Hi Guys! Wow what a couple of past weeks! Work has been so busy lately, and I barely have had time to even sit down and watch these episodes myself. I have to say, it's sometimes hard to watch these episodes because at times it brings back some hard feelings and sad emotions. This was filmed in the fall, which was nearly six months ago, so lots of things have changed since then.
First off it's important to me to say thank you very much for all the kind messages of love, compassion, and heartfelt prayers regarding Slade's son Grayson. It truly was a very scary time for us, as we were not sure if Grayson was going to wake up from his sixteenth major brain surgery he had back in October. It was a very sad time for the whole family.
As you can imagine it was a stressful, and difficult time for Slade personally, for me personally, and for us as a couple. It truly challenged us in ways we hadn't been tested before. We had a lot of sad moments of tears, fear, frustration, and anger. Even though we actually were apart for a lot of those five months (Grayson was out in New York) it actually made our relationship even stronger. It was during those months that I realized that this man was the kind of man I wanted to have forever by my side. When you go through what we did when Grayson was at his worst, and when the doctors were not sure if he was going to make it, you create a forever bond. I saw Slade in a light I had never even seen him in before. He was brave and strong and courageous, yet so fragile, weak, and broken. I knew he needed me there by his side and that is why I was with him. Although you didn't see it, I was there before Grayson went into surgery as moral support for Slade.
Gretchen I wish you both happiness,haters are gonna hate and be negative,just ignore and stay away from two faced people like Tamara,and you will be fine.
I, I I, I did this and I did that. This is so typical of you since you always think of yourself first. I should have counted the times, you said "I".
It doesn't feel good to be picked on and bullied, now you know how Vicki and Alexis felt.
Slade is one of your problems and as long as you stay with him, you will never grow and contribute to anything.
Also, I do not believe you are working so hard, typically when people say stuff like this, they are not really doing it.
Are you running out of things to say about "yourself"?
Love you! You are a class act! I wish the best for you and Slade. It took you both a long time to get where you are and you both deserve happiness and love! I hope all your dreams for a happy marraige and family come true. Do not let the haters in your head! True friends will reveal themselves. I dislike the way some cast members talk to and about you and Slade, yet expect you both to treat them with respect. Respect is earned. And if they cannot take a little lip service by Slade on his show, they are the ones with issues!
Gretchen, so sorry to hear Slade lost his job..... hope he can find another one ! But, he is so disrespectful to women. It's sad that all he can do is get on a "radio show" and talk about someone's looks. There are plenty of things to talk about others than that. Why would he go to Vickie's party and try to fit in if he doesn't like her...... so he can be seen on the show ? You need to tell him that it's not polite and that as a woman you don't like it.
You and Slade are terrible people. Why are you with that man. How horrible for him to continue to say so many mean things. Yes, Vicki is a hypocrite, nevertheless, who is the better of the two. Slade is a sleeze. He is a user and he is using you. You have changed over the years. You hated it when the girls were mean to you about Jim? and now you have become a hater yourself.
Gretchen, You are a lovely person. I am all for you and Slade. If he is the one you love, more power to both of you. The only negative words I have are about the way you feel you need all that eye makeup. Honey you have beautiful eyes, why do you goop all that crap on your pretty eyes.
Gretchen, You've always been a straight shooter and call it like you see it. My fiance and I have always enjoyed those personality traits in you. It often made you funny, fun to watch and reminded us there has been a long lasting cast member that has not lost touch with where she came from and overall reality. Watching you on this show has been like watching a girl who is part of the "cool kids" but, always marched to the beat of her own drum. This season you have really shown some unfortunate colors and I think you've heard it enough from fans to know there must be some validity here. From what we see, your personality is definitely changing for the worst. This season, you come off catty, mean, petty, snarky....all that stuff. We all know Alexis has her faults and says things that make us all embarressed for her but, if any of you have any interest in talking to her, take it off line in private. Even though what you all have to say to her is true, when you address her at the same time, it IS ganging up on her. It's too many people on the offensive with no one willing to find common ground. I'm addressing you because, you used to be Alexis' friend and Tamra is so off the reservation, it is hopeless. As for Heather, I think Alexis has put her foot in her mouth too many times for Heather to respect her and when they met, both of them were on the offensive. Also, last season there was a lot of talk about Alexis being pretentious ...how do you explain that Rolls then??? We all know Alexis like to show off her money and her fake ring haha but, don't you think the Rolls is a little much? Should we assume you've reached a level of wealth that runs with the Bill Gates of the world? I'm not telling you to be friends with Alexis, I'm suggesting you not pile on with the others and go back to the down to earth gal we all know and love! You were relatable, kind and said what we were all thinking which, was funny!
Slade will never get a job wakeup and as far as Alexis allowing Lydia to speak so freely weren't you the one who ganged up on Alexis wherever you all went it seems you were speaking freely then why didn't someone stop you
Message to the "haters"???? Were you looking in the mirror when you came up with this blog and it's title?? You, Tamra and Heather are the real haters.
I have watched every season of your show and I have seen you change into the person that you so disliked in the beginning. Tamara was so mean to you I thought and I felt sorry for you the way you were treated. Now you act just like that, especially to Alexis. Maybe you should go back and watch some of the old shows and watch the hurt in your face when the other girls were being mean. Maybe then you will not treat Alexis and others the way you do now.
sheila.alspach I really think she was that way all along. Its very strange to see a person change that much. There were always little clues that you could notice and it did not add up. Don't waste effort feeling sorry for her.. not worth it..waste of effort that could be spent doing anything but thinking of her messed up situation.
First of all, you are not selfish for having the feelings you have regarding the situation with Slades son. You are selfish for expressing them to him at that time! Seriously? He didn't know if his son was even going to live, and you're whimpering because you want to have a baby. Wasn't the time. Believe it or not, there are other people in the world other than you, and other peoples feelings should matter too. Especially someone you supposedly love. And he's just clinging on to you because of your "fame". I WAS a huge Gretchen fan but you have become just so hateful. Stop being so mean to Alexis for no reason.. what did she do to you? Nothing. Whether you want to call it bullying or not.. its downright rude and immature. Maybe you don't want to call it bullying because you aren't in high school, but you certainly act it. What kind of adult treats people that way? I'm sure you are jealous of her wealth and her life. And you are only getting close to Tamara because you're so insecure and you don't want her to turn on you. She has no loyalty.. she will. Can't wait to see you be on the receiving end. I'm all for having fun but the two of you have NO CLASS.
guess who else doesn't want to hear anything negative...You, Tamara, and Heather...what a mean person you have become...
Do yourself a favor and stay away from Tamra, she is a train wreck! she just brings you down to her level.
Hi I'm so glad slades little boy is ok I don't know where I am watching as I live in England and don't have bravo so been watching on itv 2 a channel over here your my favourite tho and can't wait to watch the new 1s they put on :) xx
First of all , you are in no way qualified to discuss what is best in a marriage, as you have NO experience!! Your attitude throughout this whole blog is so unappealing!! You used to be a kind and nice person. But, since you let Tamara and Slade get close to you - you have changed dramatically!! It is pretty ugly Gretchen!! I don't know if you think it makes you look strong to tell people to "SUCK IT"???? Whatever you think, you are coming acrossed as calloused and rude - JUST LIKE TAMARA.
pyin She has been married before. And she absolutely does have experience with watching others' marriages to gain a common sense insight as to what works and what doesn't. The LEAST she needed to say to those horrible disgusting social media bullies for saying such terrible and unforgivable things about her/Slade/Slade's son situation was suck it! And by the way...it's "coming across" and "callous"....sounds like someone else is in no way qualified.
hmmmm.... so your point is what? I'm a viewer with an opinion and your solution is to question my character and intelligence??. Interesting, I guess I know nothing about marriage and family as I have been married 18 years!!! And what exactly qualifies you to have an opinion of me? Someone you don't even know? Guess I'm not sure how they do things in hillbilly Kentucky!! Lighten up little girl
pyin I see we can surely dish it. But when/if comments are aimed at you, it feels like you've been attacked and I see you too go into retaliation mode just as Gretchen felt she had to too. So I guess you might sympathize a little with what she (and all the girls) have had to endure...can you just IMAGINE? I mean come on, your words to Gretchen were in no way kind or nice just as you accuse her of not being...so to answer your question, that was the point; if you dish, you gotta be able take, right?
Do you remember how Tamera turned everybody against you and Alexis stayed by your side. Maybe if you try to remember how good of a friend Alexis was to you during that time, you could see the good in her, instead of hatred towards her. In Costa Rica, it wasn't just you talking mean to her, it was all of you together. I would have felt bullied also. You and Tamera are starting to look exactly alike, and I'm not sure if your getting plastic surgery together, or if both of your mean spirits are just making you both look unattractive. I used to think you had so much on the outside but I just do not see it anymore. You say Alexis never listened to you when you tried to tell her what she was doing wrong, but you have not taken one person's advice on how you should forgive Alexis, and be nice to her. Isn't that being kind of hypocritical?
I am so glad that you and wanna be Slade are together. You really do deserve each other. Your fake tears and his fake concern for his son are what really "sucks it".Glad that you showed the fans what you really think of them. This show needs to be re-cast. And when fake wanna be Slade leaves you for a housewife with camera time, what cha going to do then Gretchy?
You and Tamra are poison to one another. I liked you so much first season. I am so totally turned off by you, Tamra and Heather. You revel in being nasty to others and yes you are a bully and so is Heather and so is Tamra...
Gretchen, dangerous for business to tell fans of show,"to suck it", I think you have changed. If I had a business that I had the opportunity to reach a massive audience I would watch what I do and write.
Do you ever get tired of patting yourself on the back and criticizing everyone else? You have become so fake physically, and emotionally. You need to go back to your first season on the show and see how you've changed. You and Tamra are both so selfish and narsacistic. After everything she did with calling Slades ex and bringing them into her drama, I have no idea why Slade would even want to be anywhere near this woman or you. You were never supportive of his son, you only added demands to his problems llike a spoiled brat. The kindest thing you could have done is leave him and let him deal with real problems instead of your superficial BS. You're jealous of Tamra trying to make amends with Vicki. (if Vicki does she's crazy) Tamra has been horrible to every housewife that has ever been on this show, and you're going to get it again eventually. First Tamra was threatened by you (probably because you and she were both alike) but then decided after the huge debachle at the reunion with Slade, that she literally had no where else to go but to have the two of you join together. Your relationship is sick. Loving the dressing alike, and flaunting over each other. What are you high school? I hope one of your expenses is a psychiatrist because you need help as does your buddy Tamra. Maybe you can get a group plan. Tamra is admitting to Eddie her anger problem. duh? This woman has severe mental problems. Her self-esteem must be in the toilet after all the horrible things she's done to everyone. You don't walk away from that without paying in some way If Eddie had any sense, he'd run as fast as he can. Marrying Tamra will be a disaster for him. What would you do Gretchen if you and Slade had a baby that had the same problems as Grayson? Do you know if his condition is genetic? Reel yourself in and start being real instead of believing that you're some kind of celebrity. You're a reality personality who has consented to expose her life for money, and with no reason for being on TV other than to demonstrate your over the top behavior that is collectively more negative than positive all the time. Don't you get tired of being a group of disgruntled women who are never satisfied and rarely happy.
Gretchen's pride and huge ego will never let her see her terrible behavior at this stage - she refuses to acknowledge the changes we all see. I agree with your entire blog - couldn't have said it any better...And you are right Tamra is now back pedaling and I feel badly for Eddie. His appearance is changing too and I think it's from the stress he feels. He looks so unhappy. He doesn't want to be involved with all the negativity and he has to be rethinking what their marriage wlll be after all of the ugly unnecessary drama he's witnessed. from Tamra. Her comments to him- at the wine tasting, when he returned from his bike ride with Slade, were just stupid and rude. The guy has moved her and her brood into his house; supported her business; loves her...can't she show him respect? I'm afraid for Eddie - will she start her wrath with him next? She is a broken woman - she needs help. This show is becoming really disappointing. Heather is constantly giving advice about relationships,- she acts like she is the expert on everything....yuck! Seriously the woman is the last person that should give anyone advice. Her uppity behavior and condescending attitude is such a turn off. I'm so thankful that I do not have to deal with women like this in my life. It' just goes to prove that money does not buy class or grace.....
Gretchen, you are a disappointment. I think you should reach out to Alexis (so what if she is defensive and not always reflective) help her understand how she is perceived but don't judge her. I don't blame her for feeling ganged up on by all of you loud opinionated ladies. You latched on to Tammra who is still a loud, low class, mean girl. don't bring yourself to that level. you used to be sweet and tried to rise above all that....try again.
I always feel a little sad for you when I watch you. About the whole bullying thing: perhaps "ganged up on" would make you understand how someone would feel to be confronted by five or six people at once. Just mean. Confrontations or helpful suggestions are a one-to-one business. Hard to understand for you, I guess. I am not an Alexis fan, but you have to know that bullies always say "I was joking" or "I was just telling the truth". Bullying is experienced by the person on the receiving end, not the person doing it. Try some introspection.
Itokagi23 There is no one home up there to think before she speaks and your blog is how I feel as well.
Gretchen, If you can forgive and be good friends with Tamra after the calculating, intrusive, and down right awful things she has done to you in the past you should be able to forgive Alexis for being annoying..... Right? After all she was a good friend to you, she stood up for you multiple times when Tamra and Vicki were attacking your character and prying into Slade's personal child support business. Although she IS annoying, don't sell her out just to keep Tamra from turning on you again.
You are such a lovely strong lady! God Bless you & Slade & Grayson & his mom as you all deal with such an unfair episode that unfortunately many families face. I don't blame you for becoming frustrated w/Alexis & her topsy turvy friendship. Sheis a taker in givers clothing & is unable to be introspective or see herself thru others eyes! You are not! It was interesting how you realized you & Vicky have "switched" roles. However you are not constantly calling Vicky names or putting her down like she did you. She (& Tamra at the time) tried every catty manuveur us women pull on one another to get under your skin. Only b/c she saw you as the authentic, strong, straightforward person she wants to be & tries to convince others she is. Vicky can not figure out who she wants to be & it is sad. She has all the trappings of a strong independant woman but it is false! Best wishes to you & Slade in your endeavours & prayers for Grayson & his family!! Stay true to who you are, just as you always have!!
You said on WWHL that you grew up in a strict Christain home... How can you validate your behavior? I always wondered what was it about you that allowed Alexis to embrace you as a close friend in the first place. I understand why she opened up to you. You wronged her big time. Gretchen you know better then anyone that until you get your life back on track, nothing will work out for you in the long run. One more thing, it seems to me that you have a strong relationship with your parents. Dosent it bother you that you bring no honor to them when you behave the way you do? BTW I was bullied in the workplace and I was 40 yrs old at the time. Children arent the only ones that are bullied! Call it whatever you want , paid or not, noone deserves to be HUMILIATED THAT WAY!!! I didnt think I could be any more disappointed with you. but after last night on the show with Andy, you hit my limit.
You are weak and sad. You definitely had to pick a side so you dumped Alexis and went to Tamara because you are spineless and could not handle the heat. You do not know how to be a true friend. So pathetic but your disloyalty will be returned to you.
Stirring the pot by making fun of Vicki and telling Tamra Vodka by Vicki is a conflict of interest. How can a wine of the month mail business and selling to a retailer a conflict?
You couldn't admit you had lip injections but had no problem looking at a picture of Vicki and announcing that she had a chin implant. You've had a lot of work Gretchen. Look at your first season. Do you think no one notices?
I did not read your blog, nor do I care to. Unlike the majority of viewers who used to like you and now are finally seeing your true colors, I have always thought that you were a disgusting, lying, two faced trashbag. I mean using a dying man for his money? Come on. If that does not speak true to someone's character, I don't know what does.
Your undying hate towards Alexis makes you look really shady and phony seeing as to how you have no real reason to dislike her. You can spin it how you want in your head, but you still look fake and pathetic chumming up to someone who defamed you.
Lella Oh, and I am reminded of Gretchen's behavior at the dinner when Alexis walked out. Vicki was trying to get things settled. Vicki says: "Gretchen SHHH". Then Gretchen says " NO Vickie I am NOT gonna SHH - how do you like that"!!! Her attitude and behavior is getting so drastic, and she thinks that makes her stronger!! ?? Unfortunately all she is doing now is making herself look bad all around. Most of all she seems cold and heartless JUST like Tamra!!
I just don't like you anymore. I use to like you a lot but now all I can see is a mean ugly girl. Too sad.....I thought maybe it's just for the show but after seeing you on WWHL, I'm afraid it's just not who you were when you first showed up and now well ......................you are a mean bully even if you choose not to accept the truth. I hope after you are fired you will see the truth.
Praying for Grayson & family. All the other BS doesn't matter right now, it's about the child. So while ALLLL of you others are commenting about being a mean girl and blah blah blah get your s--t together and think about the family and the child who has already had 16 life threatening surgeries. Goodness gracious..pathetic people I SWEAR!
So how old are you? Your proud you know how to have a conversation? We, the rest of the world do that in elementary school.