Gretchen, I used to really like you, but you have changed and not for the better.  Some of the remarks you made to or about Alexis at Tamra's dinner were terrible.  You should have kept your mouth shut instead of egging on a confrontation.  You haven't been a nice person this year, and watching you is giving me a headache!

I watched the first show this season and I started to watch the 2nd. I didn't finish watching it because it is not in the least bit amusing. Matter of fact its rather disgusting. I tell you Bravo, I may not watch any more. I really don't like watching a spoiled little girl with her also equally spoiled friend .. Gretchen and Tamra. You 2 are just the pair huh? Oh what fun to watch Gretchen behave the way she really is and WAS. You 2 are about as much trouble as a cloudy day to me. I would not put up with the both of you. It would not take me 5 minutes to say what I think of either one of you. I don't allow selfish, spoiled, rotten, 2-faced, negative, poor little me attitude in friends. Where is the point to having a friend that is all those qualities? If Bravo decides to get some new people I might want to actually watch it. This show is  boring. Let me know when we get to the story where you have Tamra turn on Gretchen because she knows all her secrets now. 

Gretchen with the sad things going on in your's and Slade's life it seem's you would have learned to have some compassion!  Sad!  I don't think you and Tamara need to focus on the negative you should focus on positive! I think Alexis is right you are bulling her! Whether you label it bullying or mean what's the difference!  Glad you girls aren't my friends!

I am going to tell you as plainly as I can  what you do not seem to understand Gretchen. Being honest with a friend and voicing your opinion is honorable as long as it is done caringly in private with your friend. What you did was neither honorable nor caring. You joined an offensive within a forum where Alexis was outnumbered. She had no one in her corner. You could have sat quiet if you did not want to get in the mix. Instead you tarnished your reputation by putting opinion and popularity over friendship and joining the "attack-pack" thereby leaving Alexis alone. Now, Alexis is flawed but so is everyone including you. Yes, She may have done the same to Vicki a season prior but the difference is she was not Vicki's "close" friend. Alexis never did that to you. She always supported you and never joined in with others to attack you and boy they did attack you a lot! Please for the your own sake, do what you told Alexis to do...own it, apologize and move on! Fame and popularity is never worth losing your dignity. 

Gretchen, I liked you a lot, but now after you teamed up with Tamra, your behavior is difficult to watch and digest - mean, harsh, rude, is this really what you wanna be?

Gretchen, really?  Are you not one of the most self-centered people there are?  You do not come across well on the program at all.  Just saying....something to think about.

Gretchen I do not think you were being selfish.  I can not imagine what that situation is like in any way.  My thoughts and prayers go out to you, Slade and his son.  I have two boys and I can not imagine what you are dealing with.

On another note I do think you are a good person however you are just different with Tamra.  I know you do not see it nor do you think so but you really are.  You are not the same person you were without her.  Honestly, everyone sees it but you.  I liked your personality without Tamra.  She must be insecure because I can never see her saying nice things about people she is always bringing out the negative.  You were not like that before, but your life do what you wish I am just letting you know you were a better person without her.

Gretchen saw you on WWHL and I completely believe what Alexis tweeted about you becoming freinds with tamara bc you wanted to be on her good side. Many of us viewers think that anyway. I think you are way more of a liar than Alexis (ie lying about your weave and lip injections)... I just don't beleive Alexis would make that up.

I'm sorry Gretchen. I cannot find anything redeemable about your personality. You and Tamra 

ARE bullies, holier than thou bullies. Do you watch yourself? Do you see your insolent, hateful, imperial body language? Do you value anything of tangible value? You are swift to critisize, and loathe to take constructive critisism.

Gretchen ignore the hater's you are not a mean girl or selfish you deserve good things in your life you have worked hard, grab all happiness and go for all your dreams!

Looking Great tonight on Watch what happens Live..Hang in there Gretchen. Just focus on your life with Slade . I know you love him, I really hope and pray it all comes together for you both...You are darling...best wishes..

Gretchen, you have changed, I won't judge your relationship with Tamra only just be careful  because she doesn't have the best record of loyalty.  Grayson is in my prayers and I hope he gets out of the hospital if he hasn't already and goes home.  I'm really sad how nasty people are behaving with their blogs.  Honestly, nobody is perfect and to sit and judge just isn't right.  When Vickie called you stupid, OMG, you kept your mouth zipped but for once I wish you really socked her one.  Talk about rude, she takes the cake on that one.  Alexis is a drama queen.  All she had to say was that she was there to support Tamra like she told Vickie to say in the text, but no, she has to be the drama queen.  Lydia looks like she's trying to understand you but with everything happening, everybody should understand how you  feel.  Heather is also having a little bit of a challenge lately.  Terry is a very nice guy  but he reminds me of the nerd guy in high school [before the world comes down on me, I was the fat 5 by 5 in the corner so shut up already] and is totally enjoying his ride right now.  Can't blame him but enough already.  Heather is strung a little tight but she is awesome with her kids and is a fantastic wife.  Terry has a great partner and he knows it.  Well, I'll get off my soap box.  God Bless and please remember you are a lady and not a bully.

Really? You and Tamra are like two high school mean girls! Plastic,fake,and bullies! It's pathetic and disgusting how you treat people! Grow up and act like women in your 30s and 40's! Not two gossiping,mean,rumor starting teenagers!

Guess it doesn't feel too good hearing the truth...but it was all good when you Tamra and Heather were ganging up on Alexis.  The kitchen is HOT!

Just watching the episode again and I totally forgot Vicki called you a stupid person, and you didn't say anything to her! Hello!! She called you a stupid and you didn't even stand up for yourself.  Are you scared of Vickie? seems so.. Your so freaking Lame Gretchen. Vicki would of tore your head off and you know this. I'm sitting her listening to Alexis plead with yall to leave her alone. You can't even stand up for yourself. Maybe you weren't sure if anybody would have your back if you went off on Vicki. That was a stupid comment. It's her first Grandchild! Yes its the baby of her baby. Have some kids Gretch before you try to give advice. You will never understand until then.

What kind of message could you possibly have Gretchen? There is not a thing you can possibly say that could eclipse your horrendous behavior. Vicky was right about you all a long. Alexis was the only one that tolerated you while the others pecked at you like Alfred Hitchcock's The Birds. The way you threw Alexis under the bus speaks volumes about your self seeking and selfishness. Your a follower and a bully. Own it.

I am struggling with infertility and though I know that isn't what you are going through, I do wish you the best of luck with being able to have a child of your own. With that said, if you do have a child, you are going to have to grow up and stop being such a selfish person. Tamra has always been rude since the beginning but I tolerated her because of her friendship with Vickie. I don't understand what has happened to you this year, but WOW you have turned into a total bully. Have you went back and watched the episodes? I hope that you will, and learn that you are so ugly acting the way that you do. The words that come out of your mouth are not what I would have expected from you. I am no longer a fan and if you keep up this attitude on the show its safe to say that BRAVO will lose yet another viewer due to the mean girls.

Gretchen, kissing Tamra's behind is unbecoming. What else will you do to "fit' in. Get a clue!

Wow! To the last several comments below.... All of the behavior that you are talking about Gretchen for you are displaying in a extremely more hurtful way.  Gretchen has her faults but so does everyone else.  I think she is one of the most honest people and stays true to herself through all of the bull.  And she has never seemed smart to you?? She seems pretty smart to me.. she does well for herself and has figured out how to take care of herself without a man supporting her! So with that said... your moma should have raised you with some manners.. if you dont have anything positive to say.. shut your mouths!!!

Just because someone isn't perfect doesn't mean you can gang up on them and throw them to the sharks.  Okay, we all have friends who have flaws, some are loosey goosey, flakes, irresponsible, brag too much, swear too much, but in the end, if someone messes with them...you are done.  You are a holly go lightly type of friend, and, interestingly, so isn't Tamara so you two are a match made in heaven.  I have plenty of friends who may not want to hear me the first time when I try to help them, but it does not mean I am going to give up.  Tamara has stabbed every friend she has in the back, look at her track record, shame on you.  If you think that your, Tamara and Heather's behavior was okay to do to someone who was trying to be supportive of a friend and put the past behind her....think again. Secondly, Tamara, since when doesn't speak her mind...she knew she was going to attack Alexis, so that is why she agreed to allow her to come....we are not blind, stupid, or deaf...I hope Eddie wakes up before he ruins his life....

Gretchen:  The first couple of seasons I watched you, you were a kind soul and my favorite housewife.  Your new found mean-spirited, hateful, selfish, rude, thoughtless, immature, did I mention SELFISH behavior makes me turn my TV off.  Get over yourself, realize what is important in life, drop the toxic Tamra relationship and realize that Heather is a rude neophyte to the show who shows her lack of self confidence each and every time she is on camera.  I feel horrible for her husband that he has to live with her.  Gretchen, you have never seemed smart to me, but I do remember you being kind.  Let's get back to that . . . okay?

Why do you guys continue insisting on Alexis behavior, just let her be! Off course she does not want to hear about it, especially coming from women who are wanting to humiliate her. It's BS when you say you are only wanting to help her, it's sad to see how fake you have become.

I think your awesome, beautiful and keep your chin up..... You will always have jealous haters. Do what feels right for you, your life and your relationship. Of all the OC ladies your my favorite. Keep it classy !

I really need to watch more of this show to figure out who is nuts and who isn't. I think Gretchen probably just has a more natural friendship with Tamra than she did with Alexis. I don't think Alexis is a bad person at all but I do think she is a bit over the top with the husband thing and religion but to each his own.

I do think that this whole cast is a bit caught up in their own instant fame though. I don't think they realize that when this show is done so are they. These sort of insta -celebrities have a short shelf life. I know there are few exceptions to that rule..but think about it. How many insta-celebrities have there been and how many turned it into an actual career?

Anyway, I don't think Gretchen is a bad person from what I see, I think she sticks to whatever suits her at that moment in her life. Now, I guess that is Tamra.

Quite shocked at Gretchens personality transplant, Alexis always had her back when Tamra was bitching about her and now she's teamed up with Tamra and BULLYING Gretchen! That last vicious attack was obviously pre planned. Tampa could have diffused that situation before hand by sending Alexis a discreet text saying not to come. She just wanted maximum drama and humiliation!

Gretchen I love your hair. And Slade is not  a sleazy man, he is not! And Gretchen, you have standards when it comes to friends and boyfriends. You are a deep soul, with deep convictions.

I'm TEAM ALEXIS even more after reading this post by Gretchen.

I have to agree the way you are with Vicki is rude and just mean.  Tamra is not coming across the screen as a nice girl so you look so jealous trying to defend her where Vicki isconcerned. You really should stay out of their affair you have nothing to do with it so let them put their friendship back together without your input, espically a negative one at that.  Wishing Slade's son the best and hope his family can have some peace. 

Are people hating when they are showing your true colors? It would be nice to see the nice girl you once were but hanging around with Tamra has changed you for the worse.  If you don't see that when you watch these episodes, then I do truly feel sorry for you. There are no justifications for your mean actions towards Alexis yet you try to make excuses all the time.  The truth is if you no longer like her or want to consider her your friend, so be it. It is your right.  But what ever happened to showing others - even those you don''t like are are simply in your presence - some simple common courtesy and respect. Is that difficult for you to do? The point is the conversation was between Tamra and Alexis and you just butted in and acted so immature. Geez....open your eyes and take a good look at yourself! Instead of you feeling sorry for Alexis, you are the one (along with Tamra) who most of all are pitying. You both are that pathetic!

Just watched the dinner party episode again. Horrible behavior by grown women.   Tamara, Heather and You are just plain and simple BULLIES 

Before you buy Gretchen brand handbags and makeup, remember she said we can 'suck it'! Yeah, that makes me want to buy your stuff! LOL 

I really hope you are off the show next year, so tired of Slade.