Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen reflects on how her friendship with Alexis has fallen apart and explains why she reacted to Vicki the way she did.

on Apr 23, 20130

Hi Everyone! I just got back from good old Texas and helping to raise more money for The Beckstrand Cancer Association in honor of Grayson this weekend! Thank you to everyone for your constant prayers and support for this amazing little boy! Slade and I know firsthand how deeply cancer affects families and that is why we continue to support the charities near and dear to our hearts and help raise money. We are so grateful to the many wonderful organizations that help people who are going through tough times. To donate or get more information go to BeckStrand.org.

Wow, what an episode tonight! I'm not even sure where to start, so I'll just dive in. I know Tamra was having a really hard time with having Alexis come to the party, and I think it was not cool of Vicki to even put Tamra in that position. I mean if she seriously was trying to work on their friendship and make amends then this isn't the best first move towards resolve. Vicki knows that Alexis was threatening to sue Tamra and that they didn't like each other, so why bring her to a very important night for Tamra?

I also find it funny that Alexis claims she is coming to support Tamra and her new business at Vicki's house, but then when asked why she came by Tamra the real truth comes out and she claims she was there only to support Vicki. Which is it? Alexis shouldn't have come at all unless she was there for the guest of honor and wanting to support her new venture. To me that's inappropriate and shows she is self-serving.

The only reason I was telling Alexis to leave was because I was being protective over Tamra and her special night, and my past record shows I will always do that for my friends. I was protective over Alexis' day and when it came to her dress luncheon a few years back as well. So when she started with the whole "we are bullies" accusations again I knew things were going to get ugly, so I said, "Why don't you leave then if we are such bullies?" I mean if she thinks we are such bullies, then why walk back into it and stay?

1404 comments
kcat
kcat

OMG Gretchen, Thank Goodness.!! You did not fall for Alexis's fake tears and stood your ground.  You did NOTHING but try to be her friend and SHE was the one that snubbed YOU.  Oh I noticed how fast those tears dried up when she saw she wasn't pulling you into her trap.  You are one smart cookie, Gretchen.  Id be proud to be your friend.  Alexis is too stupid and self-centered to understand that.

DeeDee10
DeeDee10

I don't want to read more than one page of anyone's blog - geez!!!  I can foresee Gretchen being buddies with Heather only and the rest of the girls all hook up together leaving them two out.  Gretchen should have never turned her back on Alexis.  Tamra & Gretchen were total enemies and now they are buddies??? That's nuts and goes to show how bad Gretchen is a follower.  Will come back to bite her big time - just watch! 

GirlFromKY
GirlFromKY

OK...let's review.  The ONLY thing Gretchen said to Alexis in front of the ladies in Costa Rica was she knows where her heart is but others might sometimes interpret her as being pretentious.  That's in no way a "knock you to your knees and hit the jugular" kind of statement!  And let's face it, Alexis ABSOLUTELY DOES come off pretentiously sometimes whether you're someone who loves her or dislikes her.  Gretchen was telling her the TRUTH with hopes Alexis might gain some clarity into why others have been put off by her personality. But that didn't happen...Alexis completely took it a different way.  You don't want the friends/people you care about to look like jackasses in front of others. If Gretchen didn't give a crap about Alexis, she wouldn't have cared if Alexis was coming off in such a derogatory way or not.  A friend is not someone who agrees with all your opinions/beliefs/behaviors and if they say they do agree 100% of the time, they're not a REAL friend but instead fake and untruthful.  Also, Gretchen didn't say, "You stupid b*%ch!  You should kill yourself because you're such a pretentious monster!"  I mean...come ON with some common sense out there between addressing/deciphering disagreeable situations versus real life bullying!  Just because a group of people share a consensus doesn't mean the other is being "bullied."  Gretchen and Heather were ABSOLUTELY NOT "bullying" Alexis in Costa Rica...Tamra was unquestionably way too harsh though.

 

If you'll remember past seasons, Gretchen HAS taken up for Alexis on several occasions against the other women which Alexis seems to carry a one-sided selective memory about.  As far as Tamra's C.U.T. dinner, the blowup was an INEVITABLE outcome because of lingering unfinished business that hadn't yet been resolved.  Alexis' phone does call out too now!  She had every opportunity to resolve beforehand just like the other women did.  Tamra, Gretchen, and Heather all had chips on their shoulders about Alexis, and Alexis definitely carried a defensive chip on her shoulder coming into that dinner too. Regardless of the he said/she said minutia of how it all started, Alexis coming to that dinner was a recipe for disaster BOTH on the parts of Alexis (who chose to come without resolving), as well as the other ladies who still had their unresolved resentments about Alexis too.  To say Alexis is the poor innocent victim that night is a CROCK.  For Alexis to assume things would just be swept under the rug & everyone would sing kum ba ya is THE definition of immature delusion.  You see, Alexis doesn't contain the insight to decipher and/or offer EMPATHY toward another about an unagreeable circumstance. It's only about Alexis' feelings...she's completely oblivious about thinking things all the way through to really put herself and care about what if feels like to be in someone else's shoes aside from herself.  That's how babies act...babies don't yet contain the understanding of/or the emotion of empathy.  Also, Vickie was nothing less than a pot-stirring instigator to manipulate a case for Alexis to please come be by her side.  Vickie is a big girl and would have been just fine all by herself at the dinner...she just wanted to be a drama queen pot-stirring provocateur!   Gretchen by far is NOT the culprit here!

 

 

 

stikit2
stikit2

Bottom Line

:31 (Gretchen’s EXACT words) It’s like going to the school table with the kids that keep bullying you, that keep taking your lunch money and you keep going back and sitting at the same table.  “Why are you taking my money? (whiny voice)” It’s like, Don’t go sit at the table any more!  Learn your lesson! … You’re asking for it.

 

1. Sounds like bullying to me. 2.  Sounds like she, herself, is making the comparison between her and the school bullies and Alexis and the kid getting bullied at school.  If anyone supports Gretchen in regards to all of this, open your eyes and ears to what she is saying about herself.  It’s not concealed.  She’s not smart enough to conceal it.  She out and out admits the very thing she spends the entire episode trying to deny.   

 

kells422
kells422

oh and I forgot to add my whole point was maybe she came because number 1 she was Vicky's support, maybe 2 she came there because Tamra said to come without the nonsense, maybe 3 she came there because she needs the money salary you are paid and the perks that come along with it like promoting her business.  congratulations tamra turned you into one of the mean girls

kells422
kells422

I used to like you until the reunion of last year and the beginning episodes this year.  Clearly you are jealous of Alexis because when she got fox 5 the first thing you did was bring up how they asked you to do it first.  Then you over there laughing at her at Tamra's party about her nose job and her sinuses.  Who cares why she's doing it!  It's her body and you even told her you were jealous that she was getting a nose job at a lunch.  Then the opening of Tamra's gym you clap after you all are screaming and ganging up on Alexis (true friend behavior) last year you said you knew her heart was good and she's the nicest one on the show always praying for everyone and then you claim she didn't call you about Slade's son, look at all you've done to her.  the phone works both ways.  pissed me off to see you clap and say get the negative energy out of the room when the only crazy negative energy was everyone but Alexis and Vicki, oh and Lydia.  When you have 3 girls ganging up on one that is clearly bullying or loved it when Dr. V said oh ok your gangstas then.  she was stating how she came there to bless her business as she was getting kicked out and yes the years before she was having a pity party because she hasn't been strong because she didn't really have any real support from anyone but this year I see a stronger Alexis and I'm proud that she made you all look like jerks the first night and flew above the drama!  your just mad cauz you will never look like her which is beautiful inside and out :)  I've never written here before but you are obviously so influenced by such a mean person that it makes you look really weak which makes your tagline a joke!

Angaa
Angaa

Hey Gretchen, I'm new to all this blogging but have been watching the show from day one. Right now when watching I could care less about your relationships with the women, it does not even matter. You are supporting Slade and what he is going through with an ill son. No one really knows the why or how comes in the relationship Slade has with his son and his sons Mother. But he is making an effort and I for one hope it is 100% even when the cameras aren't around. I know it has been some time since filming and I hope Grayson is on the mend. 

Debbieinmissouricitytx
Debbieinmissouricitytx

Gretchen...death row inmates go kicking and shouting to the electric chair...shouting I did not murder that person, but their DNA is all over the crime scene...stop kicking and shouting that you and Tamara are not bullies and you don't like the way that Alexis is throwing the word bully around! you and tamra are bullies! own it! you were the one who got tamara all riled up at that party by whispering destructive negative things about Vicki and alexis...although I was not a fan of Alexis or Vicki now I am...you and tamara are junk yard dogs without a cause! bully!

nurse2be
nurse2be

I think it's really sad that your blog is the longest and you find it necessary to use almost 6 pages to justify your incredibly rude and childish BULLYING behavior. I also think that it's kind of funny that you  have so much confidence in your actions, yet there are very few comments out of 1441 that are positive towards you. Rather they all call you out on how terrible your behavior is now and how you've turned on Alexis when there isn't anything that Alexis has done that was anywhere near bad enough to justify how you, Heather (Cindy Loo Hoo??), and Tamra have been treating her. Tamra is a bad egg, G. She really isn't someone you should be looking up to an imitating. Grow up, move back over to the other (nice) side. The mean girl look isn't becoming on you and I think you will find it to come back and bite you in the a$$!!! Just sayin'... 

a.m.n.
a.m.n.

"Protective of Tamara"  Wow, really?!  Why didn't you protect Alexis if you were her friend?  You could have stayed quiet and spoke to her alone about your thoughts but no you joined in.  You are not  a friend to anyone just phony and wanting to side with the mean girls so you're not being attacked.  

hailey1127
hailey1127

I never comment on these things; however, this particular subject truly touched my heart and I felt compelled to speak. 

 

I was diagnosed with cancer at 17 years old (3 years ago), and the hardest part had nothing to do with my own illness, but instead was watching what my parent's were going through (while watching me "suffer")... they tried to hide their tears while I went in for chemotherapy treatments, and provided so much support it was almost suffocating. I understand what its like to watch someone you love suffer emotionally, and I truly feel for you.  

 

I know Grayson isn't your actual son, but I can see, even from the limited number of clips, how much you are suffering for both Slade and his son. 

 

Hang in there... I'm praying for you. 

ParticipantObserver
ParticipantObserver

Don't you get tired of leftovers, husbands, friends....your insecurities are always on display. Protecting Tamra,  please! More like making the marionette dance. I wonder if she knows you are laughing at her behind her back.

gibsontara34
gibsontara34

I'm watching the rerun that I swore that I wouldn't watch again and I'm disgusted all over again!!!! who you gonna sell all them handbags to now?

joytoo
joytoo

     It doesn't matter whether you call it bullying or not, you were mean and sadistic to someone who's only crime was having "irritating" personality traits. Deriving pleasure from inflicting pain on another is the ugliest personality trait of all and you have it in spades.

tjjpt
tjjpt

Gretchen, I think you are too good a student at the Tamra Charming School.You enjoy the new found skill so you are using it indescriminately. You are giving back to Vicki who had been cruel to you in the past because you no longer feel intimidated by her. However being mean and heartless does not suit you. In the first season you seemed a loose person but at least you were charming and not nasty. Now you are becoming a mini Tamra the way you snide and jab at Alexis and Vicki. If you cannot be classy, at least don't be vicious.

Sophh
Sophh

Wow... I'm normally spot on with people but you had me fooled the last few seasons. You've gone from being one of my favourites to being THE LEAST favourite of all the housewives from the whole franchise. I knew what Tamra was but you put on a good act....Bravo!!!

LadyK2507
LadyK2507

Gretchen I love that you and Tamara can have fun and be friends, but I don't like you have become so brash.  You told Alexis the truth on her behavior but your delivery was a bit harsh.  I always considered you to be the young cute one the others wished they still were, but now honey you are a bit mean.  Please go back to being the fun loving Gretchen, who gives her opinion honestly but without crushing anyone's feelings.

JazzyR1112
JazzyR1112

I love how you can see what you did wrong and own it! But I think what you still need to own is how you've been treating Vicki. You and tamera haven't even been friends a year and I think you're a littl threatened by Vicki and Tamera past relationship. I hope you don't play the mean girl the whole season.

prettypawnee
prettypawnee

“I am sooo happy and excited about Alexis being on the show, we have become such dear friends with her and Jim and I feel so blessed to have someone who has my back and has such a sincere and real heart!”- Remember this Gretchen?

 

Too bad you couldn't be the same person for her...so what if she talked about material things, how many cars she and Jim have, or how much money they have-don't have.  That is small potatoes, compared to someone that is a habitual loud mouth, insecure bully! (YES! I said it BULLY!)  Ever since she has been on the show, nothing but vaginal discharge comes out of Tamra's mouth. And for a few seasons, it was directed at you.  So do you think that, if Alexis came to you with a friendship bracelet telling you she wanted to make up, you would forgive her and move on?

missylv
missylv

GRETCHEN! only when Tamra's relationship with Vicky hit the skids, did she come around and befriend you........don't be fooled. Tamra is as phoney as a $3 bill. Never on any of the housewife shows put together, have I ever heard any  one person refer to how hot she is more than Tamra. Quite frankly, on a scale of 1-10, I wouldn't rate her over a 5 on looks and if I had to rate her on anything else,she wouldn't get past go. I have known people like Tamra. There was a very good reason Vicki was her BFF. It is because Tamra  is the sort of woman who never chooses a friend who can look better than she does. You obviously can give her some competition there, so mark my word, if she renews her friendship with Vicki, you will be out of the picture. She only buddied up to you for her self serving reasons. When she is out and about with Vicki, she knows she is the one who turns heads, thus her ego needs are met. Hanging out with you, she has to move over and share the spotlight.  That is the type of person she is and you can take that to the bank! Tamra has no class whatsoever. Don't sacrifice the person you were to befriend her. SHE WOULD NOT THINK TWICE ABOUT THROWING A DRINK ON YOU JUST AS SHE DID JEANA!

gaeljo
gaeljo

Here's the problem: First, tacky Tamra could have told Vicky not to bring Alexis. She's got a big enough mouth and has never held back before. Why now/ A set-up maybe? She needs to bully someone, anyone and Alexis is her current target. Second, I thought Gretchen had some class but this episode shows she's as much of a rabid dog as the other screwballs. Don't even get me started on Heather and the new creep, whatshername. Yep, Tamra needs protection alright. I only hope it's public and we all get to see her get some of what she dishes out to everyone else. C'mon, one of you grow a spine!

missylv
missylv

Gretchen, I agree with kjohnson56! Tamra is and always was a hot mess. You will do much better to dance to the beat of your own drum than lean on any of the other cast members for anything.......friendship, support, etc. Someone once said, find out what you do best and then do it and be proud of it. You don't go after something to impress or keep up with others (like Alexis) . If you are an amazing mother and wife then own it and be proud of it, as it is the ultimate career that any woman can choose. It is a  profession and should be no less rewarding than any career a women would leave the home and family to do. I believe you have a good head on your shoulders and you should not be swayed by others nor care what they think if you choose to discard their advice,etc. I enjoy seeing someone, for once, who will stand up to Vicki. Who is Vicki to call anyone names? She has always from day one made belittling and disparaging remarks or hints about others but she sure did not like being called "Miss Piggy", did she? As for Tamra, TOTALLY pneumocephalic. The day she threw her drink on Jeana defined her as trash. Is there a reader out there that would want their child to see someone scream like a banshi and throw a drink on their mother? I doubt Ms Vicki, Tamra or any of the other ladies would want a child of theirs to witness someone treat their mother that way.....and in that setting! ....Yet Jeana's daughter returned later to calmly address the issue to Tamra with dignity and restraint....like a real lady. I hope you will take a step back and look at the behavior of some of these other women and choose not to be like them.

missylv
missylv

Gretchen, you have been one of my favorites even though you always sound like your nose is congested. I was hoping you would not be lured into puffing up your lips and enlarging your breasts. You were beautiful without doing that......and I think you are far more insightful, kind hearted, genuine and INTELLIGENT than 98% of the rest of the cast. Wanna guess who those 98% are?

cathytaylor111
cathytaylor111

Oh Dear....

Gretchen, REMEMBER that Alexis stood by your side when you went through all that with the ladies. Be careful who you take sides with. You know what they say about Karma. Just saying...

janbello22
janbello22

You and Tamra are so wierd, and it's obvious how much you are kissing her butt.  Are you afraid of her?  I just don't get how you and her are tied at the hip when not too long ago she burned you to the core!!  I used to feel bad for you but now you have just as much evil as demonic Tamra and it is clearly showing on TV.  The fact that you called out Alexis for "leading the pack" against Vicki is so hypocritical... you talked so much crap about Vicki and Tamra too back in the day so why call out Alexis when you've done the exact same thing?  You just embarress yourself everytime you're on TV and I did like your slurred "nnnnoooo nnooo I will not shush how about that?" I'm sorry but you are the least intimidating person ever which is why I think you are up Tamra's butt because you know she can do your dirty work!

Sunny11
Sunny11

I really like you.  Rise above these losers.  Alexis is a waste of time and Vicki has been on the show too long, period.

Lynnz1184
Lynnz1184

Gretchen, go back to the person you were before you allowed Tamra to drag you along with all this hate and anger! You used to always find the positive in any situation and remained loyal to people. Don't end up like Tamra...She is just sad!! Show her how to be more like you instead of you like her but It's always easier for someone to pull you down than you raise them up...

suzanneszq
suzanneszq

Vicki clearly asked Tamara's permission and she agreed to allow Alexis to come. Once  the permission was given, Tamara had the responsibility of behaving herself and living with her decision. She did not have the right to sit at the table and debate and regret her decision in Alexis's presence. That was horrible. Your  behavior was despicable that evening. How hateful and juvenile you behaved. You better lose the BFF status with Tamara before you are just like her, which by the way, you are well on your way to achieving. It is obvious that while Andy Cohen likes drama, I doubt that he approves of the way you all have behaved toward Alexis. You are clearly on a destructive path in your friendship with her. You need to ask if you are a better person having her as a friend. (Trust me, you are not) Then, make some choices. Alexis is not your problem. You are your problem. If nothing else, read the majority of comments here. Take heed. Everyone is replaceable.

CrazyKoolaid
CrazyKoolaid

From the beginning, I didn't like nor trust Gretchen.  I will admit, I found Tamara and Vickie's attack against her overwhelming.  Yet,  possibly truth was married within the numerous topics they brought to the forefront.

 

Not shocked w/Gretchen's current tactics/attitude and nasty energy.  Don't believe "She is NOW-SUDDENLY changed"......She is now,  what she has always been!  It previously was covered up  with a public/entertainment  pretty face, soft voice and scripted "poor me".

 

cch3152
cch3152

How quickly have you forget who your true friend was. Sad that you have forgotten what it was like to be on the other end of the wrath of the "crazy blonde" who can turn on someone at the drop of a hat. Can't even feel sorry for your stupidity.

joyinbama
joyinbama

All it is,,, Is that Gretchens true colors showed ! She got with her best friends, Tamra and Heather, and now she can be herself........................It was all put on to begin with just to be on the show, now she thinks she has it made...Hope they all 3 leave soon..............

pearls44
pearls44

Are you happy now?  Did making someone else miserable make you feel good?  I guess being miserable is o.k. in your book as long as it isn't you. 

Georgetown-housewife
Georgetown-housewife

You just have really bad negative energy. I think you should apologize to Alexis for turning on her

mzqueenanne
mzqueenanne

Wow are you that insecure that you need Tamara's acceptance? You are a bully just like you got bullied by Tamara.Why did you care that Vicki said "my baby" ? 

 

Pristeen
Pristeen

 @GirlFromKY True Gretchen can't be the culprit, she is by far to stupid. These girls are bullies plain and simple, Tamra is the leader clearly, if you can't see that then your just as smart as Gretchen

Upfront
Upfront

 @GirlFromKY Thank you!  I haven't read anything I agree until you wrote! Much appreciation! 

a.m.n.
a.m.n.

@nurse2be

 It's because Gretchen made a deal with the devil-Tamara.  I didn't see Alexis do anything to Gretchen for her to be so angry with her.  Gretchen needs to grow up and be her own person.

 

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @joytoo  I can only imagine how Alexis felt to have her one confidant (who by the way stuck by through thick and thin) on the show turn on her like a rabid animal??!! 

Sonya777
Sonya777

@prettypawnee Oh my goodness! I am glad that someone who knows Alexis and Jim personally is on here stating what good people they are!

Payton25
Payton25

 @missylv Absolutely 100%  She's as transparent as a pure glass of water.  Except the word  "pure"  does not apply to her in any way!

JerseyGirl03
JerseyGirl03

@missylv very well said! Couldn't agree more.

realocwife
realocwife

 @gaeljo

 It's amazing how Tamra has turned you and presumably everyone else into sniveling cowards. I'm a realtor in south OC and can tell you Tamra couldn't get any business in real estate, and she's also from the wrong side of the tracks. What's the attraction? Why are you afraid of her? 

LosAngelesBravoLover
LosAngelesBravoLover

@Sunny11 -couldn't agree more!! I'm so over this Alexis victim card. And vicki needs to go! Snoooooze!

jis72
jis72

 @suzanneszq

 you'r so right , it wasn't like she was blind sided with Alexis going to the dinner party.

karenmom
karenmom

 @a.m.n.  @nurse2be The only thing I can think of is that Gretchen was miffed that Alexis wouldn't let her into her room in Costa Rica after Gretchen didn't have her back. Alexis was hurt and told her she just needed to be alone. Alexis did not scream at her or act mean to her. That's it. All the venom spewing from Gretchen is totally crazy. Tamra is driving that bus.

DutchGirl69
DutchGirl69

 @piperbeau  @joytoo I've had friends turn on me before and it was so painful..I can't imagine what it was like to be televised on national television. How painful these scars are that will remain for years...

Sophie22
Sophie22

@Sonya777 She's actually repeating what Gretchen had said about them