As I write out my thoughts in this blog, please remember that these blogs are meant to give you insight to our individual point of view, and for us discuss things you might not have known were happening behind-the-scenes. As I state every week, this is therapeutic for me to write out my feelings, so please if you don’t like long blogs then just skip it. I write for those that want to understand where I am coming from and those who want my point of view on the episode you see. We all have different points of view, and this is why this show is successful -- because each one of us ladies sees and processes things differently. It’s not right or wrong, it just is.
I have to say that this episode really took me for quite the emotional spin. And I have to say I feel very naïve, taken advantage of, and played. This episode was very hard to watch and sincerely hurt my heart.
I gotta give it to Tamra though; this girl can sell ice to Eskimos. She has this ability to truly make you believe everything she tells you or texts you and then she can turn around and say or do the complete opposite on camera. I just wish she would have been honest with me from the get go about this whole Alexis issue, because now it feels like she was lying to us both. She was telling me one thing, all the while telling Alexis the complete opposite. I was played like a fiddle by Tamra on this one.
Eddie calling me childish for not wanting to be there if Alexis was going was hypocritical. Just a few weeks earlier he was the one saying he didn’t want to be anywhere Vicki was and was questioning why Tamra was having Vicki to events. He even said he didn’t think Tamra should be friends with a liar, a cheater, and a manipulating person like her. Was Eddie being childish too then?
Gretchen, love ya, but you have got to stop with the bad texas hair and clothes. Find a stylist that could update your "look" to be hip and chic.
Gretchen, I really think you need to move on from these so called friends of yours. I really thought Tamara had moved past everything and was truly your friend. This season proved she is the same evil Tamara she was before along with her evil twin Vicki! I almost don't even want to watch the show any longer. Every time they come on the screen and start bad mouthing who ever they can, I turn the channel. If Alexis is smart, she will not fall back in to the evil pack wolves! If these women were your friends, they would be happy for you no matter who you are with! Vicki and Tamara have no room to talk about anyone! Stay classy and be happy! You deserve it!
Hon, give it to God, I know it is a TV show, but step it up. Unless this show is super scripted, I just would not fall for their nasty jibs. IGNORE, you can't and will not win the arguments. They are deflecting from themselves, they have secrets to hide, but they can not hide their ugly soul, or horrid lies. Good luck.
You were never my favorite, way too shallow with overblown sense of self importance, but at least you never came across as evil like the straw haired twins Leaky Vicki and Tamra Witch. Ding Dong-lexis is just stupid they will eat her for starter once this season is done with.
Gretchen --- When you agreed to mend fences with Tamra, your sincerity came through loud and clear. But Tamra had me duped too. I thought, at last, she was being sincere. Wrong! I cannot stand Vickie -- she is a vindictive, spiteful and hateful person -- and you're right -- a HYPOCRITE!!! (She doesn't know the difference between hypocrisy and irony). As hurtful as it was for you, I think you should clearly see that Tamra was putting on an act (the tears about being a mean girl, etc.), when all she clearly wants is Vickie. Vickie has no one in her life, including that grotesque Brooks. Vickie is willing to lose her daughter and grandson over that moron. And she is determined to pal up with Tamra against you again -- but you hold your head up high -- there's never anything wrong with forgiving someone and believing their apologies when they seem sincere. Just watch -- Vickie will destroy Tamra and Eddie's marriage, and Tamra is going to come running back to you. But this time, you'll be able to see through her. She fooled us all.
Gretchen I posted this on Tamara's last blog. I thought you might appreciate it. Cheers, and keep being nice.
"You are probably accurate in thinking Gretchen had an affair on her dying fiance, but why do care so much? Did you ever consider that Gretchen might have found herself trapped in a very difficult situation when she found out a man she was dating was dying? Imagine how exhausting that must have been, she was young and probably just having fun with this guy when he tells her he is dying. She stayed to provide hospice. Do you know how stressful it is to be a caregiver? It sounds like a messy and tragic situation. Perhaps she does not want to "come clean" about her affairs because it would deeply hurt this dead man's children. Why must you be her prosecutor? Maybe you should become the next Judge Judy when the Housewives 10 minutes of fame ends.
PS Your pattern in these "friendships" is becoming clearer, befriend, betray,abandon, attack, alienate, apologize, self-disclose, repeat....and it is all for the show! Play it up for the camera girl! You figured out a way to make a living."
Gretchen it would be nice if you gave us the courtesy of a blog!!!!!! Not liking that one bit and I love you girl.....
I'm so glad the fans are supporting you. You and Slade showed so much class as you didn't even raise your voices as everyone attacked you at Vicki's party. I can't believe that "cheeseburger" (I don't even remember her name she's so boring), said that you weren't interesting this season. You should get your own show! I did warn you that Tamra is mean spirited and you shouldn't trust her! Good luck in everything!
Gretchen, I hope you read this. It is so obvious that all of these women are jealous of you, you are younger and prettier than they are. As far as Tamra is concerned she always has a mean look on her face. She judged you from the very beginning of the show. Some women can be very cruel to other women when they are more attractive than they are.
Gretchen, with friends like Tamra...........who needs enemies. I find it so funny that they are still so bent on proving you cheated on Jeff. What EVER! I would absolutely hate for any of them to lose someone they love the way that you lost Jeff but.........never speak unless you have walked in someone else's shoes. It flat doesn't matter if you did or didn't cross the line with a friend during that time! It's also NONE of their business. Tamra is right back to her mean girl stage with Vickie. They both make my skin crawl. Just keep being real. I hope they add someone to the show that is and will be a real friend to you forever. I actually thought that Lydia would be a breath of fresh air. I also loved that she is a "Christian......." Then I see her trying to make trouble between different women, lying, making fun of people which by the way was her biggest problem with Slade. If Slade is bad, she is even worse. She laughs at people, has the mouth of a sailor. I detest the cussing and I know that everyone on the show except Heather and Alexis use it, at least that I have seen. They tried to slaughter you on the show last night. Shame on them! I wonder if it makes them feel good when they are each home alone at night. I am around countless teen girls and boys. I NEVER see any of them behave like this bunch of women! In fact, when they are in the room and I am watching they are disgusted at the behavior of grown women. The eldest of these teens is 16! Hold your head up and march on! Don't even look back. They aren't worth it.
You are my favorite Housewife. Not sure why Tamra flip flops like she does but there is no trait worse in a friend. Bless you for what you have to put up with. Don't you wish everybody would treat others with respect and kindness? Keep you head up and be the best person you can be. Tamra, Vicky, Alexis and Lydia can have the low road. You take the high one.
Just wanted to add, how tacky and revealing that Vicki had the pictures for Tamara to prove her point about the cheating on Jeff incident. This was a planned ambush!!! So rude and fake to try to bring up an incident in the past that has been proven to be untrue. Vicki and Tamara two cats in the same bag. Stay strong, Gretchen, remember: This too shall pass. Two more reunion shows and you are done with these two women for a year.
You are my favorite housewife by far this season. I hated, hated how everyone ganged up on you at the reunion show for no reason. I think they are all very jealous of you. You, to me, are a very sweet and genuine person who is more a lady than any of the rest of them could ever hope to be. They are mean, hurtful and vindictive people who have no clue how to be a real. I like Slade too. I happen to watch a rerun of 2006 episodes and saw what an awesome dad he is in those episodes. Thanks for sharing your engagement with the viewers. To say that was fake speaks to the rest of the housewives jealousy. It was a very sincere, thoughtful and meaningful proposal. Happy for you both!
By the way Gretchen I hope Bravo gives you your own show. If I was in Andy's shoes that would happen. You have so much class and personality it would be nice to see you with a group of people that are not so trashy.
Gretchen you don't need a person like Tamra in your life and I say person because she does not know how to be a friend to anyone not even her herself. She is one of the most two-faced housewives on TV.
I just watched the first of the reunion special. What I love about Fake Vickie is that she accuses people of not owning their (what she says are lies) but she doesnt own anything and always tries to bounce things back at the other who does call her on something. That woman needs to remember no matter what she does to make herself look younger she will never BE younger and or look anything like you or the other more beautiful women. Im sorry that you fell for Tamras BS this year as I think a lot of us did. I thought, finally she wants to be with and around real people and not try and be the bully that loud mouth VIckie is. Unfortunate also is that I could tell this was all planned by pissy Vickie in Mexico and she cant let anyone do something for anyone without trying to one up them. The reason I believe Vickie wanted to get Tamra back as a friend is that she HAD NO friends left. Shes a homely, chunky, wanna be beauty and feels that if she hangs with younger, prettier woman she will be included. What she doesnt realize is that she stands out like a sore thumb because she has no Couth and probably couldnt know how to be like that. You are a much better person in brains, beauty and truth. Ive watched the show since the first season and I wish they would just take her off the show and only keep Alexis, You, Tamra and the actress. Get rid of the mouse and Vickie and go on from there. When you are done with the show so will I be and many of my friends. Hang in there Hon, and I hope you and Slade have a great life without the drama of the wicked witches of the OC. :)
Boy do I agree with you!! Vicki is mean, jealous, spiteful and a HYPOCRITE!! lol. We know how she despises the words that hit home. I also thought how funny it was when she learned how old Lydia's mother is...Vicki's reaction said it all!! Something like "oh she's so beautiful!! She should go home and act her age!". Man what a jealous, insecure wench she is! UGH!! I LOVE Gretchen, and I love how strong she is on this reunion. GO GRETCH!!!!!!!!
Gretchen you are awesome, these ladies are a mean bunch. Not sure how you stand it! Heather and Vicki got Tamra to turn on you but let's face it, Tamra doesn't have a heart either. These people are not worth your time or energy. All the best to you, you are the nicest one on the show!
joanneshack You are in a very small group feeling that way. Go read the comments on Tamra's and Vicki's blogs.
Tamra could not fight her way out of a paper bag, she has always been jealous of you, and so has Vicki.
G. you are so shallow! You are pathetic! I am glad they kicked you to the curb...because that's where you belong!
SkyAfonso1 Your as mean as the bullies, Vicki and take a. If you cannot be nice, don't say anything. Go on Vickie page and get busy buddy with the devil herself
Just wanted to send best wishes to you and to Slade for your upcoming nuptials. I guess I wanted to BEFORE i saw the "reunion" . whew....anyway, I hope everything works out for you personally and professionally.
Rough season, but you sailed through like a lady. Never mind the ones that talk behind your back. We see it all, and can read between the lines. The rotten apple that poisons everything is Vicki. It's gotten so bad I'm almost at the point of not watching the show anymore because of her. That woman is nothing but a huge mass of insecurity, jealousy, envy and greed. She is needy, manipulative, and the world's biggest hypocrite. Keep up the good work, stay true to yourself, and remember, living well and being happy is the best revenge.
rayne.storm.10 Please Gretchen - next time the byatches start in on you about what you did when you were with Jeff, tell them it's none of their business and you're done talking about it. You don't have to answer their stupid questions about ancient history. Those two bullies deserve each other.
First of all I want to congratulate you and Slade. I for one hope you are very happy. I see things like you do and it has been a season of betrayal from Tamra. When she played the game last year of "lets be friends with Gretchen" I was afraid she was going to back stab you and she did. She didn't have Vicki to be a friends with at the time,so she knew how much Vicki did not like you,so she decided to get back at Vicki and be friends with you. Now she is talking behind your back and wanting everyone on her side. She is typical Tamra and will never change. I am waiting to see how long her marriage to Eddie will last. How many times will Eddie agree to her " girl only trips" with Vicki? And last year on the reunion show, Tamra made the comment that Vicki had called her from Cabo and said she had woke up in bed with a man she didnt know. Then when Lauri said something about it Vicki exploded and then everyone was on Vicki's side. That statement was made from Tamra at the reunion.
I feel that you and Slade deserve to be happy and stay away from Tamra. I will always be on your side. Let her be friends with everyone,because she will sooner or later betray them also. I predict that you and Slade will be married forever and Tamra will be going through another divorce. The only person she will never betray is Vicki. Maybe they should get married. You are a good person and I would much rather have your friendship than Tamra's. You will be a beautiful bride and love to you and Slade.
I just have one thing to say, the comment Slade made "maybe Vicki should put her dick away and people will start treating her like a woman" HAHAHAHAHAHA!! OMG. It killed me. I'm not always the biggest fan of Slade, everyone has their moments, but holy crap, that's the funniest thing I've heard in awhile. Thanks for the laugh!!
I totally agree... killed me, and I'm even chuckling now as I replay it in my head... Good one Slade, keep em coming!
Tamra is a viper. I've never trusted her. She wants to be friends with Heather because they "appear" to have money and Tamra thinks they are classy. HA. She decided this season to play the part of the fence-mender. With Lydia and Barbie she realized she had to throw you under the bus. I will never understand you selling yourself short with Slade but I wish you the best. You are by far the most decent person on the show.
Hang in there Gretchen. Vicki is vengeful and overly jealous of you and especially your relationship with Tamara. Hold your head up and watch your back because she is out to hurt you. As far as Tamara is concerned I am of the opinion that she is suffering greatly from low self esteem and Vicki is playing on that emotion. Tamara is innocent (at this point) due to Vicki's emotional blackmail. However Tamara is walking a very thin line where your relationship is concerned by being to close to crossing back over the "mean girl" line. I sincerely hope she is not being blinded by her need to be accepted by the group as a whole and falling victim....once again... To Vicki. That would be such a shame............
Oh honey, you got played and smeared...I hated watching it. Keep your head up and stay your sweet and honest self!
I always remember what I meant to say after I finish posting. lol
Anyone that's ever been on a farm with chcikens will really be able to relate to this memory. When I was a child, my grandparents had chickens. They (chickens) have several distinctive sounds that they make when they're agitated or afraid. One sound is more or less a "squawk" sound. Listen when Vicki starts that high pitched screaming that she's done so much lately. It's when Vicki is at her loudest, yelling and screaming at people.
It'll take you back to the farm.
I think it's pretty interesting that at Vicki's party, everyone was bashing on Gretchen... now reading in this blog, the majority of people are cheering Gretchen on. We're all telling her to hang in there, that she's the pretty one, the smart one, etc., etc. We may have a few concerns about Slade but we also figure that you know his problem areas and have a firm grasp on those areas.
I wish that Slade would quit with the comments about women's looks. It doesn't do anything good for him. Makes him look really shallow. I hope he's not with Gretchen just because of her looks. hope hope hope...
Anyway, you're doing wel, Gretchen. Most of the tv population thinks you're the smart one and are doing things great. Just keep up the good work.
Just so you know Gretchen - just posted this to Lydia ... I'm not a fan of Slade's either - but boy, gotta say, YOU make me want to defend him - boy is that bad! HE DID NOT TALK BEHIND YOUR BACK ON THAT EPISODE - you confronted him and he fessed up to what he said - but that wasn't good enough for you. You really try so hard to be this god fearing - yes, I spelled god in lower case - probably bothers you - GOOD!! Hope it does. Cause you so try to portray yourself as being so perfect. YOU'RE NOT! You're annoying actually!! As for the cheeseburger remark - your husband can and shud defend you with all he's got - but to say that nursing your son 'took so much out of you' - seems to me there wasn't much there to begin with. YOU NEED A CHEESBURGE!! You look anorexic if not bulimic at best! Not cute. Get a grip and stop acting like you're so perfect!
I think you are a sweet kind and caring person. Unfortunately, I think Tamra took advantage of you while she and Vicki were not getting along. She knew what Vicki did at the bachelorette party was intentional and meant to hurt you. She told you that she heard her say" my plan worked". But she never called her out on either of those. Why does Vicki get a pass but she's constantly saying your not a true friend. Honestly, it seems like she used you when her and Vicki were on the outs but now that they are back together she doesn't need you anymore. You deserve better friends. Congratulations to you and Slade!!
I was just watching one of the first episodes. Your ring looks just like her engagement ring. Slade is such a creepy control freak. I think you can handle him well. I am sure you know all about his past. You are his best supporter and he is lucky to have you. I happen to think you are a very caring and loving person. Tamra has always been someone with a hare pin temper and she has treated you badly. I am really sick of Vickie, she really needs to accept the karma that is coming her way now. Whatever you do I wish you well.
You are my total favorite. I don't think you have a mean bone in your body, and I think anything that comes off as mean, is just that you have learned you must be guarded and a bit cynical around these women. I love that you invited NONE of them to your party with Slade lol. Too funny!!! Just stay who you are, and don't let these women bring you down! Each season it seems 1 of you is the target of all the other's...I guess it's your turn. Be happy and enjoy your life with Slade!!!
Hang in there, girl. If you've looked at all of the blogs from the other girls, you'll notice that you are the ONLY one with any nice comments. Tamra treated you horribly and I hope you never forget that. Give Alexis another chance . . .
Gretchen, if you would be so kind as to please pass this along to Slade:
"You may not agree with a woman, but to criticize her appearance - as opposed to her ideas or actions - isn't doing anyone any favors, least of all you. Insulting a woman's looks when they have nothing to do with the issue at hand implies a lack of comprehension on your part, an inability to engage in high-level thinking. You may think she's ugly, but everone else thinks you're an idoit" Author is Hillary Clinton
I cannot get over the fact that Vicki said she would rather have someone malign her character than her looks!!! How flippin' shallow can you be??????? Vicki is insecure and it shows in every relationship she has. Slade makes me laugh!
rockinrosen Slade's cheeseburger comment to Lydia was meant to be a joke. The worst you can say about that is that he lacked empathy in that moment. His attacks on Vicki pale in comparison to her relentless attacks on him first, and on national TV. He should not be expected to just smile and take it simply because he is a man. THAT would be sexist, right?
I have never, in my entire life, posted anything on a website before, but Gretchen, I cannot hold my tongue any longer. I have watched The Real Housewives of Orange County since it's inception. If anyone is bullied on this show, it's you. You are sweet, funny, warm, real, and stunningly beautiful, and my LAST description of you is why you have so many issues with these girls. It all comes down to jealously. I have dealt with it all my life, and it is so hard to find a true girlfriend, because they will take out all their insecurities on you. Keep doing what you're doing. Be yourself. Love your life. Love your man. Appreciate the many gifts that have been bestowed upon you, and start looking for some new friends, some REAL FRIENDS, who will see your heart...and not be so jealous of your looks that they can't even appreciate what an amazing woman you are. Karma will take care of the rest. Best of luck in everything you do in life.
I absolutely agree. I have never posted anything either and I have been thinking the exact same thing about Gretchen. This season has really made me mad because Tamara is back to her own ways and Vicki is just plan crazy. Alexis will be targeted again by Tamara and Vicki next season because they are both the definitions of mean girls and bullies. I would never make fun of a woman's looks on the outside but they are beyond ugly on the inside!! Gretchen, I know you are a smart woman so please do not fall in Tamara's trap again. Alexis may be fake as for as material thinks go, but Tamara and Vicki are fake human beings! As for Heather, I hope she watches herself on TV and realizes how she has fallen into the Tamara/Vicki trap because I really liked Heather last season. I think you, Lydia, and Heather should stick together and stay away from Tamara and Vicki, they are pure passion.
@lisajlamb66 I agree that she was bullied and "made fun of" in the beginning by the others, but not by Alexis. Gretchen wanted to be part of the "in' crowd" and when that didn't include Alexis, she had no problem dropping her from her friend's list. A loyal friend holds a lot of value in my eyes...and loyal friend is something Gretchen is not!