

Wow... I'm normally spot on with people but you had me fooled the last few seasons. You've gone from being one of my favourites to being THE LEAST favourite of all the housewives from the whole franchise. I knew what Tamra was but you put on a good act....Bravo!!!

Gretchen I love that you and Tamara can have fun and be friends, but I don't like you have become so brash.  You told Alexis the truth on her behavior but your delivery was a bit harsh.  I always considered you to be the young cute one the others wished they still were, but now honey you are a bit mean.  Please go back to being the fun loving Gretchen, who gives her opinion honestly but without crushing anyone's feelings.

I love how you can see what you did wrong and own it! But I think what you still need to own is how you've been treating Vicki. You and tamera haven't even been friends a year and I think you're a littl threatened by Vicki and Tamera past relationship. I hope you don't play the mean girl the whole season.

“I am sooo happy and excited about Alexis being on the show, we have become such dear friends with her and Jim and I feel so blessed to have someone who has my back and has such a sincere and real heart!”- Remember this Gretchen?

Too bad you couldn't be the same person for her...so what if she talked about material things, how many cars she and Jim have, or how much money they have-don't have.  That is small potatoes, compared to someone that is a habitual loud mouth, insecure bully! (YES! I said it BULLY!)  Ever since she has been on the show, nothing but vaginal discharge comes out of Tamra's mouth. And for a few seasons, it was directed at you.  So do you think that, if Alexis came to you with a friendship bracelet telling you she wanted to make up, you would forgive her and move on?

GRETCHEN! only when Tamra's relationship with Vicky hit the skids, did she come around and befriend you........don't be fooled. Tamra is as phoney as a $3 bill. Never on any of the housewife shows put together, have I ever heard any  one person refer to how hot she is more than Tamra. Quite frankly, on a scale of 1-10, I wouldn't rate her over a 5 on looks and if I had to rate her on anything else,she wouldn't get past go. I have known people like Tamra. There was a very good reason Vicki was her BFF. It is because Tamra  is the sort of woman who never chooses a friend who can look better than she does. You obviously can give her some competition there, so mark my word, if she renews her friendship with Vicki, you will be out of the picture. She only buddied up to you for her self serving reasons. When she is out and about with Vicki, she knows she is the one who turns heads, thus her ego needs are met. Hanging out with you, she has to move over and share the spotlight.  That is the type of person she is and you can take that to the bank! Tamra has no class whatsoever. Don't sacrifice the person you were to befriend her. SHE WOULD NOT THINK TWICE ABOUT THROWING A DRINK ON YOU JUST AS SHE DID JEANA!

Here's the problem: First, tacky Tamra could have told Vicky not to bring Alexis. She's got a big enough mouth and has never held back before. Why now/ A set-up maybe? She needs to bully someone, anyone and Alexis is her current target. Second, I thought Gretchen had some class but this episode shows she's as much of a rabid dog as the other screwballs. Don't even get me started on Heather and the new creep, whatshername. Yep, Tamra needs protection alright. I only hope it's public and we all get to see her get some of what she dishes out to everyone else. C'mon, one of you grow a spine!

Gretchen, I agree with kjohnson56! Tamra is and always was a hot mess. You will do much better to dance to the beat of your own drum than lean on any of the other cast members for anything.......friendship, support, etc. Someone once said, find out what you do best and then do it and be proud of it. You don't go after something to impress or keep up with others (like Alexis) . If you are an amazing mother and wife then own it and be proud of it, as it is the ultimate career that any woman can choose. It is a  profession and should be no less rewarding than any career a women would leave the home and family to do. I believe you have a good head on your shoulders and you should not be swayed by others nor care what they think if you choose to discard their advice,etc. I enjoy seeing someone, for once, who will stand up to Vicki. Who is Vicki to call anyone names? She has always from day one made belittling and disparaging remarks or hints about others but she sure did not like being called "Miss Piggy", did she? As for Tamra, TOTALLY pneumocephalic. The day she threw her drink on Jeana defined her as trash. Is there a reader out there that would want their child to see someone scream like a banshi and throw a drink on their mother? I doubt Ms Vicki, Tamra or any of the other ladies would want a child of theirs to witness someone treat their mother that way.....and in that setting! ....Yet Jeana's daughter returned later to calmly address the issue to Tamra with dignity and restraint....like a real lady. I hope you will take a step back and look at the behavior of some of these other women and choose not to be like them.

Gretchen, you have been one of my favorites even though you always sound like your nose is congested. I was hoping you would not be lured into puffing up your lips and enlarging your breasts. You were beautiful without doing that......and I think you are far more insightful, kind hearted, genuine and INTELLIGENT than 98% of the rest of the cast. Wanna guess who those 98% are?

Oh Dear....

Gretchen, REMEMBER that Alexis stood by your side when you went through all that with the ladies. Be careful who you take sides with. You know what they say about Karma. Just saying...

You and Tamra are so wierd, and it's obvious how much you are kissing her butt.  Are you afraid of her?  I just don't get how you and her are tied at the hip when not too long ago she burned you to the core!!  I used to feel bad for you but now you have just as much evil as demonic Tamra and it is clearly showing on TV.  The fact that you called out Alexis for "leading the pack" against Vicki is so hypocritical... you talked so much crap about Vicki and Tamra too back in the day so why call out Alexis when you've done the exact same thing?  You just embarress yourself everytime you're on TV and I did like your slurred "nnnnoooo nnooo I will not shush how about that?" I'm sorry but you are the least intimidating person ever which is why I think you are up Tamra's butt because you know she can do your dirty work!

I really like you.  Rise above these losers.  Alexis is a waste of time and Vicki has been on the show too long, period.

Gretchen, go back to the person you were before you allowed Tamra to drag you along with all this hate and anger! You used to always find the positive in any situation and remained loyal to people. Don't end up like Tamra...She is just sad!! Show her how to be more like you instead of you like her but It's always easier for someone to pull you down than you raise them up...

Vicki clearly asked Tamara's permission and she agreed to allow Alexis to come. Once  the permission was given, Tamara had the responsibility of behaving herself and living with her decision. She did not have the right to sit at the table and debate and regret her decision in Alexis's presence. That was horrible. Your  behavior was despicable that evening. How hateful and juvenile you behaved. You better lose the BFF status with Tamara before you are just like her, which by the way, you are well on your way to achieving. It is obvious that while Andy Cohen likes drama, I doubt that he approves of the way you all have behaved toward Alexis. You are clearly on a destructive path in your friendship with her. You need to ask if you are a better person having her as a friend. (Trust me, you are not) Then, make some choices. Alexis is not your problem. You are your problem. If nothing else, read the majority of comments here. Take heed. Everyone is replaceable.

From the beginning, I didn't like nor trust Gretchen.  I will admit, I found Tamara and Vickie's attack against her overwhelming.  Yet,  possibly truth was married within the numerous topics they brought to the forefront.

Not shocked w/Gretchen's current tactics/attitude and nasty energy.  Don't believe "She is NOW-SUDDENLY changed"......She is now,  what she has always been!  It previously was covered up  with a public/entertainment  pretty face, soft voice and scripted "poor me".

How quickly have you forget who your true friend was. Sad that you have forgotten what it was like to be on the other end of the wrath of the "crazy blonde" who can turn on someone at the drop of a hat. Can't even feel sorry for your stupidity.

All it is,,, Is that Gretchens true colors showed ! She got with her best friends, Tamra and Heather, and now she can be herself........................It was all put on to begin with just to be on the show, now she thinks she has it made...Hope they all 3 leave soon..............

Are you happy now?  Did making someone else miserable make you feel good?  I guess being miserable is o.k. in your book as long as it isn't you. 

You just have really bad negative energy. I think you should apologize to Alexis for turning on her

Wow are you that insecure that you need Tamara's acceptance? You are a bully just like you got bullied by Tamara.Why did you care that Vicki said "my baby" ? 

There is a fine line between bully and coward;  actually they are usually one in the same.  Tamra and you are proving that is so true.  Are both of you too afraid to do your job and post a blog?  Tamra has been hiding (and, conversely on WWHL lashing) out since the first party episode.  Face the music you both lead in composing....

Gretchen, I am surprised at how much you have changed this season. you should get rid of your friendship with Tamra like a hot potato. it will burn ya. I remember Slade looking at you a couple seasons ago when you said you wanted to be friends with Tamra again like you were out of your mind. Its gonna bite ya, Tamra makes Joan Crawford look tame.

I know that Andy Cohen is a lover of soap operas, but I also believe he is a hater of bullies or bullish behavior.  I think the show has blurred the lines between reality tv and soap operas. At least with soap operas we know the actors are "acting" and reading from a script.  Your personality change reads straight out of a lousy soap plot. Good girl turns mean.  I sure hope your script writer changes you back to the girl 99% of us USED to root for.  I think it's pretty fair to say 99% of us despise your transformation. 

So I don't get called a cyber bully, as your friend HD is accusing us of, I won't delve into the horrendous makeup that ALL of you ladies have going on during the "interview".  The makeup artist, script writer and 3 "star actors" need to be fired immediately.  Please Andy!!! 

I remember how sweet and empathetic you were during the first season you were on RHOOC. Now you are so condescending and rude! Just remember where you started with these girls and how it felt when you were mistreated. I have TiVo so I remember:) If you can forgive Tamara then ...