Gretchen Rossi

Gretchen refuses to endure Tamra's switching stories -- so she presents the truth for you to judge.

on Aug 15, 20130

Just the facts.

First off I want to say sorry for not blogging for a while. Quite frankly it has not been at the top of my list to sit down and once again defend myself against ridiculous accusations from these women. When you know the truth sometimes you don't have say anything at all. However I keep getting asked by many when I was going to write a blog again, so I decided to try tonight. Obviously I have a lot to say based off these last few episodes of watching the show, but I believe the audience is sophisticated and smart and can figure out the truth on their own. So this blog is simply to just state the facts:

1. Fact: The man the women continue to bring up I took to court and won seven counts against. In order to find someone guilty of punitive damages the jury needs to find that person acted with fraud, malice, or intent. Furthermore the claims he tried to bring against me for defaming him, false light, and slander, the jury found in favor of me and not of him.

2. Fact: When you have a jury trial, that means 12 unbiased people who know nothing about him or me sit in court for close to three weeks and hear just the facts and see only the evidence (including the pictures Tamra and Vicki attempted to bring up at the reunion) and they ruled in my favor for seven counts against him. I will speak about four of the counts specifically here because it has to do with what I continue to get questioned about by the woman. (The verdict is public record and you can look up all the counts if you want to know more) One count was for stalking, one was for harassment, one was for conversion (stealing private photos) and one count was for intentional infliction of emotional distress. These were things the woman questioned me about five years ago during the reunion (Tamra: "You said he was a stalker.") and now once again during this reunion; I don't need to defend myself any longer with these accusations because a judgment against his man for these counts speak for themselves. The jury also found in favor of having a restraining order put in place for me.

1553 comments
withak
withak

Gretchen.  Saw the new season last night and was flabbergasted that you are no longer on the show!  You were the only one I really enjoyed watching and I'm not sure if I'm going to continue watching since the new girls don't seem half as interesting or fun to watch.  I hope that your find success in your future and will be watching out for you.  I saw that you and Slade are going to be on the Marriage Boot Camp show, so at least that's something. 

Jenniejen
Jenniejen

Miss you being on the show, you were the best!

Calk8
Calk8

I loved watching you on the show. You were so real and funny. I will no longer watch the show. I wish you much success and happiness.

DeeDee5304
DeeDee5304

Gretchen,

I hope you are still reading your blogs.  Your mistake was to be friends with Tamra, because she used you to be more relevant.  I just never understood why you wanted to be her bff.  You had a true friend in Alexis and just maybe if you and Alexis were friends and fun the two of you would not have gotten fired.

I have to admit that it was a shock to see that Bravo fired you.  What this should show "ALL" the housewives is that Bravo is now looking at all of you as despensible.  It is too bad, because every housewife should have their time in the "light".  You, Alexis and Lydia brought something different to the show.  I read that Bravo did ask Lydia to return, but she turned them down.  She was wise, because she came on to get exposure for her magazine and is now hoping for her own reality show.  I have to say Tamra is smart because she will always find a way to be relevant on that show.  I think Vicki will remain a housewife and Andy will never let her go until she is ready to go.  It will not be RHoOC without Vicki.  This season look like Tamra will be turning on Heather, again I say she is smart because she is quite aware what she need to do to stay on that show.  Tamra difinitely had you to take for last season.  Pardon any grammatical errors.

radnjill.ekkawi
radnjill.ekkawi

Since you began the show, you've been my favorite. Don't always agree with you, but I think you are classy, honest and the most down to earth.  I love watching because of you!  Keep it up sister.  <3

@manscharm
@manscharm

Hi Gretchen,

I have just finished watching season 8 of Orange County and felt compelled to contact you. I have so much respect for you for the way you handled yourself. You conducted yourself with style and grace. 


I can tell you if I had been in your position I would have been so hurt by the way your 'friend' Tamra treated you. She got suck into the vicious vikki vortex yet again. Lydia came to the show with pre-conceived ideas about you, and please don't  take on other peoples insecurities as judgments on yourself.


By far the most appalling, two faced double standards came from vixen vikki. She is a disgrace. 


Just a side note on Slade...

He was really hurt by what the 'Ladies' (I use that term lightly) all said about him and he re-acted. Maybe not in the best way but I certainly understand it. He is a wonderful man to bring such joy to your eyes. He made me cry when he was listening to your song. 

Vikki does need to realize when you put your life on a public forum you invite comment from everyone, including Slade. And to expect anything less is some special kind of stupid. When she lies, back-stabs and rages like she does she cannot expect those comments to be complimentary. Through the whole season I think in every program she said some thing like 'I am the kindest / nicest person.' who is she trying to convince, the audience or herself? 


You on the other hand are beautiful, inside and out without trying. You and Slade make each other better. You are both wonderful. Don't change just to get friends back that don't appreciate you and you don't need.


All the best

Charmaine

barb_moore1@hotmail.com
barb_moore1@hotmail.com

Dearest Gretchen,

please do not worry about those backstabbing people, they are jealous of you, you represent every thing that they would like to be, and it infuriates them, so bad that they yell like hyenas, and  look completely foolish. I am so irritated by this crude rude ignorant thing called Vicky, She is a liar and a bully and now her daughter has married some one who is completely out of control, or should I say , just like her mother. this too will end bad, hopefully she will not be harmed, by him. because a girl marries her father,and learns what to put up with from a man from their mother,  so with that said , Karma is a b... you are a wonderful kind authentic human being, that lights up a room,when you walk in, I am an intuitive here in Canada,and a  grandmother of 6. They are 15minutes of fame, and poof it will be over for them 2, meaning, Vicky and what is the ones name >the one that is such a follower, for men and Vicky? hummmm anyways, big deal ..

layla1994
layla1994

i think those women are just laughable. I think that vicki, heather, tamra and alexis all play up for the camera and try to be something there not one way or another. Atleast Gretchen can speak the truth and try to be a good friend to alexis and tamra. i think there spitefulness comes from jealousy. Why else would they feel the need to have such strong opinions on things that don't concern them? oh yeah, and then think people are wrong for having strong opinions on all the things they do. Chin up Gretchen. your awesome :) 

honeypoo1
honeypoo1

so sorry to see you leave. hope everything goes well

chelmabelle
chelmabelle

Gretchen, I never got the impression you were a liar... I think you are a bright woman who tries for the most part to shoot straight from the hip...I find you funny and pretty insightful.  Are you perfect heck no, but, no one is.  I hope you and Slade continue on doing great things for yourselves and your families.  I hope Slade's son is doing well.  Just read he has  a rare form of brain cancer. So very sorry to hear that.  With that kind of stuff, who needs this BS.. it is all so miniscule in the scheme of things.  Honestly, sometimes I think these shows reflect the uglier aspects of human nature.  Not really a feel good kind of thing is it?  The fact that you have to blog facts to defend your character to "us" the viewer.. blech.. frankly while I know that you have gotten a lot of tread from this show for your businesses... we are no one in your life and you don't have to answer to "us"... run your own race, do your thing and make yourself a happy happy life.  You did it before this show and you will do it after this show.  Don't take much of what is said on these response threads too seriously (except for my post of course lol)..unless of course they make sense to you.  Take care, good luck and do good things :)

freshidea
freshidea

You will come back just as Laurie for special appearances. This is not goodbye. Bad call on Andy's part to bring back that desperate btch Laurie. If you do decide to come back for an appearance, please don't take a page from Laurie's handbook.

lavidaalta1985
lavidaalta1985

I used to LOVE LOVE LOVE G's energy and zest for life, but she has completely disgusted me with her behavior the last two seasons. I've watched seasons 4 and 5 again recently and I'm seeing Tamra and Vicki in a whole new light. Yeah, they have their faults, but at least they have the decency to fess up and apologize when they've hurt someone.

 

G totally took Lauri's bait and drug Vicki through the mud. Lauri acted like Vicki sold the letter she got about George to a tabloid or read it on camera. Yeah, it totally sucks that Tamra and Vicki did what they did, but she is absolutely disgusting for extremely VINDICTIVE behavior. They apologized, so move on! They can't travel back in time and erase their actions, and neither can G. Her abhorrent shriek during the reunion, "You told a lie about me first!!" solidified she's a nasty five year old who refuses to grow up or take any serious responsibility for her actions.

 

GOOD RIDDANCE and karma WILL bite you when you least expect it.

rzanna
rzanna

I saw you in the fiat commercial, and you were just great.  I hope you will be doing more television that doesn't involve the Real Housewives franchise.  I think OC and NJ are so over.

Qgirl
Qgirl

Never thought I'd say this, but RHOC and I are through! You were the only reason I watched this season - the rest of them (with the possible exception of Heather) were so annoying and shrill and just vicious. Vicki is a giant train wreck, Tamra is drinking Vicki's Kool-Aid again (or is it vodka? Ha!), and Lydia is like a little yorkie barking all the time in her baby voice. I do enjoy Heather's brand of humor but I can't parlay that into a reason to tune in next season. Bravo made a huge mistake. I predict next season with be the OC's last. Best of luck to you and Salde and your future endeavors.

CrazyKoolaid
CrazyKoolaid

Gretchen,

GOODBYE!     I'll miss trying to decipher the accuracy of the "Facts".   But do have faith that you and Slade will 'hustle-up' another gig.......

@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1
@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1

I think Bravo just like to cast the stupid, the loud, the useless and the delusional who care less about themselves provided they do anything to keep the ratings up but, this time they got it all WRONG! A lot of viewers are NOT watching with you gone! 

 You have a lot to offer and being among those classless, evil, vicious  women was not going to help you anyway. Unlike those 2 totally useless bitches Tamra and Vicki, you come from a very good home. You're well mannered, smart and beautiful.

I would have loved to see your journey with Slade unfold on TV especially your wedding because that love you both have there is REAL. I wish you and Slade the best of luck , God's love and protection, and may He bless you with healthy children. I believe we haven't seen nothing yet! 

XOXO..... 

 

 

cavex2
cavex2

You are the fun part of watching this show.  I dislike Tamra and Vicki.  I will not be watching RHOC next season since you will not be on the show.  I have already stopped watching RHONJ and RHOM because of all the fighting.  I watch these shows for entertainment, but Bravo seems to want to have Jerry Springer marathons instead.  

Gretchen, I wish you the best in your life.  You have made me smile and laugh so many times.  I posted recently on your blog about how Jeff's death with leukemia paralleled my husband's death (in actual time) and watching you was something that I needed each week.  NO one knows what it is like to watch your husband or boyfriend die until they go through it. 

God bless you.

TinaS
TinaS

Gretchen, when one door closes, another opens.  They say when that something/someone leaves your life, the Universe is making space for something/someone bigger and better to enter! Best of luck to you.  xoxo

CoachMadeline
CoachMadeline

There's NOTHING embarrassing in supporting your husband. Men & women switch rolls all the time. Hire & pay Slade to be your manager; he was EXCELLENT at that AND you guys were happier then. Support your man; pay him for a job well done and be proud of him

BeachedBlonde
BeachedBlonde

Gretchen,

Best of luck to you and Slade! I hope you mend fences with Alexis, she is a true friend with a kind heart.

rzanna
rzanna

Gretchen, You will definitely be missed on Housewives, but I do hope for something better in your future, perhaps a future in television or film in a different capacity than on the trashy Housewives of Orange County.  I especially wish you and Slade all the happiness in the world.  God speed.  I won't be watching OC any longer.  You were the breath of fresh air on that show, and I admire you for fighting back and standing up for yourself when you were so under attack. 

twiddledeedum
twiddledeedum

Well, I for one am sick over this and I will not be watching OC anymore.

Ksfan
Ksfan

News reports that you won't be back on the show - finally a whoo hoo moment! Good luck to you in your life, I do wish you well, but It's so obvious you like to be the center of attention and it's frankly, very old!. Speaking of trying for attention, please take Vicki with you!! I'd much rather see her daughter on the show full time, but as a real wife and mom it's too much drama to ask of her.

AddictedToBravo25
AddictedToBravo25

I don't know if the rumors are true that you have been fired. I for one, felt you should quit anyway. You are far above these Desperate Ho's of OC. Unlike the rest of them, you took your 15 minutes of fame & worked hard to create a career with it. Despite all the personal struggles you endured with Jeff, Slade, the Ho's degrading you at every turn, you kept your head high and kept moving on. Congratulations Gretchen! It must burn Queen of Mean Vicki's arse, to see you be the successful business woman! bravo !!!!!!! best wishes, keep on rockin' on ;)

Fireflyone
Fireflyone

Not watching their crappy shows anymore.  They take you off and there isn't anything but phony desperate 50 year old women pretending to be hot and relevant and exclusive

doxyroxy
doxyroxy

Fact:  You're not coming back!  LOLOLOLOLOL!

RHFortWorth
RHFortWorth

Can't believe you won't be returning! Who's decision was that? Stupid! I think Tamra has a serious personality disorder. She had me fooled but now it is clear that she is utterly incapable of loyalty. Apparently her childhood trauma has left her seriously damaged. You come from a lovely family and you will be ok. I hope you do come back to the show. This is nuts to have you gone. 

Sunny11
Sunny11

Can't believe it. No reason to watch this show any longer. They set you up. Bravo is become a waste of time

TinaS
TinaS

Sooo bummed to hear the news that you won't be returning... I don't get it.  Why would they let the nice, genuine one go?  Very, very disappointing!  Best wishes to you and your future with Slade!

Hulali
Hulali

You were just too whiney and vindictive this season.  You constantly complained about things Vicky did 3 years ago and refused to acknowledge that she had apologized for being mean.  The viewers were also disgusted by the way you completely turned your back on Alexsis.  And then Slimey Slade proffitting off of really mean insults at Vicky's expense.  That was just too low down and dirty.

 

You two got what you derserved. I wonder who the next housewife Slade will date now that you are off the show?

Bernie-mate
Bernie-mate

 @chelmabelle I agree, she has never been a liar.. I'm sad that all seasons all she did was defend herself to those bitches..  But i still don't understand why for the love of God she wanted to be good friends with Tamra. Isn't enough to be civil with them? 

freshidea
freshidea

Please change up your look. What ever your doing is aging you prematurely. Maybe cut and straighten the hair and tone down the makeup. You are so pretty and don't need all that crap on your face.

Bernie-mate
Bernie-mate

 @lavidaalta1985 You have to understand, she has no choice but to defend herself to those bitches.  There is nothing for her to apologized because she has always been true to herself. I guess it came to a point when she became very defensive of Slade and herself. The women are good to turn the tables around and make it her fault. 

rzanna
rzanna

 @lavidaalta1985

 My, such hatred.  Are you sure it is actually aimed at G?  Or maybe someone else?

chelmabelle
chelmabelle

 @@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1 I enjoyed Gretchen and cannot believe they let her go.  I think VIckie and Tamra are all over the place... I am well aware that this show is about entertaining us the viewers and I know we see what they want us to see.  I can't pretend that I can glean the whole true picture of these ladies.. but, from what I have seen.. Tamra is likeable, but, seems wishy washy and unable to manage her friendships independently of each other.  Vickie was hellbent on breaking up the friendship between "G" and "T" and it appears she was successful.  That success could only be achieved because "T" is easily manipulated and also very strategic.  I think that Vickie must have some kind of power on the show and "T" wants to remain on the show.  She chose a side.  "G" was obviously on her way out, and Vickie is still very much in.  On a different note.. I sure wish these ladies didn't have to look so plastic.. I liked Alexis's softer look and hairstyle.  I'm glad Vickie is looking a bit better from the plastic surgery... I was concerned at first because instead of looking hotsy totsy she was looking hotsy "notsy"....

RHOviewer
RHOviewer

 @TinaS Exactly this is a blessing in disguise; she doesn't belong with these envious evils anyway.... I'm sure she will find a space where she will be able to focus on her business and her man

rebm
rebm

 @rzanna I agree, I will not be watching next season either. I could barely get through this season with Trashy Tamara and Vicky.

Pokadot
Pokadot

@twiddledeedum maybe a good thing your not watching anymore, becoming a little to personal for ya? Just think you can still buy all her stuff

doxyroxy
doxyroxy

 @twiddledeedum Can't believe a person is "sick" over a reality TV show casting decision.  Perhaps you need to turn off the TV because it's become too personal.

RHOviewer
RHOviewer

 @Ksfan She simply tried to survive in the lake full of sharks....And she did good for herself, she built her empire, she's smart, educated, her parents raised her very well.

lavidaalta1985
lavidaalta1985

@Bernie-mate@lavidaalta1985Gretchen wouldn't have to defend herself if she was as mature as she claims. She deflects her own bad behavior on to others to seem like a victim.


Happily meeting Lauri and digging up dirt on Vicki's past gave Vicki the right to bring up Jay again.


Confronting Alexis in Costa Rica was wrong. If she truly respected Alexis, convince Tamra and Heather to do the intervention in OC.


Showing up late to and not paying full attention during a special occasion for Heather is not cool.


Using the call she got from Malibu Country to make Tamra feel bad about inviting Alexis to her dress shopping event is wrong.


Not making Slade take ownership for the snide cheeseburger comment to Lydia is wrong.

lavidaalta1985
lavidaalta1985

@rzanna

There's no hatred towards G, just major disappointment. Lauri... I just feel sorry for her that she's so miserable that she felt she needed to resort to the tasteless tactics she did.

 

I have a degree in psychology just like G and I have the strength and courage to face my faults, unlike G. Yeah, hearing the truth stings, but you can either face it or be a coward and deny that there could be a few grains of truth in people's thoughts about your actions. Alexis knows that full well. She was hurt by how the girls ganged up on her, but she did take a look inside and made changes in her life. She even buried the hatchet with (and is actually friends with) Tamra and Heather!! She tried to with G, but G didn't care about her anymore.

 

G knocked off my rose-colored glasses over the last two seasons. She has a case of NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). Narcissists have a proclivity to twist the negative things they do into positive traits they possess. Again, think about Alexis. Why would G bring emails that she knew would make Alexis feel that people dislike her (remember, they used to be friends). After that, G then turns around and says, “I have been the only one that's been honest to your face....”

 

Tamra, on the other hand, can admit when she is wrong and will ultimately take responsibility for her actions. If you watch the 4th season reunion and listen to the rehashing of the “Naked Wasted” debacle, Tamra immediately takes responsibility for her actions. She even defended G when G said that she felt set up!!

 

About the karma comment, I was just stating a universal truth; I never wished bad for G. Being raised in a Christian home, G should know the phrase, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” In other words, if you want to be viewed a certain way and be respected, you have to give before you get. The fight with Vicki is the perfect illustration. Name one time when Vicki said something about Slade being a deadbeat dad THIS season.... you can't because she didn't. G kept rehashing the fact that Vicki called out Slade at last season's argument at the bunco party. Again, get over it G! Neither of you can change the past, so stop rehashing it. I know you'll bring up the bacon Vodka, but that was a response to being called names by Slade.

 

Another example with Vicki. G apparently “knows” firsthand how rumors can ruin your life, so if she is the adult she claims to be, WHY would she inflict that same pain on someone else. In season 5, she mentioned how Tamra's accusations hurt Jeff's kids. How do you think Mike and Briana felt watching all the stuff that G did to their mom?? Can you say “double standard” and “hypocrite?”

 

kritteracres@aol.com
kritteracres@aol.com

 @chelmabelle  @@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1  @GODISGOODALLTHETIME1 She's still "hotsy "notsy"...get rid of that awful black eyeliner and the mini skirts for heaven sake!  She's a Grandmother and is trying to keep up with the young women.  She doesn't have to wear Granny clothes, but she needs to dress more age appropriately and that includes toning down the black eye make up.

rzanna
rzanna

 @rebm

 Those two are really the worst, but they will always be kept on the show by Bravo because they create the most malice and negative drama.  I am at last getting tired of the Housewives franchise.