Just the facts.
First off I want to say sorry for not blogging for a while. Quite frankly it has not been at the top of my list to sit down and once again defend myself against ridiculous accusations from these women. When you know the truth sometimes you don't have say anything at all. However I keep getting asked by many when I was going to write a blog again, so I decided to try tonight. Obviously I have a lot to say based off these last few episodes of watching the show, but I believe the audience is sophisticated and smart and can figure out the truth on their own. So this blog is simply to just state the facts:
1. Fact: The man the women continue to bring up I took to court and won seven counts against. In order to find someone guilty of punitive damages the jury needs to find that person acted with fraud, malice, or intent. Furthermore the claims he tried to bring against me for defaming him, false light, and slander, the jury found in favor of me and not of him.
2. Fact: When you have a jury trial, that means 12 unbiased people who know nothing about him or me sit in court for close to three weeks and hear just the facts and see only the evidence (including the pictures Tamra and Vicki attempted to bring up at the reunion) and they ruled in my favor for seven counts against him. I will speak about four of the counts specifically here because it has to do with what I continue to get questioned about by the woman. (The verdict is public record and you can look up all the counts if you want to know more) One count was for stalking, one was for harassment, one was for conversion (stealing private photos) and one count was for intentional infliction of emotional distress. These were things the woman questioned me about five years ago during the reunion (Tamra: "You said he was a stalker.") and now once again during this reunion; I don't need to defend myself any longer with these accusations because a judgment against his man for these counts speak for themselves. The jury also found in favor of having a restraining order put in place for me.
Gretchen, I never got the impression you were a liar... I think you are a bright woman who tries for the most part to shoot straight from the hip...I find you funny and pretty insightful. Are you perfect heck no, but, no one is. I hope you and Slade continue on doing great things for yourselves and your families. I hope Slade's son is doing well. Just read he has a rare form of brain cancer. So very sorry to hear that. With that kind of stuff, who needs this BS.. it is all so miniscule in the scheme of things. Honestly, sometimes I think these shows reflect the uglier aspects of human nature. Not really a feel good kind of thing is it? The fact that you have to blog facts to defend your character to "us" the viewer.. blech.. frankly while I know that you have gotten a lot of tread from this show for your businesses... we are no one in your life and you don't have to answer to "us"... run your own race, do your thing and make yourself a happy happy life. You did it before this show and you will do it after this show. Don't take much of what is said on these response threads too seriously (except for my post of course lol)..unless of course they make sense to you. Take care, good luck and do good things :)
You will come back just as Laurie for special appearances. This is not goodbye. Bad call on Andy's part to bring back that desperate btch Laurie. If you do decide to come back for an appearance, please don't take a page from Laurie's handbook.
Please change up your look. What ever your doing is aging you prematurely. Maybe cut and straighten the hair and tone down the makeup. You are so pretty and don't need all that crap on your face.
I used to LOVE LOVE LOVE G's energy and zest for life, but she has completely disgusted me with her behavior the last two seasons. I've watched seasons 4 and 5 again recently and I'm seeing Tamra and Vicki in a whole new light. Yeah, they have their faults, but at least they have the decency to fess up and apologize when they've hurt someone.
G totally took Lauri's bait and drug Vicki through the mud. Lauri acted like Vicki sold the letter she got about George to a tabloid or read it on camera. Yeah, it totally sucks that Tamra and Vicki did what they did, but she is absolutely disgusting for extremely VINDICTIVE behavior. They apologized, so move on! They can't travel back in time and erase their actions, and neither can G. Her abhorrent shriek during the reunion, "You told a lie about me first!!" solidified she's a nasty five year old who refuses to grow up or take any serious responsibility for her actions.
GOOD RIDDANCE and karma WILL bite you when you least expect it.
My, such hatred. Are you sure it is actually aimed at G? Or maybe someone else?
There's no hatred towards G, just major disappointment. Lauri... I just feel sorry for her that she's so miserable that she felt she needed to resort to the tasteless tactics she did.
I have a degree in psychology just like G and I have the strength and courage to face my faults, unlike G. Yeah, hearing the truth stings, but you can either face it or be a coward and deny that there could be a few grains of truth in people's thoughts about your actions. Alexis knows that full well. She was hurt by how the girls ganged up on her, but she did take a look inside and made changes in her life. She even buried the hatchet with (and is actually friends with) Tamra and Heather!! She tried to with G, but G didn't care about her anymore.
G knocked off my rose-colored glasses over the last two seasons. She has a case of NPD (narcissistic personality disorder). Narcissists have a proclivity to twist the negative things they do into positive traits they possess. Again, think about Alexis. Why would G bring emails that she knew would make Alexis feel that people dislike her (remember, they used to be friends). After that, G then turns around and says, “I have been the only one that's been honest to your face....”
Tamra, on the other hand, can admit when she is wrong and will ultimately take responsibility for her actions. If you watch the 4th season reunion and listen to the rehashing of the “Naked Wasted” debacle, Tamra immediately takes responsibility for her actions. She even defended G when G said that she felt set up!!
About the karma comment, I was just stating a universal truth; I never wished bad for G. Being raised in a Christian home, G should know the phrase, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” In other words, if you want to be viewed a certain way and be respected, you have to give before you get. The fight with Vicki is the perfect illustration. Name one time when Vicki said something about Slade being a deadbeat dad THIS season.... you can't because she didn't. G kept rehashing the fact that Vicki called out Slade at last season's argument at the bunco party. Again, get over it G! Neither of you can change the past, so stop rehashing it. I know you'll bring up the bacon Vodka, but that was a response to being called names by Slade.
Another example with Vicki. G apparently “knows” firsthand how rumors can ruin your life, so if she is the adult she claims to be, WHY would she inflict that same pain on someone else. In season 5, she mentioned how Tamra's accusations hurt Jeff's kids. How do you think Mike and Briana felt watching all the stuff that G did to their mom?? Can you say “double standard” and “hypocrite?”
I saw you in the fiat commercial, and you were just great. I hope you will be doing more television that doesn't involve the Real Housewives franchise. I think OC and NJ are so over.
Never thought I'd say this, but RHOC and I are through! You were the only reason I watched this season - the rest of them (with the possible exception of Heather) were so annoying and shrill and just vicious. Vicki is a giant train wreck, Tamra is drinking Vicki's Kool-Aid again (or is it vodka? Ha!), and Lydia is like a little yorkie barking all the time in her baby voice. I do enjoy Heather's brand of humor but I can't parlay that into a reason to tune in next season. Bravo made a huge mistake. I predict next season with be the OC's last. Best of luck to you and Salde and your future endeavors.
GOODBYE! I'll miss trying to decipher the accuracy of the "Facts". But do have faith that you and Slade will 'hustle-up' another gig.......
I think Bravo just like to cast the stupid, the loud, the useless and the delusional who care less about themselves provided they do anything to keep the ratings up but, this time they got it all WRONG! A lot of viewers are NOT watching with you gone!
You have a lot to offer and being among those classless, evil, vicious women was not going to help you anyway. Unlike those 2 totally useless bitches Tamra and Vicki, you come from a very good home. You're well mannered, smart and beautiful.
I would have loved to see your journey with Slade unfold on TV especially your wedding because that love you both have there is REAL. I wish you and Slade the best of luck , God's love and protection, and may He bless you with healthy children. I believe we haven't seen nothing yet!
@GODISGOODALLTHETIME1 I enjoyed Gretchen and cannot believe they let her go. I think VIckie and Tamra are all over the place... I am well aware that this show is about entertaining us the viewers and I know we see what they want us to see. I can't pretend that I can glean the whole true picture of these ladies.. but, from what I have seen.. Tamra is likeable, but, seems wishy washy and unable to manage her friendships independently of each other. Vickie was hellbent on breaking up the friendship between "G" and "T" and it appears she was successful. That success could only be achieved because "T" is easily manipulated and also very strategic. I think that Vickie must have some kind of power on the show and "T" wants to remain on the show. She chose a side. "G" was obviously on her way out, and Vickie is still very much in. On a different note.. I sure wish these ladies didn't have to look so plastic.. I liked Alexis's softer look and hairstyle. I'm glad Vickie is looking a bit better from the plastic surgery... I was concerned at first because instead of looking hotsy totsy she was looking hotsy "notsy"....
You are the fun part of watching this show. I dislike Tamra and Vicki. I will not be watching RHOC next season since you will not be on the show. I have already stopped watching RHONJ and RHOM because of all the fighting. I watch these shows for entertainment, but Bravo seems to want to have Jerry Springer marathons instead.
Gretchen, I wish you the best in your life. You have made me smile and laugh so many times. I posted recently on your blog about how Jeff's death with leukemia paralleled my husband's death (in actual time) and watching you was something that I needed each week. NO one knows what it is like to watch your husband or boyfriend die until they go through it.
God bless you.
Gretchen, when one door closes, another opens. They say when that something/someone leaves your life, the Universe is making space for something/someone bigger and better to enter! Best of luck to you. xoxo
TinaS Exactly this is a blessing in disguise; she doesn't belong with these envious evils anyway.... I'm sure she will find a space where she will be able to focus on her business and her man
There's NOTHING embarrassing in supporting your husband. Men & women switch rolls all the time. Hire & pay Slade to be your manager; he was EXCELLENT at that AND you guys were happier then. Support your man; pay him for a job well done and be proud of him
Best of luck to you and Slade! I hope you mend fences with Alexis, she is a true friend with a kind heart.
Gretchen, You will definitely be missed on Housewives, but I do hope for something better in your future, perhaps a future in television or film in a different capacity than on the trashy Housewives of Orange County. I especially wish you and Slade all the happiness in the world. God speed. I won't be watching OC any longer. You were the breath of fresh air on that show, and I admire you for fighting back and standing up for yourself when you were so under attack.
rzanna I agree, I will not be watching next season either. I could barely get through this season with Trashy Tamara and Vicky.
Those two are really the worst, but they will always be kept on the show by Bravo because they create the most malice and negative drama. I am at last getting tired of the Housewives franchise.
twiddledeedum Can't believe a person is "sick" over a reality TV show casting decision. Perhaps you need to turn off the TV because it's become too personal.
@twiddledeedum maybe a good thing your not watching anymore, becoming a little to personal for ya? Just think you can still buy all her stuff
News reports that you won't be back on the show - finally a whoo hoo moment! Good luck to you in your life, I do wish you well, but It's so obvious you like to be the center of attention and it's frankly, very old!. Speaking of trying for attention, please take Vicki with you!! I'd much rather see her daughter on the show full time, but as a real wife and mom it's too much drama to ask of her.
Ksfan She simply tried to survive in the lake full of sharks....And she did good for herself, she built her empire, she's smart, educated, her parents raised her very well.
I don't know if the rumors are true that you have been fired. I for one, felt you should quit anyway. You are far above these Desperate Ho's of OC. Unlike the rest of them, you took your 15 minutes of fame & worked hard to create a career with it. Despite all the personal struggles you endured with Jeff, Slade, the Ho's degrading you at every turn, you kept your head high and kept moving on. Congratulations Gretchen! It must burn Queen of Mean Vicki's arse, to see you be the successful business woman! bravo !!!!!!! best wishes, keep on rockin' on ;)
Not watching their crappy shows anymore. They take you off and there isn't anything but phony desperate 50 year old women pretending to be hot and relevant and exclusive
Can't believe you won't be returning! Who's decision was that? Stupid! I think Tamra has a serious personality disorder. She had me fooled but now it is clear that she is utterly incapable of loyalty. Apparently her childhood trauma has left her seriously damaged. You come from a lovely family and you will be ok. I hope you do come back to the show. This is nuts to have you gone.
Can't believe it. No reason to watch this show any longer. They set you up. Bravo is become a waste of time
Sooo bummed to hear the news that you won't be returning... I don't get it. Why would they let the nice, genuine one go? Very, very disappointing! Best wishes to you and your future with Slade!
You were just too whiney and vindictive this season. You constantly complained about things Vicky did 3 years ago and refused to acknowledge that she had apologized for being mean. The viewers were also disgusted by the way you completely turned your back on Alexsis. And then Slimey Slade proffitting off of really mean insults at Vicky's expense. That was just too low down and dirty.
You two got what you derserved. I wonder who the next housewife Slade will date now that you are off the show?
Gretchen, I so sad that Bravo has lost it's ever lovin mind getting rid of you instead of the "nasty girls", and I'm using that term lightly. Bravo seems to believe that mean, disrespectful, nasty, and snarky are what we the viewing audience wanst to see....NOT!!! I have watched from the very first year and with the news that you and Alexis are not "invited" back has left a bad taste in my mouth, so with that said, I'm moving on and won't continue to watch this part of the Housewives series. On to Atlanta and Beverly Hills!!!!
@nana1958 So true! You made me wonder why Bravo would like to cast women in this light. They get rid of the positive, go-getters, and keep the snarks. Hmmm . . .
Very sad to see you are leaving the series. I guess you weren't evil and deceitful enough for reality TV.
Gretchen, I enjoyed watching your life in RHOC. I think you and Slade have always been the calm, rational ones inspite of the ridiculous screaming of the others. However, I think you should let Slade be your manager, he enjoys it and is good at it, and you should pay him, just a suggestion. Best in all you do and I'm sure you'll succeed.
Very sad to learn that you will not come back...You were my favorite but you did make some major mistakes and I hope you will learn from that... First you can't swim with sharks and expect to make it to the shore or you can't make a pact with the devil without becoming one yourself. Unfortunately that's what you tried to do last year. You tried to befriend the devil named Tamara and evicted the sweet naive Alexis. Granted Alexis can be annoying and childish but you handled that very poorly. You thought if you played like the mean girl you will have less hard time. But you are not a mean girl at heart and that a testimony to who you are and to your parents. They raised you well, and it shows.
You tried to play your game but you forgot the game rules are ultimately set by Bravo. That is if you're not going to throw under the bus your parents, like the trashy Tamara did, wash your dirty laundry in public then you're not good for reality TV.
Again it's a good testimony to who you are, you're a smart business woman who crafted her way and you fans will follow you wherever you will go.
Wow...just read you won't be back. You used to be my favorite...then you played with the "snake". He's brought you down...do you think he will stay with you or try to date and become engaged to another housewife??? He really is gagging...
You turned your back on Alexis and that friendship, now..you've been done the same wrong by Gretchen...now we'll all get to watch as Tamara gets played by Vicky. It's been a vicious circle. Step outside this circle...keep speaking up in truth. You may just become a good example of the right way to be that may help someone else who is struggling with some of the same issues
Gretchen, the tv series.. You were asked by a division of casting that was different than Heathers casting folks were. Both of you were right. Not sure why Tamera makes such a big deal about this. I do think you made a mistake trusting Tamara. You seem to make friends and are better at the Best Friends (meaning one main friend) to the exclusion of all others, than the three or fours BFFs. The only cast member capable of that would have been Alexis. Tamera already has explained she is incapable of total trusting commitment. Tamera will always be best friends with Vicki. Vicki is scary and powerful and Tamera is submissive to scary and powerful. It must be from the childhood of not being loved..
bzshannon I agree with you on everything you said, except that on the casting thing it's Heather that made a big deal out of it... she is SO insecure she wanted to make sure Gretchen doesn't compete with her and who better than the used tamra the devil to do the dirty work of making her look like a liar.... The biggest evil of all them is heather
I just watched all the reunion episodes from every season, plus a few episodes from every season. I love this show. I love all the housewives. That being said, Gretchen is a little difficult to read. No matter what, she never apologizes for anything. I think I saw her apologize one time to Alexis in the few years she has been on this show. Never has she apologized to anyone else for any reason. She was manipulating Tamra with the Malibu Country thing, but Heather was also exaggerating her part in it. Gretchen refused to admit that Slade was caught in a lie about Lauri. He did date her. He was seen in public with her. If they didn't date, and they never went to each other's houses, where did they "hang out" a few times, by his own words. Gretchen, you were lying about the guy that Tamra keeps bringing up. Just because you list something as a "fact" does not make it true. You admit on two or three separate episodes that he was a "friend." He was an "ex boyfriend." He was just someone you know. On and on your story changed. All of a sudden he was stalker and you had to press charges. I am not one to say that it is false or anything, but you are walking a very fine line with that one. I truly would be surprised if you won, considering you are on camera stating that you knew him, hung out with him, and even dated him. If no one believes me, watch all the hidden footage videos and the reunion videos from past seasons. I watched them on Amazon. Back to Slade. I have heard a lot of things about him, but I really don't care about all the stuff on the internet. On the show, however, he really has dated three "housewives," and he already had a reality show of his own with one former housewife. You had to consider the possibility of him being an opportunist, especially since everything circled back to him. There are also the rumors that now he (and you) want your own reality show as a spin-off, like Tamra. You all are beautiful, successful women with your own strengths, your own weaknesses, and your own opinions. I don't see why you all feel like you have to compete with each other.
Gretchen, you have to just face the fact that Tamra got you big time. She did not like you, but pretended to be your friend because she knew you would dump your true friend Alexis to be in the "cool" crowd. And dump and backstab her you did. Now the chickens have come home to roost. Tamra has pretty much turned back to the ones she really gets along with (to a larger degree), and you are just on the outs. Alexis will never trust you again. Maybe both of you learned a valuable lesson.
rosyposy I have to say I'm a big fan of G but the way she treated Alexis was wrong. I understand she doesn't connect with her and she doesn't want to be a friend with her ...but she handled the whole thing very poorly
I think Alexis is an idiot. Sorry, but she is as obnoxious as she is beautiful. She has a pretty face, but no brains, and it is laughable how she keeps trying to cover up the gross mistakes she makes.
Gretchen, I think you are struggling to keep up with the other cast members throughout Bravo. The fact that you choose a man with a bad track record that wants desperately to be paid by Bravo is difficult for everyone. But I want to ask a question...who helps you with you attire..whomever it may be you need a new designer..you dresses on any occasion are tasteless. Try to choose something that not over the top! Just a suggestion!